Written by: Jaclyn Popola
My hair is naturally very curly, like everyone else in my family. I never really paid it much attention--until I entered middle school, and looks began to matter. It was the mid-1990's. Alicia Silverstone, the actress from the movie "Clueless" had straight blonde hair. Magazines like "Seventeen" and "YM" featured models with long, straight hair that cascaded over their shoulders. And the popular girls at my school all had shiny, stick straight hair. They could wear it down and run their fingers through it, or tie it back in a loose ponytail for gym class. It looked great no matter what. My hair, on the other hand, was a poofy mass of waves, frizz and lumps. Because everyone I knew could step out of the shower, let their hair dry naturally, and end up with lovely straight locks, I assumed the same technique should work for me. It didn't. When I got out of the shower, my hair dried into an afro. This disturbed me greatly, so I started pulling it back into a tight bun, which seemed to be the only way to control the monstrosity atop my head. Oh yeah, when I say "I" started pulling it back into a tight bun, what I really mean is that I had my mother do it for me every morning before catching the bus. Around this time is when the fights would break out. I would go postal if there were any lumps, if a single hair was left out of the rigid bun, if the elastic wasn't wound tight enough. After re-doing it ten times, my mother would eventually turn from helpful to helpless to frustrated, and I would cry and cry and lament my fate. Adolescence sucks.
In high school I discovered flat irons and began straightening my hair, which worked a little but always looked slightly fried and unnatural. Then one day I had an epiphany. I was fighting a losing battle. Instead of working against my hair, maybe I should start working with it? There had to be a way to make my God-given curls work in my favor. A friend of my mother's had long, curly hair, so one day I asked her how she got it to look so good? The answer she gave changed my life: products. Products! All it took was a little hair gel and a blow dryer diffuser attachment to achieve a look of loveliness. I took her advice, and have embraced my curls ever since. Here are the life-saving tips to creating manageable curls that I would be lost without:
1.) In the shower, wash hair with a gentle clarifying shampoo like Nexxus Aloe Rid, and then a separate moisturizing conditioner (no shampoo-and-conditioner-in-one products). Curly hair is dry and brittle by nature, so it needs products that renew and moisturize. Try Pantene's "Hydrating Curls" or Herbal Essences "Hello Hydration".
2.) When you get out, gently squeeze excess water out using your hands, just enough so it's not dripping wet. Using a towel creates friction that causes frizz. Place a quarter-sized dollop of gel in the palm of your hand (I swear by Matrix's Biolage "Gelee") and run through your hair. Depending on the length of your hair, you may need to use more. Experiment with different amounts to find what works best for you. Not enough product and your curls will misbehave. Too much and your hair will look greasy and weighed down. Wash hands when finished.
3.) Flip hair back and forth over your head a few times and shake it out to separate the curls naturally.
4.) Lean over so all your hair is hanging in front of your face. Attach a diffuser to your blow dryer (diffusers enhance curls and control frizz by evenly distributing air) and start drying until hair is 90% dry. Conair sells diffuser attachments that are compatible with most standard blow dryers.
5.) Flip back over to a normal upright position. You'll now need to seal the deal and hold your locks in place. Use a spray gel like Herbal Essences Extra Hold Spray Gel or Maximum Hold Spritz and spray lightly over the full length of your hair--not too much near the scalp, because that'll create flakes; focus mainly on the middle and the ends.
HOW TO USE A DIFFUSER
TIPS & TRICKS
- People with curly hair really only need to wash their hair every other day or so due to the fact that daily shampooing will make your curls even dryer. If you do have to wash it every day, use a dandruff shampoo like Head & Shoulders, or a moisturizing shampoo like Herbal Essences "Hello Hydration".
- If you wake up in the morning and your curls aren't looking so hot, try a product like Pantene Pro-V Frizz Control Curl Revive. Mist over dry curls to give them moisturization and a frizz-free lift.
- Deep condition your hair once a week with a product like Neutrogena Triple Moisture Daily Deep Conditioner. While in the shower, apply the conditioner from about the middle of your ears down to the ends (this keeps your scalp from getting greasy). Allow to absorb for 10-20 minutes, then rinse.
- If your curls are excessively dry or frizzy, apply a dime-size amount of John Frieda's Frizz Ease Hair Serum after you get out of the shower but before putting in your hair gel.
- Never use a brush on curly hair. De-tangle hair in the shower by running a wide tooth comb through your tresses while conditioning.
These days, curly hair is gaining in the ranks of popularity. Celebrities like Sarah Jessica Parker, Kate Hudson, Kate Winslet, Nicole Kidman and American Idol winner Jordin Sparks embrace the sexy unruliness of their natural look. If you are someone who was blessed with curly hair, consider yourself lucky. Since I began enhancing my curls rather than hiding them, the tables have turned dramatically. I can't tell you how many times people with stick straight hair have come up to me and said, "I would give anything to have your hair. No matter what I do, my hair just won't hold a curl!"
Pantene Hydrating Curls
Herbal Essences Spray Gel
Neutrogena Triple Moisture
Nora411 from Chicago, IL on November 16, 2012:
Good advice. I have thick, curly hair and am always afraid of leaving it down in its naturally curly state. I will take what you said and try out some of these products :)
redhairandcurls on July 04, 2012:
Ive always had curly hair, but as soon as i got to middle school (im going to 8th in august) i noticed how frizzy and triangular it was and i cant stand it. most of the time i put in in a bun, but i don't like my puffy cheeks, so i leave to stands down on each side and obsessivly put mousee or gel in the front pieces to make the frizz go down. i just recently got my hair cut. in layers and short, a little above my shoulder. but two days later its back to a frizzy triangular mess. i wrote down a list of all the different products i wish to try, but i want something simple not 10000 different steps, i have curly ringlet but somedays they look more like choppy sticky-uppedy waves with weird fly aways. i cant even explain it. plus i have red hair and that's always been something im insecure of. people(mainly family adults & old people) say ohhh i love your hair color and the curls don't ever change it. it was cute when i was 5 but its not working now, i want to keep my color and curls, but loose the frizz and thickness, and eventualy i plan to grow my hair out, to maybe mid back.. ideas? please please please help me, i love you forever. i live in the US so only stores i can find here please (: thank you -Gracie
sophie on June 29, 2012:
This was really helpful, thank you! I also have some suggestions tho- Helbal essences tousle me softly intensive mask works a treat. And for people with really thick curly hair- Have it thinned! Really really helps with controlling curls. Thanks again! :) Sophie
Eva on May 14, 2012:
My hair is so weird. I style it the same way every day, and someday's it looks great, and someday's it looks really frizzy. But I guess that's because the change in the humidity.
Monique Brown on April 17, 2012:
luv it, thanks for the tips, very useful, I use my hair dryer , the Karmin G3 Salon Pro Hair Dryer which works pretty good which my wavy hair, it works to add shine, softness and faster drying, seals the cuticle, repels humidity and locks in hair color. :D :P
linber on March 25, 2012:
My hair is naturally curly plus having a dark color, i mean the color of most asians 'black'. I used to hate my hair because many people teased me specially when im in elementary and some people don't know my name called me as what my hair look like. It was so embarrassing that moment, i can say that i'm pretty on my own way but my hair lessen my self confidence that's why my Mom let me to undergo rebonding treatment. At first the effect was so amazing, my real beauty comes and many people notice me a lot but the moment is not forever and worst my hair has been damage and grow and came back again. Whenever it happen, i usually repeat the same treatment but you know i'm tired, tired of pretending for having a straight hair and i just want to be me. Myself, 100% me! I don't care what other people might say. I just want to be happy with who i am and for that i'm accepting myself for being me."I'll just wear my hair with a style and confident." because i know that God gave me this because this is the beautiful me and the one that fits me perfectly. Now, i just want my hair to be long and color it with something brown and fab!
So, my fellow curly gal we just learn to love who we are so other will treat us what we deserve to be treated.
amy on March 08, 2012:
The best products for curly hair are ouidad - they are amazing
hannah on February 22, 2012:
i totally relate to this. i have medium length curly hair which has tight dark brown curls, and im not mixed race, which would then suit my skin, but am pale skinned. every day to school i have my hair up in a messy bun, hiding it. i want to grow it, but am aware it takes very very very very long for curly hair.. but i want to try and where it loose more often, because it does look nice i guess. thanks!
Ricki Lange on January 20, 2012:
I have a haircut with feathered layers, so when the ends looks frizzy, it's a disaster. What works for me, is prior to heat styling to use the Shielo Antioxidant Leave in Protectant Spray, which truly works to blow-dry the ends smooth instead of puffy/frizzy. I've tried dozens of "heat-tamer" products, and none of them works anywhere near as well as this Shielo product.
CURLYfreak on January 18, 2012:
yeah I just want to say thanks so much this is really nice and I like the tips you gave. You have very pretty hair LOVE IT... muahh curly sister
wann on January 11, 2012:
Thanks so much for these awesome tips they were so good and when i take my shower I will definetly use these tips on my curly jungly hair. It is just so hard and frustratring to wake up nice and early and do your hair and it comes out horrible and then you wind up putting it up in a sloppy bun especially at school.
cat :) on January 10, 2012:
my hair is strange because there are diferent types long waves, curls and really tight curls and this helps me a lot thanks! cat :)
frusteratedwithmyhair on January 10, 2012:
my hair is so dry, thick, and curly, but some of my hair wont curl like the rest. my hair is so heavy it lays flat but i want to keep it long. my hair looks llike its a triangle some time.
yasmine on January 09, 2012:
I've tryed every prodoct but nothing but i agree with
becauseilive and elisa
Sophia on January 08, 2012:
My hair used to be curly when i was younger, but now it just frizzes out, like a foot from my head. If i leave it down i covers my whole face. everyday i pull it back into a big fluffy pony tail, but sometimes, the ponytail holder snaps, not being able to hold all of my hair. That is how much i have. Plus i am not even five feet tall so my hair looks rediculas on me. I try to straiten it, but it just frizzes even more. sometimes i just take a shower so it stays down, but by the end of first period, it poofs up again. :( What should i do???
i hate my hair. on January 04, 2012:
i have super curly long frizzy hair. it goes down to a little higher then my elbow. when i try to use gel it looks disgusting. when i straighten it its super dry and frizzy and looks bad. when i try to bring down the frizz when i leave it curly ill take a shower 10 minutes before i leave for school so its wet but then within and hour it just poofs up again. helpppppppp :/
emily on January 04, 2012:
i've got curly/wavy hair and they are actually very soft but the only thing that irritates me a lot is that they don't grow at all whatever i try they are just not ready to grow and that's why i hate them and even if they seemed to grow my edge would become rough and unmanagable i can't even tie them in a ponytail straight hair don't look bad on my face at all but i like curls and my friends say ''you look better in your curls''
can you advice me what to do????
curlycurl on December 29, 2011:
am 13 and i hve this very curly and dry hair.at schhool,my mom never alowed me to wear my hair exept in braid.i hve been teased at school so i started wearing a scarf.a few montth ago i just straightend my hair at the parlour and its startin to grow up and it sucks...i will try this new tip...hope it works :)
Taniqua on December 27, 2011:
I live in Jamaica and my hair is natural,black,puffy and my school starts on January 2, 2012 in the morning.What should I do because I have been teased about my hair?
becauseilive (author) from N.J. on December 27, 2011:
@Miranda - Have you considered getting your hair professionally straightened (relaxed). Brazilian keratin straightening processes are popular here in the US, unfortunately I'm not familiar with what's available in India. A basic flat iron (like a Chi straightener, which you can order online) could also help tremendously.
On the other hand, if you want your hair to stay curly, just not frizzy, you'll need to find a firm hold hair gel to use on your hair when it's wet, then blow dry with a diffuser (like the girl in the video does in this article--see above). Hope this helps!
miranda on December 27, 2011:
hey i need help with my hair.
my hair is so damn dry and frizzy that i can never leave my hair loose.
if i leave my hair open, it gets all puffy....
what should i do and what all hair products should i use?????
please advise 'm helpless 'bout my hair
and i live in india
plz suggest some hair products which i can get here...
miranda on December 27, 2011:
hey i need help with my hair.
my hair is so damn dry and frizzy that i can never leave my hair loose.
if i leave my hair open, it gets all puffy....
what should i do and what all hair products should i use?????
please advise 'm helpless 'bout my hair
Rachael on December 18, 2011:
Are there any recommendations for the gel, i live in england and i can't find the i swear gel anywhere!
Nikki on December 10, 2011:
Really nice. I like it.
Nikki on December 10, 2011:
Really nice. I like it.
Mara on December 09, 2011:
Wow! Thanks a lot for the advice! My hair is curly too and I used to straighten too it just to fit in! But then I realized that curly hair is a blessing and i'm really thankful to have a hair like this! I'm almost 13 and I still hate my hair, though it is actually curly, but thanks to this video I realized that it's so easy to style. I never knew that hair diffusers existed, so I used to dry my hair with a normal blow dryer, but as I dried it, my hair started looking like an afro, so now i'm really going to considerate using a hair diffuser! Umm, but I have a question.. Sometimes when I use all my curly hair products my hair looks wonderful,and my friends love it, and are jealous of it, but other days.. it looks horrible as if my hair isn't curly and I hate it because my friends always do comments like: "Wasn't your hair curly?" or "Is your hair really curly?, because I can't see any curls" So becauselive what should I do to keep my curls the same everyday?
SOME ONE on December 03, 2011:
PEOPLE PEOPLE PLEASE STOP WITH THIS GELS AND FLAT IRONS AND BLOOW DRYERS BECAUSE THE ONLY THING THEY WILL DO IS THAT THEY ARE GONE MAKE IT LOOK VERY WELL ON THAT DAY .BUT THEY WILL DAMAGE YOUR HAIR AND IT WONT BE HEALTHY AGAIN.AND YOU WILL START HAVING HAIR FALLS SPLIT ENDS ECCCC. JUST GO WITH YOUR NATURAL HAIR . AND TRY THIS PRODUCTS THEY REALY WORK GOOD : VITAL HAIR MAYONASE ,AND HERBAL ESSENS GO HYDRATION AND THIS ONE IS MY FAVORITE PINK HAIR MOISTURIZER .TRY THEY THEY WORK VERY WEEL.
Lexi on November 29, 2011:
Hi! I'd just like to say, super thank you for posting this because if I didn't find it, I wouldn't get a better look for my curly hair. I don't have enough money for products so I just made use of a wide tooth comb and combed it while showering and barely used a towel to dry my hair and I was able to go to school with it down. :) People even complimented me.
Although I don't think I can stop it from frizzing, (considering that our topic in Physics is on electric charges) this was a great help. :)
Lucy on November 26, 2011:
curly hair got me my boyfriend.
totallytangled on November 26, 2011:
My eight year old daughter has very curly thick hair...I don't know if this makes sense but her strands themselves are fine; she just has A LOT of them. It is an ABSOLUTE nightmare to brush her hair every night. Truthfully, she and I both dread it. It's about a half hour process and causes her so much duress. I mean crying and headaches just from making herself so upset before we even brush it. I've tried brushing in the shower with conditioner and wide toothed comb. The thing is it HAS to be brushed before she gets in the shower because when we shampoo it makes it even more tangled before we get the conditioner in. If anyone has ANY tips at all on how to make it easier on her poor little head and mine ;) I would so much appreciate it...BTW...this website is amazing!
Tori on November 19, 2011:
I have bushy, blond hair that my mother says is only pretty if it's bushy. I want to get it chemically straightened but my mom thinks it's too old for me. I wear my hair every day in a ponytail with gel. My mom straightenes her hair every day, and it looks completely natural, she also has gorgeous ringlets when she doesn't. My hair is to the middle of my back and the curly turns to wavy. I can't talk to boys because im known as the bush, and im afraid ill play with my hair and draw attention to it. All the pretty popular gis in my grade have the stick straight hair and complain that they can oly crimp it. I get so mad when that happens because they act like they are going through hell for it. I'm in the seventh grade and I HATE my hair. Adults say its pretty and the girls don't look twice at it. Whenever I straighten my hair it looks thick, damaged, dull, and has a slight wave to it. HELP!
Kairi on November 13, 2011:
I can't straighten my hair. Or use product on it(like gel)Im not allowed to blow dry it, either. My hair is SO curly! It bugs me. All my friends straighten their hair. They can play with it. While mine is always pulled back into a ponytail. Which always has bumps in it. Middle school does suck. Life sucks.
Georgia Mcallister on November 09, 2011:
Also even though my hair is really curly i hav always wanted my hir to be straight evn when i get the straightners out and i go over my hair with them about 150 times it still doesn't work! Obviosly it works when i go to the hair dressers but i get ratty with my hir and it gets me in a mood i really hate my hair and i am jealous of other peoples hair in my school because everyone has straight hair or a nice clam curly hair my hair looks like a bomb has hit it. I HATE MY HAIR HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
By Georgia Mcallister on November 09, 2011:
HELP!:) my hair is really curly and i am embarassed to wear it down for school so i have to wear it in loop kind of bun but i really need your help because i am scared incase people skit at me
THANK YOU FOR READING :)
holly on November 06, 2011:
i have really curly frizzy thick hair. every time i try to wear it down it just looks a state. going through school all my friends had lovely hair that they could do anything with. my hair looks nice when i straighten it but it takes ages to do! The last time i wore my hair down curly was when i was about 8 years old. so thanks very much for the tips i will try them out and try to have the hair I've always wanted!
Elle on November 01, 2011:
I used to have lovely thick tight curls, but I HATED it and had exactly the same problem that you did with other girls having lovely straight hair. So I started to straighten it but one day when I washed it, it just stayed straight! I was over the moon but now I have to straighten it every time I wash it. It knocked my confidence abit when people would say I looked way better with straight hair so I wanted it to stay straight forever. But straightening is killing my hair so I've stopped now and I'm just waiting for the curls to grow back. I really regret ever straightening it in the first place and can't wait to try out your ideas work when I finally get my natural hair back. Thanks! (:
b-dogg on October 31, 2011:
i love my curls but they look super messy i totally hope this works thnx.x
azeliah on October 27, 2011:
i love the article and the comments..you guys made me realize that i should love my hair..i was planning to hair straight my hair again but after reading your comments i realized that if you had manage your curly hairs why cant i work mind..thank u so much..this article is a great help!
Em on October 24, 2011:
Let's hope this works. Because I have really curly & frizzy hair. & I can barely control it. Also it has a lot of volume. Any suggestions?
Adriana on October 23, 2011:
My hair is as straight as a door knob lol. My hair isn't super duper curly but its still really curly and frizzy! Mostly the front though. I got layers a few years ago, and it helped a lot. Three people in my class have straight hair ( im in 7th grade) and the other four have curlyness. I think the curlies have better hair because it can be straight wavy and curly. Straight hair cant be really curly, so the curly haired ones have an advantage.
claire B on October 21, 2011:
I have proper curly hair and i mean it is curly and frizzy but my best ways to deal with it are:
1. Use a good conditioner and shampoo like elvive shine or Gliss Shampoo and conditioner which contains keratin.
2. Do not towel dry your hair, brush with a WIDE toothcomb brush.
3. Now you can either do 2 things here, 1. add some MORROCAN OIL and leave to dry naturally or 2. dry with hairdryer and diffuser!
4. If you want nice proper curls, leave your hair overnight to dry and in the morning use a curling wand to curl your hair - do this in sections, you may end up with really tight curls, if so go over these with some GHDS or any good straighteners, but only slightly, its only to part the curls out a bit.
5. When Finished - put either some EXTRA VIRGIN OLIVE OIL on your hair OR MORROCAN OIL to give it a sleek and soft look. If using Olive Oil MAKE SURE ITS >>> EXTRA VIRGIN.
DON'T use hairspray, it damages your hair and don't leave normal conditioner in as it gives you an itchy scalp and always blow dry your hair downwards to keep your hairs cuticles together, otherwise they will part and then frizz appears. Also the same with straightening, always straighten your hair downwards not outwards or sideways.
I promise you this method I have posted works, I hated my hair as a child but now im 23 yrs old and found this works best! Thanks and good luck! :) xx
bri on October 15, 2011:
my hair is REALLY dry,thick,&curly!&all the popular girls all have beautiful straight hair &all i have is an afro.i always put it up in a bun &people make fun of my hair:/.I LOVE YOUR TIP SOO MUCH !&IM GOING TO TRY IT SOON!&im in middle school and it sucks:/.
sana on October 14, 2011:
ihave curly hair idont know what to do
Jenny on October 13, 2011:
Thanks for the advice, i'll be sure to try it. to be honest, i'd try anything that could tame my hair :)
Ansley on October 09, 2011:
I love your advice...but one thing is that when I was little I had pin straight hair, then I got my hair cut and suddenly it became wavy/curly. After a while I decided to start straightening it. I thought it would take an hour to do, but for some odd reason it only takes 15 minutes! And I'm on the lowest heat setting! Is there something wrong with my hair? Does it not have any form?
hauhshi on October 01, 2011:
thanks so much
prettiethree on September 29, 2011:
Agree! Nice article..
I've learned to embrace my curls for two years now. I never fail to straighten it before because from where i came from, people originally have curly hair. they try so hard and pay a lot to get silky straight hair which encouraged me to do so as well. but since i migrated to a country where everyone has perfect, silky, jet-black hair, i noticed that i get their attention with my curls and that everyone tries to have them just to look different/foreign. I've added color to match my curls and people really admire and touch them, even :) I gained confidence and started to love, pay attention, and thank God for my beautifully-put curls. The best tip i can share is to let it dry NATURALLY. it always result to less frizz and at the same time, keep the curls intact so it doesn't look like it caught static electricity :D Also, use products made just for us "curly" and don't forget to put hair lotion when its 75% dry. DON'T rub hair with hands or a towel. Enjoy your bouncy hair especially when walking.. wait, don't walk. strut! strut with it while the air passes through. it's like showing the world that you're curly and proud!
thanks for reading.. now, i have a question myself. i often have falling hair esp right after washing them. I don't comb it because i know hair is in its weakest if its wet. what should i do?
Anuwn on September 29, 2011:
Hey, I'm a 15 year old GUY and im really struggling with my hair. i look horrible with it. It looks really curly and dry! ive tried everything from conditioners, soft shampoo(baby), gel, putty, you name it. Ive had curly hair since i hit puberty and im really sick of it. Please, PLEASE help me girls.
Koolie on September 25, 2011:
AWESOME TIPS IM SERIOUS!! TRY IT!!
shermin on September 14, 2011:
really didn't know what should I do with my hair
Dija on September 08, 2011:
Highschool sucks. My hair is curly and short. and has A lot of layers. So basically i have one big afro that usually frizzes up. I hate how all those girls have like pin straight hair. I would use my straightener but my mom says that it just ruins my hair blaah blaah blaah. Well this helped a lot. Atleast I can tame the beast now:} thanks
joanna on September 06, 2011:
you're really pretty! :) haha. I identify with what you say... I have naturally wavy hair too and my friends tell me on a really regular basis how they're really jealous of my hair because they try so hard to perm it and get it to look natural and still can't get it to look like mine does. heh. I'm glad I've never tried to do anything too drastic or chemical to it so i kinda still have 'virgin' hair! :D haha... The only thing is i live in Singapore which is ON the equator, so the extreme heat and humidity make the frizz a constant battle. Sigh. After reading all the articles online, i've come to the conclusion that if i want smooth luscious hair like in magazines, it's gonna take an Insane amount of time and effort that i don't have, so until i find an amazing all-in-one product that does all that without take an hour a day, i'm just gonna settle for regular person on the street kinda hair :) :D You look really pretty with wavy hair! As in, it suits you. Glad you decided to stick with it :))
Seraphina on August 29, 2011:
I get your pain !! I'm Asian , and Asians ALL have nice , straight , sleek , silky hair . BUT what I have is , curly + wavy , frizzy ( in some strands ) , and worst of all , poofy hair !! And I can't tame it , except that I have to put some cream in my hair everyday . And I envy those who can just tie their hair up loosely and it looks great but I have to tie plaits everyday and I think I look like some girl from the 80s ? I don't want to straighten it an whatnot but nothing is helping for me . And friends always comment on my hair . It makes me feel real depressed and I don't know what to do . But your story sure has inspired me ! Thank you very much (:
Mykaila :) on August 26, 2011:
This story very much remindes me of myself.. i would just go searching on the internet for ways to deal with my curly hair. But there is to many different products to use to help with ur hair but the products u listed i already use so i really think this is good advice and i will be trying.
geneevaaaaa on August 26, 2011:
thanks sooo much! im in middle schoool right now, and i too have really curly natural hair,... never thought it was a blessing until today ! you've changed my life
becauseilive (author) from N.J. on August 26, 2011:
Cynthia - I feel your pain, girl. I wore my hair pulled back all through middle school and my freshman year of high school. The summer before sophomore year is when I figured out how to work with my curls instead of trying to fight against them. Definitely try it and let me know how it goes!
Cynthia on August 24, 2011:
Yes! I think I finally found the solution to my God awful hair! I'm 15 and I'm actually going through what you went through. Right now I'm at the laptop with my super curly hair in a tight ponytail with hair gel. Sometimes I wonder why I couldn't get my mom's silky straight hair. There are times when I go to a party and I have to idea what to do with my hair. More than once I've even cried because of it. And now I'm about to start my second year of high school and I still don't really know what hair do's I can do with it. But I'm going to dry what this website says and hopefully i can start wearing my hair down again. Something I haven't done in over 7 years.
Gail Winters on August 23, 2011:
I have long, wavy, frizzy, and color treated hair. I was able to use the Bounce Styling Creme from Shielo Haircare and let my hair air dry and my hair didn't look perfect but didn't look out of control either. Works even better if I blow dry then style my hair.
PS...there is also no greasy feeling when using this product.
curly frizzy hair!! :P on August 19, 2011:
i always had curly hair actually i had straight hair until i was 5 then it got really curly. My hair was always dry, frizzy and puffy and really curly. i love my hair but sometimes it was a pain in the butt. this helped me a lot and now my hair is wonderful!!!!
actually to tell you the truth i already do these things but it still works for me. Now the onlt problem for me is straighting it at home. It always goes frizzy and extra puffy. And the 2 hours of work doesn't pay off!!
Monique on August 11, 2011:
Product Product Product as my hairdresser puts it. gBlow drying is not great for curly hair to begin with and by the looks of the video way to much work. Put stuff into hair (Hairdresser calls it my cocktail squirt of leave-in for curly hair- squirt of gel- tiny dot of oil product) mix together start on ends work up not quite to the scalp let dry lot quicker.I always get compliments on my hair and the famous "I would kill for that hair."
Sully on August 04, 2011:
When I get out of the shower my hair is gorgeous!!! It is super curly but it goes straight down no bounce...I love it! Then it dries...:(
Short Curly Fro finds CUTE! on July 28, 2011:
I am in middle school--My hair is short and curly and i control it with gel out of the shower to scrunch and shape my curls. I also recommend taking a shower in the mourning.
destinee on July 19, 2011:
my hair is thick and course and long and curly... i have tried like every product at walmart nothing works it looks fine when its wet except right above my forehead....then its starts to dry and looks like a giant ball of fuzzzz its so frizzy.. i take a shower at night and wash/condition my hair then brush out all tangles, then i put it in a bun, go to sleep... when i wake up and brush the tangles it looks like literally like selena gomezes hair at the beggining of the music video i love you like a love songif anyone has advice plz email me at firstname.lastname@example.org!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hopeless on June 30, 2011:
BTW my hair is very long, EXTREMELY thick, and holds moisture all day. So in the morning before I walk out the door its good, but a little frizzy. half way through the day it's very big, frizzy, and it looks like my hair shrunk 2 inches in length. By the end of the day, my hair is an ugly, poofy mess, but by then I've put it up into a messy bun.
Hopeless on June 30, 2011:
My hair is VERY frizzy and curly. I turned to curling my hair with a barrel curling iron to get those big loose curls or making my hair as straight as i could with a flat iron. It looks SO much better than my natural hair. But if I went outside into humid air or moist air for to long it would start to curl and frizz. :( The thing is I wouldn't mind doing my hair with heat but it can take up to two hours to do it! So i'm looking for a way to wear my hair naturally, but i want it to look good. I've used a lot of products. No matter how much I use My hair is still frizzy and looks like an afro! My hair is so hard to handle. I'm going to try your tips and look around other sites too, but I have a feeling there is no use.
grrr on June 26, 2011:
and by yours i meant the picture because your profile pic doesn't have curly hair just frizzy (not to be rude or anything)
grrr on June 26, 2011:
I am 12 and my curls are half the size of yours they curl the same way but its like they have shrunk i have tried every way there is to get it under control but nothing works its notted frizzy curly dry and thin i am not over exaggerating if i leave it to dry without tugging it into a tight bun that btw can explode any minute it shrinks even more and when it is dry i cant touch my scalp it tightens into one furry ball i have tried relaxers conditioners and combing it but all ending in screaming and i must say not only mine
MyHairWon'tWork on June 21, 2011:
Okay so my hair is a little past my shoulders and it is thick, curly, kinky, frizzy, TOO volumed, and uncontrollable. I normally straighten my hair and have had 2 relaxers put in my hair, which is a big mistake. The relaxers fried my hair, caused it to break off, and only lasted a short time. I have just now got my hair normal length and healthy again and although I was considering getting a brazillion blowout, which I was informed contains bad chemicals, I decided not to. Maybe you're right, I should just stop fighting against my curls and work with them. I just honestly don't know how. If I put a blow dryer to my hair, it turns into a puffball and if I leave out the blow dryer, it looks greasy. I just finished eighth grade and I had to wear my hair in a ponytail literally everyday except for maybe a total of 7 days, including picture days. I want a way to make my hair curl, not be very big and poofy, but not look all hard and really show that there is gel in it. I need as many tips as you can give me. I'm am to the point where I have no self confidence in my hair and I don't know what to do. Please ANYONE WHO CAN HELP I DESPARATLY NEED IT. I really would like to embrace the natural curly look and it be pretty, but it always ends up looking like a frizzy, poofy, afro mess. :(
Olivia on June 12, 2011:
Hello I'm mixed with many race and have shoulder length curly hair (not that thick)it's always frizzing or poofing from the back of my head. I'm trying to keep it natural. Most products I use fail me. I'm using john freida's smooth start shampoo and conditioner,leave in conditioner.from motions and other gels. I'm currently in the eighth grade.
Gabriela on June 10, 2011:
I have curly hair as well. I use to not do anything to it once I got out of the shower. The only thing I would do to it would be brush it....bad idea because my hair would look like the 60's hairstyle when messy hairstyles were popular. One day when I got out of the shower I decided to use baby oil and it worked!! when I got out of the shower I will use baby oil all over my hair and it helped a lot. It actually looked curly instead of just a mass of frizz.
MariahC on April 27, 2011:
I am letting my perm grow out and with perms you have dry, frizzy hair, so for a year I was not using Shielo products. Man I was missing out on soft silky hair.
Well I started to straighten it everyday and I wanted something to use before and after I straighten it. The Antioxidant Protectant from Shielo got great reviews on other websites. Just a spray goes a long way!
I have thick hair and it's a little past my shoulders and a spray is enough for me. I put some in my hair before I use my straightener and after I'm done to tame flyaways and lose the frizz. It leaves my hair so soft and shiny! I'm glad I tried this.
blue haze on April 25, 2011:
man curly hair does not suit me at all, I really do not have self confidence.........my face shape is oval a lot of people tell me this but when I look in the mirror, it just looks wide.....anyway back to it I use hot oil treatment once a week like coconut oil I also rinse my hair with cold water.It helps! oh and I use loreal professional liss ultime serum it's better than john Frieda's serum, well for me then I put Aussie's anti-frizz conditioning milk but I still have a hard time trying to straighten my hair with a hairdryer!, I really don't want to use a straightener because it fried my hair ughhhh! got any ideas on how to straighten my hair with a hairdryer attached to a diffuser?.
Sarah on April 21, 2011:
Even though I'm just a kid (12 years old), I work very hard to maintain my curls. I have really curly blondish- brown hair and it falls just past my shoulders. Literally EVERY "pretty" girl at my school has long, pin-straight hair and they toss it over their shoulders all shiny and gorgeous. I straighten my hair (sometimes...) and it NEVER ends up like them. Obviously because my hair is thick and crazy. But today, because of this and other articles and some videos on youtube, I've learned to embrace my natural hair. No other hair would fit me better. Crazy, springy, flowing curls is just a part of me. It's who I am.
nishka***XXXX on April 10, 2011:
thank you jackly for you're advice
Lorena on April 08, 2011:
im 13 and in middle school my hair is very curly and i can't control it so i straight it every week! i'm killing my hair! so i want to try and keep it natural but is so hard and no product is gonna help me! i tried almost everything and i gave up but maybe you're way can help me i doubt it but i'll try.
jess on April 03, 2011:
I don't like the way gel makes my hair look, and find that mousse is better. Does anyone know a good mousse product?
ayesha on April 02, 2011:
I have thick curly hair, and its really short so it puffs out and frizzes loads. I have realised that if you have curls, they are easy to look after when they are longer. I am trying to grow mine long but it takes a while, but i had it longer when i was younger, and looking back at photos of me then, i looked much better and it wasn't frizzy at all. I like to use mousse in my hair, it keeps it in for the whole day, and if you are doing any activities like running or long walks or its really windy outside, then it stops the air from getting to it, so it wont frizz up in the wind, also it holds it in place nicely, unlike hairspray which can really ruin your hair if you use it too much. Does anyine know how to speed up hair growth?:)
clarisse on March 23, 2011:
1 am 12 i have horrible thick hair its so bad. i have straightned my hair for about a year and a half (it took me atleast 2 hours just to straightn it) but i gave up because it gave me split ends and made my hair dry and more frizzyer and im fed up with it should i thin my hair out? will that make a difference????
Natasha Zariwala on March 18, 2011:
Hey, Ironing of hair leads to split ends and hair becoming frizzy, dry and brittle. Avoid ironing your hair. If you blow dry your hair, hold the dryer a foot away from your hair. To get rid of your split ends, go to the salon for a regular trim. To cure your hair fall, use Parachute Advansed Therapie Hair Vitaliser. Leave it on overnight and wash it with a herbal shampoo. This will help you in getting smoother and stonger hair.
Angela on February 28, 2011:
I don't know why but my hair is still frizzy!!!
Even while I'm in the shower! maybe in using too-hot
Madisyn on February 23, 2011:
im 12 years old and i have super frizzy and poofy curly hair and im always straightening it because I hate it and from straightening it I have started to break my hair around the hair line and now if i don't straighten my hair around the hair line it gets kinky and curls up next to my head and i cant stand it..... Does anybody have any advice or comments for me?
khatijah on February 22, 2011:
thank you i really had the same story..
Amber on February 21, 2011:
I have super duper like extreme curls, I hate it so much!, because I cant seem to control frizz no matter what product I use. Its very annoying, because when I leave my hair curly, I don't get any compliments from people because Its a fricken frizz ball, its greasy because of the like 2L of product i use to help control my frizz which doesn't work worth a damn, its horrible and yucky!" But when I have my hair straightened EVERYONE compliments me, because it looks shiny, ( a healthy shiny), smooth ( I CAN EVEN RUN MY FINGERS THROUGH IT!) , its silky, and it looks amazing, because it matches my sidebangs, which when my hair is curly and there straight, to me it looks awkward). But my mom is like leave it curly, you have natural curls for a reason, but I HATE MY CURLS!!!! /end of rant. Let me know if anyone has the same problem, and if they have found a great product that really works! Thanks ! :)
julie on February 21, 2011:
spray something on your ends that will protect them from heat, and then go over the ends with a flat iron.
you could also try a product that is supposed to reduce frizz, and try applying that directly to the ends before blowdrying.
Corina on February 20, 2011:
When I blow dry my hair straight, how do I keep the ends from frizzing?
GAM on January 22, 2011:
WOW, this worked like a charm! my hair is they way I want it and I love it!
JJ on January 15, 2011:
I am a bit confused as to why people are advising use of certain shampoos, was reading here yesterday and it states to NOT use off the shelf basic shampoos as the sulfates in them are what cause more frizz/dryness:
lydia on January 14, 2011:
I am a middle school student and i have dealed with my untamable frizzy poofy hair since i was born. I now straighten it because i have NO self confidence left. Now, i know this sounds dumb but i have always wanted to have scene hair. Its a dream for me. But, i know i will never be able to have hair so beautiful. I straighten it, but it just pumps out and curves in and the under parts frizz up! i don't know if i will ever be able to achieve model curls.
ranaya on January 04, 2011:
hey... i'm trying to find new hairstyles for my hair... I have really thick curly hair that kind of looks like an afro.. haha :) but can you please leave me some tips because everyday i go to school... i wear the same hairstyle and i need a new look because it's getting kind of old.. PLEASE HELP! Oh, & i need help managing it , too! thanks ?
Sarah on December 30, 2010:
i have naturally curly hair and it reaches my butt. it is also really frizzy... so thanks for the tips..
Sophie on December 22, 2010:
Hey what product are you referring to when you say "a quarter-sized dollop of gel"? That's the only thing you were vague on using....
sam on December 09, 2010:
Im a sophmore in highschhool and i love my curly hair
i haven't straighten it for a least a year and when i did no one reconized me cuase people know me as the person with the really curly hair. Everyone loves it and loves to play with if you have curly hair don't straighten it more thnhonce every one or 2 weeks and then once you realize how much you like it curly you probaley will never straighten it. I use all garnier products and they work great. the morning if you don't shower in the moring i wet my hair by wetting my hands and running it through my hair til it is wet then i put leave in conitioner and then their scrunch gel
if you do it right when your hair drys it doesn't look like your have gel in your hair and looks curly and really shinny
i also put some hair spray in usually
Curly hair is awesome and boys love it cuase its something new for sore eyes to see
Michelle(from 2 months ago...) on December 03, 2010:
hello!back again!! omg! i found this product for my hair and so far it works great and it moisturizes my hair also. but the only problem is, my hair doesn't alwasys turn out beautiful, in fact it rarely happens(i know its contradicting my first statement)the problem is, i really want to wear my hair out and i am in high school now, so i feel like i have to keep up w/evrybody else and i DEFINITELY cant do that when my hairs in a bun. i ENVY my friends hair bcuz we both have long,frizzy, fly-away hair but she uses mixed chick (shes mixed) &i really want to try the product but its SUPER expensive! people always come up to me and say that they love my hair and wish they had my hair (and if im mixed, im not btw), but they don't know how hard it is to function with my hair. I feel like im stuck in middle school. I feel so retarded w/ my hair in a bun 95% of the time. and if i really want my hair to be nice and cury i have to spend and hour and a half and it still has frizz! What are some products that can define and hold curls while moisturizing the hair and keeping frizz away for african americans???im so lost and frustrated!!
Kate on December 01, 2010:
hey, these tips are really good :)
i have really dark brown, short ringlety hair.
but, i always wake up with really frizzy hair in the morning. is there something you can do at night before you go to bed to keep your hair tame, or put something like a scarf over my hair at night?
sonya_bear23 on November 30, 2010:
sock pupets are real
Aggie on November 21, 2010:
I'm in seventh grade and have the worst FRIZZY curly and uncontrollable hair. I have tried tons of different products but nothing seems to work and a diffuser only makes my hair frizzier. I have to put my hair up in a tight bun everyday and it's getting old. I'm getting tired of my dry frizzy hair and would like help to get bouncy hydrated curls. Any tips??
not known on October 29, 2010:
hey guys...........i hve real curly hair n ppl say der luv ma hair i used 2 hate ma hair but now i luv it m d oly prsn at home wid curls.....................n my bf luvs it m nw in d 8th grade n things r really cool..................trust me dun eva hate ya curls u can straighten ya hair but can neva get natural curls............luv ma hair
William on October 23, 2010:
Hey, I am a guy with unruly and annoying curly hair. Would these steps make my hair look better too, or would it make my hair look feminine?
someone secret on October 20, 2010:
Hey, I am in seventh grade and i have curls that drive me nuts plus it is always frizzy, i get it from my mother, everyday i have to tie it up weird and i get teased by the popular girls for it, now since i have read your article i feel more confident about my hair. Thank you so much for making me understand that curly hair is awesome. (Also that its sexy!)... Bye!
person on October 12, 2010:
People always comment how much they love my hair, my curly, frizzy, ugly hair that i hate. They don't know how hard it is to deal with. It stinks. Right now my hair is like a huge knot of curls. Thanks for the tips though!