Jaye likes to share with readers things she has learned in her life journey.
Those Silver Highlights are Natural
I decided nearly three months before writing this article to stop coloring my hair. There were several reasons for my momentous decision. Before I list them, let me give you some background about my hair and the problems I've encountered in my quest to improve it.
I was born bald and was still nearly so in a studio photograph of me at age 10 months. An unsmiling child with chubby cheeks wearing a “comb-forward” (toddler version of the infamous comb-over) hairstyle stares glumly at the camera. My mother obviously wet my hair before combing the very few, very finely-textured strands forward from my crown to my forehead where they ended in extremely short, cut-straight-across bangs. That was 1944, after all!
A year later, I had enough hair to pull back and catch with a barrette, and the color was a very dark brown. It had grown enough in length to be cut just shy of my ears in a very straight cut. My hair was still fine and straight as a ruler. No curl, no body. I would be getting home perms by the time I started to school at age five. Until then, I spent Saturday nights sleeping on pin-curled hair as Mom tried to force my stubborn locks to at least curve, if not curl, for Sunday morning church attendance.
Sleeping on bobby pins wasn’t comfortable, but that was a breeze compared to choking on the noxious fumes of chemicals contained in a home perm kit. My mom, like many mothers of that period, longed for her daughter to look like child actress Shirley Temple, a moppet whose ringlets were popular when said mothers were young. However, mine gave birth to a truculent child with limp hair that hung from its roots in perfectly straight lines. Mom tried to change my hair—oh, how she tried! But the curls wrought by bobby-pinned circles slid out within an hour or so, and perms in those days just made my hair frizzy and fried.
I recall having a “heat wave” (not to be confused with the weather or body temperature) when I was about twelve years old. The curling apparatus hung from above the beauty salon chair with tentacles that attached to partings of the customer's hair. Stinky chemicals were also involved in this new method. In addition, the treatment entailed the use of heat. It was tricky for the beautician to time it just right and unfasten the tentacles before the smell of singed hair overpowered the chemicals. Oops! I got that frizzy-and-fried look again, but at least my hair wasn’t straight. This was a temporary fix that lasted for about three months.
My hair has always grown quickly, especially while permed or short, when I’d prefer it to grow much more slowly. My mother believed fervently in girls wearing their hair cut short, so it was never any longer than just below my rather large ears (which she did like to cover, and I don’t blame her—I still do). I would be grown before I had long hair. I grew it down to my shoulders in the ‘60s—long, ruler-straight (when it was fashionable) or flipped and parted in the middle. During that period, I shampooed it every morning and let it dry naturally for several hours. But, wait . . . I’m getting ahead of my story. Let me backtrack a bit.
When did I first begin ”assisting” my hair color? I decided to become a blonde in 1964. Instead of entrusting my hair to a professional hair colorist, I opted for DIY at home. After all, one of my friends lightened her own hair, and she always looked stylish.
I bought my first package of hair color at the pharmacy, wavering between choices of temporary, semi-permanent, or permanent color formula. Suffice it to say I was completely ignorant about all of them, but timid about going all out with permanent color the first time. I settled for the temporary color kit.
Since my hair was so dark and contained a lot of red pigment, temporary color did not get close to making my hair as light as the photograph on the cover of the package. The end result was more of a muddy red. Oops! Well, that wouldn’t do, and I couldn’t leave it like that. So, back to the pharmacy, and this time I bought the semi-permanent formula.
I followed instructions and waited the requisite twenty-four hours between treatments, but the minute that twenty-fourth hour passed, I used the new formula. Which, by the way, required a different approach, with a too-brief learning curve. It didn't make the process easier that I tried to see the back of my head by holding a hand mirror behind it while daubing drippy hair coloring mixture with the other hand encased in a rubber glove.
It still didn’t turn out right! My hair was supposed to be a flaxen blond (according to the picture on the box). Instead, it was a brassy dark blond or brassy light brown, depending on the lighting, and still hinting of red. Arrrgh! Back to the pharmacy.
I have no idea why my hair didn’t all break off even with my scalp after soaking up all those chemicals, but my luck held. Partially. While my hair didn’t break off, and not too much of it fell out, there was a decidedly green tinge to the lighter color I achieved, particularly right around my hairline.
That’s how I learned (belatedly) that the various types of hair-coloring treatments available in those days weren't supposed to be used interchangeably. Semi-permanent formula was not meant to be used on hair already treated with a temporary color, because the ingredients weren’t compatible.
Another twenty-four hours went by, after which I employed a potion known as a “drabber” to rid my locks of the green hue and some of the brassiness. At last! I was a BLONDE.
It only took a couple of weeks before my very dark roots grew out enough to see the decidedly noticeable line of demarcation between the blond me and the brunette me. The process of coloring just the roots was even more difficult than the initial whole-head treatment, so it wasn’t long before I used a dark permanent dye to reverse my hair back to its natural shade. I left it alone and its color “unassisted” for the next 20 or so years.
In my forties, I began coloring my hair again. Let me tell you right here, the reason was not to cover up gray like the commercial claims. I didn’t yet have any gray, which surprised me since one of my grandmothers went completely silver-haired by her fifties. I was simply bored with my appearance and wanted a change. For a while, I kept my hair frosted (not to be confused with tipped or foiled, both of which I did later). Frosting dark hair made it streaked, the dark brown alternating with streaks of medium blondish color.
By this time, I didn’t have the time or inclination to do it myself, so I entrusted my hair to various hair colorists. They each used different products and different methods, so my hair's “look” changed accordingly.
I stayed with blondish shades until my early fifties, when a professional colorist suggested I go red. Hey! That’s a good idea. I’ve always liked red hair. I told her okay and gave her carte blanche with the tone.
The shade of red I got was a deep red, but not auburn. Actually, it was really, really RED. Not quite a primary color, but close. I liked it. My eyes suddenly looked much more green than blue. I really liked it. I also liked wearing the colors of clothing and makeup that look good on redheads. Now I finally had the hair color to match my temperament, so I kept it red for a couple of years.
During that period, I moved and began to try DIY hair coloring again. The products had gotten better since my initial amateur hair-coloring ventures. I had such a hectic schedule that making time to go to a salon was more difficult than applying the mixture myself. That’s when consistency of color really got knocked out of the water! The shades vacillated between a deep burgundy and the bright red that’s in the smallest Crayola™ box.
I recall one time when the shade was so “off” that I desperately needed professional remedial help, and I needed it right then! I had to take a personal day away from work, covered my head with a scarf to go to the salon, and it took a three-step treatment and all day to make me look human.
After that, it was back to brown . . . auburn . . . and then, medium ash blond . . . followed by . . . I'm sure you get the picture. My hair color changed so often that small children in my extended family were apt to get confused whenever they saw me.
Fast forward to after I retired, when a new phase of my hair care adventure began. I was still coloring my hair once a month in front of the bathroom mirror, but the shades still varied a bit from coloring to coloring, depending on what was available or on sale in the hair products section at the supermarket. My retiree budget did not extend to professional color treatments.
It grew more difficult for me to treat the growing-out roots on the back of my head. The dual problems of not being able to really see what I was doing and difficulty holding my arms aloft so long wore me down. Consequently, there were times when I had chunks of hair that got left out of the coloring treatment altogether—little streaks of dark brown with gray sprinkles that shone through the colored hair. I kept asking myself: Is it time to give in to nature and let my hair go gray?
By then, my hair was turning gray. I'd worn it either bleached or dyed for so long I wasn’t aware how much gray hair existed on my head until I slacked off keeping the roots tinted. I'd look in the mirror and do a double take. What is that on my head? From that point on, there was no pretending the gray wasn’t there. How did I feel about it? I still wasn't sure. Did I really want to see just how much gray hair was hiding under the hair color? So, it was 2010 before I finally made the Big Decision and went au naturel.
Here are the reasons I decided to stop coloring my hair:
(1) The process had become too unwieldy for me to perform myself because of physical challenges. I started dreading the procedure the moment I took the box of hair color from the shelf.
(2) My stretched-to-breaking budget could not afford the frequent expense of even the DIY treatment, much less the cost of salon treatment. I often cut my own hair, handling the back by a combination of touch, two mirrors and plenty of guesswork. I'd recently gone shorter with my hair length than it had been in years in the quest for comfort and ease of care.
(3) I’d read that some of the chemicals in dark hair dyes may be dangerous, possibly carcinogenic. Actually, these warnings about dark hair dyes were published for at least a couple of years before I paid attention, but they seemed to be aimed at women of childbearing age (obviously inapplicable to me). There did not seem to be any conclusive evidence, and many scientific studies (sometimes depending upon how they were funded) contradicted each other. Still, with the years adding up, I tried to avoid known and potential toxins. Why take a chance?
(4) The very youngest children in the family didn't know from one visit to the next what color GiGi's hair would be. ("GiGi" is short for Great-Grandmother.)
(5) What the heck! As the official matriarch of my family, at that point getting closer to the Big 7-0, a senior citizen (and what a very young person would consider "an old lady"), why shouldn’t my gray hair shine for the world to see? It may be a sign that my vanity decreased with age, but I strongly felt, Hey! It’s okay to be gray!
The History of Jaye's Hair
Will I Change my Mind? Not Likely!
Making the decision was the easy part. Watching my hair color change inch by inch as my hair grew out, seeing the “calico cat” look in my mirror as three colors fought for domination—artificial reddish brown, natural dark brown, plus more and more gray as the length was scissored off—took real determination. It would have been so easy to give in and cover up the gray, but I held fast to my decision.
After all, I’m human and a woman, albeit one for whom the term "senior citizen" has a different meaning now that it describes me. Once all the artificial color was trimmed away, and the hair on my head was a salt-and-pepper mixture (not to mention those silver wings in front and on the sides), I realized: that’s really and truly the “natural” me. Different, but okay. Yes, I'm okay, and so is my hair in its normal state.
After I began writing this account, I read Gray Hair is Sexy, by Isabella Snow. Isabella is beginning to get some grays in her early thirties, so if her hair turns silver overnight, granted, it will look sexy on her. People who are prematurely gray usually look striking, and I've seen her photo. She looks good (though I saw no grays). I did notice that the first photo she featured in that article is one of EmmyLou Harris, the singer/songwriter. EmmyLou has been on the music scene for quite a while, so she can't be very far behind me in age, and her hair is gray. She does look sexy! With those cheekbones, she undoubtedly has good genes.
I look at magazine photos of Helen Mirren (now, there's a woman who ROCKS gray hair!) and almost wish the remaining pigment in my hair would disappear. Meanwhile, I have built-in silver highlights and silver streaks. That's enough drama for me--that is, until I finally become a lady with shining silver hair.
The updated photo (2019) beneath the article title shows that my "natural frosting" has nearly taken over. It also displays one of my DIY haircuts. I've become completely comfortable with the natural me. The best part? My new "do" is low-maintenance and doesn't cost me a cent!
UPDATE: On December 4, 2019, the International Journal of Cancer published the results of a study that indicated regular use of permanent hair dye or chemical straighteners may cause breast cancer or interfere with hormones, particularly for black women.
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Jaye Denman (author) from Deep South, USA on March 07, 2015:
Hi, Maggs - I enjoyed your comments about your own hair "history" quite as much as you liked my hub. I remember those metal clips because my mom also tried them in my straight hair--to no avail. My hair was very thick back then, and its weight would pull out the very slight wave soon after the clip was removed.
Your "pink" color fiasco reminded me of the green tint around my face when I used two different types of color to lighten my hair in my younger years. (And that was long before the punk look of bright colors was in vogue!)
Your silvery hair is very pretty in your photo. I wish my own would get past the gray streaks with salt-and-pepper dark sections to reach the silver stage.
Thanks for reading and sharing your stories. Regards......Jaye
maggs224 from Sunny Spain on March 06, 2015:
Hi Jaye, I loved your hub, especially the photographs, I will be voting up and hitting the relevant buttons on my way out.
I only tried colouring my hair once, when I was in my late forties, by that time I had quite a bit of grey and white in my hair.
My daughter started colouring her hair at around 17 and has had every colour in the natural range plus stripes of green purple and other unnatural colours during her Goth period.
I have always been a fan of wash and go, but my mother, like yours, inflicted all sorts of torture to try to make my straight brown hair look pretty.
I remember her using what she called dog clips, they were metal and had crocodile-like teeth. My mum would clip two or three of these onto my hair, they pulled my hair and were very uncomfortable to wear. Complaining was futile and just seemed to prolong the process lol...
These dog clips created a gentle wave much like the ones popular in the 1920s, I don't know why my mum bothered because the wave only lasted for about 10 minutes after the clip was removed.
The one time I did try a colour I tried a wash in auburn which was supposed to last through two shampoos. It didn't go well, the white and grey went bright pink, I looked like a punk and it lasted far longer than the two shampoos.
Now I am pretty much white, which suits me, and my straight hair suits the shorter cuts too :D
As for home perms, don't get me started on those lol... When I was mostly grey and white and had a perm my hair looked like a brillo pad. If you don't know what a brillo pad is try google images there are plenty of photos there, it was not a good look at all.
Jaye Denman (author) from Deep South, USA on February 11, 2015:
Hi, Mariel - So nice to meet you, and thanks for your lovely comments. I'm glad you enjoyed this trip through my big decision to let my hair gray, with its funny photos from different decades, and delighted that you got some giggles along the way.
While I enjoy the "easy care" aspect of allowing my hair color to go natural, I've discovered other advantages as well. One of those is that people do tend to be helpful to someone with gray hair. I recall my late mother telling me (during her seventies) that nearly everyone is nice to older ladies, giving up their seats, helping with packages, etc. I've discovered that she was right.
By the way, thanks for the tip about spraying hair with "shine." I'll give that a go!
MarieLB from YAMBA NSW on February 11, 2015:
What a great hub!! I would never have had the courage to 'bare all' like that, but I found myself giggling at what you said and did on the way to the Freedom Stage! Strange how similar some of us are!!
I took the plunge some 5 years ago, and my hair is pretty much all over grey, which is fine, but I would have loved to have white hair, but it doesn't look as if it will happen. I like to use a touch of "shine" which gives me silvery highlights. Looks good. I just love the freedom of wash & wear. I dont even blow dry it most times, just let it dry.
One big advantage of this is that for the first time in my life I get offers of help if I am carrying something bulky or heavy. That never happened before.
I really enjoyed this, thanks Jaye.
Jaye Denman (author) from Deep South, USA on August 05, 2013:
Thanks, Au fait - I wish my hair would go ahead and turn silver or white, but I have streaks around my face and sprinkles through the rest. I'm afraid I will look like Cruella de Ville! (I probably misspelled that name.) Ha-ha.
My dad's mother had completely white hair in her 50s, and I never saw her any other way.
C E Clark from North Texas on August 05, 2013:
I think white and/or gray hair is great! My favorite is silver and I hope mine will be that color. There are several older ladies where I work with the most beautiful white and gray hair. I call it platinum blonde. ;)
Voted up and interesting!
Jaye Denman (author) from Deep South, USA on May 25, 2013:
Aunt Jimi--I'm a "wash and wear" kind of gal, too--at least, that's what I've become in my later years. While vanity played a role in how I wore my hair during my youth and middle age, so too did wanting not to look (quite) my age while still in the workplace. At this point I've decided to be happy with my "self" as it is--lived-in looks and all!
Thanks for reading and commenting. JAYE
Aunt Jimi from The reddest of the Red states! on May 25, 2013:
Hair really is a pain in the butt, isn't it? I decided a long time ago to be a wash and wear sort of person. I tried the coloring business a few times in my early 20s, but decided it was too much trouble -- a horrible mess, and the Stink! Paying a salon the awful prices they charge every 4-5 weeks was out too. I figured God probably knows more about what He's doing than I do, so for the last several years I've just left it alone. Get it cut now and then, and then wash it and let it air dry.
Awaiting your next photo and I'm sure it will be beautiful! Voted up & etc. Will share too!
Jaye Denman (author) from Deep South, USA on May 01, 2013:
Hi, Wabash Annie--Thank you so much for your kind words about my hubs. I'm glad you enjoy them.
I think a lot of men are also preoccupied with their hair, for a variety of reasons (not just potential baldness). Vanity certainly isn't limited to women, nor is all the hair color sold bought by females! Some men feel vulnerable with gray hair, especially if they're surrounded by younger people in the workplace. I know a salesman who's been coloring his hair for years. He's now approaching retirement age, and I wonder if he'll let it go gray then.
Personally, I've experienced a wonderful feeling of liberation since I abandoned the "chores" of coloring my hair, but I realize going gray is not for everyone...and that's fine.
Thanks for reading--Jaye
wabash annie from Colorado Front Range on May 01, 2013:
I enjoy your hubs ... how well you write them, and the wonderful variety. This one particularly caught my interest as I, too, have had some adventures with my hair. In later years, I used Revlon's Fanciful to perk up my brown which had turned mousy colored. It had been shot with red and yellow. I gave up perms many years ago as they made my hair grow fast. Now I get razor cuts which seem to turn the ends against each other so that I have waves, some curls, and more body. I wonder if men are as preoccupied with their hair as we women are ... other than keeping it, of course. Thanks again, for your great hubs.
Jaye Denman (author) from Deep South, USA on April 15, 2013:
Ilona1...Thanks for reading. You're right--I'm happy with the results and don't feel chained to a schedule of coloring my hair frequently. I even trim my own hair most of the time, so I save money and time.
Ilona from Ohio on April 15, 2013:
kudos! My story followed a similar path...but I never went red. I think you will ultimately be happy with the freedom from dyeing every 6 weeks:)
Jaye Denman (author) from Deep South, USA on April 08, 2013:
Paul...Thanks for reading and for your feedback. Once you stop coloring your hair, you will feel liberated. Besides, most men look good with gray or graying hair, and women (in general, including young ones) usually agree about this.
Theresa...You've got pretty hair, and it looks so thick in your photos--lucky you! I did enjoy my "redhead" phase, even the brightest shade, since I always liked red hair. Thanks for all your kind compliments (my ego thanks you, too--I don't get many of those at this age.)
Theresa Ast from Atlanta, Georgia on April 08, 2013:
Jaye - I have never done anything to my hair, except I rolled it when I was 11 and 12. The only reason is that I am horribly impatient and don't like messing with it. So it has alternated from shoulder length to hip length, depending on the decade of course. I would, wash, air dry, brush and that was it. It was always pretty straight, but after fifty for some reason I developed a little natural body. I started turning gray in my mid forties but it blended well with my light brown hair. I was almost all gray by 50 and fortunately it was a reasonably pretty gray. I know I would look younger if I colored it, but I would be so resentful of the time and effort - it wouldn't be worth it.
So, (1) I am impressed by how much effort you put into working with your hair - and I think your red "phase" was fabulous. I always wished I had been born a red head with intensely green eyes. :)
And (2) Jaye, my dear, you were a "stunner" especially in your late thirties, forties, and fifties. Wow!! I an fifty-eight and I would love to look half as gorgeous as you did in your picture from your fifties.
But (3) I certainly see your point. You have earned your gray, it looks quite nice, and what a savings of either money, or time and effort on your part. Hope you grow to enjoy the gray...and if not, like you said, you can always start coloring again. :) Great Hub. :) Theresa
Paul Richard Kuehn from Udorn City, Thailand on April 08, 2013:
This is a very interesting hub. Like you before, I have been regularly coloring my hair for the past ten years. Why? I guess it's because a lot of people including my younger wife say that it makes me look younger. My wife does it for me, because I would never take the trouble to do it myself. Yes, like you I have concerns about carcinogens in the hair dye. After I retire from full-time teaching next year, I don't plan on coloring my hair anymore. Voted up and sharing with followers.
Jaye Denman (author) from Deep South, USA on March 17, 2013:
Thanks for your comment, Jools. Coloring one's hair does get to be more of a chore than a treat after a certain point. As I approach my 70th birthday, my vanity seems to have 'vanished' with my youth!
Jools Hogg from North-East UK on March 17, 2013:
I am still colouring but thinking about letting it do its own thing soon, it seems to still be salt and pepper but it is long and I can't be bothered to so it any more. My sister has told me it will age me but I am not that bothered now. The older I get the less vain I seem to be!
Jaye Denman (author) from Deep South, USA on February 05, 2013:
Thanks, Anna....I know my salt-and-pepper gray hair makes me look my age these days, but that doesn't bother me. After all, I've lived a long time and even colored hair wouldn't make me look younger at this stage of my life. I feel so liberated without all the high maintenance of hair color and hair styling. I recently thought (very briefly) of trying a perm, but quickly vetoed my own idea! Easy-care is preferable for me now.
Thanks for reading and commenting.
Anna Slater on February 05, 2013:
You are very Brave & Noble to go gray naturally maybe one day I will also when I get over the gray part....my mom was a natural salt & Pepper gray never bothered her a bit but me I'm growing old gracefully not ready to show my Grays yet but on you they don't look bad!
Jaye Denman (author) from Deep South, USA on January 31, 2013:
rajan jolly...Thanks for reading this article, looking at the pictures of my hair color and style changes down through the decades. I appreciate your comments. Glad you enjoyed it.
Rajan Singh Jolly from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar, INDIA. on January 31, 2013:
Awesome read Jaye. Your pictures are are a real treat to watch with those different colored and styled hair. It's kind of a look back in time certainly. Your current hair looks fab.
Jaye Denman (author) from Deep South, USA on December 29, 2012:
Hi, Kathleen....I must confess that I would probably still be coloring my hair if I still felt as good physically as I did a decade ago. Chronic pain uses a great deal of one's energy and changes priorities.
I had a lot of fun with my hair for many years (even with the bad color and style choices--and there are many more than shown, but the number of photos I could use was limited). It makes me laugh out loud to look at these pictures!
If you decide you want to have red hair when you're 80--go for it! Actually, the mother of one of my friends is nearing 90 and still has her hair colored the same vibrant red it's always been. I can't imagine her with gray hair. It's what the individual wants that counts.
Thanks for reading and commenting.
Kathleen Cochran from Atlanta, Georgia on December 28, 2012:
You are so much braver than me and I'm talking about posting all your various hair colors/styles. Mine would fill a book, not just a hub.
I'm so tired of coloring my hair, which I've been doing for 20 years. Why the young girls like doing it when they don't even have to yet is beyond me. But just when the gray grows out enough that I really get a glimpse of what it will look like if I stop - I touch up or head to the salon again.
I'm determined not to be a one of those red-headed 80 year olds, but since I have a good many years before I hit that mark, I will keep doing my "It's that time of the month" routine whenever my gray zipper starts to show.
Jaye Denman (author) from Deep South, USA on October 24, 2012:
healthylife2....Yes, it's wonderful to no longer be a "slave" to my hair! A simple cut that merely needs to be combed, plus shampoo and conditioner every three days--that's my total hair regime now. I need to post an updated photo at the beginning of this article to show the extent of gray. Actually, it's less gray than I expected, and I'm accustomed to my "new" look. Thanks for reading....Jaye
healthylife2 on October 24, 2012:
You must feel such a sense of freedom not coloring your hair. We all have a hair history where we have experimented and I really enjoyed reading yours and looking at the pictures. At this point I don't have a lot so I color it occasionally but one day might just decide to stop. My grandmother always said she kept her hair gray so the world would know she had six beautiful grandchildren and she always dressed up and did look beautiful. Voted up!
Jaye Denman (author) from Deep South, USA on October 03, 2012:
Thanks for your comments, moonlake....Not everyone wants to go the gray or even the salt-n-pepper route, and that's okay. I just got tired of the hassle, and my gray was showing up right around the edge of my face where it only took a week after coloring it for the 'new' hair--gray included-- to start growing out. Now that I don't have to bother with it, I feel liberated. (I do look older, though, but considering I feel older, that seems okay, too.)
moonlake from America on October 03, 2012:
I liked all your pictures. I have not yet been able to stop coloring my hair. I'm sure it has lots of gray but not all over just spotted around. My mother is 90 and still has some dark hair. It does get expensive when mistakes are made or when dye doesn't work the way it did last time. I hate beauty shops they have made as many mistakes as I have. Enjoyed your hub voted uP!
Jaye Denman (author) from Deep South, USA on September 04, 2012:
Hi, Paula...I'm so glad you enjoyed the photos. That "thing" in the top of my two-year-old head is a plaid bow with either four or six loops. I imagine either Mom or my grandmother made it. I think the purpose was to TRY and make me look "girly." (If it looks like helicopter rotors, that ploy obviously failed!)
I've certainly looked "different" at various times of my life. If there had been room, I could have added some more pics as evidence.
It's a real hoot looking back at pictures taken through the years, particularly from the '60s. I have a snapshot from the early '70s that makes me nearly fall on the floor laughing every time I see it, mainly because of the clothes I wore. Photo albums probably provide more of a chance for laughter than any other media. Hmmmmm...could be there's a hub in there somewhere....
Suzie from Carson City on September 04, 2012:
Jaye.......I rushed over here as quickly as possible, after reading your comment in Skarlet's hub on hairdos of the '50's!!! This hub is TERRIFIC!.......I know now why I never saw it....it was written before I ever joined. ( I just made a mental to do some background work on hubbers that I follow.....I'm missing a lot of great hubs)
What a blast these pictures are, Jaye! I have comments for every single one....OF COURSE I do!....but just want to make a few right now.
What an adorable 2 year old! OK.....what did Mom put on the top of your head, Jaye? LOL.....a bow? Helicopter rudders? lol. Can't tell what the HECK that is. hahahah.
Oh, the "fried perm".....I had several....from Mom at home. How we HATED those damned perms! That picture of you at 5, clearly shows the Liz Taylor-like eyes......what a doll you were as an innocent child! and still, of course as an innocent retiree?
I cannot believe my eyes at the "many faces of Jaye." Each color and style makes you look like a different woman. How lucky you are to be able to pull off all of these so well.
Glad to see it only took you 2 years to relax that ROLLED flip!!
LOVE the "Glamour shot!" WOW.....move over Gabor sisters. Drat! I always planned to have a Glamour shot in my 40's. Forget it now! It would take massive PHOTO SHOP...lol.
This is an absolute TREASURE.....made my day!
Jaye Denman (author) from Deep South, USA on August 23, 2012:
Thanks, Joy. Isn't it fun to watch the years (and decades) go by as you look at those old pictures?
Any woman who had a home perm as a little girl will never, ever forget the experience!
A gentle facial depilatory might be easier than a razor on your chin. At least you won't cut yourself. What you described seems like an episode of "Hormones Gone Crazy!"
Joy Pippen on August 23, 2012:
I loved all of your pictures. I remember my mom giving me perms. She almost killed me. Now that I am older my hair on my head is falling out and growing on my chin. This is too much to go through. Holding on to the hair on my head and shaving the hair on my chin! Loved your article!
Jaye Denman (author) from Deep South, USA on July 05, 2012:
So glad this made you smile! (Actually, when I look at those old pics of myself, I laugh out loud.)
Do I remember Toni perms? You bet! I think the chemical odor is embedded in my sensory consciousness for life. Ah, the things my poor mom did to try and make my straight-as-a-stick hair curly....
Then I did them to myself later, as well as the entire hair color odyssey.
Now I'm content to let the gray flourish. I've become accustomed to it, so it's no longer a shock when I look in the mirror while half-asleep in the mornings. My easy-care "do" (nothing more than a haircut that can be quickly combed) makes life easier. I suppose this means I've traded vanity for comfort and ease. That's right!
Mary Craig from New York on July 05, 2012:
I smiled through this entire hub as it is so similar to my "hair history". Do you remember "Shadow Waves" or "Toni's" both perms. What about Clairoxide to lighten your hair?
Your story is like a jaunt through women's hair history!
Voted up, funny, and interesting.
Jaye Denman (author) from Deep South, USA on May 15, 2012:
Thanks, little sis. Mom did the bangs-cutting herself (which is why they were so short), as well as the DIY perms and pincurls. You were indeed lucky that styles changed between my childhood and yours! Glad you enjoyed reading this and looking at the funny pics.
Patsy Fleming on May 15, 2012:
I think you look great gray. It is very becoming on you. I really enjoyed seeing pics of you I had never seen before. Who did mom get to cut your bangs so short? Glad she got the DIY perm and pincurls out of her system by the time I came along. Course I always had very short hair just below my ears and always cut by dad. I looked like someone put a bowl on my head lol. Maybe that's why my hair is long today ha! I really enjoyed reading your story.
Jaye Denman (author) from Deep South, USA on May 01, 2012:
Thanks so much, Melanie!
Isn't it fun to look at all those old photos through the years? I have several pictures that didn't make it into the slide show of the strawberry blond shades--yes, they varied--at different times, and confess to liking it, too. It was only one of my hair color mistakes to go for all-over blond, which never suited me.
I must admit to something of an obsession with my hair prior to giving in (gracefully, I hope) to the encroaching gray with my decision to let my hair color go natural, which turned out to be (at this point) salt-and-pepper with streaks of white at the temples.
Thanks for the compliment about my writing. It's something I enjoy doing, and HubPages gives me a venue in which others can read it.
Melanie Magee on May 01, 2012:
I loved this!! I personally liked the strawberry blonde:)
You are such a great writer!
Jaye Denman (author) from Deep South, USA on July 11, 2011:
Thanks, J.S. Yes, I definitely remember the smell of home perms when I was a kid and Mom telling me about the need to "suffer to be pretty." :)
JSParker from Detroit, Michigan on July 11, 2011:
Hi Jaye, this was an interesting hub. I think most women regardless of age would be curious about this hub (we all want to know what other women are doing).
Most of us at some point have to make decisions about gray hair. I'm 63 and have friends who color and friends who don't. My lucky sister has gorgeous white hair (she's 69, went white about 9 years ago). I still lighten my already light hair, but not very often. It's light enough that it just blends in and in the summer it gets sun bleached, anyway.
Man, those perms! How funny it is what we went through. My mother used to say, "You have to suffer to be beautiful." Grrrrrrrrr. The smell, poking and pulling! Ouch!
Voted "Up" and "Funny". It was fun looking at all those photos.
Jaye Denman (author) from Deep South, USA on June 12, 2011:
Hi, Merlin....It's ironic that, after what our mothers put us through regarding our hair as kids, we do as bad or worse to ourselves as adults. I realize that women are much more prone to do that than men. However, I do recall quite a few men in the '70s getting frizzy all-over perms to meet the then-current fad (my first husband among them).
You showed amazing restraint by not laughing at my adult hair color spectrum!
Shall I now address you as Jean Luc?
Merlin Fraser from Cotswold Hills on June 12, 2011:
Straight is good, but with the likes of Shirley Temple up there on the silver screen I can see why Mommy Dearest would want to inflict torture onto their offspring. Personally I never liked Shirley, her voice used to set my teeth on edge, I much preferred Lassie !
When I was that young I had the sort of head shape that meant hair grew from the crown on top and went every which way which usually resulted in a fringe down to the eyebrows... sort of like Mo from the three Stooges. I remember the home perm kits... my mother used to stink the bathroom out for days with them. Remember when the first poor kid turned up at school with a head full of curls... pity it was a boy ! I think his mum wanted to practise before doing it to herself...!
Plus of course there are also memories of the ‘Pudding Bowl’ Cut, it was only ever inflicted upon me once and of course it was an instant sign of poverty or meanness whichever but I think it embarrassed my father so much it never happened again.
Then of course we all went through the phase of wanting to look like our heroes... Tony Curtis and the like, one poor sod went to the local barber and asked for a Tony Curtis and got a Yul Brynner ! When he complained the barber argued “Don’t tell me I don’t know who Tony Curtis is.... I saw ‘The King and I’ four times .”
Oldies but Goodies, now I’ve gone for a Jean Luc Picard !
Jaye Denman (author) from Deep South, USA on June 05, 2011:
Thanks for reading my hub and for your comments. I'll bet you chuckled more than once when looking through the decades of photos with wild hair colors and styles of yesteryear. I certainly laughed out loud when choosing them for the hub. My hair dominated a lot of my thoughts, time and money for years. It no longer does, and the emancipation is wonderful!
By the way, your photo shows a very attractive woman, so your age and hair color/straight hair look good on you.
Gail Sobotkin from South Carolina on June 05, 2011:
Great hub. I'm almost 60 and I love my mostly gray, straight hair and enjoy the fact that because I don't color, perm or frost it, the hair is healthy and shiny. I made the decision to go natural in my early 50's and am glad I did so. Thanks for sharing your hair experiences through the decades and the pictures. I could really relate.
Jaye Denman (author) from Deep South, USA on April 01, 2011:
HattieMattieMae....Thanks for reading my hub and for your comments. In my youth, I colored my hair simply for the variety since I had no gray hair at that time. Changing your hair color can be like a fashion accessory. When you don't HAVE to do it, it's fun! JAYE
LADY MJ....So glad you enjoyed the saga of my hair colors! If you decide to let your hair go natural, prematurely silver hair on a youthful face can be particularly striking. However, you might want to adjust your makeup to avoid a "washed-out" complexion. Thanks for the compliment! I don't get many of those these days....JAYE
Lady MJ on March 31, 2011:
I absolutely loved this! I'm only 29 and if I did not dye my hair I would be almost completely gray. I've thought about letting it grow out, but the grays always end up being fly aways and drowning my face out with the coloring. Stacy London, a fashion expert, has an awesome streak of gray in her hair that she doesn't hide. I think you look beautiful!
Hattie from Europe on March 31, 2011:
yeah, I never really died my hair to much in my life, but a few times. Mostly because I seen girls in high school change there color every week, and it was looking dry and brittle, looked very bad. Than I tried it a few times always choosing auburn in my twenties two times, and later once, but usually just did it for a moment, and than my boyfriend now always dies his hair, so of course listening to him ramble on about how it makes him feel good and looks good, well I tried it again the last year. One time cost me 100 dollars I think, and the last time 8.00 dollars and my DIY one looks just as good as the salon one. Really had too, because my hair was two differen colors, and was looking bad! lol
Jaye Denman (author) from Deep South, USA on March 15, 2011:
Lots of changes along the way, eh? I have some even funnier ones of my radically red hair days, but decided not to publish them. No one could believe a past-middle-age woman could go around looking that way! Thanks for stopping by and commenting. JAYE
justmesuzanne from Texas on March 14, 2011:
Fun to see all the photos! :)
Jaye Denman (author) from Deep South, USA on January 29, 2011:
Thanks, Paige, but I've gotten too lazy to color my hair since I've let the gray grow. I think I'm getting accustomed to the "new" me. I'll let you know when all the artificial color is gone. There's still about one more inch of treated hair to cut before my hair color is completely natural.
However, I appreciate your advice just in case I decide to color it again. JayeWisdom (also known as your Grandma J)
paige on January 29, 2011:
You should try coloring your hair mabe a medium brown it would really help your skin town and bring out your face features. Paige
Jaye Denman (author) from Deep South, USA on December 14, 2010:
Thanks for the vote of confidence, A.H. Actually, I clung to vanity for a good while past 50, but it's getting harder to hang from the ledge by my fingernails. I'm trying to grow older gracefully. In fact, getting to grow older is a blessing one doesn't recognize until one gets to this point in life! Glad you stopped by. JAYE
attemptedhumour from Australia on December 14, 2010:
Hi Jaye i think you made a wise move, vanity is pointless past fifty. We don't have to give up the ghost but just accept that we resemble one a little more. I used to trim the grey bits out of my mustache until an acquaintance asked why my hair was grey and mouser brown. I owned up and went au-natural. I look like a pillock now, but an honest pillock. Thanks for a fun read and good luck in the graceful stage.
Jaye Denman (author) from Deep South, USA on December 13, 2010:
Stephanie...The Decision would have been a lot easier to make if all of my hair was a lovely silver like yours, instead of salt 'n pepper. My grandmother's hair all turned at the same time when she was a lot younger than I am, so I'm rather surprised at the pattern of my gray.
You're right...it's much easier not to worry about it. Two of my adult children have not seen me this way yet, so their reactions when they visit for the holidays will be "...very interesting...."
Thanks for stopping by. Jaye
Jaye Denman (author) from Deep South, USA on December 13, 2010:
Hi, Susan...Your comment had me laughing out loud, especially when you described coloring the back of your head,"...I just slap it all over the place!" That's sort of the way I'd do it, too, especially after I got frustrated trying to part off sections I couldn't see.
Don't worry. I'll post the picture when all the "tri-color" hair has been cut and there's nothing left but my hair color au naturale.
Thanks for reading...JAYE
Stephanie Henkel from USA on December 13, 2010:
Go for it, Jaye! At our age, we can color or go gray at will, but going gray sure makes life simpler. I stopped coloring my hair about 16 years ago when it was about 75% gray/white, and found out I really liked it. Hope you like yours, too!
Susan Lewis from California on December 13, 2010:
You have me cracking up here. I just did my roots last night and I use Loreal. So far, so good. But I cringe when I see the gray roots.
Granted, I'm about 10 years younger than you, so I think I can hold out a bit longer. When I do the back of my head, I just slap it all over the place!
Do post a picture when you are gray! I think when I am in my 60's, I might consider it. You are brave and amazing!