Hey! Watch Where Your Going Pal!
Facebook is killing us! I repeat Facebook is killing us! Now that I have your attention, please...let me explain. We as a society have become so engulfed in social media that we are failing to realize the level of dependency we now have for it. Drug and drug addict would be a great analogy. We are addicted, and just like an addict we have built up a tolerance that requires more of the drug to keep us satisfied. Even worse, just like an addict we cannot function normally without being on the drug.
Communication between the human race is being negatively affected by a technological innovation that was invented to accomplish the absolute opposite of what it has. Social media was supposed to make it easier for us to communicate with each other, but has it done that? We now feel more comfortable speaking to each other behind the cloak of a computer screen, and less comfortable speaking to each other in person. We've opened Pandora's Box, but we don't know how to use its contents properly. Some of the older generations are psychologically equipped to differentiate between the social media world and the real world, but that really doesn't matter. It's the youth we should be concerned with. They will develop into adults that have a misleading perception of what real human communication is. In their minds there will not be a difference between the social media world and the real world. The children are indeed our future, and if our future is under the influence of an addictive mind altering drug we are destined to hit rock bottom.
Social media started out as a convenient way of keeping people in touch with each other. Through this innovative outlet, internet surfers from around the world were instantly given the ability to communicate with friends and family without having to actually talk to them. With a few uploads of your pictures and a couple lines of text, dormant friendships were given new life and everyone was excited to be part of the newest fad. Then the novelty wore off. Popular sites like Myspace became child's play and sophisticated adults became embarrassed to be a part of the fad anymore. But just when you thought it was all over for this 'new toy' here comes Facebook, rounding the corner, picking up speed, and eventually leaving all other runners eating its dust. Now it's cool again! Even better, now you have to be part of it! Everyone's on there, you don't want to be left out do you? You don't want to be an outcast? Young, old, fat, skinny, ugly, pretty, white, black, girls, guys, everyone is welcome! Oh and it's safe! Only your friends can interact with you, no strangers. Strangers are dangerous. So many ways to keep in touch with family and friends. So many ways to fight time on a slow day. So many ways to keep you entertained while you’re online. What could go wrong? How about human nature.
We are a nation of speed. In America and many of the countries that we have influenced, the fast pace is a necessity of everyday life. We have come to expect fast food, fast money, fast cars, fast women, and fast relationships. So it should be no surprise that when given the opportunity, we created fast communication. The only problem with all of these short cuts are the negative consequences we adhere to when we choose to use them in excess instead of moderation. In other words, just like too much fast food could negatively affect your mind and body so too could too much Facebook. “Using Twitter and Facebook could harm moral values, as they don't allow time for compassion or admiration, scientist warned" (The Telegraph). You don't say? I could have told you this and I'm not even a scientist. I have noticed serious news stories turn into popularity contest starving for the attention of an audience. Twenty years ago I can recall news stories about whatever war we were in at the time, being on the news for weeks. And the reports would get ample time or pages. Now we are at war with several different countries and those reports consist of quick tidbits that get pushed to the side for intimate details on the newest adventures of Charlie Sheen. While a 9.0 earthquake and tsunami wrecked Japan and caused nuclear power plant melt downs, this actor got fired from his job for admit tingly taking drugs and having sex with prostitutes. Who's the bigger news story? if you guessed the earthquake, tsunami, nuclear meltdown triple threat your wrong. But hey just for kicks let's see what some scientists say.
The Good, The Bad, and The D'oh
"Reliance on social media has decreased the relationships formed between students and their professors due to the detachment of email, hiding the face linked to the voice." (Puglisi). Dr. Kelley Crowley, a teacher of public relations writing and principles of advertising at West Virginia University, agrees with this statement and also makes an observation that I can easily relate too, being a college student myself. She says: "students have become reticent and intimidated in the classroom to speak directly with me. Rather, they feel more comfortable sending me an email from behind a computer screen, which is impersonal and does not contain context at all." I think I said the same thing earlier in my thesis statement, and I wrote that before I read any of this research material. Crowley goes on to suggest that "avoiding personal interactions harms the competency of young professionals." She points to lack of eye contact in interviews and terrible grammar habits as negative effects on the professional lives of young adults due to overuse of cyber interactions. If college students were to moderate there use of these social networks and force themselves to type sentences that were grammatically correct, then we might be able to co-exist with this technology. But instead, most of them don't. They get distracted by gossip, entertainment, self admiration, and plain uncontrollable addiction. In addition, asking them to type sentences with out grammatical errors would be almost impossible when there are so many people to type to and the option for so many abbreviations and acronyms for words are available. Hell, I've looked over this whole thing three times and I bet you can still find errors. I am no exception.
Mary Helen Immordino-Yang, Ed. D. is listed on The University of California's website as an "affective neuroscientist and human development psychologist who studies the neural, psychophysical and psychological bases of emotion, social interaction and culture and there implications for development and schools. During a 2009 study, Ms. Immordino-Yang and one of her researchers "studied the response of volunteers to real-life stories to induce compassion for physical or social pain." ( The Telegraph). This scientist's opinions and research have proved to be credible sources to back up my theory of social media being a curse. Through her study in 2009 Ms. Immordino used brain imaging to confirm that "humans sort information and respond quickly to signs of physical pain in others, but admiration and compassion- two of the social emotions that define humanity-take much longer." (The Telegraph). She believes that all of the fast paced news feeds and social networks are not allowing us the proper amount of time it takes to let our natural human emotions dissect the information we are taking in. I think the statement made by Manuel Castells, one of USC's leading sociology experts, puts this all in proper perspective. He said: "Lasting compassion in relation to psychological suffering requires a level of persistent, emotional attention." I agree, but the problem is, right now our attention spans are smaller than our cell phones. And just like our cell phones, our attention spans keep getting smaller.
Okay, okay, okay, let's try to dispute my theory for a second. Let's look at a situation where a large group of people would stand to benefit from social media more than they be negatively affected by it. Since Facebook is the largest social media provider used in the entire world, and it's creation stemmed from the idea of making communication easier for college students, what better place to find a positive opinion of social media than.....college? Surely the stressful and fast paced life of a college student can only be positively impacted by an online network which was originally created to make college student's daily activities a little more organized and convenient, right? I can see the online conversations now. No time to go out I have homework, but we can chat for a minute or two while I'm doing my paper. Or, how was that math test on Monday, I have the same teacher tomorrow what should I prepare for? This sounds great doesn't it? It sounds like this would be a great idea to cram in all of your school work and still keep in touch with your peers. It would be great, if it were only used for that.
Just The Facts Ma'am
I needed more scientific research to back up my theory. The last article wet the whistle but it wasn't enough. People respect science because it supplies logical answers, unlike religious nonsense. So I needed a study from a source that was entirely focused on social science and cyberspace. I ran into Cyberpsychololgy: A Journal of psychosocial research on cyberspace, and an article titled, "Facebook and Myspace: Complement or Substitute for Face-to-Face Interaction?" In this study a survey was given to 183 college students to examine their use of Facebook and Myspace. "The study confirmed that Facebook and Myspace do act as an extension of face-to-face interaction, but some users do tend to rely on them for interpersonal communication more than face-to-face interaction." (Kujath 75). Some users relied on them for interpersonal communication? Not most of them? Now this seems like a formidable rebuttal to my theory.
The method used for this study was a survey. The survey asked participants to estimate how many friends on either Facebook or Myspace were people they had never met before and how often they used these sites to keep in touch with people they already knew. Participants were also asked to admit how often they used either of these sites to communicate with friends online rather than in person and whether or not they view profiles of people that they did not know. Lastly, participants were asked to identify the number of times they used either of these sites per day, week, or month and how much time they spent on either of these sites each time they were on them in hours and or minutes. Keep in mind this survey was done in 2009. After the study the researchers noticed certain limitations that may had affected there outcome. For example some participatnats had an extremely high number of friends causing them to be excluded from calculations due to the fact that this suggests inaccuracy of the participants reported data. In addition to this there were inaccuracies due to online games and celebrity friends that were becoming popular at the time. All in all though at the end of the study it was determined that most participants used Facebook and Myspace to "keep in touch with people they already knew as well as meeting new people they never met before." (Kujath 76). There is one statement in this study that stood out for me and made me question the validity of many participants answers. "Responders who had friends on Facebook and/ or Myspace that they never met in person reported a median of three such friends." (Kujath 77). Really? As a user of both these social networks I have seen the most anti-social people with hundreds of friends on their pages. What social person even has a hundred friends? I don't buy this for a second, but I do need to be partial wrong for a second to prove my last point so, let's say this study is accurate. The ending paragraph of this study reads: "Using Facebook and Myspace as an extension of face-to-face interaction to maintain interpersonal relationships may enable users to broaden connections that they otherwise may not have and to strengthen existing friendships. It seems as if the use of these sites could potentially lead to a stronger or larger social circle, depending on the goals of their use." (Kujath 77).
Children Are Our Future?
In the last paragraph it was suggested that, "use of Facebook and/ or Myspace could potentially lead to a stronger or larger social circle, depending on the goals of their use." (Kujath 77). But what if the goal of their use was determined by children whose brains are not fully developed yet? Yes, the plot thickens. The current millennia adults all grew up either before or during the social media phenomenon. Through timing alone we have had the opportunity to experience a good part of our childhood developmental years without the constant distraction of social media. The kids who are growing up now have no choice but to be involved in this addictive Facebook world. Even when their online activities are monitored or if they don't own a computer kids today can still access social networks via their cell phones. And what's worse, the cell phones now come with Facebook and Twitter pre-installed! Some of them don't even allow you to remove the applications. There are a several dangerous side effects social networks produce in today's youth. "Constant distraction affects not only how well kids learn but also how their brains absorb the new information." (Conley). Children are not being given a choice to live without this drug. Remember this statement because, although I am about to point out several disturbing social networking theories, this statement explains how we could face the extinction of the human race if these theories are proven to be correct.
So you think I'm just being paranoid right? Let's step into the mind of a child in 2011. "Sites such as Facebook, Twitter, and Bebo are said to shorten attention spans, encourage instant gratification and make young people more self-centered." (Derbyshire). If you don't believe that statement just go look at your own Facebook or Twitter page if you have one. If you don't have one, go look at someone else's. Notice how it is saturated with pictures of the user and up to the minute updates of what they are doing all day long. This kind of information reminds me of the paparazzi in Hollywood, a network of camera men and women who go around taking pictures of celebrities and trying their best to find out what they are doing at all times. Are we all trying to be celebrities? Are we so desperate for attention and stardom that we have become our own paparazzi. Maybe, it seems like everyone wants to be a reality star nowadays. I guess if you can't be a real star you can now settle for being a fake one in your mind with the help of your computer and a bunch of your so called friends. Truthfully I don't give a damn if you just dropped the kids off and your going shopping, I have my own life to live. In other words you will not see me on Twitter or Facebook. But remember I am an adult; kids may not have the ability to say this. "A further six million have signed up to Twitter, the micro-blogging service that lets users circulate text messages about themselves." (Derbyshire). "But they will strike a chord with parents and teachers who complain that many youngsters lack the ability to communicate or concentrate away from their screens." (Derbyshire). Many neuroscientists like Susan Greenfield believe that repeated exposure to these websites could rewire the brain. She goes on to suggest that along with video games, instant messaging, and chat rooms, these sites will lead to poor attention spans in children. As if they are not bad enough already! She wonders if real conversations will eventually mutate into the faster paced screen dialogues. This could happen, kids already speak in massive amounts of slang, is it impossible that they would start using acronyms instead of words. O....M....G! Lady Greenfield spoke with a teacher of 30 years who had told her she had "noticed a sharp decline in the ability of her pupils to understand others." She goes on to say: "It is hard to see how living this way on a daily basis will not result in brains, or rather minds, different from those of previous generations." This may be true, the previous generations had less distractions and better attention spans.
The Gift or The Curse
When I first started to write this I had several theories on social media and the negative effects its having on human society and our minds. Many of my theories have been backed by experts in the fields of psychology, sociology, and the opinions of journalists who have witnessed the meteoric rise of this parasitic technological innovation. I used many different names for social media/social networks in this report but my favorite analogy is when I refer to it as a drug. Think about the effects that a drug would have on an adult as opposed to a child. The adult who's brain is fully developed is going to react to the drug differently than the child who's brain is still developing. The drug will take a longer time to have a lasting effect on the adult because of this. But the child's brain development will become irregular and the possibility of some normal human emotions and personality traits may get lost before they are given a chance to form. This will have a lasting effect on the child. And If the drug is an addictive social networking site or application that numbs the emotions, lowers attention spans, promotes narcissism, shortens communication, and glorifies instant gratification what will our future be like? Remember children and our future are one and the same. I was focused on communication problems when I started this thing. What I stumbled upon is much worst. Mark Zuckeberg and the rest of the owners of these techno-drugs have bought our brains for a low price and are using them for ad space, making themselves richer by the second. In an interview with "60 Minutes" last year the creator of Facebook who has an estimated net worth of $6.9 billion, was asked how he feels about his success. He responded with no emotion and nonchalantly said "it is kind of crazy." No emotion. I want my brain back, do you? These billionaires will call social media a gift, I would too if I got rich off it. But even if I did eventually I would realize that it is a curse, because I am not on the drug, I am thinking with a sober mind. Remember...all I am offering is the truth, nothing more.
This is Your Brain on Drugs
Puglisi, Meagan. "Social networking hurts the communication skills of college students" The Daily Athenaeum. 13 October 2010. Web. 4 April 2011.
Conley, Dalton. "Wired for Distraction: Kids and Social Media" Time. March 19, 2011. Web. 8 April 2011.
The Telegraph. "Twitter and Facebook could harm moral values, scientists warn" The Telegraph. 13 April 2009. Web. 8 April 2011.
Derbyshire, David. "Social websites harm children's brains: Chilling warning to parents from top neuroscientist" Mail Online. 24 February 2009. Web. 4 April 2011.
Kujath, Carlyne. "Facebook and Myspace: Complement or Substitute for Face-to-Face Interaction?" Cyberpsychology, Behavoir, and Social Networking. Volume 14, Number 1-2 2011. 11 March 2009. Web. 8 April 2011.
Juggle Jack from Indonesia on July 24, 2017:
But I still think social media can be used for good purposes too
Stefan Dobrev on May 22, 2017:
Do you people not realize the volume of content posted to Facebook each day?! They have to rely on algorithms and user input to manage it all or else they'd be getting complaints about inappropriate content on the site. Think about it -- why would Facebook knowingly take this video down? It's a gold mine for them!
The original video would draw a ridiculous amount of traffic to Facebook and others would be encouraged to live stream their encounters with the police too! How about you guys take a seat and stop trying to attack every large corporation?
Alem Belton (author) from New York on July 26, 2015:
Thank you Lucia, I'm glad you loved it. I'm just out in this world with a mind and a keyboard, reporting on life.
Alem Belton (author) from New York on February 05, 2015:
Thank you very much. This means a lot to me.
Bennie Alamin on November 15, 2014:
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deetheproducer on June 14, 2014:
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Andrew on March 17, 2014:
Great article,great thinking...but the use of there for their really bugged me too. I agree though that Facebook is killing communication in the real world. It's almost impossible now to have a decent chat with anyone as they're obsessed with checking their bloody phones and talking on-line. I've noticed this creeping into family time too. Family members at bithday dinners/bbq's etc being more interested in checking their Fu....g Facebook than what's coming out of your mouth, or what your body language is expressing. I find it infuriating and sad.
Adriana on January 31, 2014:
Buna treaba The Social Network: Is Facebook Killing Us?! Super site: ora exacta.
JSE on December 03, 2013:
Stopped using facebook yesterday and now only intend to check it once a week for events purposes. I feel like I have so much more free time already. The whole thing is poison.
internetbestservices on April 25, 2013:
Another excellent example of innovation, I am happy to locate it. There are so many developers working on this segment but this is one of the best innovative idea ever. Thanks for sharing it here.
dicklock on January 20, 2013:
facebook killed my family
Alem Belton (author) from New York on December 05, 2012:
First off I am honored that you signed up just to comment on my article. It took a lot of time and research to complete. If you get a chance check out some of my other stuff.
As for social media, I think if people used it as an extension of communication instead of a replacement then it would be a postive. Some do, the problem is that many don't.
ayankha on December 04, 2012:
I signed up on this site just to comment on your article. I think it is written (despite the few errors someone just had to pointout), argued, and researched very well! It has given me hope in legitimately adding social media as a variable in my social psych diss (let's see if I can get a committee to go for it).
I won't claim that Facebook, Twitter et al. are the devil - afterall, FB singlehandedly saved me hundreds of dollars by skipping out on my high school reunions. But I certainly see your point - this style of communication can not only be highly addictive, but perhaps detrimental in forming healthy relationships and communication styles. However, I think that there are also benefits to be conferred from social media when used in a healthy manner- keeping in contact with family, sharing articles and other worthwhile information, and keeping abreast of organizational updates in a one-stop-shop format. I will admit a wee bit of bias since I am a new Social Media Specialist for an organization. But the key lies in self-control, which is another reason why a young mind may take to this style of communication so easily. Moderation is key and if one is able to not be totally consumed, then I think it can be quite okay.
assimilated on September 04, 2012:
Very interesting hub.
I'm currently thinking about disabling my Facebook account because it doesn't really add (positively) to my life.
Still weighing the pros and cons :-)
Alem Belton (author) from New York on July 30, 2012:
All of the information in this article and this person is focused on my grammatical errors. Once again we are shown that most people in our society are futilely posed to miss any and all points that will negatively affect THEIR lives. I guess it would be pointless for you to read this article Marie, as you missed the point entirely and also assumed I was a professional writer. You write an article this in depth with the amount of research I have and lets see if there are no mistakes found. That is of course If you even possess the capabilities to do so.
Marie on July 30, 2012:
I can't read this. The author of this paper genuinely does not know the difference between "There" and "Their", indicated by the sheer number of times he/she messed them up. It should be a law that professional writers graduate elementary school!
T on June 26, 2012:
"Hell, I've looked over this whole thing three times and I bet you can still find errors. I am no exception."
Correct, I did! It's good you're able to admit it though; most people don't, and would furthermore get angry when called on it. That is a huge part of the modern problem -- kids use terrible 'grammer' and spelling 'alot' and when you point out how bad it is, they say something to the effect of "Your so picky, it's not a big deal. It's like, just online dude."
The latter is true -- it's the Internet, not a job interview or what-have-you. But, this invariably trickles into daily life and professional communication. I have witnessed this personally -- I was in high school in the early 2000s, when I was telling people to cut it out with the BS shortenings in text messages. Ten years later, what has happened? We have inundated ourselves with said shortenings, thus now sounding likes idiots all over the place with our written language, and unfortunately becoming a little more idiotic in the process.
On the off-chance that you care, here's some of the mistakes I noticed in your article's grammar:
* Misuse or lack of use of apostrophes.
* One instance of using "Your" instead of "You're". Your is possessive, you're is "you are".
* "its" vs "it's" -- its is possessive, it's stands for "it is".
* Whose vs who's -- whose is possessive, who's stands for "who is".
* One instance of using "worst" when "worse" was the correct choice.
In any case, I enjoyed reading this article. :) Thanks for writing it!~
Wendy Rahilly from St Petersburg, FL on June 12, 2012:
Very informative blog and you are so correct about Facebook being addictive! I like that they are constantly updating and expanding their social media site. It gives people plenty of opportunity to really benefit from it.
Esther Earl on May 30, 2012:
Great hub! Sad to say few realized how importance it is to understand how to control addiction to social networks and even in PC games esp kids. In my place, 10% of our students dropped out every year middle high school was caused by PC addiction. They'd rather be out of the classroom than missing their internet cafe scheds. Parents can't track them so well until the end of the school year. I got a Facebook account too but seldom check it and I never upload any private info or photos on it.
Alem Belton (author) from New York on April 17, 2012:
I applaud you. If people want to keep in touch with family and friends they can use those hand held computers called PHONES. I heard you can even talk through them too.
Fryfan2012 on April 16, 2012:
I deleted my FB account in December. and I'm NOT MISSING IT ONE BIT BECAUSE MOST OF IT IS NOTHING BUT GARBAGE
ronakbhatia from Mumbai, India on March 27, 2012:
Well, Facebook and Twitter are surely having a huge impact on our lives and I am not liking it. Everyone is hooked on to their mobile phones. People are more interested in having an online chat rather than talking to the person standing besides them. Kids spend more time in front of their PC rather than with their family or friends. Something need to be done, but I'm afraid there's no way out.
Alem Belton (author) from New York on March 25, 2012:
Alem Belton (author) from New York on March 25, 2012:
Yup Corey, you got it!
coreyrab from Florida on June 20, 2011:
Never really thought about it this way but I guess social media really is killing us. I don't think American's addictive personality traits are helping either. As a country we are addicted to food, video games, tv, computers, cigarettes, alcohol, just to name a few lol.
ctbrown7 on June 18, 2011:
Great hub! Really extensive and interesting topic.
Alem Belton (author) from New York on June 18, 2011:
I hear ya Kyle. I think it's peoples fascination with reality television. A lot of people want to be like the idiots they see on MTV, VH1, A&E, etc. They want as many people as possible to be interested in what they're doing all the time. Facebook, Twitter, and Myspace are like the cheap man's or woman's reality TV cameras. There's a bunch of narcissists walking around theses days, and you can't convince them that they're anything less than Kim Kardasian or, I don't know who the male reality star of the moment is but, you get the point. Anyway, thanks for the comment Kyle.
KyleBear on June 18, 2011:
Yeah I share exactly the same views as you. Why do people have to tell everyone what they're doing at every hour?
Alem Belton (author) from New York on June 16, 2011:
Very interesting story Terri, and FYI no ones leaves a comment like you do. You always find a way to incorporate your personal experiences into your responses, I love it. Your story shows proof that my theories and observations definitely make sense.
Great observation at the dinner table in the restaurant, I have noticed that myself. Your last sentence is hilarious, because it's so true!!!
Thank you both for the intelligent and interesting comments.
Knowaskconsider on June 16, 2011:
Balance is the key but I do see sad things daily as a result of social networking.
I see this disconnection in public restaurants all the time. Parents texting and social networking during family meals
with the children doing the same. Zero family interaction. Very Sad. Also, some assume everyone facebooks all day and they use it as the only communication tool. bad habit!
I should be job hunting (internet and linked in) but I am distracted by this article that came through on my social networking channels. W T F????
Terri Meredith from Pennsylvania on June 16, 2011:
I love this hub! I have a facebook account, but I sometimes go a couple of weeks without checking in. I have family scattered across the country so, I actually use it mostly for that. I have to say, I'm not on it much, mainly because I can't take the banal comments for very long. No imagination. No provoking snippets. No thought provoking ideas. It just makes me want to slap some of my own family members into next year. I guess that last comment would support the contention that the internet contributes to violence.
My daughter does not allow her four children to be online without her direct supervision and it is timed to short periods, and only related to school work. The two oldest are 11 and 12. They do not have cell phones, either. Television is just as supervised. She has been called controlling by other parents who simply can not understand why she believes the way she does.
The older daughter, under pressure from classmates teasing her about her mother treating her like a baby, stole her mother's cell phone, got up in the middle of the night and constructed her own facebook page. When asked why she would go to such lengths, her reason was that she was sick of not being allowed to do what the other kids were permitted. But what seemed to upset her even more than her peers' opinions, was the fact that her teachers seemed to doubt she was telling the truth about being limited on computer time, etc. To my granddaughter, their responses indicated to her that they believed she was lying in order to get out of following some of their suggestions which would require her to be on the computer for far longer than she is permitted. The school's over reliance on technology has led to some serious issues between my daughter and her children's teachers. It's absolutely crazy.
Alem Belton (author) from New York on June 13, 2011:
Good one Beth, and thank you for the support. And to liljen23, I am glad you enjoyed the hub. It makes my day to know that people enjoy my writing.
Jennifer Crowder from Shreveport,LA on June 13, 2011:
Wow, all I can say is wow. Nice work on this topic.. Facebook is so overrated and people Facebook more than they drive!!! Thanks for publishing this hub..
Beth100 from Canada on June 13, 2011:
You've got my vote!! Hope the result will be what you want! (gtg....try and change my iPhone wallpaper again.... wait... there's only 27 defaults to choose from?!?) XD Good luck!
Alem Belton (author) from New York on June 12, 2011:
Hey ripplemaker, thank you for stopping by again. I am glad to see you are balancing the two worlds effectively. I am glad you liked the hub, I try to write about thing that effect most people, and Facebook is a part of most people lives.
Michelle Simtoco from Cebu, Philippines on June 11, 2011:
Facebook will not kill me! I have learned to balance my life on the internet as well as enjoy the company of those who I fondly call family and friends. Great hub...very thought provoking!
Congratulations on your Hubnuggets nomination. Read and vote: https://hubpages.com/hubnuggets6/hub/Mary-Mary-Qui...
Alem Belton (author) from New York on June 10, 2011:
Wow, another nomination! I do this for the people, so I'm happy to see that the people are doing this for me. Please vote for tHErEDpILL again. Show me some love!!! I need a hug, LOL.
Alem Belton (author) from New York on June 10, 2011:
Thank you Beth! I love your comments, they always make me smile. I agree with everything you said here, unfortunately we are going to have to wait until something goes wrong or until people get bored with technology, which seems impossible but really is not. For example, how many times can you keep changing the size and features on an Ipod(Ipod, Iphone, Ipad, Imbored), before everyone realizes that it's still just an Ipod?
Beth100 from Canada on June 10, 2011:
Congratulations!!! :) I have always been concerned of how technology will produce an envelope each individual in the human race. As you mentioned, the skills of being social are being lost. There is an art to communicating face to face and the things that we see visibly when we do this, are factors in communicating clearly. Eyes, body gestures, physical changes are all cues to us as to what is happening to the other person(s). On the computer, we don't see that. We cannot differentiate what is truth or lies. Our society will fail because of this.
Great hub and, as always, love reading your articles. You never cease to stimulate my mind! :)
Alem Belton (author) from New York on June 08, 2011:
I won the HubNuggets contest! Thanks to everyone who voted for me.
Alem Belton (author) from New York on June 07, 2011:
Thank you Powerpoe1!
tony0724 from san diego calif on June 06, 2011:
TRP we are living in a society that grows more impersonal everyday. I actually wrote a hub along similar lines about a month ago.Nice job here
Powerpoe1 on June 06, 2011:
Congratulations!... on the nomination~ You got my vote today! Good luck~
Alem Belton (author) from New York on June 06, 2011:
Why thank you sir, I work for the people.
I am the peoples champion. - The Rock
tugbo200-5 on June 06, 2011:
This is the third hub of yours I have read and
strongly approve,not that you need my approval,your reads are informative,funny and very well written.
I liken you to this Quote.
The worth of a book is to be measured by what you can carry away from it. ~James Bryce.
Change the word "book" to "hub" get my point.
Alem Belton (author) from New York on June 01, 2011:
Thank you, for the welcoming mrpopo. I hope we grow out of it also.
mrpopo from Canada on June 01, 2011:
Great Hub. It's the sad truth of my generation to be over reliant on these things. I hope we can "grow out of it" in the near future.
By the way, welcome to Hubpages :)
Alem Belton (author) from New York on May 27, 2011:
Congrats Naomi's Banner and welcome back to the "Real World" :)
Naomi's Banner from United States on May 27, 2011:
tHErEDpILL very interesting Hub. Your Hub makes a lot of sense. I did a fast not too long ago from media and took myself off of facebook for 21 days. Wow! That was pretty hard to do. I found though that I was addicted to it but I could live without it. I was left uptight and got way more done around the house. I still go there now once in awhile but now I don't "need" to go there. I gained back some control in my life. I just became a Hubber and I am really enjoying the contact it is giving me and the thing about it is it is real and informative, educational and inspriring and even though I feel I am getting addicted to it as well it is not foolish time wasting nonsense like Facebook. thanks for caring and writing this Hub.
Alem Belton (author) from New York on May 27, 2011:
Spirit, you should definitely right a hub about learning how to deal with the deactivation from 'The Network,' I think that would turn out to be something special.
Alem Belton (author) from New York on May 27, 2011:
I am speechless Spirit Whisperer, I think people like you are the reason why I write. I guarantee something good will come from you deleting that account and unplugging from the "network." That word is starting to creep me out, lol. Your kids are so fortunate to have a great parent like you who has the guts to break away from "The cool kids" who are getting high on this drug. If you get a chance check out my other hub, "The Tube," I think you will like it.
Xavier Nathan from Isle of Man on May 27, 2011:
This is a great hub and I agree with your sentiments. I deleted my Facebook account, not deactivated it, deleted it and learning how to do that is a hub in itself.I also had my children do the same. it means we are out of the loop and to honest the withdrawal symptoms weren't that bad LOL.I am not missing being part of the insanity and have reclaimed another chunk of time I used to freely give to something that did nothing to enhance the quality of my life.
In my humble opinion Social Networking is Man's latest attempt to fix the problem of the emptiness He feels. The emptiness I speak of is a result of our choice to make material gain the purpose of our lives. Children no longer grow up with their parents because both parents work and to alleviate the resulting guilt that parents feel as a result they give their children "things". Children no equate love with "things". There are sacrifices to be made in order to put love and our children first but many of today's people are not willing to let go of the luxuries thay have now made their necessities! Thank you.
Alem Belton (author) from New York on May 25, 2011:
LOl, thank you MsQuestion, I like your enthusiastic reply. Your story is funny too, I remember when I use to get in trouble for running up my moms phone bill back in the dial up days.
MsQuestion from New Jersey on May 25, 2011:
All I can say is WOW! YOU can WRITE! And everything you say is so true. Ha..funny...I say that, as I sit here, addicted to Hub pages (before Hub Pages, it was The Experience Project).....actually, I ran up such an Internet bill, my husband didn't pay it last month, and I actually accomplished OTHER Things...offline! It felt good! I have to remember that feeling....Anyway, this is one fantastic hub!
Powerpoe1 on May 24, 2011:
Welcome to Hubpages, I agree with you about social media out of control. I must admit, I'm addicted to my iphone. It's my new love, I sleep with it and when it's out of my sight, I start to panic! :D Happy Hubbing~
Joe Poniatowskis from Mid-Michigan on May 24, 2011:
This is a great hub. I guess being a member of the "older generation" that you mentioned, I've been able to maintain some balance. I share your concern for the future and our dependence on social media.