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The Scorpio Man-On Top Of His Gameplan Or Obsessive Control Freak-Hmmmmm!



The Scorpio man must always be IN CONTROL and is usually on THE TOP of his game.

The Scorpio man must always be IN CONTROL and is usually on THE TOP of his game.



The Scorpio man is extremely strong. He wants total control over the situation at hand. To him, control denotes strength and power. Strength and power are synonymous to respect. The WORST thing for the Scorpio man is NOT BEING IN CONTROL.

The Scorpio man is extremely strong. He wants total control over the situation at hand. To him, control denotes strength and power. Strength and power are synonymous to respect. The WORST thing for the Scorpio man is NOT BEING IN CONTROL.



No man is UTTERLY CONFIDENT and SO ASSURED like the Scorpio man.  He KNOWS who HE is.

No man is UTTERLY CONFIDENT and SO ASSURED like the Scorpio man. He KNOWS who HE is.


POWER is GOOD! YEEEAAAAHH- Either YOU are the MAN or a WUSSY BOY! Now, MAN Up, Bro!

Ah, the sun sign Scorpio. What a sign! Scorpio is quite an enigmatic sun sign. This sun sign is the sign of extremes. There is nothing lukewarm and/or in-between about the Scorpio person. Scorpios can be described as highly intense and passionate people.

Scorpios believe in giving a multillion percent in all that they do. In their words, either do it right or not at all! They do not believe in being half-hearted when they undertake any task. They also apply this zealous intensity to people.

Scorpios respect and greatly admire people who are unflinching in expressing their opinions. Even though people may disagree with them, they respect the latter more for being forthright. In the Scorpio mindset, it is far better for a person to assert his/her honest opinion in disagreement than to just agree to go along. That action is totally detestable to a Scorpio. The average Scorpio respects strength in a person.

Scorpio is known to be the strongest sun sign in the zodiac. Scorpios are supremely determined and resolute people. The word "no" and/or any type of negative thinking such as "can't" and/or "it's impossible" is not in the vocabulary of Scorpios. To them, such negative thinking and/or programming denote excuses.

In the lives of Scorpios, life is too short for excuses. They portend that in order to be fully self-actualized as people whether it is in career, life, and/or in other matters. There is no time for excuses in the life of a Scorpio. Excuses further means avoiding and/or taking responsibility and ownership of one's life. To them, excuses also indicate succumbing to one's fears and demons. They strongly believe in facing one's fears and moving on. After all, that makes a person more resilient in life!

Now, the Scorpio man. The Scorpio man exemplifies supreme self-confidence. No, not the outwardly showy self-confidence of the Leo man but a quiet inner knowing. While the former is extremely energized in letting the world know of his confidence, the latter has an awareness that speaks for itself.

The average Scorpio man has a self-confidence and self-knowing makes that Leo man seem like a schoolboy. He is quietly confident regarding his life. He also is quite comfortable with the word power.

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The Scorpio man is highly cognizant of the fact that power is an integral part of everyone's life in one way or another. Power, to him, is a political fact of life. In his estimation, everyone is involved in power either proactively or passively. In other words, one either is in charge of one's destiny and life or one is the object of them. There is no midway regarding this issue! There is no avoiding the issue of power. It is his assertion that one should understand the concept of power and to learn how to use it judiciously.

The Scorpio man strongly believes in power. Without it, he becomes vulnerable to other people and the other elements of life around him. One thing he did not ever want to be is vulnerable. To him, the worst thing in life is to be vulnerable. Being vulnerable is equated to be utterly powerless and at the mercy of others.

Since the Scorpio male has written the book on strength and power, the idea of being powerless is death. In fact, the Scorpio man has little or no respect for people who are powerless. He reasons that if one is a functioning person, he/she has the intellect to assess the situation at hand and make one's life the best that he/she possibly can. He also believes that it is only being intelligent, mature, and responsible that one is proactive in making his/her life worthwhile.

The Scorpio man contends that there is absolutely no excuse for a person not to take responsibility for his/her life. To him, it is quite disheartening that others give their power away to others, thinking that it is par for the course of their lives. He is also nonplussed that worse than the concept of people unthinkingly giving their power away to others is that still more people are either afraid of the word "power" or see that word in a very negative context.

To the Scorpio man, a person who is powerless is similar to being part of the living dead. He adamantly refuses to part of the living dead. He believes that so many people unknowingly and quite subconsciously meander mindlessly through their lives, making excuses instead of actually accomplishing and/or doing what they really wish to do! He sees the inanity of people who refuse to realize how powerful they actually are.

The Scorpio man is not afraid of power and being in control. Well, he reasons, why is it that more people are not that way. Oh no, he asserts, most people love to live a life of quiet desperation and yet wail, cry, and scream to high heaven when they are either taken advantage of and/or unappreciated by people. He will give no sympathy whatsoever for these people. Oh hell to the no!

The Scorpio male philosophy is well, when one is functioning normally, he/she should have the wherewithal to know how to be self-aware regarding the natural and human environment. It is more than irresponsible to expect others to take care of you. What are you thinking, man? Are you living in La La land or the real world? What is it, bro?

In the inimitable Scorpio male viewpoint, most people are not going to feel sorry and/or take care of you when you exhibit any form of defeat, vulnerability, and/or weakness. Oh no, they are either to devour emotionally, mentally, physically, and/or psychologically. You are more fodder if you elect to be vulnerable! In other words, the world is a jungle where people respect power/strength and the powerful/strong. The world is naked and tough and the strong and powerful always come in first and on top! Don't you forget that!

That also explains why the Scorpio man is also secretive! Secretive, well yeah! No, the Scorpio man strong portends, that no one is ever going to know his personal business and all of his inner secrets. There are some things that others will never know. Why? So they can know my inner essence. Oh no, the less people know about me, the better. The art of revelation is not in the gameplan of the Scorpio male.

In fact, the Scorpio man takes a dim view of those people who love to reveal themselves. The act of revelation to others actually makes one more vulnerable. To reiterate, he values his strength because strength equals what? Correct, power, you have learned the lesson of the day.

The Scorpio man instinctively knows that when one reveals too much, he/she becomes extremely vulnerable. Besides, people do not respect those who reveal too much! Sure, many people consider him to be quite standoffish and cold because he prefers to keep certain and/or most things to himself. So who care what those other people think about him? So be it- it is my secret and I will keep it- so buzz off and mind your own $%#@! business!

The Scorpio man loves control. Control denotes strength and ownership! To him, there is no other way of life. If others call him a control freak, so what! They would rather be a so-called control freak than to be at the mercy of other people and be totally owned. His philosophy is one has to be in charge of one's life and to let people know who he/she is. People respect such people and actually despise those refuse to take responsibility for their lives, using blame and excuses for not being the persons they were meant to be.

In summation, the name of the game for the Scorpio man is control, power, and strength. He portends that power is an integral part of everyone's lives whether it is acknowledged or not. He further assert that many people actually prefer to passively meander through life than to be acquainted with power and use it judiciously.

It is the Scorpio male philosophy that it is far better to be powerful and in control than to be its polar opposite-being powerless. That is equivalent to weakness. The very last thing he wants to be is weak When one exhibits any form of weakness, he/she is demolished in many ways. Furthermore, in his opinion, people actually despise weakness no matter how they state the opposite. So, his motto is to be ever in control. If that makes him a control freak, so what! He can live with it and sleep like a baby.

© 2012 Grace Marguerite Williams


mira on July 14, 2019:

met a scorpio guy during a course. thought we had hit it off. exchanging glances, him pulling me subtly through his moves so i ended up coming to him and we exchanged phone numbers. i had the promise in my heart that when i call him we can set a date and meet. i'm on fire to be with him. instead, he answered my call with a cold tone and told me he is not interested. never was anything between us. then he added he just came out of a relationship and is not ready for a new one. the conversation was short, almost business like. no feelings. he refused my proposal to seem him. i asked him passionately, he refused seeing me, and he stopped answering his calls since now 3 days. his personality when i met him was romantic, very subtle, attracted me. his personality over the phone is like a weird cold monster almost. i'm so confused that he is even able to change his personality like this.

Grace Marguerite Williams (author) from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York on September 05, 2014:

@ Misterhollywood, didn't know who Matt Bomer was. I checked and saw that he was a Libran so I removed the picture. I wanted authentically male Scorpians and replaced Mr. Bomer with a Scorpio. However, Mr. Bomer gave off Scorpio vibes with his looks.

John Hollywood from Hollywood, CA on September 04, 2014:

Great hub! Is Matt Bomer a Scorpio? His pic is here but I thought he was Libra?

jessica -a scorpio female on May 30, 2014:

Im a Scorpio female and my boyfriend is a Scorpio as well. We understand each other quite well and have a lot of the same personality traits and .....well our sex life is smoking hot! I don't know what I would do without him he's so much a part of me.

Scorpio/Libra Cusp on May 20, 2014:

About time there was not a copy and paste of a Scorpio male. Now to those who are not Scorpios I say this. Most peop

Grace Marguerite Williams (author) from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York on September 20, 2013:

Yes, in the near future. Thank you for stopping by.

Justsilvie on September 20, 2013:

Interesting! Going to do one for us Scorpio Women?

Don on May 18, 2013:

The "Control Freak" is often misunderstood..I have no problem stepping back if my partner and I both share the same hope, dreams and goals.

When I do step up and take "control" never bothers her because she knows that I always have her best interest at heart. Most people will let a person have control if they know their interest is a priority as well..

Grace Marguerite Williams (author) from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York on March 21, 2013:

Thank you for stopping by, dashingscorpio. You are always welcome to stop by.

dashingscorpio from Chicago on March 21, 2013:

Well you know I had to vote this hub up and awesome too! :-)

Being a Scorpion I must say that the only real control I insist upon are (my) choices and decisions. Everyone is entitled to live life on their own terms. Unfortunately some people have a need to control others or attempt to get them to change. A Scorpio man is like the 4 seasons. You don't change the seasons. They're already (set). You learn to work with the seasons. :-)

My motto is:

"The world may not owe you anything but you owe yourself the world!"

It's your life. Take the wheel!

larabebo on September 21, 2012:

can someone please answer my post, thank you :)

Grace Marguerite Williams (author) from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York on September 18, 2012:

Excellent point made. Inspired me to write a hub on the evolved Scorpio.

Real Scorpio on September 18, 2012:

Control freak and emotionally manipulative. That's Scorpio for you. The stuff in this post is just a front that Scorpio uses to cover up his vulnerabilities. He's not really in control, at least not as much as he'd like the rest of us to believe. He's scared that the rest of the human race will find out that he's got weaknesses, so what does he do? He preys on the vulnerabilities and feelings of others instead.

There's no excuse for being a control freak who doesn't respect the rights and feelings of others. This thirst for control stems from somewhere ... but Scorpio is so secretive, he'd rather die than admit he's got insecurities like the rest of us. It takes a fully evolved Scorpio to admit who he truly is and rise above his negative traits.

,,, on August 31, 2012:

I wonder why should thes enegative traits be tolerated just because of astrological sign?? Is there an excuse : oh, he's a Scorpio, so that's fine, let him be a control freak!

TammanyB on July 16, 2012:

I have just began seeing a scorpio man; and by far he is the most interesting I have come across ( of the star signs) he definitely hold a deep dark passionate streak that haunts me in a romantic sense. however being the sagi I am ... control and having the power is a problem. I am free spirit and can't be boxed in - so we shall see what this combination holds! Thanks for the info!

Grace Marguerite Williams (author) from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York on July 15, 2012:

Thank you for your comments and response!

Bredavies on July 15, 2012:

Interesting. My boyfriend is a scorpio. Good insight. This does sound a lot like him. haha

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