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Do You Know Where Your Spirit Goes During Sex?

Rev. Margaret Minnicks is an ordained Bible teacher. She writes many articles that are Bible lessons.


Throughout the Old Testament and the New Testament, there are many scriptures about sex and physical intimacy. People should not be surprised that God gave commands about those subjects.

Physical Act With Spiritual Results

Most people know sex is a physical activity when two people engage in intimacy. However, they might not know that it is also spiritual. As a physical act, the bodies are in a geographic location. As a spiritual act, the spirit goes to a place far beyond the bedroom.

There is no need to teach about the physical aspect of sex because most people know much about that topic already. What they might not know is intimacy has spiritual connections.


'Bone of Bones, Flesh of Flesh'

Genesis 2:23 describes what Adam understood about intimacy with his wife. He said she was "bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh." In essence, Adam was saying the wife God gave him was so close to him that she was like a bone in his own body and they were so connected that their flesh became merged during sexual encounters as if they were one person instead of two individuals.

Sex As a Spiritual Act

Dan Detzell, Pastor of Wellingspring Lutheran Church in Papillion, Nebraska explains in an article on The Christian Post website what happens to the soul when two bodies merge.

Detzell says, "Sex is more than just a physical act. There is also a deep spiritual aspect to sex." He was saying that whenever two bodies engage in sex, their souls also become united."

"Sex is more than just a physical act. There is also a deep spiritual aspect to sex."

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The Bible frowns on sex outside of marriage because of the spiritual connection that some people don't know about or simply ignore. Full attention should be given to both the physical and the spiritual results of intimacy. Unfortunately, in modern times, more attention is given to the physical and little or no attention is given to the spiritual aspect of sex.

Sex is a Gift Given to Married Couples

The Bible teaches that sex is a gift given to married couples. So, does that mean that it is not a gift for unmarried people who engage in the sexual act? Does it also mean that it is not a gift given to married people who engage in sex with someone they are not married to?

The answer to both of the above questions is the same. Sex is a gift from God that is only for people who are married to each other. God made it clear when He said, "Marriage should be honored by all and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral" (Hebrews 13.4).

It is a custom for married couples to get gifts on their wedding day. They might receive many gifts from family members, friends, and invited guests. However, the one gift that is overlooked is the one from God that keeps on giving throughout the marriage.

Fornication and Adultery Defined

Married couples will not be judged for their physical and spiritual acts of intimacy. However, unmarried people who engage in sex commit fornication. Married people who engage in sex outside of their own marriage commit adultery.

Fornication and adultery are forbidden by God, but that doesn't stop some people from abstaining from them.

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What Happens to the Spirit During Sex?

God sees all that happens during physical intimacy whether two people are married or unmarried. He approves of the gift He has given to married people. However, He frowns on the merging of two bodies and spirits of those who are not married to each other.

When married or unmarried people engage in sexual intimacy, their spirits connect not only with that particular person at the time but with every other person from past relationships.

Not many pastors or Christian counselors talk about the spirit during intimacy even though they do talk about physical consequences such as teenage pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases, and other negative things. Perhaps they should add the spiritual aspect to their discussions. If they did so maybe people would be more aware that when they engage in sex, it is just as much spiritual as it is physical. The physical pleasure is only temporary, but the spiritual aspect lasts so much longer.


Scriptures about Sex

The Bible contains a lot of scriptures that speak against sex before marriage, outside of marriage and in addition to one's own marriage. God says all those situations are sinful.

Here are just a few of the things God said.

1 Corinthians 7:2 - “But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband.”

Hebrews 13:4 - “Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.”

1 Thessalonians 4:3 - “For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality."

1 Corinthians 6:18 - “Flee from sexual immorality."

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.


Margaret Minnicks (author) from Richmond, VA on February 24, 2019:

Tim, I was reluctant to write this article, but God provoked me to do so. I hope others will receive it just as you did. I gave scriptures to go along with my topic: "What the Bible Says about Sex and Physical Intimacy."

Therefore, I am just the messenger and not the originator of the message.

Tim Truzy from U.S.A. on February 24, 2019:

Interesting, Margaret and relevant today and for all time. I remember reading a study that said people who committed adultery generally did not feel as emotionally satisfied as they did when they had sex with their spouses. The spiritual aspect of sex is often over looked and should be mentioned more by preachers as you point out. It's a powerful reason to avoid adultery and sex before marriage.

Thanks for a well written and informative article.



Ellison Hartley from Maryland, USA on February 23, 2019:

Interesting read. Another good article as usual!

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