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Life Trap Escapism

To an optimist loneliness is freedom, to all others it is prison. (Amit Kalantri)

To an optimist loneliness is freedom, to all others it is prison. (Amit Kalantri)

Life dilemma or is it just an existential crisis?

Have you ever been in trouble and found no way out?

Have you fallen into black depression and attempted an escape, but failed?

I bet you in your early twenty-somethings or even older year, may once find yourself inferior, less valued or, even worse, hopeless to your own life. Scratching your head, thinking of what to do in the future, huh? Or you may be working like a dog in an office as a paper-pusher but ain't sure whether or not that job would lead you to a better life.

Remember this "You are not alone, buddy."

For the record, I've started questioning myself of what I was supposed to do in future over the last 10 years since I worked my first job as a specialist in an educational organization to scrap just a meager living. Getting paid jack, I then had to moonlight as a part-time teacher in a center and as a translator for a website. All the jobs exhausted my energy and time and left no room for planning up what to do in the time ahead. Just succumbing to that challenging desperation, huh?

NOPE, I QUIT ALL AND EMBARKED ON SOLO-TRIPS.

For many, traveling seems to work out as a remedy for their catastrophic dilemma. And I also thought so at that time when things were packed ready for escapism.

As all my energy was dissipated by the enormous amounts of paperwork and my thinking was manipulated by a desire for certain awareness of what to do in future, I eventually plucked all the courage and dared to give them all an end. Run away!

Stagnation

life-trap-escape

Why is a solo trip to elsewhere worthwhile?

"I wanted movement and not a calm course of existence. I wanted excitement and danger and the chance to sacrifice myself for my love. I felt in myself a superabundance of energy which found no outlet in our quiet life".
Family Happiness - Leo Tolstoy

As being beset by all the grieves of the past or scarry worries about future, one seem to suffer a fit of depression beyond control. Help me out, heave me away.

Okay, calm down honey. You just need a short trip to elsewhere first to cut off the constant annoyance of your own situation.

In other words, traveling could save the date.

Worry not, I think where you choose to visit, there's something for you to while time, be it famous wondrous scenery for sightseeing or fantastic cuisine for experiencing, all in the hope that you will spend lots of time engaging in loads of joyful activities, and less time nagging at your wretchedness.

Here come some other advantages, i.e. widening your horizon, creating opportunities that would come in handy someday. Personally I spent almost 2 months setting foot on several provinces across Viet Nam, where the scenic places captivated my attention and promisingly brought forth heaps of fresh new experiences in life.

But why alone?

A Lonesome SuperTramp

Facing the sea at Rocky Cliff in Phan Thiet, Binh Thuan

Facing the sea at Rocky Cliff in Phan Thiet, Binh Thuan

Well, a solo trip can facilitate your planning up. No idea interruptions, no ifs-and-buts over your settlement of where to go and what to do. It's all on your own. As figuring out the itinerary for the first epedition, I consulted some friends and asked if they could make it with me. No possible response could count, but heaps of 'off-question' feedback sprang up and confused me. Leaving all those destructive replies unheard was a wise decision, the total "Me time" prevailed.

No extreme worries over accommodation, food, or transportation - you yourself have to face them all. Then it follows the very chance to test yourself. You'd then be up to any challenges or unexpected experiences during the trip. Failure or success over them, no wonder, will be due to your own decisions.

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Confrontation towards considerable adversities along the way led me to meaningful, worthy experiences, among which dealing with people from different regional cultures stood out.

For instance, strict moral respect in the north of Vietnam where a single formal greeting on the road to someone who may be one of your distant relatives would own more credit than your visit paid to their homes.

Also, money - yeah, or budget in other words will depend on your knack of proper expenditure, so financial management skills will be boosted afterwards.

There would come a battery of reasons for such a solo traveling I'd tell, but what for if you just mind finding yourself then. Come on. Pack up and get off soon!

Restless feet hunger for more adventure

Restless feet hunger for more adventure

What should you do then?

A plan at hand enables your excitement and eagerness, however, doubts and worries may remain if you don't feel resolved enough to make it. Therefore, the utmost thing to do is to reinforce your resolution. Slam the stagnant life door, take a deep breath and enter a world of freedom and adventure. Here's time for tips you should take during your solo trip.

1. Keep observing

No matter what transportation, you should pay attention to almost every possible thing surrounding you along the way. You may ask what for, right? Close observation, likewise detail-orientation, helps you sharpen your memories of the trip. Outstanding landscapes, interesting people, weird stuff, fascinating culture, they all contribute to a meaningful travel.

As I hung out at Ke Ga Cape, I watched around in the hope that I could remember all the beautiful sights and moments, then found there appeared a natural rocky Buddha statue as I said to myself. First I thought everyone else could see that sight, though, it turned out to be so surprising to all people I know who once paid a visit there. It's so proud to be the first person, within my communication circle, realizing such a fabulous work of nature.

Additionally, observing what happens throughout the adventure also provides certain prudence since response may be set out beforehand to any adversity based on noticed heralds. You may bring a raincoat or an umbrella as seeing clouds gathering up, or even find out what to trade afterwards as recognizing business possibilities elsewhere.

A cyclo parade around Hoi An Ancient Town

A cyclo parade around Hoi An Ancient Town

A time-ruining wall at Hoi An Town

A time-ruining wall at Hoi An Town

Colonial hue abounds in Hoi An Town

Colonial hue abounds in Hoi An Town

2. Keep recording

Given that we only remember 10% of what happened throughout our travel, keep detailed records about places you have visited and things you have done there.

The easiest way is to photograph everything we find interesting along the way. It may be a scene of someone doing some morning exercise in a park, or a kitty sleeping on a window, or whatsoever your camera can catch in. If you want them all the pictures to look astounding, hit the book about photography for setting or photoshopping before your journey. "Beauty belongs to beholders' eyes", so don't forget to combine your observation and picture taking. Besides, you'd better upload them all on the Internet via Clouds (iClouds, GG drive), Flicks, Instagram or else for convenience and storage safety.

Additionally, photographing is such a good way to keep memories; however, you sometimes only remember what the pictures depict while missing some other things. You thus drop some lines as in your personal journal or diary. For me after one day of adventure, I often sit down and write all about what has happened all day long. To do that, facts and personal thoughts are combined or blended so as to help reserve your experiences and boost up your mindful thinking afterwards. What if you may write a book about places and things you've so far gone through? Well, that will definitely be touching and, who knows, become a best-selling one, huh?

A sleeping town over Thu Bon River triggers my retrospective thought

A sleeping town over Thu Bon River triggers my retrospective thought

A dusk kicks off but the life's still on.

A dusk kicks off but the life's still on.

Flowers shine rigorously

Flowers shine rigorously

A peaceful part of Da Nang City

A peaceful part of Da Nang City

Skyscrapers around Da Nang city

Skyscrapers around Da Nang city

Da Lat night market is on

Da Lat night market is on

3. Keep your mind open

Traveling to somewhere new can make you feel like a fish out of water here and there. Unexpected occurrences may count as adversities or difficulties that challenge your endurance. Nonetheless, don't let them matter, but let them go matter-of-factly. In other words, stay open as you have nothing to lose. New cultures that abound in awkward, weird, out-of-box factors that may shock you now and then. They actually act as lessons for your knowledge-hungry mind, so don't worry but be open to everything that may come up along the way. Observe them for a while and dance with them as you think nothing can abash you anymore. Unfold your hidden abilities, test your resistance, widen your everything-worthy thinking and there you are, let's rock!

As open as the endless sea

As open as the endless sea

An open view to Da Nang city over the sea

An open view to Da Nang city over the sea

Toward the horizon

Toward the horizon

Toward the sea

Toward the sea

Reaching for the last light on earth

Reaching for the last light on earth

Beyond the mountains

Beyond the mountains

4. Keep planning up a bit ahead of time

Last but not least, you'd better get sufficiently prudent over what you're going to do. As discussed above, observation helps bring some carefulness to your travel; however, you'd of course plan everything beforehand, for example, destinations, accommodation, must-see tourist attractions, must-try local cuisine, etc. Financial problem may irritate or demotivate you as a lonesome traveler, so brainstorm what to pay, say, for food, transport, hideaway or souvenirs. Nevertheless, being careful doesn't mean you have to stick to a certain plan in a neck-breaking fashion. Feel free to ramble about sometime so as to bestow yourself with some total relaxing time off work, off all social burdens.

Foodstuff prepared for a flight take-off

Foodstuff prepared for a flight take-off

What if such a solo trip can't help escape from your life trap?

“Happiness is the consequence of personal effort. You fight for it, strive for it, insist upon it, and sometimes even travel around the world looking for it. You have to participate relentlessly in the manifestations of your own blessings. And once you have achieved a state of happiness, you must never become lax about maintaining it. You must make a mighty effort to keep swimming upward into that happiness forever, to stay afloat on top of it.”
Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat, Pray, Love

Here's the context: life sucks - stressful work, burdened relationships, bleak outlook. Alright, that's enough, no need to rub it in, right? Then you may wonder if such a lonesome traveling can get things fixed or not.

To be perfectly honest, my true confession is CANNOT if you avoid facing your own crisis. I once thought it would be better for me after such 2 month trip across the country. Unfortunately, I wasn't. Such a morose show even got worse as I came back to my ordinary life - unemployment, identity crisis, future bleakness. Nothing worse than that, huh?

Actually, if you pensively think about the whole story of your tragedy, it starts right there at you yourself. Time flies, life goes forward, and humans get older. Everything's just moving as they are.

Well, you cannot stay in the same moment for good, and your state of mind is changing every single tick-tock of time. All the problems are traveling in the same route that you cannot reach the final destination if you don't pay for its ticket at first.

Explicitly, you must pull the weed root up, dig it off ground and leave it unproductive - hence, research causes of the tragedy, figure out how to solve them, and take adequate actions. Traveling isn't a remedy, but acts as a tool to fix things up, say, which offers you time out of those life burdens, surrounds with something interestingly new and leave you some self moments to ponder about your life.

Take time to spend on your own, settle your unrest mind, and draw out another turn in your long-term journey. Remember happiness is not a destination, but a journey that starts and ends right from yourself - the inner soul.

Going to elsewhere seems like an escape, not a problem-solving. However, moving on swallows a considerable amount of time, enriches your living experience, and works as a catalyst to boost your thinking wisely up.

Though happiness is just right there inside you, so looking for another hill-side greener lawn sounds worthless, but give yourself a break first. Then come back to garden your own bushy field, tight up what you left messy and grow your future "you". Everything that has gone past your life yields to the betterment of the now and then.

The road is wide open for you to travel

The road is wide open for you to travel

Sometimes it's tough

Sometimes it's tough

Sometimes it's sunny

Sometimes it's sunny

Sometimes it's shady and bushy around

Sometimes it's shady and bushy around

Sometimes it's bridged over

Sometimes it's bridged over

...but sometimes it's hard to get over

...but sometimes it's hard to get over

Doing so, I learned every single broken piece of my identity was like a broken piece of a big cake. While my concentration was dwelled upon those worthless pieces, I forgot a whole cake was still there. I once troubled myself with endless questions about my future, my expected occupation or a nonsense happy family, which all were out of my reach that time, I mean, they didn't happen yet. The moment I was living in fact was left behind stupidly. What if I had saved those moments for exciting activities that might lead me to somewhere I wished for.

"Stop!" spoke I to myself. I then started pondering about my past and presence, drawing out lessons and plans, kicking off some feasible projects for my blog, and getting things done step by step. Wonderfully, my 2 month travel wasn't worth nothing, but served as an abundant source of reference information, say, food for thoughts that ignited my creativity and let it burn hard till now. Though still on the way towards what I am supposed to be, I feel endlessly passionate about life, and no wonder will rock the world out there someday.

I'm just dancing on my own

I'm just dancing on my own

Author's notes

Thanks a big for your reading.

Actually I started writing this article 3 months ago; however, I wasn't resolved enough to get it done due to my continual annoying procrastination and idea stagnation. Eventually I got over all and had it finished. This article will hopefully bring you something nice to read and ponder about. If you feel the same, please drop me some lines here in the comment box for heartfelt sharing and further writing improvement.

All the pictures posted here belong to me. For further information, please contact me at nhphuc2310@gmail.com. 'hope you guys will make it to this particular destination, and enjoy yourselves then.

For other articles of the author, please check them out:

Tay Ninh Province at https://hubpages.com/travel/Tay-Ninh-Province-Why-not
Thu Duc Town at http://hubpages.com/travel/Thu-Duc-Saigon-A-joyful-suburb
Da Lat Half Way to Heaven at http://hubpages.com/travel/Do-we-need-a-long-trip-to-change-horses-in-midstream
Life Trap Escape at http://hubpages.com/travel/Life-Trap-Escape
Ke Ga Cape at http://hubpages.com/travel/Sunset-on-Ke-Ga-Lighthouse
Mui Ne Beach at http://hubpages.com/travel/Mui-Ne-Such-a-Paradise
Da Nang City at http://hubpages.com/travel/Thomas-Wanderlust
Hai Phong City at http://hubpages.com/travel/Hai-Phong-Once-Coming-Then-Staying
French Colonial Structures in Saigon at http://hubpages.com/travel/French-Colonial-style-Architecture-in-SG
Top 3 things to do in Saigon Vietnam at http://hubpages.com/travel/Top-ten-things-you-must-do-in-Saigon-Vietnam
Can Gio a nice choice at http://hubpages.com/travel/Can-Gio-A-nice-choice
Cat Ba Island at https://hubpages.com/travel/Cat-Ba-Island-Shining-in-the-Sun
Ta Dung at https://hubpages.com/travel/Ta-Dung-Vietnam-A-Pearl-of-The-Highlands

Comments

Nguyen Hong Phuc (author) from Ho Chi Minh City, Vietnam on November 23, 2016:

Hi President Trump,

I'd love to visit your country for a while but it seems hard to be get there due to your presidential reign!!!!!!!!!!

Donald Chump on November 21, 2016:

I just want to say "Hello" from USA with love!

Nguyen Hong Phuc (author) from Ho Chi Minh City, Vietnam on April 22, 2016:

Thank you Bud_Saint. I love that on-road singleness ^^"

bud_saint on April 22, 2016:

Yeah so right dude. I've been rambling around so far on my own. Sometimes I think it would be more fun with someone else, but I found no one to step out on the road with. I like your style of writing.

Nguyen Hong Phuc (author) from Ho Chi Minh City, Vietnam on March 20, 2016:

Thank you for you guys' comments. I'm going on my future-orienting way now, though I doubt it sometimes. Anyway, it's lovely and lucky to have you guys here. Together let's rock, buddies!

Untamedtramp on March 20, 2016:

Great job, buddy. I'm not this lucky to hang around for fun, but i think it's gud to do though. Go ahead! I'll follow you up.

Ladypride on March 20, 2016:

Wow. I love the way you dealt with your personal crisis. I'm right now struggling for my everyday bread-and-bacon, though, i think i will get overloaded someday. And like you did, i'll pack up and go.

Nguyen Hong Phuc (author) from Ho Chi Minh City, Vietnam on March 17, 2016:

Just check it out, guys. You'll probably get something nice for yourselves.

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