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Gemini and Cancer in Love
Gemini and Cancer make for a blissful match. The two come from different worlds, and yet they would do anything for each other because they are direct neighbors in the zodiac.
- Gemini is the 3rd sign; Cancer is the 4th sign.
- Gemini is the mutable sign of air. Cancer is the cardinal sign of water.
- Gemini is represented by late spring. Cancer is represented by early summer.
- Gemini is ruled by the brain; Cancer is ruled by the heart.
Couples that are neighbors work well together. They have a good mix of shared qualities but also differences. Gemini is in their mind—to the point of anxiety. Cancer is in their heart—to the point of depression. These two understand what it is like to be on the brink of discovery, madness, moods, and empathy.
Gemini will be drawn to Cancer's nurturing persona, her creativity that comes from her heart, and her empathy for others. Cancer will be charmed by Gemini's wit, by his whimsical ways, and his ability to solve just about anything. They'll both enjoy each other's hands, arms, and shoulders as they rule these areas.
As mentioned above, Gemini is the end of spring and Cancer is the beginning of summer. Everything is beautiful around this time of year. The flowers are in bloom, rain is plentiful, and it's getting hotter outside. It's the time of year people get married, when students graduate, and vacations.
Gemini is constantly thinking, but he doesn't feel as planned or as demanding as his sibling air signs, Aquarius and Libra. Gemini lets one thought flow into the next thought and shifts around to whatever brings him joy. Gemini makes for a great actor, mimic, and problem solver. (They can get quite tangled in their thoughts.)
Cancer as the cardinal water sign is always on the edge of emotional discovery. The sign is symbolized by a pregnant woman—the signs after her represent the cycle of a pregnancy all adding up until she has her first child in Aries.
- The first trimester contains the summer signs, the second trimester contains the fall signs, and the third trimester contains the winter signs.
- Spring is the season of new life. These signs are more childlike.
- Cancer understands emotional turmoil, subtle changes and nuances. This sign takes joy in each and every mood.
- Cancer constantly shifts and is uncertain of her perspective. Gemini can relate to this because he is constantly shifting in his thoughts.
FYI: Leo is a counter to these two rather indecisive signs. He is the fifth sign. Leo has a giant ego and thinks he knows what is best. Leo is fixed, stubborn, and arrogant. Gemini and Cancer are not.
The twin and crab signs are not so definitive. They are much more existential, and in some ways, more interesting.
The Case for the Gemini and Cancer Pairing
Gemini's Thoughts on Cancer
Gemini naturally wants to know why Cancer ticks the way she does, but he can't entirely put a finger on it. Gemini respects that Cancer is different. Gemini wants to setup a world where the water sign isn't frustrated but flourishes. Gemini is amused by Cancer. (Geminis are often drawn to eclectic people.)
- Gemini likes a lighthearted soul.
- They're looking for a partner who understands and accepts them.
- Gemini wants to be with someone who is fun.
Gemini will serve Cancer to the best of his abilities, though sometimes Gemini can't help but be lazy and instead spend the day sunbathing with a bottle of whiskey or other vice. Gemini can be messy because they are so focused on their inner world. Geminis are known for messy rooms. They struggle to see the point of household chores.
Cancer's Thoughts on Gemini
Cancer can be messy because they are so focused on how things feel. Cancer is very concerned with matters of the heart. She doesn't understand why Gemini isn't as concerned about the heart place, and this can cause her to nag somewhat. She might complain that he doesn't exude as much empathy or display as much empathy as her. This could actually be true, but it's not exactly the best accusation to make.
Gemini is prithee to putting thoughts together and coming up with concrete or abstract solutions. Feeling something for the sake of feeling something is strange to Gemini.
Air signs are always thinking. They don't mind watching someone else give into their emotions—they find that fascinating and curious. Of course, Gemini doesn't like negative emotions and will wish you could turn those off—but sometimes Cancer goes through dark emotions. She gets caught up in the moment. Gemini also has some fairly dark emotions, mostly because he lets them build, and one day he snaps. Gemini sucks at processing his feelings.
The good thing about all this is that Gemini will offer ways for Cancer to find happiness—perhaps Gemini does this from a selfish standpoint, but he honestly doesn't like to see people suffer. Gemini thinks unnecessary suffering is a fallacy.
Cancer meanwhile will be delighted to be with someone who cares about her happiness. She also likes being with a brilliant thinker. She likes that he won't try to steal her thunder when it comes to emotions.
The problem with two water elemental signs coming together is they both want to overpower each other with their emotions—whether they are positive, loving, huge, amazing, or destructive, damaging, insane, etc. With a Gemini, Cancer will have the emotional tone of the relationship. She can work on the tone in her own unique way without the manipulations of a Scorpio, Pisces, or another Cancer.
Gemini can be much sweeter to Cancer than other signs when Cancer has misgivings. Some will find Cancer annoying for all the brooding, moodiness, and out of control ways. Gemini weirdly finds this stimulating—and stabilizing.
Gemini, in a way, finds his real twin with Cancer. Gemini is symbolized by the twins; therefore, he actually has natural success with relationships. Gemini rather likes Cancer because she offers something different from himself. Another positive: he doesn't feel like he has to abandon his core understandings of the universe. They're neighbors, so Cancer doesn't feel too different to him.
Both Gemini and Cancer Have a High Preference for Relationships
Geminis naturally find themselves going toward relationships, not against them. Let's compare how air signs approach relationships.
Gemini desires to understand people. They're known for mirroring people. If you get up and exercise, the Gemini will likely follow. If you start doing chores, the Gemini will follow. They'll study your expressions, your thoughts, your everything. Mirroring is a sign of flattery and respect. They only mirror what they admire.
Libras often desire relationships and force them. Libras rarely spend time alone. Being single goes against their nature: the Libra is meant to balance and harmonize.
Libra's symbol is the scales. A single scale can only tell the weight of one thing, but two scales compares two weights. Libra is incomplete as a single scale.
Aquarius is one of the more single signs. This isn't because Aquarius as an air sign is only interested in a single or asexual life. On the contrary, the sign is looking for a soul mate and will go about their life looking for such in whatever way seems the most tactical.
Aquarius gets lost in the romanticism of relationships. Aquarius has too high of ideals.
Gemini is born when everything outside is as it should be. The world is romantic and he naturally attracts romance.
Gemini gets why the flower dresses itself the way it does, Gemini understands why the sunlight hits the babbling brook, and why you need just the right amount of rain. Everything about that time of spring is alluring. Gemini harnesses that energy.
The Water Signs
All water signs are drawn to relationships. Scorpio is looking for an intimate, private, and passionate relationship. Pisces is on a journey to find true love. Cancer desperately wants to be understood, they want to nurture a family, and they want to give of themselves entirely.
Cancer is like the moon waiting for the sun's light to hit them. They have incredible emotional radars. They're also full of symbols related to duality, just like Gemini. Cancer believes relationships are essential for the longevity of a species.
- Cancer is represented by the hands. The hands themselves are all about duality. We also tend to release and hold our emotions in our hands, feet, and hips.
- Gemini is represented by the arms and shoulders. This too is all about duality. Geminis want to reach out and hold what's before them. Geminis know how to give perfect hugs.
Balancing the Relationship
Where Cancer is clingy, Gemini gives freedom. These are strange things for both, but also alluring. Cancer has never been told to be free. She always assumed she must merge with someone and never stand out as one whole person. Cancer may at first resist this kind of freedom and independence, but she does eventually take well to freedom.
Freedom allows Cancer to better understand and maneuver her emotions. Freedom helps prevent co-dependency, a trap water signs often set for themselves.
Gemini isn't used to someone clinging to them. It's nice to be wanted, albeit shocking. Usually people are too busy observing spring to actually embrace the season. People don't open their arms to hug the rain, nor cuddle the flowers, nor hold hands with sunlight. So Gemini finds it a little odd that Cancer takes things that extra mile—and even demands it so. Gemini has sunlight beaming off him, and Cancer is searching for that.
Gemini and Cancer on Romance
People they find amusing, lighthearted personalities, beauty, brains, happiness.
Those who accept them, those who need nurturing, those who accept weirdness.
Being alone, failure, never being understood, bullies, innocence robbed.
Disconnection, being abandoned, having no home, being forgotten, fake love, lies, betrayal.
Dates They Love
Gemini likes spontaneity. They're willing to take an hour long road trip for ice cream. They like variety, whimsy, and fun things. They're up for trying new things.
They want to go to the action. They like trendy things. They also like weird things. They want originality. They crave to be with people of a similar kind. They want to be seen with you and praised.
Mimicry, trying to make you laugh, following you, being close, long message threads. A Gemini in love is talkative.
Cooks a good meal, uses their body and hands, ups the makeup and grooming, smiles a lot, very warm, approaches you often, tries to make you laugh, uses a variety of moves. Cancers are natural flirts.
Tips to Make the Relationship Work
1. Gemini shouldn't try to explain Cancer's emotions in big and messy words. This will confuse Cancer. When Cancer is emotional, reach out to them. Don't use words and try to brush things away with logic. You need to be vulnerable with your Cancer.
2. Gemini, try to be concise. You automatically have a lot of words, and your sentences can get tangled. If you don't have enough time to edit your words and make sense to each other—try counseling. A mediator can help untangle Gemini's words so that they make sense to Cancer. A mediator can help prevent miscommunication.
3. Cancer has a tendency to get lost in interpretations and start making up crazy theories that don't actually work. Allow the Gemini to help clean this up and don't fear critique. Meditation would be good for this pairing and may prevent fights.
4. Gemini will start up projects randomly and not finish them. Cancer will take care of things that she sees left unfinished. The only problem? Gemini likes to start up projects for practicality, where Cancer is looking to nurture projects as if they are children. This can leave some blind spots in the relationship. You both need to work harder on items like chores, budgets, and goals. Do employ some structure and routine.
5. Try different things together and see what makes you happy. Sometimes you need to do things that make the other person happy, but that you might not understand.
6. Gemini can afford to be more vulnerable. The good thing about Cancer is they'll help you process and understand your emotions better. Cancer is nurturing, not arrogant.
7. Cancer can afford to put more of herself out there. Do not only rely on Gemini's skills and brain to get you through life. Speak your mind. Be independent. Don't live in Gemini's shadow even if you like to do so.
8. Gemini, be sweet to the Cancer. Cancer, be gentle to the Gemini.
9. Give each other assurance when possible. Both of you can feel like misfits in this world. Practice giving each other affirmations.
10. Study love languages and try to figure out what are yours. The most common ways people express love are: (1) through words of affirmation, (2) by giving gifts, (3) by spending time together, (4) by touch and intimacy, and (5) through acts of service, like doing chores and offering support.
Gemini and Cancer at a Quick Glance
May 21 - June 20
June 21 - July 22
Yin or Yang
Arms and Shoulders, the Nervous System
Hands, Emotional Centers
Energetic, whimsical, witty, studious, funny, unpredictable.
Nurturing, charming, creative, moody, indecisive, empathetic.
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© 2019 Andrea Lawrence
Rêveuse Consciente from Pakistan on September 26, 2019:
Interesting. Luckily I am a gemini and my brother and sister both are cancer and the chemistry between us is just amazing.