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Why is Forgiveness So Important?


Forgiveness Is Important In Your Life.

Why is forgiveness important? Forgiveness is one of those things that you cannot touch or see but it is real. Forgiveness is so powerful that it changes a person's heart. It is important to forgive others for their wrongs so that they can be at peace and move on with their lives. At the same time you must forgive for your own sake and because it is commanded.

It is also important to forgive yourself of the things you have done wrong and the times that you have hurt other people. You need forgiveness for the times that you have caused others pain. This will help you to be at peace with yourself. Also, when you forgive others it improves your health. Unforgiveness causes many of the illnesses we have.

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The Lord Says to Forgive Others.


Has someone hurt you? The Lord says to forgive others as He has forgiven us. We all have hurt others. We have all made mistakes. Think of the mistakes you have made. Think of the times you hurt others either willfully or by accident. Do you want forgiveness? Do you need forgiveness? The Lord forgives us and loves us. He wants us to do the same. It is a way to show others God's Love for them. It is a way they can feel God's love flowing from you to them. Forgiveness is not always easy. But to be at peace with others and with God, you must forgive. You will be glad you did. It may take time to forgive, but it will be worth it. In some instances, it will be a process. It will not happen all at once.

"Love is an act of continuous endless forgiveness, a tender look which becomes a habit." quote by Peter Ustinov

I know personally how good it feels to be forgiven. Many years ago I hurt my parents deeply. For a long time I walked around under a cloud of self condemnation. I didn't think they would ever be able to forgive me. But they did! I was forgiven and it was never brought up again. It was like a burden was lifted off of me. I have been forgiven of so many things. I have to admit that I still have problems forgiving those that have hurt me or my loved ones. It is something that I constantly work on. I know how important it is. It is a sin to hold grudges.

Forgiveness in the Family. I came across an article on the Focus on the Family website the other day. It was written by ed Chinn. He tells a story about a man that forgave his father for causing him and the rest of his family pain and hardship for many years.

He made the choice to forgive his father. He did not have a warm fuzzy feeling and then decided to forgive him. He made the decision to forgive him. He did not want to carry the burden of unforgiveness anymore. He also did not want his wife and children to go through the same heartache he had.

Making a choice to forgive someone is just that. You make a choice by your will to forgive and let it go. It is a deliberate, on purpose act. It doesn’t mean that the other person was not wrong. It just means you forgive them. You let the anguish go.

You can read the whole article here at Focus on the Family.


You Must Forgive Yourself Too.

Forgive Yourself and See How Good You Feel.

Jesus says, Forgive as I have forgiven you. Sometimes the hardest person to forgive is yourself. Maybe you hurt someone by the things you have said.

Perhaps there was an accident and it was your fault. Did someone get hurt or killed? The guilt of this may be eating you alive. You feel you don't deserve to be forgiven. Or maybe you have caused a terrible breach in your family. Do what you can to make amends. Ask the person or their family to forgive you. And whether they do or not, you must forgive yourself. You must do this for yourself and for the people around you.

It is hard to live in harmony with others if you are feeling guilty and sad. You may not even know how it is affecting others or yourself. But it is. Forgive yourself. Let it go. That doesn't mean it did not happen. It doesn't bring someone back to life. It doesn't erase the hurt feelings or the scars. But it is what you must do for yourself. Do it for those around you also.

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Forgiving and Making Peace With Your Past

This is an interesting book that I believe will help you to forgive and get past your past. It has some very good reviews. I haven't read it yet but I think I will. (If I do get the chance to read it, I will let you know if it helped.)

Jesus Says To Forgive Seven Times Seventy.

He Was Saying Not To Keep a Record of Wrongs But To Forgive Them.

"Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times? Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven." Matthew 18:21-22

Peter knew that he was to forgive others. Christ had taught his disciples this. He also understood that not only was he to forgive but to not bear a grudge or try to get revenge. He was to be as good a friend as ever and forget the hurt. So Peter felt he was being generous in asking Jesus if he should forgive a friend seven times.

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He was talking about seven times in a lifetime. He thought that after seven times he would be allowed to just give up on the person that hurt him and not have anything else to do with him. Jesus said to him not seven times but seven times seventy. Jesus was saying don't keep track of another's wrongs against you. Forgive each time he sins against you. Don't keep up with what other people do to you. You will be free to live a peaceful life and not be thinking about what that person that hurt you did to you. You will sleep better, think better and be closer to God.That takes a lot of stress off of you.

If Jesus tells you to forgive then he will give you the power to do it.

What Does The Mayo Clinic Say About Forgiveness?

An article on the Mayo Clinic website shows how forgiveness can improve your health. There are several reasons to forgive someone that has hurt you or your family. Some of the reasons for doing this is for your own health.

You will have less anxiety and stress levels.

2. It will lower your blood pressure.

3. It may lower your risk of alcohol or substance abuse.

They give these tips to forgiving:

1. Consider the value of forgiveness and it's importance in your own life.

2. Think of the facts of the situation, and your reactions, and how this has affected your life, health and your well-being.

3. When you are ready, choose to forgive the person that has hurt you.

4. Move away from your role as victim and release the control this situation has had in your life.

If the Mayo Clinic says to forgive for the sake of your health, then it must be a pretty important thing to do.

"When a deep injury is done us, we never recover until we forgive." quote by Alan Paton

Forgive and Forget - Watch These Videos and Let Them Help You.

Forgive and forget and you will have peace and bless the person that hurt you. Allow yourself to heal from the pain. This is a good video on Forgiveness. Can you forgive? Could you reach out and heal old wounds. Can you let it go? Can you feel the peace?

"Never forget the three powerful resources you always have available to you: love, prayer, and forgiveness."

quote by Jackson Brown, Jr.

Very good video on letting go. Worth watching. It is only about 3 minutes or so long..

We all need help with forgiving the hurts from others. Very good video. Nice background music.

Let Go of The Misery of Unforgiveness

"We achieve inner health only through forgiveness--the forgiveness not only of others but also of ourselves." by Joshua Loth Liebman

Letting go is freedom.

Have You Forgiven Someone That Hurt You Badly?

Has someone hurt you deeply? Were you able to forgive them? Sometimes that is a hard thing to do.

Grace Multiplied

A Devotional by Nanette Kinkade in the "Reflections From the Heart of God Devotional Bible for Women"

"If there's one thing Christians love about God, inevitably it is His gift of forgiveness and His ability to wash us so well that He sees no more trace of the sin that soiled us. We cling to His pardon, count on it, and glory in it. It is our saving grace, and we often thank Him for it.

But an interesting phenomena occurs when other Christians inflict sinful wounds on us. Maybe a friend gossiped behind your back. Your spouse said some deeply hurtful words. Your children rebelled and dishonored your name. It is the side of Christianity where the players who are supposed to be acting out God's love have forgotten their lines and filled them with obscenities instead. It is here, in the fiery furnace of life's disappointments and hurts, that God melts the dross of hypocrisy from our souls. Will we fight back? Will we pretend a forgiveness only to hold a secret grudge? Or will we choose to love the very ones who have intentionally hurt us?

We really don't have any options. If we want to continue in the forgiveness our heavenly Father gives us, then we must walk in His same footsteps--the ones that lead us away from anger, bitterness, and retaliation and take us to His heart of love that hardly notices when others do it wrong. They are big shoes to fill, but His Spirit in us enables us to choose love even in the hardest circumstance. By our love our offenders will see Christ. And in Christ they, too, will learn to love and forgive others."

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A Prayer For You.

Would you allow me to pray for you?

Heavenly Father,

I come before you to give you honor for all you have done for us. I thank you that you give forgiveness to us. When you forgive us you forget the sins we have committed. Our Father, give us the desire and power to forgive others in the same way. Sometimes the pain and hurt is so deep that it seems impossible to forgive. But you command us to forgive. Once we get to the place we want to obey you, and let go of the pain--you will give us the strength to forgive.

I pray for everyone that needs to forgive someone. I ask you to show them that forgiveness will release them from the anger and hate. Please let them know that it will bless them more than they know.

I pray to you in Jesus name,


Blogs on Forgiveness

If you do not forgive, Satan will take advantage of you. He uses unforgiveness to keep you from enjoying your life. Unforgiveness steals your joy and peace. You can't stop thinking about the wrong that has been done. Decide to forgive. When Satan brings it up to you don't allow yourself to dwell on it. Just say-- it is forgiven. God wants us to be kind, tenderhearted, and forgiving towards each other. Christ has forgiven us and we are commanded to forgive others. It does not mean they were not wrong. It means you have made the choice to let it go and let God take care of the injustice. Think forgiveness. Act forgiveness. It will soon become a part of you.

Sometimes sharing your story will help others.

Do You Have a Story to Share About Forgiveness?

Esther Pham from Fort Smith, AR on January 16, 2018:


Deborah Demander from First Wyoming, then THE WORLD on February 15, 2017:

Interesting article. It is hard to forgive others for hurting you, and even harder still to forgive yourself.

Thanks for writing.


RuthieDenise (author) on March 17, 2014:

@Heidi Vincent: Thank you. Thanks for stopping by.

Heidi Vincent from GRENADA on March 13, 2014:

Well you've already seen my forgiveness lens, karendd123, since you squidliked it, which is what led me to yours. This is a really great forgiveness lens!

RuthieDenise (author) on March 03, 2014:

@happynutritionist: Yes, it does bring sweet peace. Thanks for stopping by.

RuthieDenise (author) on March 03, 2014:

@WriterJanis2: Yes it is important and sometimes hard to do. Thanks for stopping by.

RuthieDenise (author) on March 03, 2014:

@SBPI Inc: We want forgiveness so we must be willing to forgive.

RuthieDenise (author) on March 03, 2014:

@smine27: Thank you for stopping by.

RuthieDenise (author) on March 03, 2014:

@SusanDeppner: Yes, it is important and sometimes hard to do.

RuthieDenise (author) on March 03, 2014:

@flinnie lm: When we forgive we release the pain and stress from unforgiveness.

RuthieDenise (author) on March 03, 2014:

@tonyleather: Yes, sometimes the pain we feel causes us to hold back forgiveness.

RuthieDenise (author) on March 03, 2014:

@Jess Martell: That's true. If we let go we are free.

Jess Martell on February 10, 2014:

Very good lens. I can understand how this is a struggle so many go through but sometimes just finding a healthy way to let go is the best thing one can do

tonyleather on February 06, 2014:

Excellent lens. Forgiveness is not always easy, especially when the level of hurt was high, but it does seem to help in getting over things.

Gloria Freeman from Alabama USA on January 31, 2014:

You have to forgive for your own good.

Charito Maranan-Montecillo from Manila, Philippines on January 31, 2014:

I agree that to forgive is a struggle, but we must do it in order to reach Heaven. Forgiveness is the only cure for resentment.

Takkhis on January 24, 2014:

This is the thing that comes from your inner mind and this is what we all need :)

Susan Deppner from Arkansas USA on November 26, 2013:

Very important message!

Shinichi Mine from Tokyo, Japan on October 26, 2013:

What a lovely lens with a wonderful message.

SBPI Inc on September 17, 2013:

....'forgive our trespasses as we have forgive those who have trespassed against up....

WriterJanis2 on August 26, 2013:

Forgiveness is so important,

RuthieDenise (author) on July 02, 2013:

@happynutritionist: That is true. One thing I am learning is to forgive something from the past over and over. Thanks for stopping by.

happynutritionist on July 02, 2013:

Very nice page...forgiveness brings much peace and healing...though we don't always forget, we can forgive again...and again. It is not always easy, but necessary. God bless!

RuthieDenise (author) on June 20, 2013:

@MBurgess: That is good that you forgive before the other person decides to apologize and it is already forgotten.

Maria Burgess from Las Vegas, Nevada on May 12, 2013:

Being able to purge ill feelings and forgive is not an easy task but like your lens says it is worth the effort. Too many people hang on to these negative feelings and the problem is, that person doesn't feel the emotions, the person with the resentment does. In my social circles forgiveness is a part of the routine if we want to be healthier individuals. Later, when people want to apologize for something they did or why they were angry at another individual often the other person doesn't even remember the incident. Nice lens!

ConvenientCalendar on May 02, 2013:

Forgiveness is not for the person you are forgiving as much as for yourself, Forgive and you will be forgiven! In my relationship quiz it hits on some of these topics! Have you forgiven someone for their past before they knew you, that is a big one most people can not get over! Great lens!

Perrin from South Carolina on April 23, 2013:

Great lens . . . such an important topic. God bless you for writing this one!! I think many people don't understand that holding unforgiveness in their hearts is a form of giving control to the person who wronged them. In releasing the wrongdoer, we are actually releasing ourselves. This is particularly true when the wrongdoer doesn't even know they did us wrong, or doesn't care.

Malu Couttolenc on February 22, 2013:

Forgiving is very important. I enjoyed reading your article about forgiveness :)

darciefrench lm on February 19, 2013:

Only the unforgiving feel the pain of betrayal. Lovely lens with an important message - blessed <3

Anthony Godinho from Ontario, Canada on March 13, 2012:

I agree, forgiveness brings so much of freedom and does so more than we can imagine. If we hold unforgiveness in our hearts we become slaves to it and it causes much pain. I don't know why anyone would want to live in pain. Stay blessed! :)

Mary Norton from Ontario, Canada on January 15, 2011:

It is indeed not easy but am trying heard to work on it as you are only punishing your own self. Good of you to feature this here.

VincentEllis on November 12, 2010:

Yeah forgiveness is the only way to find peace again...

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