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What Is the Secret to Life?

Barbara has spent over 40 years writing poems, lyrics, and sayings for cards and interpreting the meanings and messages in songs.

The Garden Lesson: The Secret to Life

The Garden Lesson: The Secret to Life

What is the Secret to Life? Are You Asking this Question Often These Days?

Try this thought on for size:

If we try to understand the concept that our soul is completely separate from our body, then this journey we're on is exactly that, 'a soul's journey'.

So what's the point of it all then?

Entertain the thought that you are gifted with an internal knowingness that your soul is separate and distinct from your physical self; that it's an absolute truth.

In other words it's not the physical brain that triggers consciousness, but rather the other way around: Consciousness exists separate from the brain, and it is in fact consciousness, that brings the brain alive to enable a body and mind to live a human life.

When we pass away, our soul then travels back to our Spirit which becomes it's home, until we choose to come back to another physical existence and thus grow our contributions further and advance our soul (reincarnation).

So if all of this is true (and who truly knows for a fact, although personally I believe), then what is the secret to life?

If you're interested read on. There's also a place for you to offer up your own ideas as well, so feel free to do so.

Love: We are here to give love and receive love

We're here to love with all our hearts and to be willing to be loved. Even if we've been hurt by love, we advance our souls when we love again.

We grow most of all when we are being selfless and give love that is hard to give.

Try it when you're feeling someone doesn't deserve love from you for a particular reason. Make the effort to hug them anyway, to be nice to them anyway, to show them that they still matter, anyway. This can be the hardest thing to do, but like anything that's difficult, can give back a joyous reward.

There's a magical feeling you experience when you've arm wrestled and won against your negative emotions about someone; you've essentially focused on them and their needs and in doing so, you've filled up your own cup, and without even realizing it, healed a wound.

Test it out: When you're feeling negative towards someone, instead of going toe-to-toe with them, be compassionate towards them; genuinely smile, rub their arm (if appropriate), listen to them, hug them - this is not easy but the sense of comfort it will give both of you is worth it.

Do it Anyway - by Martina McBride - Sometimes a Song Can Express Things Perfectly - Love them Anyway

This song speaks to doing it anyway; love them anyway, build it anyway, dream anyway - The words are moving - Sing it Anyway.

Absolutely Beautiful, Don't Miss 'Anyway' by Martina McBride

Forgiveness: We are here to learn about true forgiveness

This is the ultimate test for a soul (in my opinion), and from what's shown on the news and what appears on the internet, there's a great number of souls who have yet to master this.

In order to really know how far along you are with forgiveness, think of yourself or someone you love whose had the unfortunate nightmare of being hurt physically, emotionally, or mentally by another person. Can you forgive something like that?

Sounds crazy, but I believe I could. It's not that I wouldn't hurt, or cry, or have moments of hatefulness, or want justice, yes, certainly those emotions would exist - but if you are able to view another person's actions as a soul in training, growing and lost and in need of help as well as remember that you may be at a more advanced place in your soul's growth, then forgiveness is the only logical response.

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Your soul is more advanced than theirs, but yet if you cannot forgive even something egregious, is your soul really more advanced? This is the ultimate test as to whether a soul has truly achieved a higher level of understanding.

The truly advanced understanding of forgiveness means there is nothing to forgive

I can't possibly explain it as well as Anita Moorjani does in one of her interviews. Anita Moorgani had a life changing NDE (near death experience), it cured her cancer - What I found compelling about this interview happens at around 17:00 minutes. She speaks about unconditional love and about what forgiveness is or actually isn't - I won't even attempt to summarize it, if you're so inclined, you can listen for yourself; the video is directly below.

Around 17 minutes and onwards for a bit, Anita Moorjani speaks about Forgiveness and her understanding of it based on her NDE (Near Death Experience)

Knowledge: We are here to learn and to share our knowledge

From the time we're born, we're learning. We process information every day, but the most important part of all this is sharing our life lessons, especially with those coming up behind us.

Every life touches another life, and if we approach things this way, then we can learn to be a better community, a better world. It's baby steps when it comes to the advancement of souls and the planet. But if we remember to keep moving forward, we'll inch ahead without even knowing we did.

If you're thinking something silly like you don't have anything to offer, I am going to tell you something with absolute certainty, you do.

There is something you've learned about life, that you can teach and pass along. The smallest sentences said to another person, can make an unknown difference in that life.

Here's a crazy example: When I was 16 and about to start my first summer job, my dad said to me, 'if you don't have anything to do, find something to do' - ok, so that's not a profound life statement, but I carried that bit of advice with me my entire life and it helped me approach my life's work diligently.

So always remember, that you matter, you have something to offer and something to teach.

Do you believe the secret to life is as it's described here: To Love, To Forgive, To Learn and Pass on Our Knowledge? Perhaps there's something else you would l

© 2013 Barbara Tremblay Cipak

What do you think? In your mind, 'what's the secret to life'...Why are we Here?

Kenneth Avery from Hamilton, Alabama on October 17, 2019:

Hi, Brite . . .you are always welcome. And I meant every word that I wrote and by the way, they came from my heart. Thank you too, for your care for my health issues. I feel as one day soon, I am going to walk whole and not have to be on oxygen so much, but it could be worse.

Great nes about you and your book. I am so proud of you. Do not give up and I mean when things seemingly tend to be adverse in your way, do not give up. Write every available moment. I know. I have been there. And you are more than welcome to write and visit me at anytime.

Love To You . ..Kenneth

Barbara Tremblay Cipak (author) from Toronto, Canada on October 17, 2019:

Kenneth, I am so glad you're health issues seem to be under control. Just to be sure it continues in that direction, I'll be sending good vibes your way that you continue on the road to recovery. Thanks so much for the kind words. They mean a lot to me. I just published my first poetry ebook called, 'We Will Have Morning Smiles" and am working on creating a paperback version as we speak. To have someone (outside my family) encourage me, warms my soul. That's the biggest gift I've received this year, thank you for it. Also, thank you so much for taking the time to be kind when you yourself have been through such a challenging year. Hugs to you and your family.

Kenneth Avery from Hamilton, Alabama on October 16, 2019:

Hi, Barbara . . .I apologize for taking so long to thank you for following me. I do not have an answer why I took the time, except my health issues got in my way on the last of last year and the first of this year, but thank God, I am here to tell you that I really enjoyed this hub. Barbara, you are a gifted writer. I mean that sincerely. You should write a novel or a play for a community theater.

In closing, keep up the fine work and you can say hi to me anytime.


Barbara Tremblay Cipak (author) from Toronto, Canada on October 05, 2014:

Cynthia, thank you for another lovely and thoughtful comment

Cynthia Sylvestermouse from United States on October 05, 2014:

To love, to be loved, and to learn to forgive are certainly a huge part of life's lessons and I believe some of life's greatest blessings. While I do not personally believe in reincarnation, I do believe there is a life hereafter in heaven, but regardless of which one any of us personally believe, I agree they both have an emphasis on loving and forgiving.

Barbara Tremblay Cipak (author) from Toronto, Canada on September 15, 2014:

Thank you @arachnea, appreciate that very much

Tanya Jones from Texas USA on September 15, 2014:

Very powerfully written and a great read. Saw this on The Writers Door.

RuthieDenise on April 18, 2014:

I really love your lens. I think a lot about forgiveness and love and helping others. It is hard for me to forgive but I make the choice to do it. If God can forgive me I can forgive others. As you say in your lens, reach out and touch someone and let them know you care.

Barbara Tremblay Cipak (author) from Toronto, Canada on March 16, 2014:

@David Stone1: beautifully said

David Stone from New York City on March 16, 2014:

Hard to believe there is any secret - since all of us know whatever it is we want to know. Nothing is hidden, although the longer we delay awareness, the more work we may need to get there.

Not a secret, I think, but gifts that unfold, one after another.

Why are we here? To live fully, and that's different for everyone. Popular books like to provide simple formulas, but I don't think it's a one size fits all universe. And like I learned from Wayne Dyer, "Be open to everything," and you'll find the truth given to you.

Treasures By Brenda from Canada on March 16, 2014:

I'll be honest and say I haven't thought a lot about it but your theory, To Love, To Forgive, To Learn and Pass on Our Knowledge sounds reasonable to me.

Michael Yoshinaka from Honolulu, Hawaii on March 15, 2014:

Well put in this lens about loving and forgiving especially after the hurt. We always need reminders as imperfect humans and to make it happen and follow through.

blestman lm on March 11, 2014:

Great lens. Lots to tap into. In my mind love and joy are the true ingredients of life. Anything less is just surviving, not living

Barbara Tremblay Cipak (author) from Toronto, Canada on January 29, 2014:

@ecogranny: What an incredibly thoughtful comment, and I certainly agree with that interpretation of the 'secret to life' - I'll bet in the end we'll find out there were just two words that mattered to the most - 'love, forgive' - so simple sometimes that we can't see the forest for the trees - thanks again for your time on my lens

Kathryn Grace from San Francisco on January 29, 2014:

I would like to think that author Lewis Thomas had it right in his book, The Lives of a Cell, when he said that humans are the otters of the universe and our purpose in life is to play. Encapsulated in that philosophy was much of what you cover here: Loving ourselves and others, finding ways to love and live joyfully in the face of adversity, and forgiving one another, for it is not possible to play with delight when one's heart is full of bitterness.

I just want to say also that I am delighted to find this lens and this discussion here on Squidoo. I so much enjoy meatier pages written from the heart. Thank you from mine.

Linda Hoxie from Idaho on June 30, 2013:

The secret to life is just that...a magical secret yet to be discovered. All we can do is to live every moment, as if it is your last. Love like there is no tomorrow, forgive others as if it is the last time you will ever see them. Learn and Grow. I am thankful that the secret of each of our lives is not revealed, but part of our own individual journey to discover. What a beautiful lens, and a beautiful soul that wrote it!

adragast24 on June 25, 2013:

Good question, still don't have the answer.

SBPI Inc on June 22, 2013:

I believe that each of us is a gift from God, that we carry within us a Soul which is pure consciousness and Unconditional Love. Because we are Human and live among other Humans we construct our reality by adapting to the society norms which are accepted by those with whom we live. This functions to create Separateness and distances people through cultural differences. I believe in the Oneness of all Beings in that we share in the gift of life. You may, f you choose, read my article in support of your lens presentation at

Excellent lens and thank you for sharing with all.

Barbara Radisavljevic from Paso Robles, CA on June 16, 2013:

Interesting concept, but I believe we only live here once and that the decisions we make here determine where we will spend the next life. I suppose we will both find out soon enough how it all works out when it becomes reality.

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