This is a follow up to the wildly popular and fiercely debated 'Why It's A Big Deal When Men Wear Women's Clothes In Public', and a rebuttal to some of the more ignorant comments there which claimed that men shouldn't wear women's clothing not because they don't have the right to, but because they don't look good in it.
The sheer arrogance and indeed, shallowness of these claims aside, this is one of those times where fire can be fought with fire, for the claim that men do not look good in women's clothing is simply false. I'll be focusing on lingerie and heels in this piece, but the same truth applies to all women's clothing. The fact of the matter is, some men actually look better in women's clothing than some women do (which may be the reason for the rude comments, a little of the green eyed monster being afoot.)
Why is this the case? Well, there are a few reasons.
For starters, men who wear women's clothing tend to actually appreciate the clothing, they are consciously and intentionally expressing themselves in what is regarded as being a 'feminine' way. For this reason, their movements are anything but clunky. They move deliberately, gracefully, they embrace the lingerie and the way it makes them feel.
Secondly, some men simply have good bodies for lingerie, especially when it comes to heels and stockings. Have you ever noted the way hosiery models tend to be super slim? That's so the stockings sit nicely on a leg that is slightly curvy, but not rounded in the way most women's legs are. Men are also less likely to have spider web veins and cellulite, two afflictions which plague women on a regular basis. The irony of the situation is that we've already apparently come to appreciate the way stockings look on a male type leg, but apparently some of us just can't handle it when a man actually wears them.
Thirdly, men often look good in lingerie and other forms of women's clothing because they carefully select items of lingerie that make them look good. Men new to wearing women's clothing tend to go a bit mad, buying anything that takes their fancy, but after a while they settle down and start putting some real thought into their purchases. They put outfits together that are at once more pretty and more feminine than most lingerie that women wear, and some even show them off with pride.
Need proof of the fact that men look good in lingerie? None of the pictures accompanying this article feature women. All have been generously shared with me and my readers by real men who wear lingerie, and look damn good doing it.
gail on December 31, 2017:
I am a man, married with two boys and I love to wear silky lingerie. When I met my past wife, I told her that I liked to wear panties and lingerie. She responded by providing me with some of her panties. (By the way she passed away with cancer). I am writing this while dressed in panties, nylon slip and a silk caftan (SIL) got the caftan while on a trip to CA.
On night when getting ready for bed, my wife gave me 3 pink satin bras. She had me put one on so she could make the adjustments, She loved to play with my nipples while wearing a bra or slip. Later I have worn about every item of female lingerie. She got me pair of 4 inch mules
We had this family move into the Apt complex, The male (John), the woman (Evely) beautiful and sexy, and 12 yo son Ken. The intersting thing , was all three wore ultra sheer babydoll lingerie, Evey and John would wear a pad to cover privates. . Ken and his mother wore Pink Blue and yellow I think all were his mothers. John always wore black.
MarriedLovesPanties on March 18, 2016:
I love wearing floral or lace underpants. I don't know why. I have a couple of pairs with little bows on them that send me "there" almost immediately. I know there's other dudes like me--wife doesn't know
tony on July 04, 2015:
Hi I am 53 years old and has been wearing panties since I was about 10 years old.I love to wear full brief nylon panties. I have got to the stage now that I don't care what a lot of ignorant people think.
Kim Cummings on June 01, 2015:
Dear Editor: My husband and I do so agree on both wearing pantyhose/tights, Short miniskirts, 6 inch high heels, baby doll teddies, silk kimonos, pretty much every lingerie types,and of course satin sheets on our bed. We are close to the same size in high heels,and others. It kind of turns us on to both be wearing racy lacy smooth silky womans attire. It pleases him and it is our little secret.
Joel on June 01, 2015:
My love is to wear panties all day long in which I do their so comfortable to wear.
lingerie boy on March 07, 2015:
I love dressing in my panties ,bra ,nylons, shoes and slip and walk out the front door walk around in my front yard in the sunlight for everyone to see
Hope Alexander (author) on June 08, 2010:
Unfortunately, it is that way with so many things in this world, Dick.
Dick on June 04, 2010:
Those of us who wear lingerie are able to make a case for doing it, where as those who condemn us can only offer up uninformed and ignorant opinions. I do not understand why every man does not try it once f only to see what it's like. If they don't like it, then they don't ever have to do it again but at least they would be able to discuss the suject from experience. I dare say that an overwhelming number would find the experience delightful.
mychoice on April 26, 2010:
Good to have others that feel the same way about what we can or can't wear. I've been wearing womens clothes for as long as i can remember, can't stand the thought of mens underwear.
I'm as strait as when it comes to sexual preference, can't handle the thought of another bloke near me as such.
But women i adore, i love their clothes, love convisation with them and love to dress like them.
I have quite a number of shops that i can easily go into and buy stuff, and often i will go totally dressed as awoman
They all know at these shops I'm a guy and are more than happy to serve me.
I've even had bra fittings done at times and the women in the lingerie shops seem to enjoy it as much as i do.
I fail to see what the problem is with some of these narrow minded people who think it's taboo to wear the clothes of the opposite sex. It's not hurting anyone else so we should be alowed to wear what we want to wear if it makes us feel good. Isn't that what life is all about, doing things that
pantieswinsuitman on March 14, 2010:
I love reading about men wearing women clothes, and wearing them. I am married, my wife sees me, with my panties, bra, slip, on some night
Wendy on March 11, 2010:
Thank you for sharing... works for me...
joanjo from Herts. U.K. on January 23, 2010:
Hi Hope, I'm new to this site but not new to crossdressing. What an interesting article, it makes me feel as though I should risk going public as you are quite right, a lot of men who take the trouble with their clothes and make-up etc do look very good indeed. Unfortunately there is so much to lose if things go wrong. I'm lucky in having an understanding wife but in the present climate she would not be at all happy for me to go walkies outside the house when dressed
Happy 4 You on January 05, 2010:
I'm glad that some men love lingerie. Everybody needs something that they love.
Lingerielover on November 25, 2009:
I'm a straight single guy and I love wearing women's lingerie. It's strictly a sleepwear thing for me, I don't wear bras or corsets or anything, but rather beautiful, romantic lingerie. I have a great lingerie wardrobe, baby-doll nighties, teddies, negligees, peignoirs, chemises, and satin pajamas. My lingerie collection is so beautiful and I am so excited to get ready for bed every night!
TIMWILLIAMS on November 24, 2009:
I can relate with this story. I think lingerie looks cool on many men(and women too). I wear girls panties all the time. I enjoy the girls bras too. They are fun to wear. I own several bras and panties. I like seeing the above picture are actually men in lingerie over women that you typically see.
fran-gerry on November 10, 2009:
great hub as always.
my wife is fine with me wearing female clothes, in fact I wear a larger cup size than she does.We wear nightgrowns every night.
LetMeTryThatOn on August 24, 2009:
I first tried on women's lingerie about 14 years ago, and I haven't stopped since. I like the way panties feel, especially thongs and boyshorts, and I like the way they look on me. I'm especially lucky in that I'm tall (6'2") and thin (175 lbs.) so I don't look TOO ridiculous.
bobbie95126 from San Jose, CA 95126 on August 22, 2009:
I could not agree more with you here. I wear a minimum of sexy panties every day (however still in the closet as only a few very close women friends know and no men what so ever know). At work I often wonder how much sexier the panties I am wearing are than the women in the office.
davina on August 16, 2009:
i wear girly nylon panties every day i love them
lauren on June 30, 2009:
hi hon,lost two wives due to my addiction to wear lingerie.
GEOFF on June 18, 2009:
HOPE I AGREE about men wearing panties and such. for the last nine months i have been wearing a babydoll nighty to bed with my wife. It is a nylon 1970 s double babydoll nightie and it is so pink and pretty. At first my wife was not sure of this but the more i wore it the more she is like, now she is fibe with it. hope, more women need to let there man wear a nightgown to bed the man is more sensitive and caring and when both wear a sexy nightie it really makes for some hot times in bed
Hope Alexander (author) on June 08, 2009:
Thank you for sharing it, Nanciboy... it's a great picture...
Hope Alexander (author) on June 08, 2009:
Thank you for sharing it, Nanciboy... it's a great picture...
Nanciboy on June 08, 2009:
Thanks for using my picture again :)
iloveps on June 08, 2009:
very nice rebuttle. I never though that men look better in heels and stockings but your right we usually do.
ILoveLingerie on June 08, 2009:
Great article. I agree with you, I look pretty sexy in lingerie myself;) Maybe I'll send you some pics in the future...
Cyndie_D on June 08, 2009:
Very nicely said. I'm a lingerie wearer and totally agree with your ideas.
Stormy on June 08, 2009:
Hope, I have been a member of this group for some time, and I am 100% in agreement with all your postings. This particular one absolutely jumps out at those (men or women) who are so closeminded as to NOT understand why Men Wear Panties (or other lingerie). 100% in agreement? I doubt I will ever disagree with you. Your views are exactly those of my own. Why shouldn't men wear lingerie? Jusst what is the big deal about cut, or material used anyway by others who insist that material and/or cut is confined to the female sex anyway? I, for one, would love to see your views why some/material/fabrics are 'considered female' and not male.Perhapsit coukd be answered best by a blog that questions material, and/cut as female vs male. You are welcome to edit, and/or address this reply in any you desire.
mickiv on June 07, 2009:
i always wear some type of lingerie,but have always felt and been told I have a great pair of legs,so I'm a push over for nylons,and I wear them whenever I can.Love your articles,hope to see more.
SatinJenni from Burlington Ontario Canada on June 07, 2009:
I'm glad to see such an archaic viewspoint as gender specific fashion openly discussed. Just such a discussion may lead to a wider education for all.
Education is:A succession of eye-openers each involving the repudiation of some previously held belief.George Bernard Shaw (1856-1950) British dramatist, critic, writer.
Engaging the readership is the mark of a sucessful writer so keep up the good work Hope!
Gunnau from Central Coast NSW Australia on June 07, 2009:
I cannot possibly agree with you more.
Guys are almost forbiden to show off their body parts and from removing hair because of the so called Manlyness factor.
I love my lingerie and this time of year would be perfect for wearing shorts with tights. Shame i can't indulge outside the house.
Keep up the writings. Your insights are wonderful and i only hope more women get to read them and broaden their minds.