Updated date:

What the Gifts You Give Reveal About You

Margaret Minnicks has been writing for HubPages for a long time. She is an expert about a variety of subjects she writes about.


People give gifts to celebrate someone's birthday, wedding, retirement, and so many other things. Christmas is the occasion when most people give gifts to others at a set time.

Birthday gifts are given to individuals on their birthdays. Wedding gifts, retirement gifts, and graduation gifts are given only to a select number of people at different times. Mother's Day gifts are given only to mothers and mother figures in May. The same thing happens with fathers and father figures in June. However, Christmas is the only time when more gifts are given by more people on the same date.

Gifts say a lot about the giver, and it should convey how the giver esteems the receiver. It is better to give gifts that show you care and have put some thought into the selection.

Try Not to Give a Grab and Go Gift

Some people grab anything to give on special occasions. That's why some stores have gifts near the cashier so last-minute shoppers can grab and go. If you want to buy someone a gift from 7-Eleven or Wawa, it is fine if you have put some thought into it.

On the other hand, it lacks a lot of thought if you add a gift for someone you care about along with your purchase of gasoline or submarine sandwich.

Give What You Would Like to Get

A very good idea is to give a gift that you would like to receive yourself. For that reason, some people buy two gifts of the same thing. One is to give away to someone else, and one is to keep for themselves because they value the gift.


Gifts Not to Give

A survey was conducted and one person said she was offended when her sister gave her those little bottles and tubes of lotion and shampoo she had collected from hotels. The little bottles either had no brand name or the logo of the hotel that was there for advertising. It was obvious that no thought had been given for the gift selection.

Another person insisted that the scarf she has given her friend for her birthday in June was regifted to her for a Christmas present.

A third person was a little concerned when his friend gave him "goody bag gifts." Those were things he had received himself from conferences over the year. The gifts were conference materials that included ballpoint pens with company logos, notepads, and other samples.

The gift that offended one person was a photograph album that had been used by a previous owner. The album was dirty and photos were left in it from the previous owner,

Some people don't like receiving a fruitcake as a Christmas gift.

Some people don't like receiving a fruitcake as a Christmas gift.

Gift Suggestions

It should be easy to select the perfect gift when you know the recipient of your gift. If you have spent significant time with the person you know something about the person, including the person's likes and dislikes. It would not be welcomed gift if you give someone a fruitcake if you know he doesn't like fruitcakes. Besides, he might be a diabetic.

Think of the personality, likes, and dislikes of the person before giving a gift that would not be appreciated. Rather than giving someone an unappreciated gift, ask the person for some choices. It will still be a surprise because the person won't know which one on the list you will choose.

Kids do it all the time. They give their parents a list of items they want. Before computers, kids would search the catalogs and give their parents the page number that had a photo and a description of what they wanted. Today, companies have a "wish list" on their websites for what people really want as gifts.

Give the Gift That Keeps on Giving

There is one gift that keeps on giving after Christmas is over. It is the gift that came wrapped in flesh.

"In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God." (John 1:1)

"The Word became flesh and made his dwelling among us." (John 1:14)

The beauty of giving Jesus as the perfect gift is that you can give the gift away and still keep it for yourself.

Most people know that December 25 is the celebrated date of Jesus' birth. However, Jesus can and should be celebrated more often. Therefore, Christmas can last all year long when you keep Jesus in your heart as you give Him away to others.

You limit the wonder of Jesus when you say, "Jesus is the reason for the season" because Jesus is the reason for all seasons. Share Him with others, while also keeping Him for yourself.


Ed Jesuitas on November 30, 2019:

I love what you say about what our gifts convey how we esteem the receiver.

This season reminds us of how much love God has for us by giving us His Son, Jesus. The ultimate gift- eternal life with Him on His Kingdom!

Jason Behm from Cebu, Philippines on December 14, 2018:

You're welcome Margaret!!

Margaret Minnicks (author) from Richmond, VA on December 14, 2018:

Thanks, Jason! Merry Christmas to you and your family!

Jason Behm from Cebu, Philippines on December 14, 2018:

Now, I am thinking of what gift I could give that makes other give. I think it is something we do with love. And thanks for this wonderful article, a great gift. Merry Christmas Margaret!

Margaret Minnicks (author) from Richmond, VA on December 14, 2018:

Thanks for reading and commenting, Ellison. Blessings on you and your family during the holiday season.

Ellison Hartley from Maryland, USA on December 14, 2018:

With the hustle and bustle and all the decisions about what gifts to get for who during the holiday season, we need to remember the real reason for the holiday. How does that saying go"keep Christ in Christmas". Great article, thank you for sharing!