Believe it or not, some men want to wear a bra to work, (or anywhere in public, for that matter,) but don't want to get caught doing it. Gadzooks! How are they to achieve such a goal. I have some tips for them, which I believe will help. I can only help they read this in time, before they go running out of the house in a red lace bra under a wet white t-shirt.
The tips below should help them in their endeavors, but please, if you are among this number, be aware that unless you are wearing a suit jacket, leather jacket, ski jacket or some kind of thick bulky overcoat, your brassiere may be detectable. If you're wearing a bra and a t shirt and someone runs their hand over your back then yeah, they'll probably feel the band.
But, for those of your coworkers who aren't fondling your back all day and night, these tips may help. (There's one that will foil those people too, its right at the end. Like the butler, who totally did it.)
If you don't want your bra to be too obvious, match the color of the bra to the tone of your skin, and perhaps more importantly, to your shirt. That means no black brassieres under your white business shirt.
Plain Is Better
If your brassiere has a whole lotta lace and embroidery going on, the ripples and bumps can show through your shirt. Wear that plain beige brassiere on the days you just want to feel a bra against your skin.
Wear more than just a bra and a shirt. Wear a bra, a vest and a shirt, or preferably, a jersey that is somewhat thick. The more layers you have on, the less likely it is that you will get caught wearing your bra. This works best in winter, of course.
Get The Right Fit
A bra that fits properly is less likely to be seen than a bra which is cutting into your flesh. Avoid flesh bumps at all cost.
T Shirt Bras
T shirt bras were designed to be the original stealth bra. By wearing a white t shirt bra under, say a thick white vest, you should be virtually undetectable to 99% of the human population. (Except those bastards who keep lingeringly running your fingers over your upper back.)
And finally, for those SOB's, the silver bullet...
Put your brassiere on, wrap some wide crepe tape around that puppy and go about your day. Don't wind it too tight or you won't be able to breathe, which could spoil your ability to enjoy your brassiere. If people touch you, they'll feel the strapping. You can then claim some awesome sports / shark related injury.
That, I think, is all the advice I have for you today.
Bob on November 11, 2017:
I've never really worn a bra. I tried it a few times but the bra was always too small. The T Shirt bra looks interesting, not sure how to obtain one though. Going to a dept. store and buying a bra is really out of my comfort zone. Ordering one online is too risky for me.
arsholey on February 21, 2017:
this is disturbing on so many levels..... but.... to each their damn own.... sheesh the world we live in....
RZT on October 21, 2016:
one of the worst faux pas is to match your bra color to your shirt color! Match it to your skin color if you don't want it to be seen. Millions of women, myself included, can tell you about the embarrassment of a white bra under a white shirt! Stick to something boring that is close to your skintone. If you don't have DD's to hold up you can probably get away with a stretchy lace "bralette" but the texture might be a giveaway. Don't be afraid to get measured to find the right fit and remember, it's about what works for you!
manoj Agarwal on December 15, 2015:
Thanks for the idea to coverup when wearing bra. I regularly wear bra even when I go for work. I feel so good when I wear bra. I like plain bra.
Jacob on August 09, 2015:
I want to wear a bra i also want some bumps (like boobs) on my chest but indont want to get caught with one one any comments?
MrDonald on January 21, 2010:
Another tip for making a bra less visible at work is to find a style with the strap adjusters in the front rather than the back of the shoulder straps. With what I wear to work, the adjusters never show through the front of the bra. Another advantage to front adjusters is if you need to loosen or tighten your bra, it can be done while still wearing the bra. Back adjusters means having to take the bra off to adjust.
I work in the manufacturing sector and wear a bra due to gynecomastia. Being a forklift operator, the lift bounces around a lot making my need for a bra at work all the more necessary. But because it gets hot in the plant, I wear lightweight T shirts to keep cool. So my bra will be visible through it. I have even worn white shirts and any bra is visible through that, but I do not care. I did the right thing by going to human resources and telling them of my condition. I told them I wear a bra for my condition and is it OK if I wear them under lighter shirts where it would be visible? They told me it was not a problem...so long as I did not lift up my shirt. ;) After all, the female employees wear bras that can easily be seen under their shirts and the office staff have worn bras visible under their blouses.
But being in the plant, I receive no flak from others. At first, I got questioned but no direct criticism. Nobody will cause me any problems. Could it be that driving an 8,000lb/3,500kg piece of heavy equipment could cause them to think twice about irritating me? :-D But I could care less about what others think of my bra. After a few months when it was blatantly obvious that I did not give a darn what others thought, everything stopped. And it was not all bad. I actually received many POSITIVE comments from the women. Many feel that if they should wear them, so should men. Others also did say a bra looks good on me. So if one does get caught wearing a bra at work, not all of the comments are going to be negative. You will receive more positive comments than you expect. Now if I DO NOT wear a bra, that makes others wonder what's up. :P
Trishia on December 30, 2009:
i started wearing one to work on a part time basis and nonoe noticed so now its just a part of the everydaay getting dresssed routine with panties and nylons. no one has ever made a comment to me at all and i work in a med. size office
Miki on October 22, 2009:
I've found suspenders over a button-down and a T-shirt hides shoulder straps and if your shirt is a little big it camouflages the band quite well
PantyBoy331 on September 15, 2009:
If you working a a casual office like I do, you can get away with leaving your shirt untucked. This helps prevent your shirt from pulling against your back, exposing the strap adjusters or band. I like to wear a camisole over my bra, and it helps conceal the band a bit more, but adds another set of shoulder strap adjusters. To provide extra coverage, I wear a tee shirt and a dress shirt over my bra & cami, which works pretty well. Also, I try to choose a shirt with strips and darker colors to further hide the straps.
I've finally found a good unlined bra where the cups don't give me away in front as well. It's still very lacy an feminine though, which is important to me. The same advice that applies to women applies to male bra-wearers: you have to select the right bra for the right outfit and occasion (which means you'll need a good variety of styles as well as colors to match your outfits). If you're at work and will be around people for several hours, go with a smooth or unlined bra (front hook closure provides a little more privacy, too, if you can find one in your size). If you'll be outdoors (and it's cooler) or in a dark movie theater, you might be able to get away with a a push-up style bra that has lots of lace on the cups.
My biggest problem has been the straps falling off my shoulders while I'm at work. This sometimes prevents me from being able to lift my arms above shoulder level, which causes me to make frequent trips to the restroom to re-adjust. I've sometimes been able to borrow my wife's body glue (from BeautiControl Cosmetics), which is quite effective for keeping those pesky shoulder straps in place.
Purplelot on September 06, 2009:
In my experience, because I am a machinist by day, I found out that Black or dark colored T-shirts work well, also I think the author forgot about thickness of T-Shirts, I have some I bought from JC Penny that are thick in material that covers up pretty well.
Quizzle on July 07, 2009:
In light of the fact that,
a) It has een proven women don't "need" bras in any sense.
b) Most women find bras uncomfortable.
c) Men enjoy the feel (It must be easier when you don't have boobs.)
I vote we just make bras a traditional men's garment.
Hope Alexander (author) on June 27, 2009:
Glad you liked, coming up soon I am planning a new hub with pics from a guy who does it and has been getting away with it for years. So stay tuned to your internets!
Fairy Mary on June 27, 2009:
Great ideas Hope, I will certainly take them onboard.
gustavo on June 26, 2009:
Another idea: A strapless bra could be a solution to get away from the danger of touch on shoulders by people. For your unhappiness, Hope Alexander, bras don´t fit me well ( i felt myself ridiculous when I first tried) , but I love wearing women´s thongs ( from my collection of over 50 pieces) as an underdresser.
All for comfort and fetish reasons. I don´t plan to get back using briefs which are horribly large for my taste and cover the whole butt unnecessarly, in comparison to my thongs.
Hope Alexander (author) on June 26, 2009:
I'm so glad my writings helped you Jakkie, it is good to know that they do serve a purpose. You keep it up too :D
Jakkie on June 26, 2009:
Thanks for the tips. I have just started wearing cami's to work on a regular basis and I have encountered some of the same problems you mentioned in this post. I absolutely love the softness of the cami's under my shirts.
By the way, I started wearing the cami's to work after encouragement from one of your posts.
Please keep it up.