Notice I didn’t just say beautiful. That’s because I think the word beautiful has lost a lot of its value over the years. We use it for all kinds of things now, and many of them have nothing to do with my interpretation of the word. This is about sex appeal, in the strictest sense of the phrase. I truly believe gray hair can have it. Oh, I didn’t always feel this way. I started noticing gray hair when I was about 23. My mother was almost completely gray by the time she reached 34. So I’ve been preparing for it by biting my nails and agonizing over old age setting in. And it has. I am now 31 and officially graying at the temples.
But, guess what? Now that it’s here, I kind of like it. Actually, I like it a lot. A friend asked me if I was going to dye my hair and I said no – why should I? Men don’t, and their gray only adds to their sex appeal. Look at George Clooney. My friend replied by telling me society views gray haired women as old, and not sexy. I paused and had a think. That couldn’t be completely correct. Could it? There had to be at least a handful of sexy women with gray hair out there in Hollywood. Women who weren’t looked upon as old but, rather, glamorous and dignified. Right?
Wrong. I spent nearly five hours searching the internet for photos of glamorpusses with anything from a sprinkling of gray to the whole nine yards, and I came up with four results. Four. I couldn’t understand it. How could that be? And then it dawned on me: We don’t have sexy, gray-haired women running around, because they're all dying their hair. Hello? How are we supposed to view graying or gray-haired women as sexy, if the only visual we have is 90 year old Aunt Martha? I’d blame the media for this, but y’all women who touch your grays up every week only let them know you don’t really want to see any sexy gray-haired women. Not in the mirror, and not in the media.
Now, I realize, as we age, we want to retain our youth. I’ve been using eye-cream preemptively since my early 20’s – I’m all about retaining my looks as long as possible. The issue here, is that I don’t view gray hair as detracting from them. Mind you, I’m not opposed to color boosting your grays. L’Oreal used to make a product called Gray Chic, but as far as I can tell, it no longer exists. I’ve tried to find similar products but wasn’t successful. However, there are still a few things you can do to naturally boost your grays.
Enhance Those Sexy Grays!
- 1. Give yourself a nice scalp massage. Better yet, have your man give you one – that way you can relax and really enjoy it. This will keep your circulation healthy and supply your roots with the nourishment they need.
- 2. Use a shampoo and conditioner specially formulated to keep your grays in line. Vitamins and goody supplements will keep them from getting too wiry, dry and haggard. These can also help keep your hair from going bronze.
- 3. Increase your protein intake. Not a lot, just enough to feed your hair. I always notice a marked difference in my own hair when I do this. It’s not a miracle cure, but it can help.
Some people say you should change your hairstyle when it goes gray. I’ve even seen it suggested that you not let it grow past your chin. Horsehockey! Just because your hair’s turning color doesn’t mean you suddenly have to look like your grandmother. If it looks good on you with full color, it can look good without. So come on, ladies. Embrace the silver. You’ve earned the right to be sexy whether or not you’re gray. And if you believe you are, other people will, too. Look at all the 30 and 40 year old men who drool over Helen Mirren -- she's old enough to be their mother! She feels good and that helps her look good. Boost your grays and silvers and rock that gorgeous gray hair, ladies!