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Men Wearing Women's Shoes In Public


Don't Drink And Drive And Wear Women's Shoes

Of course, some men who wear women's shoes in public are much less lucky than the businessman in the story to the left. He was only glimpsed by an understanding fellow member of the public.

But a man in Hartland ran into some trouble when the police pulled him over for suspiciously bad driving. It is not known if the man was inebriated or not (he was), or how far over the legal limit he was (he was completely sozzled), but he found great difficulty with the field sobriety test when asked to stand on one leg due to the high heels he was wearing.

He was subsequently taken away and charged.

As many of you might know, I write quite extensively about men wearing lingerie. It's a delightful topic, and I enjoy it, especially when the discussion turns to men leaving their homes wearing a piece or two of lingerie under their clothing. Men who wear lingerie can usually get away with wearing at the very least a pair of panties under their business suit. Men who wear women's shoes, on the other hand, have a larger hurdle to face. It's hard to wear a pair of women's shoes without having people notice, or is it?

Whilst researching this piece, I came across this delightful piece, Fancy Shoes (link opens in a new window), which details the writer's experience seeing a businessman wearing a pair of purple suede flats quite brazenly out in public. Nobody else seemed to notice the fact that the businessman walking down the street with his briefcase and cup of coffee, looking exactly like all the other harried types out on a business day, was wearing a pair of purple suede women's shoes. The author of the piece comments that they only noticed because of the noise the shoes made, and the fact that the businessman was forced to stop at the curb and adjust them, as one of the shoes had worked its way loose.

Judging by the blog's location, this incident must have occurred in Seattle, a city known for both its reserve and its vibrant alternative community. Were this fellow to have been mozying down to a meeting in Houston, Texas perhaps he would have left the flats at home, then again, perhaps not.

So then, men who wear women's shoes. Do you wear them out in public? It is true that with a pant of a longer length, one can almost get away with wearing flat plain shoes with almost no fear of being noticed whatsoever. As long as the pant cuff covers the upper part of the shoe, and as long as the shoe doesn't have a distinctly feminine point to it, one might happily be able to go from the boardroom to the restaurant without anyone blinking an eye. High heels are much harder to get away with, as are any shoes which are more brightly colored than the clothing you are wearing.

There's a poll on the subject on the He Wears Heels blog, which you can get to by following the link. The great thing I like about writing these types of articles is that they foster discussion amongst men with similar interests, who many times might otherwise feel that they are alone, as in the immortal words of Little Britain like 'the only gay in the village' (If that didn't make sense, toddle along HERE and feast your eyes.)

Additional note: This is not to say that men who wear women's shoes are gay. It's just a simile.


John Roberts on May 31, 2019:

men wearing high heels in public doesn't make him gay. No more than a women wearing pance or acting like a man dress like a man . Gay is when a man or women wanting to have sex with the same sex. Men should be able to wear anything he wants like all women do with out judgement..There are to many people with narrowed thoughs.All people should live with the same rules applied to each gender

Llew on November 05, 2018:

I wear women’s shoes all the time. Up to 2 inches,no flats.But no stilettos,and no problems

PaulaPlaytex on August 08, 2018:

Can't wear Heals...But, Toes are always painted..."Hot Pink" right now...I always wear my Bras with Matching Panties.

Randow on January 31, 2016:

Since my age of 20 i wear ankleboots with 2 inch heels. I am a masculin man and there is no reasen to stop it. Sometimes young man look irritat to me. They see my boots they look to my face and look back to my heels. Nice to see that they are confuced to a man without feminin image.

Sarah on September 25, 2014:

The feeling I get when wearing stilettos in public is just un describable. Yes I do wear full lingerie , a nice dress make up and wig,I tend to stick to a transgender friendly areas but I do receive lot of admiring glances and comments too . I love it

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gettingbrave on September 13, 2014:

I finally got brave enough to go out in public and be seen. I have recently had roses tattooed on my right ankle and butterflies on both sides of a gay pride symbol, on my left ankle. I had my toe nails painted bright red. I had on a pair of strappy black stiletto heel sandals. To show off the look I wore blue jean "jeggings" capri length. I had on a starched white dress shirt. I spent the entire day like this. Shopping at department stores etc. I started looking for places to go, just so I could be seen. I noticed a lot of stares and giggles. One cashier gave me a compliment on my look. I know I look over the top and some what shocking but I loved it, This is going to be something I do often in the future.

Dave on July 22, 2010:

No need to be scared, just do it. I have been into heeled boots for over 30 years, its one of the best things I ever did. Like some above I can slip into a 38 or 39 and have no problem finding them. Spike heeled boots look very good with jeans, man or woman.

adam on June 17, 2010:

i want to wear heels but am to scared to go to the shop and buy a pair anyone got any advice on how i can go the shop and get a pair an dmake it look and act as if there not for me and that there for someeone eles

Anders Jahnsson on June 17, 2010:

Hi MaraSophia

You are a bit like me,we are a bit the same. I been wearing female shoes on a dayly basis for the last 3-4 years. Mostly high heels. Why you may ask?

Well I think I´m look good in heels, I feel good wearing heels. I feel a lot more powerful wearing heels. Other people noticing me. How about you MaraSophia, are you feeling the same?

I have a small, slender body. My feet are small too, just as your MaraSophia. My size is 38 (Euro) so I have no problems founding women´s shoes that fits mty feet.

Me too I`m in 5 inch heels a lot.

I am working to start wearing a 100% feminine outfit too, just like you.

Just now I´m dressed as a woman from my waist and down with panties, pantyhose, fminine jeans/pants or shorts and ofcourse high heels.

I just started wearing a short skirt (yesterday was the first time I wore a skirt) it was great!

I am planning wearinng feminine tops and blouses too so I am dressed 100% as a woman too.

I started wearing a bit of make up too. Not much. Just a bit foundation , a bit of eye makeup and a bit of lipstick/lipgloss.

I am planning giving my self a mor feminine hair cut soon. How about yo MaraSDophia?

Just now I have my hair long. Its a bit feminine but I want it to have a much more feminine look. My girlfreind has accept me the way I am. I don´t want to change my gender but I feel more confident, I feel good being dressed as a woman.

MaraSophia on June 16, 2010:

I am a male who adores wearing high heels since my teen years. I wear almost all the time, day and night, 5" stilettos pumps, patent and leather, any color. My feet are small (women´s 9 size) so I am fortunate to find my heels at any women´s shoe store. I wear them with skinny streched jeans and I like the way the whole shoe is exposed; I don´t like to hide my heels. I am my wife´s secretary and work full time under her orders. The rest of my outfit is 100% feminine.

Galdi8r on June 15, 2010:

i have been wearing women's gladiator style sandals for some years. mostly indoors/ private, but last year started to venture out into public with them. i found a style that was a little more masculine with wider straps. i love the gladiator sandal for its comfort and design, and have been thrilled to see some companies coming out with men's gladiator sandals. the only problem is i have a small and narrow foot for a guy. because of this a woman's size 8.5 - 9 fits me best, so i just stick to wearing the women's gladiators.

Anders Jahnsson on June 14, 2010:

Why I am wering high heels?

Well its mostly this three reasons.

First I FEEL good wearing high heeels. I LOOK good wearing high heels.

Secondly its make me feel a bit taller. I´m not so tall, for a guy I´m quite short so wearing high heels makes me look a bit taller and besides wearing high heels helps me getting knowing more girls then if I wasn´t wearing heels.

Tirdly wearing high heels makes me feel a bit more important, a bit more powerful too.

Can´t explain this feeling but yes I feel more powerful, more important. People notice me more.

Don´t know if you guys are feeling the same way I do. Wearing heels has got me more girl/women friends then I had before I started wearing heels.

Guess its only normal. I can´t talking about my heels, my pantyhose wearing with the guys I know. Girls/women are more open about this. They feels the same way as me when wearing heels. They too feel good wearing heels, feeling more important more powerful when wearing heels. Just lika me.

Anders Jahnsson on June 11, 2010:

Hi I´m new here but not exactly new to high heels. I´m been into heels for the last 3-4 years more or less on a daly basis.

Today íts the last day at school so I´m planning taking my high heel wearing a bit futher. Usually I´m into 4 inch heel. Today I´m going to be in my new 5 inch stiletto pumps.

Here is a bit more about my today's outfit. As its summer I´m going to wear white shorts instead of trousers. Looking out of the window unfortunaly its raining a little. As I´ve not have time getting a nice sun tan to my legs I think its best wearing a pair of light sun tanned pantyhose. I think my new white pumps will feel a bit more comfy me wearing pantyhose and my legs would look better too. Took be a bit of time shaving my legs but my legs looks great and its feeling great putting my new pantyhose on.

The rest of my outfit, well its a white shirt, a light green tie and a dark blue blazer jacket. Just before I should leave home I discovered the pocket in my new shorts are just way too small. Were to put all my things. My wallet, my keys, my cell phone. Didn´t know what to do. There´s no time for changing clothes so I came up with the idea borrowing one of my mom´s handbags.

Its time to run now. Have to catch the bus. Its still raining so I have to take an umbrella. Just have to slip into my new heels.

They feels great on. THEY LOOKS GREAT TOO but they are not the kind of shoes you are trying to run for the bus in.

Guess I´m going to spend the whole day in my heels. First at school, then we´re going out for having something to eat. Then in the evening my whole class is going to a party.

jt on May 31, 2010:

thank you SO much for that last disclaimer. i absolutely love my 3.5 inch black stilettos and i am in fact not gay. and that feeling of being alone was definitely quite pervasive for many years while growing up, thinking i was the only boy in the neighborhood who enjoyed mom's strappy blue heels. though i still cannot get over going out in public with them, they are an absolute treat to wear around the house.

G on April 30, 2010:

That's a great tip on Payless Shoes. I go to Target because they'll sometimes carry 11 and 12. The hardest part is finding shoes that fit! I'm a 10 in men's shoes. I go for the subtle looks too...I really like wearing women's shoes/clothing, but I still just want to look like a "hot" guy.

steve s on April 27, 2010:

I've been wearing womens shoes for years. I own a couple pairs of high heel pumps and womens sandals. I sometimes go out wearing my sandals with nylons and my toenails painted. Mostly going to the grocery store late at night or checking the mail. Even at the movie theater. Payless Shoes is the only place I buy my womens shoes in my size 13W. The girls are always helpful and friendly there.

I love KangaROOS on April 26, 2010:

hi all. i have 7 pairs now. but still cant find my dream pair,

well bein size 10 wen here in the uk they only go to 8 most of the time they mite not fit anyways.

Doug on April 15, 2010:

I wear shoes from the women's department anytime I am wearing a skirt or other femminine outfit. I am tall, so I avoid wearing anything with much of a heel. I also have big feet, so it's hard to find my size, but I have had a few great finds. I tend towards subtle looks.

I have to give a shoutout to Payless Shoes in the US. They often carry women's size 13 shoes and the sales people have always been very helpful and friendly.

hiheels on April 07, 2010:

I have worn high heels for a number of years. Around the house I wear stilleto heels that are between 5 1/2 to 5 7/8 inches high. . . I do have a pair of wedges that I have worn in public with longer pants. Whe wedges have a 2 3/4 heel, and a slightly round toe, and are black

Paul on April 02, 2010:

No, I never wear heels.

yvonne2 on March 28, 2010:

Hi Hope

I'm a man and I like wearing womens boots, shoes and sandals and I have worn some of them in public for at least 20 years. I wear ladies low heeled leather ankle boots every day where I'm working at the moment and I haven't had any negative comments on them.

I'll even try on womens footwear in a shoe shop when there are other people around and I don't mind if they look at what I'm doing.

I've worn some of my womens sandals out in public as well and they all have different heel heights. Some people look but I don't care if they say anything or not, I'll just ignore them. I'll wear what I want!

Jerome on March 10, 2010:

Hi there:

From reading all of these posts, I am amazed that so many men wear women's boots. As for me, I do wear women's boots and I have been wearing them for 6 years now. Although I have had an attraction for women's boots for years, I never planned to wear them myself, it just happened by accident. About 6 years ago, I was looking for a pair of unisex boots, which I have been wearing for about 9 years now, and while I was looking for a pair of unisex boots, I saw a pair of women's boots that I liked, so I decided to try them on and the boots actually fit and they were comfortable, so I bought them that very day and that begin my association with wearing women's boots, and there was no looking back. Now, 6 years later, I have 6 pairs of women's boots, and I plan to buy some more in the near future. I currently have 22 pairs of boots, 11 are men's, 5 are unisex, and 6 are women's. All of my women's boots are chunky heels, except for 1 pair when are a little bit like stiletto heels. As for pumps, flats, or sandals, I absolutely have no interest in them, only women's boots. I only wear my women's boots about 2-3 times a month. I am a straight men who loves to wear women's boots.

David on January 27, 2010:

I wear a pair of womens black leather boots with 4 inch heels around the house, and my wife has no problem with it at all (I'm a lucky man!). I'm not gay at all, and I think it's a shame that most people think that if you want to wear womens shoes or clothes then you must be gay (not that theres anything wrong with being gay - it's just not me). I wouldn't dare wear them out in public for this reason, but I really wish I had the confidence to go out in them. I have worn them out riding my motorcycle a few times, but I'm always dressed up with a helmet on so people can't tell if I'm a man or woman. Who knows, maybe one day I'll pluck up the courage to go out in them!

jim on January 21, 2010:

i just purchased 4 pairs of dr scholls t strap sandals with a 1 inch heel they fit and look great.women's shoes look and fit better than mens shoes. as for probly not he must really live in a conservative area. i still don't see any problem with wearing women's sandals most don't look that feminine. if they do so what, it is a free country i think

ProblyNot on January 16, 2010:

Wearing women's shoes, publicly or in private, is a form of cross-dressing and can be an addictive behavior for some. It may start you down a road that can be difficult to exit. If you do choose to proceed, be sure to be realistic abut your environment. I live in a conservative area, and work in a conservative office, and my career advancement would be over if I showed up in women's shoes. Just because someone is polite to your face does not mean they won't gossip or make fun of you behind your back. I'm not saying don't do it - it may be quite acceptable in your region or office - I'm just saying be realistic for your own situation.

clare on January 11, 2010:

i,like chris have disposed of all my mens shoes. only because they never were comfortable. i wear mostly ladies loafers and clogs. my highest heel is two inches and is extremely comfortable! evidently there is something mis-shapen in my feet because womens shoes fit me perfectly and are extremely comfortable. i have never had a remark made about any footwear i was wearing. i do not go to extremes with my shoe styles i only wear basic slip-ons. usually nursemates,hushpuppies,cherokee padded clogs and anywear zone clogs.

icat on December 28, 2009:

i love wearing women's shoes and have done so for many years. my favorite shoes are Dr school's Nina Velcro wedge sandals. they are very comfortable. i also like there side zip wedge oxfords. i have worn high heels before but only in 2 to 3 inch heel heights. i also use glitter toe nail polish. i have not had any negative comments and most don't even notice even when i wear my short shorts. i agree with lonnie it is nobodys business what i wear.

jim on December 28, 2009:

i have been wearing womens loafers,sandals and other kinds of shoes for years. my sandals are sling back 1 and a half inch wedges and are very comfortable. i hve had no coments except where can they get the sandals.

Lonnie on December 27, 2009:

I wear high heels most any of the time I am in public and not at work. My work is much safer performed in work boots as it involves some heavy duty lifting in industrial enviroments. All other times, you will find me in Stiletos. I wear mostly ankle boots or pumps but have discovered some platform pumps and sandals that are terrific also. Traveling as I do, TSA has gotten confused at times as they try to associate the tray with the 5" pumps and laptop with the passenger. I always quickly volunteer that they are mine so that they do not get embarassed. Most people do not seem to pay much attention other than when I go into the men's room where the sound of the clicking heels on the hard floor is un-mistakable. Either way, I wear what I want and feel no need to seek the permission of others.

Chrishoney on December 26, 2009:

I have been wearing women's flats and lower heeled loafers and ankle boots for several years now, and have gotten a fair number of compliments on my cool shoes, mostly from women. Even when buying less obviously feminine flats and loafers, the styles are much more interesting and unique than typical men's equivalents. Just look at men's ecco's--boring!!

Interestingly, I have a pair of Italian, men's ankle boots with 1.5" stacked heels and pointy toes that I bought about two years ago that get more looks than most of my women's shoes, mostly I guess because of the sound they make when walking on hard surfaces. I have worn 3 or 3.5" ankle boots in public only a few times and only when I was pretty sure no one would see me--getting to work extra early or leaving late, both when it is dark out and with heavy, winter outer clothing making it not too easy to tell my gender.

For me, when looking at other people's shoes, it seems like it is the profile or side view that would be most likely to give the shoes away. A thin heel is definitely associated with women's shoes, a thicker, block heel is less so. So the Born ankle boots I got with a 2" heel like a cowboy boot and squared off toes don't even get a mention, while 1" kitten heels would almost certainly get noticed where I live. Also the Born's heels are synthetic rubber and don't make that satisfying clacking that a great pair of high heels makes.

So the question today is, will I wear my 3" Calvin Klein ankle boots with a thin heel home tonight, since it will be dark and they look hot with my skinny jeans, though by no means covered up? Or will I chicken out and wear my flat, no-heeled Clarks which are still women's shoes?

Steve on December 18, 2009:

I love wearing my diagonal pink with brown wide stripes flat Keds canvas shoes, it feels so good to wear them in public. I do love when a guy notices them and takes a second look, makes you wonder what he is thinking :)

yaoyao on December 08, 2009:

Hi I have great collection of boots which have built up over the last couple of years . I live for winter so I can chance wearing them out the odd time .Black knee high are fab . I am just so relaxed when have them on . Mentioned the idea one time to my partner and she was not impressed . Now she will not wear hers

Dave on December 04, 2009:

I love high heeled boots (three inches and up) and have worn them for years, infact I don't have any "mens" shoes. I do a lot of walking and find heels rebuild my arches after a long hike. According to a pedorthist I went to heeled boots are the best orthotic I can wear. My advice is to just do it.

buckie on December 01, 2009:

i have worn ladies loafers and clogs for years.they are very comfortable and i enjoy them fully. my latest pair of clogs have two inch high heels that i have no problem walking in! i have received only a few comments on them from women who wanted to know if they were mention of why i wear ladies shoes.

Duke on November 30, 2009:

I wear heels in public from time to time. Usually a wedge or platform. Because I have a stocky build I can't realy see myself sporting pumps or stelitos. But I do enjoy the comfort of wearing heels because I have a bad back and the heels do work to relieve the pain.

curious5752 on November 01, 2009:

I have worn womens shoes off and on for a while now, sometimes flats and sometimes heels. I find a 2 3/4 inch heel is very comfortable for me. One time in a department store I was being helped by a saleslady while buying pantyhose she said I was to tall for the hose they had I replied that I had on heels and pulled up my pantleg and showed off my high heel pumps she said that I walked very well better than some women in heels

Dirk Van de Velde on October 22, 2009:

Wow, thanks Chris for your encouraging comment.

I desire to wear knee high boots with a 3-4" high block heel. I wear high heel shoes with a small but high (4") heel at home - stiletto styled shoes. It wasn't a coincidence when I first tried the shoes I'm wearing now: I could walk on them like a pro. Like I never worn anything else in my life. When I get home from work, the first thing I do is slip them on and not take them off until I go to bed. I just love the feel of walking with high heel shoes.

It enforces the feminine side of me and I'm proud of it. A lot of my female friends already told me that I'm very much in touch with my feminine side and they are right. At least they accept me as I am.

All I'm looking for now is knee high boots with laces in front, a high 3" or 4" heel that is thick. I've seen a girl wear them on the bus and I still regret not asking her where she bought them. They looked so nice and sexy, they would surely make me look nice, but above all feel good. I wish I could see that girl again, or find the boots she was wearing. She was all in black and looked like a gothic, but a very good looking one! I can still see the boots before my eyes. I hope to find them one day and wear them in public, proudly!

Chris_S from Texas on October 01, 2009:

I only wear women's shoes. I got rid of all my men's shoes about two years ago and haven't looked back. I prefer boots to pumps or sandals and all my boots have 3-inch heels or higher. I do not currently own any flats.

My feet have become so accustomed to heels that wearing flat shoes feels strange and ackward. It was difficult at first wearing heels in public but it became second nature to me in a very short matter of time. Now it is something I do everyday without any thought at all. I do not try to hide my shoes, I'm very proud of them and do not care who sees them. I openly go into shoe stores and try on heels in front of everybody who's there. I'm fortunate in that I have small feet. I wear a size 8 1/2 in women's so I'm lucky to be able to go into any women's shoe store and they will have my size in stock.

I do get noticed and the sound is also a dead giveaway. When women hear me walking by they usually take a good look down at mt feet. I've received some very nice compliments on my shoes and clothing. I've yet to receive any negative comments.

I encourage men to wear their heels openly in public for the world to see.

pauls_boat on September 22, 2009:

i wear female shoes full time most of the time i wear sandles with up to a 3 inch heel but most oftern i wear flat sandles as i live on a boat and high heals are not that good for climbing in and out of the dingy.

i find that when i am wearing shoes with a heal it throwes my center of gravity forward and takes the load from my back which is great for me as i have a broked back in three places and wearing shoes with a heal eases the pain a lot (we should get doctors to advise men to wear heals when they have a bad back)

i also love girls school sandles and i have a couple of pairs.

Neil on September 18, 2009:

I wear heels at home all the time and would love to wear them were ever i am but being an architect it doesn't open up the shirt and tie office to wearing heels easily and would love to have the confidence just to wear them in public.

Very similar to previous comments this can be miss understood as your gay or effeminate, however being 6'3" + 5"heels cant see public persuasion changing anytime soon.

Funny thing is all the girls that work in shoe shops seem to love guys in heels but its just not publicly accepted that ure a straight guy how just enjoys heels and the premise that, heels u either get them or u don't stands very true.

Ken on September 17, 2009:

I am totally with you all... I love the way heels feel, but I cant get past the social barrier that is in place. I'm a tall fellow, and in heels im a VERY tall fellow! So in the end I just dont feel the comfort level as most of you all feel.

I live in a very conservative area. If anyone saw me in heels, everyone would automatically assume that I'm gay or effiminate (oh how closed-minded the world is today)!

I wish for one moment, I could do what I wanted and not have to deal with the social stigma that comes with wearing heels. I dont have the desire to really wear womens clothing with them, just the heels thanks!!!!

I love KangaROOS on September 06, 2009:

Yes, i got them yeserday. They are so comfortie and look and feel g8. My 1st pear, im so happy. :)

Terry on September 06, 2009:

I have worn mostly women's shoes for many years, having only a few "men's" pairs in my wardrobe for occasions where they are strictly called for. All of my sneakers, loafers, and sandals are women's (LOVE to wear Keds), and I comfortably wear them in public. In recent times I have gotten more secure in wearing things like ballet flats with jeans, although generally with darker or matching color hose so that they don't stand out blatantly. When in NYC I frequently wear ballet flats along with ladies' jeans and tops in public, including at restaurants often with a bra underneath. Last winter I began to wear heeled boots with jeans and now I can't get enough of it! Candidly, I have preferred feminine shoes since I was a little kid, and always (secretly)loved having my mom buy me the style of Keds that were generally meant for girls.

I love KangaROOS on September 03, 2009:

Hi all, i love all most all womens, shoes heels and flats. but latey i thniking of byin a pear of KangaROOS Sky ballets, they will look like a pear of traners with some long pants. i hope i do get them thay will be my 1st pear. iv been secrectly wearin my mums. iv been wearin womens shoes secrectly for aslong as i can rember, and im 21 now, so i really do think us guys sould be abul to wear wot we wont at home or in pudlic openly with no need to hind.

Shoeishprince on August 28, 2009:

I enjoyed reading the comments preceeding mine and I am very much in agreement with most of them! I have been ONLY wearing womens shoes for 10 years now. I live in a liberal city and own my business in a creative field so that makes it easier. I wear flats to high heels, but I spend most of my time in mid heel loafer pumps or wedges. I do wear pointy high heel pumps with long bootcut jeans and the shoes appear as boots that way. I believe the two most important factors is confidence and appropriatness, so it's important to find a shoe that goes well with your clothes and keep your feet in excellent condition free of hair!

Machayla on August 26, 2009:

I've been wearing heels off and on since I was a teen, and never grew out of it. These days, I like to co-ordinate my heels with the rest of my outfit, and guys - you have no idea how sharp a nice pair of heels complements your wardrobe until you actually go out and DO it. You'd be surprised at how many good compliments you get from ladies if you do about it with style. These days I wear anything from 2-5" and varied styles, and never had a bad experience yet! Guys...get with it, and let the heeling experience begin!

Ed on May 26, 2009:

Hello hello

Love to wear ladies boots. Have 3 pairs miself. Can't do it in public at mine home town becouse mine father is an important men in our town. Don't want do embarres him. I like to go to Amsterdam on september 18. Wil then put them on to see how people react. Think it will be mostly negativ but I don't care. I like to tri it anyway.

vanessalynn on May 18, 2009:

Well i wear heels all the time as well as sling backs open toes , wedeys and sandles . But i'm an exeption to the rule,i'm a transgenderd perspon M/F. However i have been wearing womens clothing in public since i was 14 years old i'm 48 now, it has been very liberating to say the least on this adventure of live . So with that i will say ( chow ) kiss kiss

Fi on May 08, 2009:

Hi, I have just as strong a passion for heels as any gender girl I know. My partner loves them and always gets me a pair out when I'm stressing!

Would love to wear womens shoes out and about a bit but its soooo difficult identifying a pair that are;

a) comfortableb) don't look too feminineandc) satisfy the desires and urges

Any help would be greatly appreciated.


Fi. x

Brian on April 21, 2009:

Hi i like womens stileetto to and wood like wear to them all the for mens clothes i do not no y thay r so dull and boring. but womens clothes r so fun.

sandyj on April 20, 2009:

i have wore womes sandals and some flats out and about for about 20 years. started out my girl friend and i wore the same size shoes. when she was at work, id wear her heels and hose and clean the house

henry on April 19, 2009:

i like womens stileetto boots i secrectly wear my girlfriends boots when she`s out, why are mens clothes so boring and dull....

Brian on April 19, 2009:

hi i have heels boots and stilleto to and have worn them in public twice and behind closed doors some of the time i wood love to wear them all the time i have had negative comments by one meber of the public i love heels i have 3in 4in 5in 6in and 6 (1/2)in do thick shud i go forit and wear them all the time let me no wort thick.

britchat on April 14, 2009:

Well I guess I take my hat of to guys that have the balls to wear womens shoes out in public, as I bet there are many more that wear them behind closed doors!

AngelaMarie on March 29, 2009:

i am a male that loves all heels ! I have some heels that woud give my wife nose bleeds. My wife doesn't wear heels ,but I have wedges,pumps ,mary janes ,sandals and stilletto heels ! They range from 3 to 6 inch spikes ! A close friend is baffled at the ease of walking it is for me !

Darren on February 24, 2009:

Most of my high heels I wear are 3, 3 1/2, 4 and 4 1/2 inch and of any colour

Darren on February 24, 2009:

It was a secret about wearing high heels until I left school at 16, then I Ithought I love high heels so much I will tell my Mum & Dad. It was hard for them at first, but as I would not give in I still stuck to my passion and have worne them ever since and i'm now age 34.I wear heels as every day fasion,as much as women do. I own 1,000 pairs all in size 8. It is very tough to cope with all kinds of negative comments but greatfull for the positive ones. I also wear nailpolish mainly milk choclate brown,dark pinks and any red, also some skirts and female jewlery. I love hand bags too and own 80 bags.

phil on January 28, 2009:

i love feminine shoes and have worn openly since i was a teen

my mom showed me how to chose hose too and how to match colors and style with my clothes

the heels feel so nice and i have many more options than stale od male shoes

i probably have over 40 pairs of heels now and wear them always

Rob on January 18, 2009:

I am another guy who started wearing womens shoes. I'm single and straight and wear basic flats in black and dark blue that have a square toe box. They are much lighter to walk in and are more comfortable than most mens shoes I have.

phyliss on January 17, 2009:

I love to wear heels in public as well as mary janes with 2 inch heels

Jonc on November 15, 2008:

Hey guys, i have worn womens shoes since i was 7 years old, starting out with a pair of tinker bell strap ons, and then gradually progressed on to wearing the 1980's KangaROOS in many different colors and designs, i also wear a pair of womens skechers "spokes" that are white, red, and black size 11. i see nothing wrong with doin this because i have adapted to wearing only womens clothes to begin with, no one really recongnises me much, and my wifey doesn't mind it much, she sees it as kinky kind of and ok. I think men should do this more!

brugor on October 10, 2008:

I have worn woman's shoes for nearly 40 years. High heels hold no interest for me. My interest is flats. When you wear socks that are the same color as the shoes, the shoes are much less noticeable. I wear them in public. As I type this in a public library, I am wearing gray patent flats, gray socks, and gray pants. Sometimes people do notice and give a quick glance. I avoid reacting to this.


Bootylicious on August 24, 2008:

I am a boot lover myself and always envied women for being able to wear them. Last year I plunged in and started to wear boots to work. I refuse to say they're women's boots but they still are: Western style with 3" underslung heels and very pointy toes in black nappa. They are a dream come true for me but for most people wrong for 3 reason's for a guy to wear: they're boots, they've heels and they're pointy. I'm only interested in the most masculine heel style possible in women's boots but I refuse to give up on the pointy toes or hide the heels completely under long pants. They don't have to look like men's shoes either, I've worn these boring things long enough. Once I tasted the sweetness of wearing these heeled boots I couldn't go back and if this means facing ridicule or negative comments from somebody from time to time: so be it, but I have to admit it's not easy. But worth it...

Jerry Jones on August 04, 2008:

I wear heels all the time in private and out in public on some weekends under long jeans or slacks. Out, I wear 4-5" heels, both block and stiletto, that are look like men's shoes or boots. Most people don't notice and no one has ever made a negative comment. I have had a few good comments and one guy asked a lot of questions. I think he wanted to wear them too.

I still have apprehension and wish society would get over their stereotypes and prejudices. I am happily married to a heel loving gal that encourages me. Heels are an object of affection and I don't think a chromosome dictates who will love them and who won't. I happen to love them, collect them (I love strappy 5" stilettos), and wear them because I love the way they look, the way they feel and the way they make me feel. Just because society has been programmed that they are for women only doesn't make it true. Men have worn heels throughout history. They do not indicate sexual preference.

Histiletto on July 04, 2008:

Men wearing high heels is no phenomenon. Secretly, I would say the number of men in heels would be close to the number of women who wear heels, regularly. Getting these men to openly declare their secret desire to add high heels to their active wardrobe, is dependent on the social acceptance. Men are no different than women in a desire to wear heels. They don't want to force their will on everybody, but they would like to be treated with the respect any human being is entitled to and should be afforded.

In the 70' and 80's many men were noted to wear the funky styled high heeled platforms. It was tied too much to a "what's in it for me, sucka" and "be your own man" movement from the 60's - peace and love" movement. It looked too "bad" to be good and to me personally, it looked cartoonish and sloppy, which kind of turn me off. So when those who supported this look moved on, the high heeled platforms became historic novelties to remember when.

hfmrok on June 17, 2008:

Hi Hope,

I too wear women's shoes most days. Heel heights varying from 2" to 4". Heel style is block. Sure they are from a female point of view, standard day wear and not "sexy", but I do enjoy wearing them. Billyb had a great day it seems.

Pity more guys who like heels don't just get on and do it.

billyb on May 23, 2008:

Hi Hope

Yes I do wear heels in public. I useually wear cowboy boots to work but I also have a pair of ladies boots with a 3.5" stacked heel that I also wear to work on a regular basis. I have one pair of almond toes black pumps with a 1/2" plat and 4" stiletto heel. I have a long drive to work and some times I will wear a pair of pumps for the drive, well last week I was wearing the black pumps with black trouser socks and black slacks. When I got to work and parked one of my coworkers parked next to me and got out of his car and stood there waiting on me and there was no way i could change into my boots so I thought what the hec and got out of my truck and he never noticed now these shoes sort of look like my cowboy boots and since the heel was covered it was not that noticable. What fun I wore those pumps all day.

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