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What the Bible Says About Relationships

Rev. Margaret Minnicks is an ordained Bible teacher. She writes many articles that are Bible lessons.


Relationship: Definition

A relationship is defined as the connection between two or more people. In order for a relationship to be formed, there must be some things in common. Two or more people must relate in some way. The more things people have in common, the deeper the relationship will be. If there is nothing to connect the people, then there is no relationship.

A relationship refers to the association, connection, interaction, and bond between two or more people. There are many different types of relationships because there are many ways to be connected to someone.


Different Types of Relationships


A family is a group of people who are connected through some form of kinship. They are related. That's why those people are called relatives. The relationship might have come about through blood, such as with parents, brothers, and sisters, A relationship could come about through marriage, such as non-blood aunts and uncles or step-parents. A family relationship could come about through adoption. We are adopted into the family of God. That's why we can say, "Abba, Father" just as Jesus did (Mark 8:36).


People have friends because they have something in common. Friends are different from family. We were born into a family without our consent. However, friends are our chosen family. They are the people we can trust, respect, care about and confide in. They are people we feel comfortable around. Friendship is a reciprocal relationship. Someone once said, "A friend is someone who knows all about you and loves you anyway."


Acquaintances are those people you are around a lot, but they are not your relatives or friends. They may be neighbors or co-workers. It is wonderful that some relationships start out as acquaintanceships. Over time, they evolve into lasting friendships.


Friendships can develop into romantic relationships. Some romantic relationships lead to marriages and families. These types of relationships are built on acceptance, love, respect, trust, support, and many shared interests.


How to Have a Genuine Relationship with Others

1. Follow the Golden Rule

There can never be a genuine relationship with someone unless both parties follow the Golden Rule as stated in Matthew 7:12. When people are in a relationship, they should strive for the best for everyone in the group. Everyone should respect the desires, feelings, and needs of others.

2. Live at Peace

People who are in a relationship want to live at peace with others. When they do so, they follow the command of Romans 12:18. "If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.” Peace is one of the spiritual gifts outlined in Galatians 5:22-23. When we are in any relationship, we need to do everything in our power to keep the peace.

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3. Be Gentle

Solomon and Paul who live thousand of years apart gave good advice for being in a relationship. Solomon encouraged people to be gentle with one another (Proverbs 15:1). Paul said the same thing in a different way. He encouraged people, “Do not be overcome by evil but overcome evil with good” Romans 12:21. Gentleness is another fruit of the Spirit.

4. Be Kind

Kindness is also a fruit of the Spirit. God shows us kindness, and He wants us to be kind to others. When we show kindness, we imitate God's love, compassion, grace, and mercy.

God Wants to Be in a Relationship With You

Having a relationship with God is the most important relationship a person could ever have. God was in a relationship with a lot of biblical people, such as Abraham, Moses, Samuel, and David. God wants an intimate relationship with all of His people. If there is not a solid relationship with God, there will never be a solid relationship with people.

God wants people to come to Him through His Son Jesus Christ. The resurrection of Jesus made that possible. We can have a personal relationship with God, not by anything we have done, but because of the redemptive work Jesus did on the cross. He paid the price for us to have a relationship with His Father. There is nothing else Jesus has to do, and certainly, the only thing we can do is to accept Jesus Christ as God's begotten Son (John 3:16).


Elijah A Alexander Jr from Washington DC on October 08, 2019:

That is very well said and referenced, Margret, but the Bible has an under lying relation with god that we generally miss because we only focus on the human relationships we know. We don't recognize the original relationship where man were ?Created? with provided in Genesis 1:16-29.

That relationship was before the concept of marriage that began with Adam and Eve so we generally "assume" there was marriage prior to them although IT DOESN'T READ THAT WAY. When looking at animals we find some are individual nomads, bears are one and snow leopards another, yet they reproduce. If we apply their lifestyle to Genesis 1s man we can see how civilization's relationships got started with Adam and Eve, which God intended for his purpose (but we will not get into that part).

The relationship man had was, as said in Spanish, "Solo Dios" meaning along with God until an ovulating girl sought a boy, and boys sought ovulating girls once they smelled her ovulating for procreating, after which, they went separate ways. Thus the mother provided a ground nest and gave birth to the child to which she constantly returned upon hearing "telepathically" that it was hungry or in danger. When the child learned to walk it followed the mother and ate what she ate and things it explored on its own. Taste was not a factor. After the child's "milk teeth" were replaced, age 12, it went its own way. That happened for the 1000 year seventh day is how it reads.

It is from that setting that the Adam and Eve story's individualizing family is formed. At a young age Adam never saw his mother - the voice in the garden - who unseen instructed him how to survive. After his adolescent years while observing the birds and animals for naming them he also noticed some lived in groups and mated that caused him to desire the same. Thus, the family relationship for woman - Adam renamed them both woman - began.

We can see, beginning with their children, the differences in us would not allow family life to prosper. So, when Christ came on the seen he instructed us to return to the "alone with God" state and called those of us who accept "Church" or called out from the world. Thus, God is the pastor of "the church" Jesus established and if we desire to be of that church we have to obey the teachings of Jesus over all other teachings in the Bible.

Patricia Scott from North Central Florida on October 08, 2019:

Very well relationships are with friends and family and my life is so enlarged because of them. I DO try to live at peace and in peace with them. Angels once again are headed your way ps

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