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Gemini + Cancer
Gemini and Cancer make for a blissful match. The two come from different worlds, and yet they would do anything for each other because they are direct neighbors in the zodiac.
- Gemini is the 3rd sign; Cancer is the 4th sign.
- Gemini is the mutable sign of air. Cancer is the cardinal sign of water.
- Gemini is represented by late spring. Cancer is represented by early summer.
- Gemini is ruled by the brain; Cancer is ruled by the heart.
Couplings that are neighbors work well together. They have a good mix of shared qualities and also differences. What will be interesting about this pair is how constantly engaged the Gemini is with their mind — to the point of anxiety — alongside how emotionally engaged the Cancer will be — to the point of depression. These two understand what it is like to be on the brink of discovery, madness, empathy, and a breakthrough.
Gemini will be drawn to Cancer's charms, her creativity that comes from her heart, and her empathy for others. Cancer will be charmed by Gemini's wit, by their whimsical ways, and their ability to solve just about anything. They'll both enjoy each other's hands, arms, and shoulders as they rule these areas.
As mentioned above, Gemini is the end of spring and Cancer is the beginning of summer. Everything is beautiful around this time of year. The flowers are in bloom, rain is plentiful, and it's getting hotter outside. It's the time of year people get married, when students graduate, and vacations.
Gemini is constantly thinking, but doesn't feel as planned or as demanding as its sibling air signs, Aquarius and Libra. Gemini lets one thought flow into the next thought and shifts around to whatever brings them joy. Gemini makes for a great actor, mimic, and problem solver. They can get quite tangled in their thoughts.
Cancer as the cardinal water sign is always on the edge of emotional discovery. The sign is symbolized by a pregnant woman — the signs after her represent the cycle of a pregnancy all adding up until she has her first child in Aries.
- The first trimester contains the summer signs, the second semester contains the fall signs, and the third trimester contains the winter signs.
- Spring is the season of new life. These signs are more childlike.
- Cancer understands emotional turmoil, subtle changes and nuances. This sign takes joy in each and every mood.
- Cancer constantly shifts and is uncertain of her perspective because of all these cycles. Gemini can relate to this because he is constantly shifting in his thoughts trying to land them in some kind of truth.
FYI: Leo is a counter to these two rather indecisive signs. Leo has a giant ego and thinks he knows what is best and how to place it precisely so. Leo is fixed, stubborn, and arrogant. Gemini and Cancer are not.
The twin and crab signs are not so certain. They are much more existential, and in some ways, much more interesting.
The Case for the Gemini and Cancer Pairing
Gemini's Thoughts on Cancer
Gemini naturally wants to know why Cancer ticks the way she does, but they can't entirely put a finger on the cause. Gemini respects that Cancer is different and wants to help setup a world where the water sign isn't frustrated but flourishes. Gemini is amused by Cancer. Geminis are often drawn to those who broadcast variety.
- Gemini likes a lighthearted soul.
- They're looking for a partner who understands and accepts them.
- Gemini wants to be with someone who is fun.
Gemini will serve Cancer to the best of his abilities, though sometimes Gemini can't help but be lazy and instead spend the day sunbathing with a bottle of whiskey or other vice. Gemini can be messy in their outside world because they are so focused on their inner world. Gemini are known for messy rooms. They struggle to see the point of household chores.
Cancer's Thoughts on Gemini
Cancer can be messy because they are so focused on how things feel. Cancer is very concerned with matters of the heart. She doesn't understand why Gemini isn't as concerned about the heart place, and this can cause her to nag somewhat. She might complain that he doesn't exude as much empathy or display as much empathy. This could actually be true, but it's not exactly the best accusation to make. Gemini is prithee to putting thoughts together and coming up with concrete or abstract solutions. Feeling something for the sake of feeling something without it going anywhere is kind of strange to Gemini.
The air sign can't let go of their thoughts that easily. They don't mind watching someone else give into their emotions — they find that fascinating and curious. Of course, Gemini doesn't like negative emotions and will wish you could turn those off — but sometimes Cancer goes through dark emotions because they get caught up in the moment. Gemini also has some fairly dark emotions, mostly because they pent up their emotions, let them build, and one day they snap. Gemini sucks at processing their feelings.
The good thing about all this is that Gemini will offer ways for the Cancer to find happiness — perhaps Gemini does this from a selfish standpoint, but they honestly don't like to see people suffer. Gemini thinks unnecessary suffering is a fallacy.
Cancer meanwhile will be delighted to be with someone who cares about her happiness. She also likes being with a brilliant thinker. She likes that he won't try to steal her thunder when it comes to emotions.
The problem with two water elemental signs coming together is they both want to overpower each other with their emotions whether they are positive, loving, huge, amazing, or destructive, damaging, insane, etc. Cancer with a Gemini will instead have the emotional tone of the relationship and can work on it in her own unique way without the manipulations of a Scorpio, Pisces, or another Cancer.
Gemini can be much sweeter to Cancer than other signs when Cancer has misgivings. Some will find Cancer annoying for all the brooding, change of scenery, and out of control ways. Gemini weirdly finds this stimulating — and stabilizing.
Gemini in a way finds his real twin with a Cancer. Gemini is symbolized by twins; therefore, it is meant to have natural success with relationships. Gemini rather likes Cancer because it offers something so different from itself while also not having to abandon its core understandings of the universe.
Both Gemini and Cancer Have a High Preference for Relationships
Gemini naturally finds itself going toward relationships, not against them. This is interesting as an air sign. Libra often desires relationships and forces them. The Libra kind rarely spend time alone and single because it goes against their internal nature: the Libra is meant to balance and harmonize. A single scale can only tell the weight of one thing, but two scales help differentiate the weight of, well, a legal case. Libra is incomplete as a single scale.
Gemini desires to understand people. They're known for mirroring people. If you get up and exercise, the Gemini will likely follow. If you start doing chores, the Gemini will follow. They'll study your expressions, your thoughts, your everything. Mirroring is a sign of flattery and respect. They only mirror what they admire.
Aquarius, on the other hand, is one of the more single signs. This isn't because Aquarius as an air sign is only interested in a single or asexual life. On the contrary, the sign is looking for a soul mate and will go about their life looking for such in whatever way seems the most tactical.
To the Aquarius they can't understand the point of having to hold onto someone if they are not soul mates. Aquarius gets lost in the romanticism of relationships. Meanwhile, Gemini as the spring sign, when everything is as it should be, naturally attracts romance. Gemini gets why the flower dresses itself the way it does, Gemini understands why the Sun is just right, and why you need just the right amount of rain. Everything about that time of spring is alluring, and a Gemini should know how to make it work for himself.
All water signs are drawn to relationships. Scorpio is looking for an intimate, private, and passionate relationship. Pisces is on a journey to find true love. Cancer desperately wants to be understood, they want to nurture a family, and they want to give of themselves entirely.
Cancer is like the moon waiting for the sun's light. They have incredible emotional radar skills. They're also full of symbols related to duality, just like Gemini. Cancer believes relationships are essential for the longevity of a species.
- Cancer is represented by the hands. The hands themselves are all about duality. We also tend to release and hold our emotions in our hands, feet, and hips.
- Gemini is represented by the arms and shoulders. This too is all about duality. Gemini wants to reach out and hold what's before it. Geminis know how to give perfect hugs.
Balancing the Relationship
Where Cancer is clingy, Gemini gives freedom. These are strange things for both, but also alluring. Cancer has never been told to be free. It always assumed it must merge with someone and never stand out as one whole. Cancer may at first resist this kind of freedom, but it does eventually take well to freedom.
Freedom allows Cancer to better understand and maneuver her emotions. Freedom helps prevent co-dependency, something water signs are tempted by.
Gemini isn't used to someone clinging to them. It's nice to be wanted so much, albeit shocking. Usually people are too busy observing spring to actually embrace it fully. People don't open their arms to hug the rain, nor cuddle the flowers, nor hold hands with sunlight. So Gemini finds it a little odd that Cancer takes things that extra mile — and even demands it so. Gemini has a sunlight energy beaming off them, and Cancer is searching for the sun.
Gemini and Cancer on Romance
People who they find amusing, lighthearted personalities, beauty and brains, happiness, wit.
Those who accept them, those who need nurturing, those who accept weirdness.
Being alone, failure, never being understood, bullies, innocence robbed.
Disconnection, being abandoned, having no home, being forgotten, fake love, lies, betrayal.
Dates They Love
Gemini likes spontaneity. They're willing to travel an hour away for some unique ice cream. They like variety, whimsy, and fun. They're up for trying new things.
They want to go to the action. They like trendy things. They also like weird things. They want originality. They crave to be with people of a similar kind. They want to be seen with you and praised.
Mimicry, trying to make you laugh, following you, being close, consistently communicates. A Gemini in love is talkative.
Cooks a good meal, uses their body and hands, ups the makeup and grooming, smiles a lot, very warm, approaches you often, tries to make you laugh, uses a variety of moves. Cancers are natural flirts.
Tips to Make the Relationship Work
1. Gemini shouldn't try to explain Cancer's emotions in big and messy words. This will confuse Cancer. When Cancer is emotional, reach out to them. Don't use words and try to brush things away with logic. You need to be vulnerable in return.
2. Gemini, try to be concise. You automatically have a lot of words, and your sentences can get tangled. If you don't have enough time to edit your words and make sense to each other — try counseling. A mediator might help in untangling Gemini's words to make sense to the Cancer, so she isn't lost and hurt for no reason at all.
3. Cancer has a tendency to get lost in interpretations and start making up crazy theories that don't actually work. Allow the Gemini to help clean this up and don't fear critique. Meditation again would be good for this pairing as in the middle of a fight or dispute, Gemini will try to use words and sentences where Cancer will try to feel things out whether with tears, hugs, or anger.
4. Gemini will start up projects randomly and not finish them. Cancer will take care of things that she sees left unfinished. The only problem? Gemini likes to start up projects for practicality, where Cancer is looking to nurture and nourish projects as if they are children. This can leave some blind spots in the relationship. You both need to work harder on items like chores, budgets, and goals. Do employ some structure and routine.
5. Try different things together and see what makes you happy. Sometimes you need to do things that make the other person happy, but that you might not understand.
6. Gemini can afford to be more vulnerable and try to give more of his heart. The good thing about Cancer is they'll help you process and understand your emotions better. Cancer is nurturing, not arrogant.
7. Cancer can afford to put more of herself out there and have her confidence challenged. Do not only rely on Gemini's skills and brain to get you through life.
8. Gemini, be sweet to the Cancer. Cancer, be gentle to the Gemini.
9. Give each other assurance when possible. Both of you can feel like misfits at times in this world.
10. Study love languages and try to figure out what are yours. The most common ways people express love are: (1) through words of affirmation, (2) by giving gifts, (3) by spending time together, (4) by touches of affirmation, and (5) through acts of service, like doing chores and help for the other.
Gemini and Cancer at a Quick Glance
May 21 - June 20
June 21 - July 22
Yin or Yang
Arms and Shoulders, the Nervous System
Hands, Emotional Centers
Energetic, whimsical, witty, studious, funny, unpredictable.
Nurturing, charming, creative, moody, indecisive, empathetic.
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© 2019 Andrea Lawrence
Rêveuse Consciente from Pakistan on September 26, 2019:
Interesting. Luckily I am a gemini and my brother and sister both are cancer and the chemistry between us is just amazing.