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The Moderator and a “Public” Forum

Holding degrees in philosophy and Law. Formal studies or certificates or degrees in business, theology, insurance and security. Ex-preacher.

Grandma Tam Loves

Grandmas don't moderate their love.

Grandmas don't moderate their love.

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Now I do not write for a living. I live to write. Sure my children and all the rest of family are there also. As is nature and my God. I like some “things” but not many. Love animals also. But I do write at least a thousand words a day and often five times that. Poetry to a brief for a person on death row. Fiction and not so much fiction story telling. I write a sermon of sorts and have a large congregation of sorts.

I am moderated in all my writing except for the thousands and thousands of papers not published and moderated between me and my Lord.

Now my wife and son just got in her car and honked at me to clean the windows of that wonderful contraption, that I care for like a baby. Her car is spanking brand new and mine is called burro and way over fifteen years of age – a mere adolescent. Well it is over one hundred degrees Fahrenheit here today so the boy and mom sat in the air conditioned car and watched the washing of windows on the coach.

To add to my misery they moderated and commentated on everything I did. (Of course I lie, if I fail to admit it was quite funny and fun.) But the point is that I even got moderated on washing windshields. And don’t even get me started on how a sixty something has to moderate diet – Yikes!

If variety is the spice of life then moderation is the hell.

But I wish there were more moderators/moderationalists in religious and political debate. Note that I say debate not writing of thoughts. Thought should never be moderated and if we do it to ourselves that is not cool. But if we do it with friends and colleagues and family that is acceptable in my view. Some folks take it real bad when you openly disagree with them, especially in religion and politics. Add legal issues to that also. Like court decisions or lawyers in general who argue against our beliefs, well formed or informed or not.

Is moderating just a form of censorship? I think we can answer that easily as; it can be. On this writing forum it pretty much is not except when it is. I can deal with that. In this case it helps me structure my writing and that is alright. Crazy people like me need a little structure.

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When you write a legal position paper it is not moderated. It is ruled upon. Big difference, it is a pass or fail grading system. You win or you lose. Same with mountain/rock climbing. No one moderates. Make a mistake and toodles to you. We could include such matters as Sailing, parachuting or down hill skiing at 80 mph. I mention those as, thank God I passed. Sometimes waking up the next morning is a fine moderator, at least in your head.

Did I mention that I am chief bottle washer, floor care specialist and shoeshine boy extraordinaire? I learned all trades under the strict moderation of my mother. At twelve I realized not to do it for her. Do it for the sake of doing it right and well. Maybe my dad taught me that years earlier and I only got it at twelve when time and time again, it “was not good enough”. Hoorah for moms pushing us to do better. And for dads to teach us to be our own judges.

Now where was I. Oh yes, cleaning and caring for floors. I just killed it. I kicked the little rascal and his mother out. Better they not see the makings of sausage. One more go at it I declared to myself not seeing a shine on the kitchen floor. I don’t need no stinkin moderator to question the cleanliness of my floor. Don’t get me wrong. Between cleaning I am a slob. I cannot do that OCD stuff. Boring.

My mom had a plaque that read “this house is clean enough to be healthy, and casual enough to be friendly”. That is all the moderation I need in life, thank you mom.

So this idea of censorship either internal or external constantly has me worried. Really I do worry about some things. Just in moderation. For more reasons than you can shake a stick at, I censor myself. I know, I know, just plain silly. Check it out, I moderate and censor my thoughts. “Oh my Eric you have to be positive and loving or it is bad”. What a grog of warm piss. I don’t need a second guesser in my head. If I am mad as hell just moderate yourself and leave if you do not like it. Strange on that, if I don’t get mad at something or someone my wife is mad at, I definitely can’t leave the room so I better moderate and get mad. Some things are better left mysteries.

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Did you know that if you commit libel on an unmoderated forum it is all on you? If your content is someone else’s and they moderated it to control content it is on them also. Yes if you are a content provider, moderator and editor you are on the hook just as much as the writer. Defamation is a bitch.

All the versions of the Bible are moderated. Copyright requires a certain level of difference from a previous work, so all copyrighted Bibles have to be in some way substantially different. Now go read your fourth edition KJV and say it is the Word but the Lutheran Bible is not. Moderation makes us wonder at truth as opposed to the expediency of the publisher. Public forums are not evil per se but they have their issues.

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Should we moderate our feelings. Shrinks say to do that. I am admittedly crazy. Should I moderate my craziness? Yes. No need to go around making people upset. But should I moderate it when it is just my writing implement and me? Me thinks not my dears.

You my friends are captured by moderation. Get over it. If you want to write what is truly in your heart then get that heart right. If you write vitriolic hate then expect it back. If you write from the heart and it is pleasing to others so be it.

Let me attack a controversial concept. “If you support that guy and what he stands for, I hate you.” No really!! This is normal these days. You might just do it. I pray for you. If you hate our politicians so much that you censor the love in you, you are lost. Oh great people that we love and adore, can seep contempt and not love. Oh the big; I love this and that. But some of my best friends cannot write opinions without ragging on one side or the other. That is not love. Joe is liberal so he hates conservatives. Well ain’t that just dandy. Good for Joe. But keep him the hell out of my home. Jane is conservative so she mocks and makes fun of the other point of view, well Jane is not welcome on my doorstep and neither are you if you act same.

I have a wonderful friend who generally writes quite well. But allow him one inch of his political opinion and he will speak ill of others with other opinions. That is a societal illness. A loving man speaking ill of another for whatever reason needs some guidance back to love. If that is you, well get mad at me and do not look inside.

I run long here, shame on me. I should moderate length better. Please never moderate your love.


Eric Dierker (author) from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A. on October 12, 2020:

Denise I thank you for your comment. I am compelled nowadays to watch the diet. Childhood obesity is an issue. So with my ten year old we make it a team effort. Boy o Boy do we want some ice cream! ;-)

Denise McGill from Fresno CA on October 10, 2020:

I have to admit I don't like the modification I've had to put on my own appetite since I turned 60. I love to eat. Well, it shows, too. You have a thought-provoking one today.



Eric Dierker (author) from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A. on October 08, 2020:

Lorna I have long held that apathy is the opposite of love, not hate. And indifference is the same. Thanks for your comment.

Lorna Lamon on October 08, 2020:

My Gran used to say to me "everything in moderation", and if you cannot say something kind, say nothing. However, if you feel strongly enough about something it can be difficult to moderate your views. I think it's better to find a balance which brings harmony and inner peace, just as long as we don't become indifferent. Love of course is the great equaliser and as you say Eric should never be moderated. Great choice of music - summed it up for me.

Eric Dierker (author) from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A. on October 08, 2020:

Thank you Dora, that is perfect for me today.

Eric Dierker (author) from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A. on October 08, 2020:

Jacob I am pleased you found it of interest.

Dora Weithers from The Caribbean on October 08, 2020:

This prayer found in an English 17th century church came to mind: "Lord, Thou knowest I am growing older. Keep me from becoming talkative and possessed with the idea that I must express myself on every subject." Seems like its okay even for the moderator to say little or nothing sometimes.

Jacob from Delhi, India on October 05, 2020:

I like your writing style. It gives more information about you. Thanks.

Eric Dierker (author) from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A. on October 04, 2020:

Thank you Don. Yes indeed, I chose moderation -- it seems like a statement to bring us into focusing on the matter. I think moderating is more correct. Verb or thing?

Don I really like you as a friend. And I would love to hear a sermon from you on moderating? As you can see I am still confused.

Don Bobbitt from Ruskin Florida on October 04, 2020:

Eric - I love your rambling dissertation on this thing called moderation (or is it moderating?).

Anyway, I think we, of the older generation, are some of the few who still understand the subtleties of using this powerful word.

I can moderate a debate (most of mine were in Bars when I was in the Navy).

I can be moderate and just sip on a glass of wine when my wife and I go out to dinner.

I can be the moderate voice in a room full of people having an argument.

Hell, I can even preach a decent sermon on living a life of moderation.

But! My attempts to live a moderate life, avoiding extremes of opinion and thought are doomed to be far too boring for a man of my age and disposition!

Anyway,I enjoyed your article. Keep them coming!


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