Audrey's desire to help others understand human behavior led her to study psychology. Are there benefits from loving others?
The hunger for love is much more difficult to remove than the hunger for bread.
How to Love Difficult People
Love requires knowledge and effort. So, how do we learn to love those that are seemingly impossible to love?
- Forgiveness. We must, no matter how difficult it may be, forgive others. We are never free until we learn to forgive. Forgiveness is the first step. Living in anger and bitterness causes us unhappiness.
- Avoid judging and blaming others. Don't fall into this destructive well. Judging others show its ugly head through gossip, ridicule, hatred, and holding grudges. Stop this type of behavior. Replace it with love and understanding. The people around us are not perfect, and neither are we.
- Be a better listener. Don't interrupt. Just listen and show interest in the person.
- Remain calm. Use patience.
- Reflect respect and dignity at all times.
Forgiveness - The Foundation of Love
Ten Benefits And Rewards of Loving Others
When we genuinely give love, we do it without being rewarded; otherwise, we go through the motions. When we expect something in return, clearly, we are off-track. This is not love. We are only rewarded when selfless Christ-like love occurs.
So what are some of the benefits of loving others?
- Feeling of joy
- Experiencing peace
- Decreases depression and anxiety
- Reduces pain
- Increases a sense of well-being
- Reduces blood pressure
- Serving others increases longevity
- Boosts the immune system
- Relieves loneliness
- Increases self-love and confidence
The list is virtually endless. When I feel love for others, I feel a sense of freedom. Maybe, it's the joy experienced as I love. It simply feels good.
Will you be rewarded.as you live a life of loving others?
Try it and see for yourself.
Four Basic Elements Which Form Love
Love is giving, not receiving. We give of ourselves - our joy, understanding, patience, and most importantly, our forgiveness. We enrich another person's life. The ability to love as an act of giving depends on the character development of the person.
Certain essential elements common to all forms of love are:
As author Eric Fromm states in his book "The Art of Loving" - "Love is the active concern for the life and the growth of that we love. Where this active concern is lacking, there is no love."
Love Is It's Own Reward
Love is learned best when it's learned during childhood. These seedlings of caring and love, when planted early in one's life, become the most vital part of who you are today.
I thank the experiences and circumstances, both joyful and challenging, which have brought me to a fuller understanding of the power of love.
Loving is its own reward.
This brought a lump to my throat...
How Is Respect A Component of Love?
Respect is the ability to see the person as he is - to be aware of his unique individuality - allowing the other person to unfold and grow as he is. To pull this off, we must be able to stand and walk without dominating the other person. Love is the child of freedom, never of domination.
Wise Words About Love
From the book "The Prophet" written by poet, philosopher, and artist Kahlil Gibran :
"Love gives naught but itself and takes naught but from itself.
Love possesses not, nor would it be possessed.
For love is sufficient unto love."
The following is a familiar saying but still one of my favorites:
"I love you not because of who you are but because of who I am when I am with you."
We hear the term 'unconditional love', and images of all sorts come up as we shudder. But to love someone unconditionally simply (or not ) means we love an imperfect person. And we must remember that we are flawed too.
Do we accept abusive or toxic behavior? Not! Never sacrifice your self-worth or self-respect. To do so is not love. You must concentrate on loving and respecting yourself. This is mandatory if you seek love and respect from others.
But we do commit and even make sacrifices. We do practice patience and forgiveness. We do learn to love ourselves that we may love others fully. Does unconditional love require courage? You bet! Even with a broken heart, we forgive and open our hearts again.
We all need a little love
Do You Love Yourself?
Only when you truly and completely learn how to love yourself are you able to love others unconditionally. And when you find that people have a hard time loving you, it just might be because they haven't learned how to love themselves.
Invest In Yourself First To Invest In Others
What is important to you? Have you ever sat down and spent some quality time with yourself and discovered what is important to you from the deepest recess of your heart? Probably not. Well - do it.
It may be hard, but keep a positive attitude and find out what you're truly made of. Don't be hard on yourself in the process and if you fall, get back up again. Find that spark of happiness with yourself.
Take the time and energy to invest in your most important asset: Yourself truly. Only then will you be ready to invest in others.
Celebrate who you are.
“Before you live, love. Before you expire, inspire. Let your love be an inspiration to someone to also love another and together we build up a happy world!”
― Israelmore Ayivor, Leaders' Watchwords
Loving difficult people doesn't mean you like or accept the behavior. It doesn't mean you tolerate abuse of any kind. You deserve respect.
I've listed ten benefits and rewards which can happen to us when we learn to love others. You will discover many more on your journey. The more love you give, the more benefits you'll receive.
- Don't be afraid to love.
- Speak only with integrity and be Impeccable with your word. Use the power of your comment in the direction of truth and love.
- The best relationship is the one you have with yourself.
- Accept yourself the way you are, and then you will be able to accept others.
- Don't put your happiness in someone else's hands.
- Clean your mind of all fear.
- See love wherever you go.
Love is the most priceless gift we can give, and it cost absolutely nothing. You are a masterpiece. You are one of a kind with seeds of greatness planted within you. Don't allow contaminated thinking to make you feel undeserving of love.
When your thoughts are loving, you will attract love. Nothing can hold you back when you think of yourself to victory. Keep believing, keep doing, and keep loving.
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.
© 2015 Audrey Hunt
Audrey Hunt (author) from Pahrump NV on August 06, 2020:
Thank you so much for reading my article on "Ten Benefits of Loving Others." I do appreciate your generous feedback and kind comments.
My best to you.
Henry on August 06, 2020:
This is educational and inspirational. I am glad for having benefited.
Audrey Hunt (author) from Pahrump NV on August 22, 2017:
So nice to see you here. Thanks for reading my hub about the benefits of loving others. Yes - love can change the world!
Paz Andrade from Spain on August 20, 2017:
i truly believe love can change the world, great hub!
Audrey Hunt (author) from Pahrump NV on August 19, 2017:
Thank you my friend for being here. You give a whole new wonderful meaning to the word "lovely".
Love is the only sane and satisfactory answer to the problem of human existence
Thank you for following me and welcome to hubpages. I look forward to reading your first hub.
MariaExcala from Germany on August 18, 2017:
i saw only positive results in doing all of these, thank you!
DREAM ON on February 27, 2017:
Love, Love and more Love. Start with Love. Filled with Love. End with Love. All about Love. Your hub covered it all. Thank you for reminding us about Love. Have a Lovely day.
Audrey Hunt (author) from Pahrump NV on February 18, 2017:
Loving one another really isn't all that hard to do is it? Just takes a touch of patience and a few sprinkles of forgiveness. Thanks so much.
ChangingTides2331 on February 17, 2017:
All we need is love & you proved it in your writing. Thank you
Audrey Hunt (author) from Pahrump NV on February 02, 2017:
I love your comments. You are filled with a passion for loving others. This is the greatest of all gifts. Thank you my friend!
January Moon from NY, Now Living in Atlanta Ga on February 02, 2017:
excellent article! What the world needs now, is love sweet love, its the only thing theres just a little of! Powerful message in this Hub! Im going to love on this hub, lol.
Audrey Hunt (author) from Pahrump NV on May 12, 2016:
Thank you kindly for your lovely comments. Love is the most powerful force on earth. We must remember to apply this same love to ourselves first. You are a treasure!
Susie Lehto from Minnesota on May 12, 2016:
This an edifying hub my dear. I feel the love here and you have inspired me to love more and more each day, each moment of every day.
Audrey Hunt (author) from Pahrump NV on October 20, 2015:
Thelma - What you say is so true! It's so much easier to love than to hate.
SweetiePie - We need to spread the love. I like your comment.
SweetiePie from Southern California, USA on September 16, 2015:
There needs to be more love and less hate in the world.
Thelma Alberts from Germany on August 13, 2015:
What a beautiful poem! I hope the people realize that loving each other is more wonderful and relaxing than fighting with each other.
Audrey Hunt (author) from Pahrump NV on May 25, 2015:
sgbrown - Thank you my friend. Yes, indeed, we would all experience a sublime place and I keep hoping.
Sheila Brown from Southern Oklahoma on May 24, 2015:
Wouldn't the world be such a wonderful place if we did just love each other! This is a beautiful and meaningful poem!
Audrey Hunt (author) from Pahrump NV on May 22, 2015:
Glenn Stok - What perfect comments. Thank you Glenn. I wish we had an answer. My thoughts and love are being sent to you. Audrey
Benjimester - How nice to see you! Your comments are thought-provoking and I thank you for posting.
Audrey Hunt (author) from Pahrump NV on May 22, 2015:
travmaj - One wouldn't think this question would be so difficult to answer. It's such an easy way to live. I believe it's our natural state. You are so kind to read my poem and leave such good comments. Thanks.
shanmarie - Yes, the power of love. It changes everything. Thank you!
Audrey Hunt (author) from Pahrump NV on May 22, 2015:
mcbirdbks - Thanks Mike. I ponder these things all the time. I suppose an answer may not come to me in this life. I'm so grateful for loving people like you!
Audrey Hunt (author) from Pahrump NV on May 19, 2015:
drbj - Loving is so much easier than our opposite choice. And it's healthier too. Thank you my dear friend. Sending hugs. Audrey
Benji Mester from San Diego, California on April 24, 2015:
Nice poem, and great sentiment! Though one point I would dispute you on. You said that love is easier than hate, which I'm not sure I agree with. It's easier to blame your fellow man for your problems than it is to bear with your fellow man and treat them graciously. There's a quote I love from the poet Rumi:
"Love isn't the work of the tender and the gentle,
Love is the work of wrestlers."
Audrey Hunt (author) from Pahrump NV on April 24, 2015:
Dee aka Nonna - Hello my friend. Very nice to see you and to read your beautiful comments. We think alike.
always exploring - Little things mean a lot. This is the title of a song written in the late 50s. The words are true, just like your lovely comments Ruby. Thanks my friend and enjoy your day.
annart - Your comments are just wonderful. I do hope that this hub gets plenty of sharing. It just might give others something to think about. Thanks Ann!
Audrey Hunt (author) from Pahrump NV on April 23, 2015:
billybuc - Hi Bill. I find it so much easier to love than to hate. There doesn't seem to be an answer to my question. Maybe the reason I enjoy being a member of our HP family is because I feel loved here. And speaking of love - I love you!
Glenn Stok from Long Island, NY on April 22, 2015:
Very meaningful poem and reflects perfectly on the problems we face in today's world. To bad we don't have the answers. Your poem gives a lot to think about.
Shannon Henry from Texas on April 21, 2015:
Oh, I love this poem! I so believe in the power of love.
travmaj from australia on April 21, 2015:
If only - echoing your sentiments and wondering also - it shouldn't be so difficult - why can't we love each other - good question, wish I had answers.
Eric Dierker from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A. on April 21, 2015:
This is a great poem that could start everyday the right way. Truly the love is our nature and we can do well not fighting it. You just passed it along and so I will try to do the same.
mckbirdbks from Emerald Wells, Just off the crossroads,Texas on April 20, 2015:
Hello Audrey - wonderful sentiments , beautifully expressed.
drbj and sherry from south Florida on April 20, 2015:
A lovely poem, m'dear. Perhaps if we keep paying it forward like that awesome video suggests, we all can make a difference. I would like to believe that.
Ann Carr from SW England on April 20, 2015:
The butterfly effect; pass it on and it can be amazing. I do see things like this now and then but, like Bill, I feel that so many just can't be bothered. It's such a shame but hopefully if everyone at hubpages does what your film shows, it could make a difference.
Your poem is well crafted and says so much.
Ruby Jean Richert from Southern Illinois on April 20, 2015:
Audrey, this is a question asked by many. It seems that people are so uncaring these days. Chasing the dollar. Looking away when a person in need is on the street. I loved the video, just a little love is so appreciated. Voted up and shared...
Audrey Hunt (author) from Pahrump NV on April 20, 2015:
Dressage Husband - Your kind and genuine words have touched me deeply. Thank you. May your day bring you peace and harmony my friend.
FlourishAnyway - Thank you for making my heart smile. Love and hugs.
bravewarrior - You are an example of a loving person and a friend to all. I've always respected this about you. Thank you Sha!
Dee aka Nonna on April 20, 2015:
Your title caught my attention right away. It is a question I ask often. This is, indeed, a beautiful message. The message is in one of your quotes.....we must first believe in ourselves.....love ourselves, then we can love others. Lord knows this world need more people who are willing to follow your example.
Bill Holland from Olympia, WA on April 20, 2015:
I don't have an answer to your question, my friend. I am seeing more distrust, more aggravation, more disrespect, with each passing year. I simply don't understand it.
Shauna L Bowling from Central Florida on April 20, 2015:
Let's form a link of friendship. I love this line, Audrey. It is so much easier to be kind than ugly. The video you feature here is the perfect complement to your message.
FlourishAnyway from USA on April 19, 2015:
You have a beautiful spirit. Great message.
Stephen J Parkin from Pine Grove, Nova Scotia, Canada on April 19, 2015:
Audrey you have a beautiful heart and I only wish the World could be made up of only people who feel and think like you do! Voted accordingly.