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We tend to admire people who communicate confidently. The manner they engage with everyone around them has a charm to it. The incredible, inescapable, unique essence of these people propels them to lead a successful life.
But here’s the irony! They may not be wiser or more educated or even better looking than you. It simply boils down to the more skillful way of dealing with fellow human beings. So, here are a few tricks of the trade.
1. No heebie-jeebies whatsoever
Imagine a political leader rubbing his nose while addressing a huge gathering or an actor adjusting his dress frequently during an interview. It subconsciously tends to leave a negative impact.
Irrespective of the profession, one is bound to face situations where they are required to sell their ideas or make their points heard as convincingly as possible. And hence, it is crucial to restrain your bodily movements when making your point. In scenarios such as answering an interview question or giving your opinion in front of an audience, you should show no signs of restlessness. Hold on to the best-suited posture for the occasion to make a positive impact. Keep your gaze fixed on your listener.
When making your point, avoid some common heebie-jeebies like putting your hands on your face or massaging your palm when it tingles or rub your nose when it tingles. To come across as a credible person, try to suppress all impertinent movements when your communication matters the most.
Remember that these heebie-jeebies undermine credibility.
2. Mood twinning
We want the first words coming out of our lips to be sparkling, witty, insightful, and riveting. But, even if you are all those things, you could fail miserably at communicating with someone who is just not in the same mood. Hence, it is better to approach someone only after making sure that the other person is in the same frame of mind. You may have noticed that two or more people, having the same mood, whether angry, gloomy, cheerful, or happy, get along pretty well and connect better.
Mood twinning is a surefire way to get your desired message to the listener as effectively as possible. Superior communicators take cues from the facial expressions or pick up on their listener’s tone of voice and replicate it.
Equalized energy levels are a great way of starting a conversation and hence, a great way to make new acquaintances and friends.
3. Word sleuth
When you want to indulge in a conversation with somebody who is crotchety and laconic, you will have to look out for the clues constantly. These people usually refrain from small talks and may go to great lengths to avoid it. In such a scenario, you will have to start the conversation with some relevant topic and wait till they bring up the subject of their choice. It could be any unique reference: any anomaly, deviation, or invocation of any other place, time, or person. Ask more about it, because it is certainly something that your companion will enjoy discussing. And it is even better if you share the same interest in the topic.
4. Personal thesaurus
People who have rich vocabularies come across as more creative, more intelligent. Such verbally elite people also tend to get promoted faster, get hired quickly and are listened to a whole lot more. The better your choice of words, the more are the chances of making an impression. Your vocabulary sets you apart from the people around you. And in turn, it also enhances your personality and keeps your listeners hooked.
Now, the interesting fact here is that the difference between a prominent vocabulary and a mundane one is only about fifty words. Hence, you only need to add a mere few dozen words. Find out what words which suit your personality and incorporate them into your day-to-day life and make this a habit.
Creating a list of alternatives for everyday words like smart, nice, pretty, or good is a good start. Also, read or pronounce the words aloud so that they get embedded in your memory sooner. It may not be comfortable at first, but soon it starts making sense. Be careful, as the quest to have a superior vocabulary is a never-ending one.
Some examples being:
1. Instead of beautiful, you may say stunning, ravishing, or elegant.
2. Instead of smart, you may say ingenious, resourceful, adroit, or shrewd.
3. Instead of amazing, you may say magnificent, remarkable, superb, or glorious.
5. Potent Imaging
The prime purpose of effective communication is to bond better with your listeners. Potent imaging is simply the technique of using analogies from the listener’s world. Generally, analogies help understand concepts better by reducing the need for a more detailed explanation. But here, we try to weave images around the life of the listener’s lifestyle or interests, not your own. Hence, the use of analogies can prove to be an efficient communication tool.
If your listener is a cricket fan, you may say that you were completely stumped to see the swarm of bees outside his window. And, if it is someone who likes archery, you may say that his solution to the math problem was right on the target, and similarly, the list goes on. Generally, for men, sports analogies bring the situation to life. These may sound far-fetched to many, yet it does the job of evoking your conversation partner’s world. Thus, it increases familiarity between the speaker and the listener and also helps in better bonding.
Above are only a few of the many techniques using which one can become a superior communicator. The journey of becoming an efficient communicator is truly incredible. It builds character and can potentially turn you into a better human being. Keep in mind that taking up this road requires constant practice. You are bound to face some difficulties in the beginning, but know that it gets better over time and will reap great benefits. After all, excellence is the outcome of many years of making small smooth moves.
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.
© 2020 Navin Srivastava
Umesh Chandra Bhatt from Kharghar, Navi Mumbai, India on September 10, 2020:
Good communication requires attitude and accuracy, you have presented it well.
Navin Srivastava (author) from Serampore on August 24, 2020:
Thanks, Risha ma'am!
Kind and encouraging words!
Risha Khan from Bhilai, Chhattisgarh on August 23, 2020:
I thoroughly enjoyed reading your article. You have mentioned amazing points to become better at communication. Paying attention to our body language is definitely important. Such tactics will surely help anyone to become attractive. Keep writing and all the best!!!!!
Navin Srivastava (author) from Serampore on August 11, 2020:
Thank you, @Swati ma'am and @Ashwini sir!
I am learning from fellow writers like you.
Thanks, Poonam ma'am! Will take more care to prevent such errors in the future.
Thanks, Sagar and Mandira!!
your appreciation of my work motivates me.
Sagar on August 11, 2020:
Will try to implement this during communicating with others.
Well written Navin
Ashwini Kini from Dakshin Kannad on August 10, 2020:
Very well written article Mr.Navin, though it is your first here. This article can be said as a commendable one too in this post corona scenario, where most of the activities are carried out online these days and communication is all how we present before the people. I completely agree with the point that it builds character and can potentially turn us into better human beings. Therefore, honing communication skills is a must today.
Mandira Ghosh on August 10, 2020:
It's really a useful & a good article..
POONAM MALIK from Faridabad on August 09, 2020:
The article is quite well-written, Mr. Navin. You have mentioned some truly valid points on improving communication skills. However, one small thing about vocabulary, one should be careful in choosing words as 'smart' is not the same as 'shrewd'.
Wish you good luck in your writing career.
Swati khandelwal on August 09, 2020:
Nice topic with a good outsource of various points that you have mentioned. I totally agree that strong communication skills makes you a better person. The points you have elaborated here are totally recommendable.