Inner beauty vs. Outer beauty
Inner beauty verses outer beauty. Inner beauty is defined as intangible. Things we cannot see, touch or measure with the physical eye.
Spirit , inner abilities for example charm, wit. These are inner qualities.
Outer beauty is desirable physical features such as eyes, lips, body size, weight ,and hair. Any thing that can be touched, measured .The argument is an old one. Which is more important? Does it matter if you have a pleasing physical appearance with a nasty attitude?What does looking like Shriek have to do with a great sense of humor. At least, if you hone that talent you may be a great comic one day. You could always get that nose fixed.
When we examine this question on microscopic level we can see how it affects us when we were younger. In school ,boys were like either "ugh she's ugly I don't want to play with her. A teacher may have been standing by and said "hey that's not nice apologize to her".The boy may have grudgingly apologized to the girl in fear of punishment. If he was bad he may have stood his ground and accepted the repercussions of his actions. These two qualifiers are with us all of our lives cause this is who we are,inner and outer.
On a macroscopic level, we are bombarded with images of certain standards of masculine and feminine beauty. These images range from Kate Moss thin to Melissa Ford's curve. For males It's, Matthew McConaughey to Mindless Behavior. The average woman can not turn on the t.v. without a weight loss ad glaring at her from the screen. Men cringe at the athletic prowess of some of our finest athletes and financial power brokers, cause for most women those trait's are most desirable in a mate. Yet we are too familiar with the headlines of some of the coveted beautiful people in court for anything from divorce, drug induced rants, to assault charges.
So which is more important? I believe inner beauty is most important. Why because the better the character inside of a person the more that person has to contribute to self and society.Inner beauty touches people on levels that outer beauty cannot.
For example, your grandmother maybe old and wrinkle. Yet, her love for you and toothless smile lets you know you are loved and this love will follow you all you life, if you let it. Inner beauty is more important cause in most cases it helps to shape outer beauty. Ever dated a guy you thought was so cute. Only after going out with him for a while, he is no longer so hot. He may be mean to you, rude, disrespectful or just lack self confidence. All of a sudden he is not such a great catch.Hey it happens. Well, women has your man ever left you for the cross-eyed girl cause you cheated on him or treated him like your personal male slave? it's all to common.
Outer beauty has it's place. Everyone likes to look beautiful. Let's face it, it is the first thing that a potential mate or date sees. I believe Goddess( I prefer the term) has given us a pleasant appearance for that reason. I do believe some people were given the gift of physical beauty to make a living e.i. models,actress, actors, etc. It is their gift. I respect that. Outer beauty was made for appreciation and admiration as well.Nature is an outer expression of beauty. Although her function exceeds her appearance.Outer beauty has it's place and is most successful in humans when the inner beauty flows through it.
Tips To Enhance Inner Beauty
After reading this article you may think of getting an attitude adjustment. If so here's a few tips to help you .
- Be empathetic ( place yourself in someone else's shoes)
- Be authentic
- Be helpful
- Be kind or as kind as your personality lets you (I understand its tough for some of you)
- Be gentle
- Be patient with your self and others
Finally, be sweet as honey.My father once told me I could catch more flies with honey than I could with vinegar. Peace!
Why Am I not Surprised
As I read the statistics from NEDA. I was not surprised by the number of men with outer beauty issues. It is the world we live in. For decades men have hidden their image issues well. With the on set of women's liberation they have had to up their game. Reality t.v. and the internet also exposed everyone's faults. I am glad they are talking about it.
Really, women you really would rather get hit by a bus than be fat. It is a bit extreme but true for most people. I hope it's a wake up call . Come on people it's really not that serious. Okay to some it is . My hope is that outer beauty starts to matter less.I am encouraged by the 46% of women who are unaffected ,that's a positive sign.
I am concerned by the reports on girls and boys . I am happy that shows like "Black Girls Rock" exist .We need books like "Rock What You Got" by Ms. Schwarzenegger . I am also glad that website like NEDA exist to raise awareness about boys. We are all well versed on girls issues with outer beauty but not until recently did we have a handle on what boys face. So hats off to them. Awareness is power so talking and writing about it helps to eliminate this situation.
In conclusion ,Inner beauty wins hands down. Inner beauty has benefits like growth, self acceptance, and love. While outer beauty, has a self destructive component to it. For example ,poor self image because of one's size or physical attributes. Inner Beauty radiates from the spirit it is a sign of good mental and emotional health.
Tips to Enhance Outer Beauty
So you are thinking about getting your shine on. Here are a few basic tips to help you achieve the look you want.
- Invest in good make up
- cut ,trim your hair
- buy new instant hair (weave ,wig,etc)
- select clothing that compliments your body type(hint: it's not always about size)
- have good posture(this works on the subconscious as well)
Inner Beauty Or Outer Beauty Which is More Important
Inner Beauty vs. Outer Beauty