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How To Wear Lingerie At Work When You're Male

It is a common wish for a man who wears lingerie to want to wear lingerie to work. There are several reasons for this. For starters, you get to feel that lovely lingerie against your body throughout an otherwise mundane and boring workday. Secondly, there is the secret thrill of wearing lingerie, nobody knows you have it on, and you can be making a big presentation or talking to the boss in a camisole, bra, panties and stockings without anyone being the wiser. This can be quite a rush for many men.

However if you are going to wear lingerie to work, you need to do it smart if you don't want to get caught. Read through these useful tips and cautionary notes before making your big expedition!

Loose Pants Save Butts

Be careful to ensure that you are not wearing tight pants. You can get away with some fairly elaborate lingerie, stockings, suspenders, even a garter, as long as your pants are not too tight. Fortunately most of the time business wear tends to be fairly loose, so you should be okay.

WARNING: Ensure that the pants do not pull tight when you sit down. Pants that may seem loose when standing can become embarrassingly tight when pulled over the seat of your behind!

The Thong Trick

A thong has traditionally been used by ladies to avoid the dreaded VPL or visible panty line. You can harness the power of thongs too! Beware however, a thing may ride up and give an incredibly uncomfortable 'butt flossing' sensation, so make sure you test drive the thong you plan to wear to work all day. Then again, you might like that sort of thing.

Tone It Down

If you like to wear stockings, then skin tone stockings are your friend when it comes to the work place. Stay away from shimmery colors and loud patterns. Opaques and skin toned stockings are great for wearing around the work place.

Double, Triple, Quadruple Check

Look at yourself in the mirror. It sounds like a simple thing to do, but the simplest mistakes are often the ones that are the first to be made. Use a full length mirror to see if there are any obvious signs that you are wearing lingerie. Alternately, use a digital camera and inspect the picture on your PC.

Think About Colors

Do NOT wear a dark colored bra under a light colored shirt, or vice versa. Even if that black bra is not visible under your shirt to the naked eye, an inopportune camera flash can reveal otherwise. The same can happen in reverse, believe it or not. Try to match your underwear to your outerwear when it comes to colors, or nude tones are also a good option.

Go With A T Shirt Bra

For men who want to wear bras to work, the T Shirt bra is a godsend. T Shirt bras are molded from one piece of fabric, and do not have the telltale seams to press through clothing that other bras have. T Shirt bras are specifically designed to be discrete, so you get to have the naughty feeling of wearing a bra, without anybody knowing.

Comments

angie on April 06, 2020:

Back again after a long time. It'd amazing how many guys wear stockings at work. I'm retired now, but put on stockings and garters every morning right after my shower. Can wear darker shades if only at home, but nude or light beige outside. Also have some sexy garter fishnets and fencenets. I've taken to gbelts with as many as 18 straps, and love fastening them all. I've taken to wearing very long stockings all the way up to the top of my thighs, and love how they feel.

angie on January 13, 2020:

I'm strictly closet. I wore stockings and garters under my business wear for decades. I wore nude or light beige stockings with a wide six strap garterbelt and normal men's socks over the stockings. The gentle thigh massage of the stockingss and straps as I moved about was just so satisfying.

Angie on January 08, 2020:

I'm strictly closet and wore stockings and garters to work under my business clothing for decades. I wore nude or light beige stockings with a deep six strap belt and normal men's socks over my stockings. The gentle massage of the stockings and straps was so wonderful. Was never detected. But one time, as I was giving a presentation, I dropped a paper, and as I bent to pick it up, a garter popped loose with what seemed like a cannon shot. I quickly finished and retired to refasten.

jerry on September 12, 2019:

I wear panties every day to work and no one notices that I'm wearing panties. I choose the earth tone to wear and the pastel colors and of course whites. I never wear black to bright colors to work. Lacey panties are comfortable and no one notices the lace around the legs and around the belt.

PaulaPlaytex on August 20, 2018:

I am retired now...When I was working...I always wore my Sexy 46B/46C Bras with matching Panties...Co-workers knew and were O.K. with my Lingerie wearing...I also would wear Nylons (Without Socks).

Bob on November 08, 2017:

The one piece stocking and garter sets available today do not contain any clips making it invisible to on lookers. The feel amazing.

gdm on October 23, 2015:

one day i went over to see a lady that sew clothes i need my good pants sew up for a dance when i got there she was crying i ask her what was worry she to me she could not hem this dress her friend did not come over to help her i said as a joke it to bad i was not a girl i would put it on so you could sew it up she look at me and said well you are a tall man maybe you can help if you do i will fix your pants for free i told her yes then what would you like me to do she said take a shower and use the cream in there after come to my bed room i will help you get dress well it toke me a hour and when i dry off i had no body hair i went to her i ask what kind of cream was that she told me body hair remover i ask her why you think i let you wear this dress with hair on your body now remove the towel and lets get you dress first there was a corsets and nylons then panties as she tie the corsets i look in the mirror i look like a girl but had no breasts she then said here i put these fake one for now after that she put the dress on me i went back to the mirror i now look like a girl she then told me to stand on a chair she hem up the dress there all done then she ask since you are dress in women underwear how about doing one more dress as the day went on i was in five dresses and she was done here your pants all done as i toke the dress off i ask if i could wear the rest she said you want to wear corset panties yes miss i do well if you do you can not wear pants i told her i will wear any kind of dress you have i like the way it feel on me then she walk behind me and put her hand around my fake breasts she ask me is this your time dress as a girl no i said one night a year ago i found a old nightie in a drawer and wore it and i brought some panties that i wear a few time as i told her this her hand was playing with my nipples she then ask would you come back in the morning and help me i told her why not i just get a room in town she said no you can stray here to-night but only as a girl we have a girl night you can do my nails and i do your well that night not only my nails were done i had ear rings put on me and make up then we had dinner she gave me some pills she told me it will help me sleep she did not want me to leave the room it was bed time she hand me a short teddy nightie i put it on it just cover my ass as i look in the mirror i told her its to bad there no man around she ask why i told her he would want my ass the way i look she smile she then told me to lay on the bed i did as told i had my ass in the air she came back she ask me you want to know how a women feels i told only if she had a cock she walk in front of me and put her big dido cock up to my mouth will this do girl i open my mouth to said yes but she shove it in well awhile i was turn over and she shove it in my ass hole she told me now bitch your pussy ass is mine i said yes miss and you will live here as my house bitch soon you will beg me to make you a full girl well after a year i did beg her she toke the fake breasts off and i had my own breasts i look like a women now with long hair and when we go out i have other women look at me i even had a man said i would love to shove my cock up her ass my miss heard that and told me do not worry you belong to me and your pussy ass is all mine

Thomas on October 01, 2015:

I am a male and I have been wearing bra for the last 20 years. Initially I only wore in the house but I picked up courage and started wearing outside also.As years passed the size of my breasts increased so much that now I wear 42 D cup bra. As the size of breasts are big I cannot hide it. Any one can understand that I am wearing a bra especially when I wear T shirt. It protrudes and can see clearly the lines of bra. I am not ashamed. My wife also support me.

David379 on May 21, 2015:

Both my wife and I wore VS panties for a long time the second skin version. They quit that one so now we still wear VS the older satin ones, but also now wear Vanity Fair 15712 panties. They are wonderful, sexy

and comfortable. I am much older and still love satin and silk things.

Gives me goose bumps to put my satin panties on when getting ready for work. They give support and very slippery under my kahki's. Oh how much I feel feminine wearing wonderful panties everyday to work.

I did just order a silk camisole today. Can't wait.

chris009 on December 08, 2009:

Thanks Hope - And thanks for the new article!

Lets explore the 'hidden fun' aspect for a moment: I concur that part of the fun lies in the very fact of the taboo. But doesn't part of the fun for a lady, of wearing a sheer blouse over a lacy bra, also lie in the fun of the taboo? Of showing off things that 'nice girls' hide? OK, call me an exhibitionist then, but I submit that even when men are "allowed" to wear women's clothing in public, there will still be plenty of opportunities to scratch the itch labeled "naughty."

Hope Alexander (author) on December 08, 2009:

Chris, keep reading. I've written a litany of articles about that, and I'll probably write another one addressing this point here, because you know, the thing is, most men who wear women's clothing want to have to hide it. At least, that's the feedback I've gotten on these articles. A few men want to be 'out and proud', but there's a bigger community that enjoy the taboo.

chris009 on December 08, 2009:

Hi...New to Hub, thanks to a post at SkirtCafe which linked to these articles.

Question: Why hide it? Let's keep pushing the frontier so that I can wear at work a visible lace cami just as freely as you can? I would love to embrace the sheer fabrics and layered look that the ladies in the office enjoy. Or, as one of the men who wears women's shoes, I would love to not have to 'camouflage' the fact with thick socks, and boldly wear sheer-toed stockings instead.

Your advice on HOW to hide it is good - no criticism. But let's also look for chances to change society so that we don't HAVE to hide it.

Thanks!

lingerielover on October 26, 2009:

I have worn stockings and girdles for more than 15 years at work under my suit and never had a problem. So far I have been asked a few times what kind of stockings I wore because you can spot a 20 den stocking but I don´t care. Usually I answer that I wear pantyhose. Stockings and girdle are not common anymore. Most women don´t wear girdles and younger women might never have tried one in her life. I don´t need the thrill of getting caught. It is just that I became so used to wearing a girdle that I don´t feel properly dressed without one.

stevie on July 06, 2009:

Hope, I have worn panties for over 25 years but until recently, never to work. I work at a power station in the states and need to change into and out of a uniform at work. After working there for a feew years, I thought I would try wearing panties to work so I put on a pair of purple VS bikinis and went to work. No problem changing into the uniform as I was always early. At the end of the day, when I went to the locker room, there was a few other guys changing out of uniform. I waited as long as possible and then took off my pants, with my shirt pulled down as an attempt at concealing purple panties, but I am sure I got noticed. Nobody has ever said anything to me, but I wear panties to work a lot more now and am able to change without anyone noticing. I have to say Hope, that the thrill of possibly getting caught was one of the biggest turn ons of my life. More recently I have been caught a few times at Barnes and Nobles when I bent over to grab a book and a couple of older women saw my satin pink panties peek out of my jeans waistband. Their reaction was priceless, one blushed and couldn't believe it and the other smiled and turned away. when I walked past them on the way out I heard them whisper "pink panty guy". After that, I am hooked on showing a little!

Hope Alexander (author) on May 26, 2009:

Buying any kind of clothing online is usually luck of the draw. I would recommend that if you're not prepared to take the risk, buy brands you already know what size you are in. Otherwise, just buy the size you are according to measurement charts (which most major manufacturers provide)

Don Witten on May 26, 2009:

Hope,

Today was the first day I wore panties to work! It was heavenly! Thank you! Also I have question about panty sizes. I have been hestitant about buying panties online. I don't want a size that is too small or too big. Any suggestions. Most of my panty collection is from Wal Mart, but I would like some Victoria Secret or Fredericks of Hollywood but I am not sure how those fit. I am not man enough to go to a store such a VS. What do you think?

Hope Alexander (author) on May 13, 2009:

Don't quote me on this, but I am pretty sure a darker person would be better off with a darker bra.. or wait.. no maybe a lighter bra to match the shirt... aaargghh... head explode

rich3800 on May 13, 2009:

A mind bender: would a black person wear a black bra or a white bra under a white shirt?

rich3800 on May 13, 2009:

@Nylon panties, How many women know that men's underwear doesn't have a rear seam and among the ones that know, how many would care? Don't worry, be happy.

pantiesboy358 on April 07, 2009:

Hi I wear bras and panties all the time and to work with the amount of clothing that I have to wear you could never see it even with tight clothing. stretch tops under a skirt or sweet shirt works well. Just remember different storks for different folks.

CDLV on March 14, 2009:

Made a mistake by wearing hold-up stockings. By noon I was giving a presentation and felt the one on my right leg coming down. I got behind the podium and called for a break at which time I mangered to get to the bathroom to take them off. Will always wear a garter with hold-up stockings fo added safety.

kumar on February 21, 2009:

hey!! m really boosted up with this blog..

i want 2 ask is, where in india suspenders r avaliable.??

any idea..?? and other thing is i like to wear padded bra, but itzz pretty to obvious that's it visible. what should i do..??

aj on January 10, 2009:

I REALLY AM NEW TO THIS, ( I MEAN TALKING ABOUT IT, NOT WEARING IT!) I FEEL HAPPY REALLY HAPPY THAT OTHER MEN LIKE TO DO WHAT I DO, I AM LUCKY IN THAT MY WIFE FINDS IT NICE AND SEXY BUT I WISH I HAD FOUND OTHER PEOPLE TO TALK TO ABOUT THIS BECAUSE IT HAS GIVEN ME SO MUCH PAIN OVER THE YEARS UNTIL I MET HER. WHY CANT MEN HAVE THAT LOVELY SOFT FEELING WEARING STOCKINGS???,IM NOT HURTING ANYONE, AM I? MY MOTO HAS ALWAYS BEEN, (BEFORE I MET LIKE MINDED PEOPLE) 'YOU ONLY LIVE ONCE, SO WHAT THE HELL' I LOVE IT SO DEAL WITH IT (PLUS MY WIFE SAYS MY LEGS LOOK BETTER THAN HERS), BEFORE THIS MY LIFE WAS AGONY, NOW I FEEL FREE.

andrew on December 27, 2008:

I love wearing sportsbras and bra tanktops all the time and when at home I wear tight girls stretch jeans with usually a thong

LP on December 27, 2008:

I wearing panties full time 24/7 everybody at my work knows i wear them,they don't care. I also wear bras ,I have been taking breast enlargement pills and went from a 36a to 36c , I don't even hide dressing anymore and I am so much happier

girdley-man on December 09, 2008:

"I was always told (by my wife to wear a black bra under a white shirt. Is she tricking me?"The idea is to wear a bra that's closest to the wearer'sskin tone to minimize showing through a light or dark shirt. If the person wears a white shirt with a white bra but his skin is darker, then the bra will be more visible. On a much lighter skinned person the undergarment wouldn't see through quite as much. A darker skinned person should then wear a similarly darker colored brassiere for more discretion.

JC on November 24, 2008:

I really like to wear panties ... Luckily a lot of people are same to me.

Garry on November 19, 2008:

I love all these comments and would love to wear a bra. I wear panties anytime but afraid of being detected.

scantilyclad on November 13, 2008:

I wear panties basically 24/7, SO much more comfy than tighty whities, only time i don't is if i have to undress in public, i do have to do a lot of bending over in my job and i often wonder if people can see the panty line but nobody has ever said anything and my attitude is if it bothers you.....don't look!!

Elizabethxd from Horicon, WI on November 10, 2008:

I often wear stockings with a waist cincher with garters as well as panties under my male clothes. The waist cincher has the added benefit of making you look thinner! But good advice about wearing loose fitting pants. Tight pants will show the garters. In cold weather, heavier material pants, such as wool also help conceal the garters. I also wear a bra occasionally and a heavy sweater is perfect. Thanks for the good tips and for giving a forum to those of us who enjoy our feminine side.

kelly on November 07, 2008:

I'm a male nurse who is very feminine with long hair and pierced ears. I wear panties everyday and I know they are visible which doesn't bother me. I wear bras outside of work and would like to be comfortible waring a bra daily at work. I'm sure many people would know because of the lifting and moving of patients. Any ideals or toughts would be greatly appreicated.

Jon on November 04, 2008:

I like to wear a bra when I am home alone, doing housework. I am trying to get up the courage to wear it to work, but fear getting detected.

I have worn panties to work, as they are easy to conceal.

I want to go out dressed as a woman on Halloween, and I would like to get my wife to suggest something fun for me to wear, perhaps even help with makeup. Any suggestions?

jenniferlyn on October 22, 2008:

i wear bra panties stockings every day and far as i amconcerned it is nobody business except my own.

charlie on October 18, 2008:

i wear gridles to work and at home all the time. i wear jeans and a loose shirt. i wear all in ones 36b most of the time. i don't worry about strap lines. my wife dosnt like me wearing them. i been wearing them for over 30 years.

lingerielover on September 12, 2008:

I had the same problems jocal. At the beginning my wife did not like my bra wearing. But after some time now it´s ok for her. We go out together while I wear my bra and lingerie. I don´t wear white shirts because I don´t want to be too obvious. During summer a tshirt bra is a good choice. So far I never had a bad experience. When I buy lingerie I don´t hide the fact that it is for me and always had nice and helpful salespeople. They know that a lot of men buy lingerie for themselves.

jocal on August 22, 2008:

I'm happy .. you also guys loves wearing bras.. i really like wearing it.

My wife is okay if i wear it just at home but to make it sure it is not obviously seen.

Sam_T on August 20, 2008:

Thank you Hope for putting this hub together. I have always loved wearing panties...and the ocassional bodystocking. Your articles are informative and thought

provoking. I feel more confident knowing that there are lots of men out there who are just like me. Like most men who panties daily, my concern is VPL. I would take it as a great kindness if you would do more features and articles on this subject. Any tips would useful. Maybe some suggestions on possible purchases.

john on August 17, 2008:

Please just cut those tags out of your panties with a pair of scissors. Make sure you don't cut the panties though just the tag. problem solved.

My wife lays out my clothes and the panties she wants me to wear every morning. If i`ve made her mad i usually end up getting the but flosser thong for the day. HAHA

no name on July 07, 2008:

well I see I am not alone in the world I have been wearing panties for as long as I can remember my wife is okay with it for the most part I used to wonder if it was normal the more research I do I am finding out it is pretty normal I wear panties everyday and sometimes around the house I will wear a bra and stockings I have never had anybody say wether or not they have noticed that I was wearing panties but I know that people have and it was kinda exciting well all I wanted to say

angus on June 06, 2008:

i wear panties out every time i can and wear just regular carpenter pants there is usually no chance of lines there may be a danger of alittle lace peeking out when i bend over, but that's part of the thrill. i occasionally wear a bra out and just wear a loose baggy tshirt over it, even if it is seen its an extreme thrill and my wife and i love to go out on the town with both of us wearing bra and panties

beverlyann on May 24, 2008:

I been wearing panties for a long time. Found i love thongs, I even wear pads on them. Been wearing a bra more and more now.It's just a great feeling.

Gary on April 28, 2008:

Iwear panties and thongs everyday and when it's cooler out I wear stockings I've never wore a bra or camisole but I do like the thought of wearing one to work or out with others to see if they can detect anything.

Bruce on April 23, 2008:

If we wear panties all the time you probably have no fear about panty lines showing through your pants, light color and on the tight side. Who cares what people says or snickered at them!! I am one of those person who love to wear stockings and pantyhose as well. Lingerie feels underneath my see through pants.It even make me feel real sexy. Do I care? NO of course!! More PANTY POWER. It is a livetime adventure for me--YES!!!

mbledsoe2624 from Watertown, NY on April 17, 2008:

Usually i don't wear a bra to work or anywhere outside of my home but i do wear my panties anywear. thank you for the tips hope

gboy on April 17, 2008:

You feel a constant excitement, your imagination is working all the time. Like constantly figuring out what the women you see are wearing underneath. The tension keeps you on your toes, it is a surefire antidote to the sleepiness after lunch. I suggest a check shirt, possibly with double pickets, you can always keep a pen or notebook in when you go down to the canteen for instance. Or a polo short with dark horizontal panels and stripes, this conceals what you have on underneath.

Doreen R on February 24, 2008:

Hope, Great advice and I might add that a nude colored bra is the safest bet for non detection. Of course, those of us who are flirting with detection for the thrill are wearing colors that will show the lingerie. I love to wear a white bra under a white shirt, it is sooo detectable.

Doreen

Bobb on January 29, 2008:

I'm only 28 myself so I'm not to old LOL. I wear string bikinis for the most part and thoes are the ones that do it the most. Hipsters don't seem to do it as much, but it also depends on the brands.

I wear a 8/9 and the ones I get from Lady bug and Lane Bryant (both I think made by the same company) seem to do it more than my Joe Boxer or Vicki Secret.

Hope Alexander (author) on January 29, 2008:

Great ideas Bobb! Thanks for adding those. I've actually never noticed having a tag problem myself, possibly because as a younger woman I wear lower cut styles a lot. The tag issue is probably more evident when you have a higher waisted panty that sits closer to the waist of your clothing.

Hope Alexander (author) on January 29, 2008:

Will (Kaleigh), those are some great bra tips as well!

Bobb on January 29, 2008:

I'm luckey enough to work weekends when I am the only person in my area, and don't have to hide it from more than maybe 3 people. BUt I still use caution.

If I wear one to work, I wear a tee-shirt with a heavy sweater over it. I find the layers help hide all straps and hooks. and make sure both shirts are not to loose around the neck.

As far as panties, I wear them to work and out all the time and have no issues. I wear jeans 99% of the time and have never cared about VPL. Most people would probably never notice, and even if they did how would they know if they were panty lines or tighty whitey lines? The only thing I care about is if the panty tag is hanging out, that happens a lot with most panties, even on my wife. I'm always tucking har tag back in for her, and I can't tell you how many women I see with the same problem when walking through a store.

Hope that helps.

Hope Alexander (author) on January 27, 2008:

Hi Steve,

My first suggestion would be to perhaps invest in a strapless bra. This eliminates the chance that straps become visible. My other suggestion would be to try wearing darker, thicker fabrics that cling less to your body.

Another thought would be that your bra, or your shirt may be a little too tight. Tight bras stand out more than loose ones, so if you find it is cutting into you, maybe a larger bra is the solution. You mentioned you wore loose shirts, but if they are pulling tight when you bend over, perhaps you need to wear an even looser shirt?

Perhaps some of the guys will have further tips for you, I'll try a blog post and see what we can come up with :)

steve on January 27, 2008:

I'm a hairdresser and wear a bra every day, most days I wear a loose top. There have been several days where I 'm shampooing a lady leaning over the bowl I know my bra and straps show in the back any suggestions

Will (Kaleigh) on January 05, 2008:

I have been wearing lingerie to work and shopping for a number of years, and many times i have woren bras under just a t shirt. The biggest problem I find is hiding the straps over my shoulders. My solution for this is to wear racerback sports bras or convertible bras that will become a racerback. As for panties, they have not been an issue, just make sure my t shirt stays tucked in.

Hope Alexander (author) on December 14, 2007:

Hi David... Yes, the black bra under the white shirt is probably not a great idea unless you really want to be giving your own impromptu lingerie show :) And very good point about checking yourself under natural light too!

David on December 14, 2007:

Hope, some good tips. Sometimes I look at myself in the mirror before I leave for work to be sure that my bra is not to obvious but then out in the daylight it appears to be totally evident. I was always told (by my wife to wear a black bra under a white shirt. Is she tricking me? She also perfers that i wear no pink or any thing lacy .

A good fitting bra is very difficult for a man to find, you have to explore a lot of options.

Most people at work probably know I wear a bra and I'm ok with that. I live in the VI and the weather is always warm and beautiful so I wear a lot of Polo and T shirts so it gets difficult to hide.