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Why Are We Judging On People by Their Appearance, Looks, Clothing or Speech? Take The Survey

Stop Judging and Start Loving People!

It Doesn't Matter How Big or Small You Are or What You Look Like; Whatever Color or Religion You Are, the World Loves You As You Are!

It Doesn't Matter How Big or Small You Are or What You Look Like; Whatever Color or Religion You Are, the World Loves You As You Are!

Why Do So Many Humans Judge Other People Who Are Not Like Them?

People Judge. They judge based on Looks, Appearance, Clothes, Clothing, Style, Haircut, Fashion, Poverty, Neighborhood, School, or for any reason they can think of.

When we judge people based on our differences we limit ourselves and become indifferent to the world.

It doesn't matter what your Religion is, whether you are Christian, Catholic, Baptist, Muslim, Jainist, Sikh, Jew, Hebrew, Buddhist, Monk, Nun, Brother, Sister, Priest, Pastor, Shaman, Leader or any other Religion or Title I did not mention.

You can leave your comment below to help me add to this list of Diversity. Speak Up. What Are You? Who Are You? In the End, we find that we are both Everything and Nothing. We Just Are...I Am...

Don't Judge Me!

I Know that I Have a Crooked Smile! I am Happy With It. Why Can't You Be? Stop Judging Me and love Me!

I Know that I Have a Crooked Smile! I am Happy With It. Why Can't You Be? Stop Judging Me and love Me!

Are You Judgmental? Find Out Here!

Why Do People Judge Other People?

Because they are Afraid. They are Scared of Different People. Different Skin Tones, Colors, Religion and Religious Beliefs. They are Afraid of Gay People, people with Piercings and Tattoos. People with Long Beards, Turbans or anything on top of their heads. They Fear Accents and Languages. Prayer Shawls and Coverings. People really get scared easily. It's in their nature. It is what they where taught. It's time we Change That. End the Fear and Compromise the Differences. We really are not that different!

People get Scared when they are faced with something new. Petrified. Scared Shit. Speechless. They want to run away. They want to Hide. This is Human Nature. Fight or Flight. When you are not sure about something you have a choice. You either Go With It, Fight it, or Learn About It. It's that Simple. Yet, it is Not Easy to Adjust!

Do You Consider Yourself Judgmental?

Please Take A Moment To Answer The Following Questions.

By taking this anonymous survey, you can help us figure out who we are Judging and Why. By learning about who we judge and why we judge them, we can learn ways to change our opinions, prejudices and misconceptions. Your input is appreciated.

There Are Different Reasons For Why We Judge People.

Please Answer Honestly to the Questions Below. This Will Help Us to Understand Who Is Being Judged.

Judging By Religion or Personal Beliefs

Judging People By Color or Ethnicity

Judging People By Demographics

Judging People By Their Assets

Do You Judge People By Their Appearance?

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Thank you for taking the time to complete this survey! We welcome your Comments Below!

JS Matthew (author) from Massachusetts, USA on October 29, 2014:

@IslamWashia: People are ridiculous in their judgments. I think we all have some form of innate prejudice and judgement but most hate and racism is taught. Many people take it to the extreme. If people were more open to differences and took the time to understand each other, the world would be a better place. Thank you for sharing here I appreciate your comment. Peace to you.


IslamWashia on October 13, 2014:

I am hesitant to participate in many discussions because I thought many people will judge me according to my religion, which is clear from my name, but that’s didn’t mean I sometimes judge people too, yes, it is a bad human habit

JS Matthew (author) from Massachusetts, USA on April 02, 2013:

@srsddn: Hi there! I hear you! We are human and we are programmed to judge to some degree. It's what we do with those feelings and judgments that counts. You have added insight to this Hub and I appreciate you reading and commenting!


Sukhdev Shukla from Dehra Dun, India on March 29, 2013:

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Even if I boast of being a non-judgmental, I think judgments do happen even unconsciously. Trait of being judgmental develops over time and much depends upon the type of experiences one has with other people or in particular situations. Many a times, particularly if one is holding some public position, one try to pose like non-judgmental, but actually may not be. But it would be really good if it can be minimised because it may be detrimental to your own interactions, decision making and even gaining something. I really liked your Hub, the first one of yours I have scanned today.

JS Matthew (author) from Massachusetts, USA on October 11, 2012:

Hello again ElleBee! What you said makes sense. I suppose we do have natural judgments inside us. It's what we do with those opinions is what matters. You make some interesting points of view on this. Thanks for another insightful comment!


ElleBee on October 10, 2012:

Very interesting article. I consider myself a non-judgmental person yet have found myself making so many snap judgements about people lately! I think that making an initial judgement based on the attrributes we can see/notice immediately is inevitable, but the important part is that we don't let these observations become prejudices or cause us to treat individuals differently. For example, I could hear someone speak English with some difficulty and say "Hmm... I think they may have moved here from (blank) recently." Technically speaking I am using the information I have to make a judgement, but in my opinion it doesn't really become a problem until I treat the person differently either b/c they don't speak Enlglish well, or because they're an immigrant or because of the place they're fro. Not sure if this makes sense to anyone else? Just my thoughts. I think its important to remember tha ttheir is a difference between g, prejudice and discrimination.

JS Matthew (author) from Massachusetts, USA on September 27, 2012:

@tillsontitan: Hi there! Nice to see you. I like the way you said this. Thank you! I appreciate the votes. Thanks for stopping by!


JS Matthew (author) from Massachusetts, USA on September 27, 2012:

@rajan jolly: Hello Rajan! Always nice to see you! In my culture we have a similar saying, "Be kind to strangers because you never know when God will send down an Angel to meet you." I think that both sayings are similar in nature. Thanks for the visit and for all the votes! I appreciate you sharing.


Mary Craig from New York on September 27, 2012:

"Judge not lest ye be judged"..."forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us..." messages some are forgetting to heed. You and cclitgirl are so right, being safe and/or being afraid in certain places or around certain people is not judging them, it is being careful. "But for the grace of God, there go I" so many teachings and now would be a good time to start practicing them. We are no better than the man next to us but neither is he better than us...we are ALL equal.

Voted up, useful, awesome, and interesting.

Rajan Singh Jolly from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar, INDIA. on September 27, 2012:

J.S - great topic for a hub. I do not judge people by their appearances. There is a saying in our culture, "You never know in which form God might visit you". So it best to be prepared to receive him at anytime.

Voted up, useful, interesting and shared.

JS Matthew (author) from Massachusetts, USA on September 05, 2012:

Thanks Vinaya. It's always great to see you. I appreciate your comment and like your attitude. Thanks again.


Vinaya Ghimire from Nepal on September 05, 2012:

I judge people by their commitment to social responsibilities and intelligence. I hate people who make opinion about other people on the base of race, religion, place of origin.

Matthew this is a wonderful hub.

JS Matthew (author) from Massachusetts, USA on August 31, 2012:

Very well said Om Paramapoonya. I couldn't agree more with your statement. Thank you for adding to this Hub! Great insight!


Om Paramapoonya on August 31, 2012:

Nice hub. You made many interesting points here. I think even nonjudgmental or unbiased people sometimes can't help making general assumptions about strangers based on their appearances. What we should always remember, however, is that our assumptions can be wrong. Appearances can sometimes be very deceptive. So I think it's ok to assume things as long as we don't believe in our own assumptions with absolute certainty.

JS Matthew (author) from Massachusetts, USA on August 29, 2012:

@shruti sheshadri: People are not always what we expect them to be based on how they look. I have met many a businessman that was dressed really nice but when you talk with them they are a jerk! I have also made friends with people who dress and present themselves totally different than myself. You never know a person until you actually speak with them. Thanks for commenting and voting!


JS Matthew (author) from Massachusetts, USA on August 29, 2012:

@eddy4me: Thank you! I appreciate your comment!


JS Matthew (author) from Massachusetts, USA on August 29, 2012:

@Sueswan: I appreciate your comment, votes and share! It's nice to see you! Thanks for stopping by!


shruti sheshadri from Bangalore, India on August 29, 2012:

A great hub, i never thought about this at all! food for thoughts indeed!

A brilliant topic, now I shall make sure i think in such a way that reminds me appearances are deceptive!

well said, gald to read it, voted up !:)

Eddy Jones from Wales. on August 28, 2012:

A brilliant share and here's to so many more to come.


Sueswan on August 28, 2012:

Hi J.S.

The only people that I am judgemental against are those who are narrow minded and think that they are superior to others.

Sharing this one

Voted up and away

Take care :)

JS Matthew (author) from Massachusetts, USA on August 26, 2012:

Hi wheelinallover! Nice to see you! It's been awhile. I have been so very busy this summer, working 7 days a week. A few weeks left and hopefully things will slow down for me. Then I can get more writing done! I have to agree with you. I just don't have time to associate with those who don't add value to my life. Live and let live. Well said. Glad you found his on G+ and I appreciate you stopping by and sharing! Take care my friend.


Dennis Thorgesen from Beatrice, Nebraska U.S. on August 24, 2012:

I have been judged many times in my life for different reasons, skin color, hair length, having wheels for legs, clothing choice, not being able to grow a beard, having a beard, even where I lived and what I drove. If it has taught me anything it is live and let live. I have chosen not to associate with anyone who doesn't add value to my life. I don't judge those who can't I just don't have time for them. Found on Google + shared on twitter.

JS Matthew (author) from Massachusetts, USA on August 23, 2012:

How very true! Thanks Julie DeNeen, I appreciate your comment and it's nice to see you. You have accomplished so much in 2 months. I just found your page @ and I am so impressed! Well done. Thanks for stopping by! I always appreciate your comments!


Blurter of Indiscretions from Clinton CT on August 23, 2012:

How the world would be different if we extended mercy, compassion, and love, instead of judgment and criticism. Nice job. A well written hub and a great topic too!

JS Matthew (author) from Massachusetts, USA on August 23, 2012:

@Richard-Murray: I couldn't say it better! Thanks for helping me make my point!


JS Matthew (author) from Massachusetts, USA on August 23, 2012:

@cclitgirl: Well said! It's amazing how different opinions and judgments can be shared and influenced by our demographics. There is no doubt that people are different. Color, religion, hair, style, and the list goes on and on...

We do have to be safe and we shouldn't naturally trust everybody. It's just that we shouldn't isolate and prejudice based on whole communities of the same race, religion or creed. I appreciate your insightful comment. I do hope that we can all get along and try to find out likenesses instead of differences. This is one of the hardest things humans face! Thanks for stopping by!


JS Matthew (author) from Massachusetts, USA on August 23, 2012:

@iefox5 : There is truth in your words. It is what we decide to do with those natural judgments that matters most. Do we choose to learn more about them or disregard and dislike them based on our judgments. That, is the question at hand. Thanks for your input.


Richard-Murray on August 23, 2012:

prejudice will always occur, the question for me isn't a matter of judgement but a matter of response to judgement.

Cynthia Calhoun from Western NC on August 23, 2012:

You're right. People so often fear what they don't know. And, we all have it within us to make choices to be accepting or not. I think a lot of it has to do with what you're exposed to, too. I grew up in the western part of the US and my mom had lots of friends who were Korean, African American, gay, homeless - she didn't care. I learned so many valuable lessons from that. Now, I live in the American South, and I feel like I'm the one who's different...but I know I'm not. Or, I'm as different as the next person because we're all different but the same. Though I have this view, I know that I will still hold my wallet a little tighter when a group of unfamiliar guys walks towards me or I see the dad in the podunk trailer sending his daughter who's all dirty off to school. (Yes, there is a guy who lives down the road from me and the trailer is all in disrepair and I wonder about the poor kid...). But I feel like those "prejudices" are different - one for my safety, and one because I want that little girl to grow up to be happy. *sigh* Some people just go way too far with it, though. Brilliant writing. Thanks for sharing. :)

iefox5 on August 23, 2012:

It is normal for us to judge a stranger by his/her appearance, which is the only source we may have.

JS Matthew (author) from Massachusetts, USA on August 22, 2012:

That is an excellent point Faith Reaper: "If we judge people then when do we have time to love them?" Awesome! What an interesting comment. I wonder if Harvard ever found out about the donation to Stanford that should have been theirs. Further proof to never judge a book by its cover! Thanks for the insightful comment!


Faith Reaper from southern USA on August 22, 2012:

Excellent hub. If we judge people then when do we have time to love them? There is a great true story of this elderly couple to visited Harvard and wanted to donate some money to Harvard in memory of their son who loved the school. Well, the person who they spoke with, did just that, judged them my their appearance, as they were just dressed very modest. So, the elderly couple went on their way and donated their billions to Stanford and had a wing built in memory of their son. So, there you go!!! In His Love, Faith Reaper

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