Tamarajo is an avid Bible Studier who loves nothing more than to seek out the treasures in God's Word and share them with others.
Experiences inspired this article in my journey of discovering the eternal love of God that set me free. This particular piece will discuss how God considers His daughters precious and valuable.
These experiences were written and arranged to be used at a women's conference that our church hosted. It was primarily addressed to a female audience. But I do not wish nor intend to alienate male readers. There are biblical principles that apply to all that can be gleaned from this message and might give male readers some insight into the vulnerabilities and needs of the females around them.
This study will follow the next portion of Scripture.
Kings’ daughters are among Your honorable women; At Your right hand stands the queen in gold from Ophir. Listen, O daughter, Consider and incline your ear; Forget your own people also, and your father’s house; So the King will greatly desire your beauty; Because He is your Lord, worship Him. And the daughter of Tyre will come with a gift; The rich among the people will seek your favor. The royal daughter is all glorious within the palace Her clothing is woven with gold. She shall be brought to the King in robes of many colors; The virgins, her companions who follow her, shall be brought to You. With gladness and rejoicing they shall be brought; They shall enter the King’s palace.
— Psalm 45:9-15
One of the most significant challenges of women sometimes is to believe that they are loved. Many of us have spent a good portion of our lives attempting to convince ourselves that we are truly loved through the dramatics of our relationships.
I have concluded on this leg of my journey that true eternal, everlasting love can only be realized through a relationship with our Father in Heaven through His Son Jesus Christ.
Some of us have entered into that relationship but have not truly comprehended our positions as King's Daughters and have not truly captured the emotional depth of His love. The following is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning this.
. . . that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith; that you, being rooted and grounded in love,may be able to comprehend with all the saints what is the width and length and depth and height— to know the love of Christ which passes knowledge; that you may be filled with all the fullness of God.
— Ephesians 3:17
This lesson will take an in-depth look at worship and how who and what we worship determines the esteem we receive and experience.
"the worth and excellency of a soul is to be measured by the object of its love."
— Henry Scougal
"We are most satisfied when we seek God's pleasure above our own, and we gradually become conformed to what we most love and admire."
— Kenneth Boa "Conformed to His Image"
Who Is In Control?
"Because He is your Lord, Worship Him"
Worship is not only thanking, praising, and singing to the Lord. Although worship does include these elements, worship, more importantly, includes these questions:
- Who have you given the privilege of assigning your value and worth?
- Who or what dictates your conclusions about life and yourself?
- Whose voice do you incline your ear too?
- Whose opinion do you most consider?
- What thoughts, ideas, and experiences have you held in such high regard that they have exalted themselves above what the word of God says about you?
The answers to these questions will reveal who or what you worship.
A Biblical example of what we sometimes do in our desperation and need:
. . . she said, ‘I will go after my lovers, Who give me my bread and my water (food - body inside), My wool and my linen ( clothing - body outside), My oil and my drink (soul considerations).’
— Hosea 2:5
For she did not know That I gave her grain, new wine, and oil, And multiplied her silver and gold Which they prepared for Baal.
— Hosea 2:8
Gomer was the name of Hosea's unfaithful wife in the portion of Scripture mentioned above. Her name means "complete" and "no deficiency" according to "Strong's Concordance" I believe it was Gomer's core desire to feel complete and satisfied.
Pica is a medical condition where people crave non-nutritive substances such as laundry soap, paint, or even dirt. There are nutrient deficiencies in people who have this condition. There is a legitimate need, but the sources from which one obtains them can be deadly.
The places where we go to satisfy our souls apart from God in our spiritual pica would be considered our other lovers and can be equally deadly to our spiritual and natural lives.
The things Gomer (Hosea's wife) sought, after all, represent temporary satisfaction of her design and making. God says, "because she did not know that I gave her what she needed."
- grain (physical needs)
- new wine (soul needs)
- oil (spiritual needs)
Notice that she makes herself her own God when she says, "I will" Sometimes, we want to be in the control seat. None of us want to be perceived as controlling, but that is what we do when we entrust ourselves to our own conclusions and decisions. We want to be our own gods because we do not trust that He is enough or do it satisfactorily. We cannot obtain eternal happiness in our own ways.
If you are waiting for your husband to convince you that you are valuable, or your career to shout praises of notoriety, or your friends to affirm your sense of belonging, or your circumstances to determine your level of comfort, you will surely be disappointed. God here wishes to be the most influential factor in your life. He wants to shape, form, and mold the image you have of yourself as seen through His eyes and established with His thoughts.
"As followers of Jesus, we must look beyond people, things, and circumstances to meet our needs. All of these are unstable and inadequate, and if we depend on them, we will fail. Moving in the direction of the flesh will not meet our needs; at best it can only provide a deceptive facade of security and significance. Instead, we must dare to believe that if everything else is taken away, our God is enough. This does not minimize the fact that there will be pain when relationships break down and when failure and rejection occur. These things are painful, but they will not destroy us when we derive our self-image from God rather than people. From an ultimate standpoint, we are loved, we are significant, and we are competent, but only in Him and only in the plan to which He calls us."
— Kenneth Boa "Conformed to His Image"3
Our sense of security and belonging is found in Him alone, where they cannot be manipulated by others' thoughts, opinions, and behaviors. As long as our satisfaction is dependent on others, the devil can lead us around by the nose. He cannot do that when our eyes are firmly fixed on Jesus, the author and finisher of our faith. (Heb 12:2)
For the LORD is great and greatly to be praised; He is to be feared above all gods. For all the gods of the peoples are idols, But the LORD made the heavens. Honor and majesty are before Him; Strength and beauty are in His sanctuary.
Give to the LORD, O families of the peoples, Give to the LORD glory and strength. Give to the LORD the glory due His name; Bring an offering, and come into His courts. Oh, worship the LORD in the beauty of holiness! Tremble before Him, all the earth.
— Psalm 96:4-9
The word "glory' in this verse means "weighty." How much weight are we giving the living Words that God is speaking to our hearts compared to the other messages that we have allowed to bear more weight than the words of God?
He is asking us to place Him and His thoughts towards us on the scales of our consideration and allow His thoughts to tip the scales in favor of the weightiness of His love for us.
This passage says to fear Him. To fear Him means to be so enamored with Him that we fear no other. We live in a culture where we measure ourselves and compare ourselves with others. Our greatest fear is public humiliation rather than fearing or caring what God thinks of us.
We can consider these "other gods," how much time do we spend fashioning and forming thoughts fantasies in our hearts and minds of things or situations we think will satisfy? The Old Testament uses a very literal example of constructing and fashioning idols to suit the people's needs, which seems ridiculous to us. Still, we do the very same thing in our hearts when we imagine someone or something else coming to our rescue.
Fuschia Pickett, in her book "Worship Him," quotes:
"The Old English spelling of the word (worship) is worthship, which aptly conveys the idea that the one to whom we show honor has worth. Worship is not and arrogant demand of God toward His creatures: it is rather the natural response from grateful hearts that comprehend the infinite worthship of God." 1
God does not ask us to give Him glory and strength because He lacks these qualities, and He is not asking us to boost His ego so He can feel better about Himself because of our adoration. He asks us to give Him glory and strength in our souls because for Him to show Himself strong on our behalf. He must have our permission to do so. When our souls acknowledge these qualities and worship Him, He is granted permission to bear the weight of His goodness on our hearts, souls, and lives. We give Him room to move.
For the eyes of the Lord run to and fro throughout the whole earth, to show Himself strong on behalf of those whose heart is loyal to Him.
— II Chronicles 16:9
Sometimes we give God only minutes to convince us of His truths. In contrast, we provide our thoughts free rein for hours in our imaginations, replaying and rehearsing the wrongs committed against us, our misdeeds, and our limited conclusions of what it all means about us. He asks us to devote to Him the same amount of energy, time, and devotion to His thoughts. He desires to be Lord and have a dominant influence over our lives, feelings, actions, and reactions based on truth and His infinite wisdom and understanding.
“Ho! Everyone who thirsts, Come to the waters; And you who have no money, Come, buy and eat. Yes, come, buy wine (joy and peace) and milk (nurture and satisfaction) Without money and without price. Why do you spend money for what is not bread, And your wages for what does not satisfy? Listen carefully to Me, and eat what is good, And let your soul delight itself in abundance. Incline your ear, and come to Me. Hear, and your soul shall live; And I will make an everlasting covenant with you— The sure mercies of David.
— Isaiah 55:1-3
How do we buy this wine (joy and peace) and milk (nurture and satisfaction) without money?
"Listen carefully to Me, and eat what is good, And let your soul delight itself in abundance.3 Incline your ear, and come to Me."
— Isaiah 55:2
Jean Karau, my Bible Study teacher of twenty years, once told us that we buy these things with our ears and attention. These keywords for listening are the same keywords used in Psalm 45 passage we are studying.
What or who we choose to listen to, and who we decide to run to, is so profoundly relevant to the grasping of what it is we are looking for. I would further say that it is more about who we are looking for because once we find God, we discover what we are looking for.
Our biggest problem is that if we aren't feeling it, it must not be so. Feelings are important, but they were never intended to sit on the throne of our hearts and dictate or govern every thought, decision, and behavior. Nor were our feelings intended to decide what is true or false. They are simply indicators of what is going on in our hearts.
Let me explain an example of the purpose and position of our emotions, as seen through the Old Testament Tabernacle, which is a type and picture of ourselves as a temple of God and His intentions on how He can dwell there. Of course, Jesus is our first example of how this works, and everything in the Tabernacle speaks of Him, but I would like to look at it from a personal perspective.
Tabernacle arrangement of Furniture as it Relates to Our Emotions
Before the High Priest could enter the Holy of Holies (the place where God dwells), there were a few pit stops he had to make. First and foremost was the outer court, where the rituals representing the forgiveness of sin took place. The first is establishing a relationship with Christ through the forgiveness of sin by the sacrifice of Christ.
Next, the High Priest would enter the inner court, where there were three significant pieces of furniture. The first one was the table of bread, and it represented the will. Next, there was the lampstand table, which represented the mind, and lastly, it was the altar of incense, which represented the emotions. Our soul consists of three parts the mind, the will, and the emotions.
The High Priest was instructed to visit these tables in a specific order. Visiting the table of bread (the will) indicates that we are to make a decision first. Who are we going to follow? To whom are we going to listen? Next, he visited the candlestick table (mind), meaning that once we have made a decision, we order our thoughts in that direction. Lastly, before entering into God's presence was the altar of incense (emotions), suggesting that what we have decided and think can now be responded to. Emotions are subject to the decisions made and the thought processes that go along with it.
Most of us have misused the machine God intended for good by running to the altar of incense (emotions) first and allow our minds to be persuaded by them and then make foolish decisions based upon them. It is backward for sure. Consulting our feelings for the truth about life is dangerous.
Our feelings are beautiful and precious, but they are not reliable guides in life. God gave them to us that we might respond to the truth, not dictate it. We should view our negative feelings as indicators that there is a place in our hearts that have is unsurrendered to the dictates of His love.
This point is where our cooperation takes place.
Shake yourself from the dust, arise; Sit down, O Jerusalem! Loose yourself from the bonds of your neck, O captive daughter of Zion!
— Isaiah 52:2
We have learned to see ourselves as victims, and before knowing Jesus, we indeed were victims of our circumstances and to the enemy who hates us. Stasi Eldredge, in her book Captivating, alludes to the enemy's desire to destroy us from the time we are born because we represent the beauty of God, which he once had and because he knows the power we contain under the Lordship of Jesus. God is asking us here to rise out of the dust and take our positions as daughters of the King and no longer remain a victim.
The word "dust" symbolizes humiliation, feelings of insignificance, inferiority, and rejection. The prophet tells us to rise out of these things and shake them off to sit down and take our positions.
Our position and privilege of being a king's daughter are one of authority.
Behold, I give you the authority to trample on serpents and scorpions, and over all the power of the enemy, and nothing shall by any means hurt you.
— Luke 10:19
He has given us His name.
If you ask anything in My name, I will do it.
— John 14:14
He has given us His Word.
If you abide in Me, and My words abide in you, you will ask what you desire, and it shall be done for you.
— John 15:7
He has given us the power of the Holy Spirit.
But the Helper, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in My name, He will teach you all things, and bring to your remembrance all things that I said to you.
— John 14:26
. . . that we might take every thought captive and bring it under the obedience to God's truth.
. . . casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ,
— II Corinthians 10:5
We do not wage war with human plans and methods. We use God's mighty weapons to knock down strongholds (thought patterns and soul trenches), which keep us from knowing God and His great love.
For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places.
— Ephesians 6:12
A Lesson From Esther
In the book of Esther, the evil Haman issues a decree to destroy and annihilate the Jewish people. Haman's issue is very much like the enemy has issued his decrees against us. When "Queen" Esther discovers this, she sets out to seek the Lord in the matter through fasting and prayer. Her next order of business is to expose the enemy. We must reveal who the real enemy is. It is not flesh and blood. After this, she attempts to change the decree, but she can't because it is already out there, and once the King decrees something, it cannot be changed, but what he tells her is this. She has the authority to issue a new decree that people can fight for their rightful positions. A new decree has been published, and we have the right to procure our positions through our relationship with Jesus; we are new creatures in Christ and destined for new and better futures. We need to seek the Lord, expose the enemy, and issue the new decrees. Hallelujah!!
In wrapping up this section on worship, I would like to share a little insight concerning past pain and unforgiveness.
Unforgiveness can be a form of worship, believe it or not. Unforgiveness is granting someone or an event the privilege of occupying territory in our soul. It is the beginning seeds of hatred that will eventually take root in forms of bitterness that will wrap tendrils of hostile venom that grip around every corner of our soul and make a path for it to seep into our conversations, attitudes, and behavior. It will affect all that we do, all that we think, and inevitably end up sharing it with whomever we come into contact with.
. . . looking carefully lest anyone fall short of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up cause trouble, and by this many become defiled;
— Hebrews 12:15
It is the same process of how love is supposed to work. God wants His love to occupy the territory of our soul in such a way that it fills every corner of our being. He wants His love to seep out into our conversations, attitudes, and behaviors and affect everything we do and think. He wants the result to be that we inevitably share it with whomever we come into contact with. It is all about who we worship.
It is normal to feel pain from being injured by another. It turns to worship when we exalt the power of that person to influence how we think, behave, and feel about ourselves. Not to mention, we become what we behold most intently. We become what we worship. (Psalm 135:18)
There may have been events in our lives that may have shaken us to the core. I believe that God affords us the privilege of pouring our hearts and our pain before Him. He allows time for grieving and processing things. But there comes a time when He asks us what we are going to do with it. We must ask ourselves, are we going to carry a pack full of lies with us for the rest of our lives concerning it, or are we going to take our pain to the master physician and seek His healing and apply His truths to our souls.
"We honor God when we allow Him to define us and tell us who we are regardless of our feelings or experiences to the contrary"
— Kenneth Boa "Conformed to His Image"
(1)*"Worship Him" by Fuchsia Pickett, Th.D., D.D. Published by Creation House copyright 2000
(2)*"Captivating" by John and Stasi Eldredge published by Nelson Books copyright 2005
(3) *"Conformed to His Image" by Kenneth Boa Zondervan Publishing Copyright 2001
© 2011 Tamarajo
Tamarajo (author) on June 13, 2011:
Hi Skye So pleasant to hear from you as always. I am glad that you were blessed and refreshed by the message of the joy and freedom of worshiping Him alone.
I thank you very much for your compliments and encouraging comments I am always blessed by them.
No rush to read the posts. Hubs are more fun to read when we have the time to read them more leisurely.
Thank you again for your visit and encouraging me with Phil> 4:13
Your such a blessing Skye : )
skye2day from Rocky Mountains on June 13, 2011:
SISTER Blessings. Me oh my I so loved your writing. I latched on to my seat because it flowed like the fresh water of Jesus Christ. You my sis have a beautiful heart for God and have an anointing for sharing truth in a transparent heartfelt loving genuine nature. I just love you. I am so grateful the Lord led me to your path. You will never know how much I have received from your works. I have tears now of joy. God is so cool and so amazing. He is our lifeline. I am grateful. I make the rounds and I am sure you now the time it can take so when you do not see me please know I will be here, soon. You my precious gem keep on in Christ. U will Phip 4:13. One day soon the Lord will return. I believe we will know each other. Praise God. All Glory to the King of Kings. I will be back Hugs galore.
Tamarajo (author) on May 09, 2011:
Agreed cristina, our crimes against each other can never compare to the crimes we have committed against Him. I think that is what makes forgiveness difficult for many people they really dont realize the greatness from which they have been forgiven.
My hopes in the series was to help those who had become stuck with mind sets derived from past issues to overcome through God's healing love and forgiveness. That our places of origin are insignificant in comparison to the love that heals and restores and makes all things new. He is the best parent ever and there is no need nor room for unforgiveness or bitterness of any kind for He is all we need He is all sufficient. There is no need to hang on to past issues in Him.
Thank you for stopping by and for your insightful comment.
Cristina Santander from Manila on May 09, 2011:
Great hub which presents great thoughts to ponder on. As christians there should be no room for resentments in our hearts for we have received much forgiveness from our loving God. A true christian has seen how greatly is he forgiven by God that he is not willing to withhold forgiveness. Thank you for sharing these timeless truths in this hub. Blessings to you and your family. Best regards.
Tamarajo (author) on April 22, 2011:
Great additional insight Betty liked your examples including T.V. always looking for something to fill the void that only one can fill.
loved your quote:
"when worship is an ever present banquet table that delights and satisfies every time"
Thank you so much for your visit and insightful comment.
Betty Johansen on April 22, 2011:
Wow, pica is such an apt analogy! We are all so prone to suffer from spiritual pica. It's sad how we go scrabbling after scraps - like TV, drugs, etc. - when worship is an ever present banquet table that delights and satisfies every time.
A beautiful, powerful hub!
Tamarajo (author) on April 16, 2011:
I so agree. No body What you wrote reminds me of the Proverbs 31 woman". A woman who fears the Lord she shall be praised"
Worsip really is about knowing Him and valuing Him and as you wrote that spontaneous response of love back to Him. It is bowing to Him and no other
I so super appreciate the male support and encouragement on these hubs.
Blessed by your visit, and insightful comment
Robert E Smith from Rochester, New York on April 16, 2011:
I love the quote about "worthship". So many times I see illustrations while looking for pictures for written articles that show God looking like a miserable Charleton Heston demanding some outlandish thing like "worship me or I'll kill you" or some such thing. I get so tired of people's audacity and ignorant posturings. Worship is spontanious and if one didn't, the worshipper would feel as if they would explode from the inside where the love boils. As far as the way I feel when I see a genuine worshipping woman, I as a man can feel the power of her worshipping heart. There is absolutely nothing more beautiful in my mind than a woman whose heart loves God.
Tamarajo (author) on April 15, 2011:
Amen Friend of Truth. What we give the majority of our time, thoughts, energy and emotion too is really what we worship. God has the power to influence us in exponential ways that far out weigh any negative experience we would or could have if we would give ourselves to Him that deeply and intensely.
I appreciate your visit and thoughtful comment.
FriendofTruth from Michigan on April 15, 2011:
I loved how you pointed out that we spend hours reflecting on the wrongs that have happened to us, and how we think with our emotions and feelings rather than spending that time in thinking about God and on who He is...this is so true. We have to pay attention to our thoughts, put them under the obedience of the Word, and think on Him. And spend our time worshipping Him, there is such great release of peace when we do that.
Tamarajo (author) on April 13, 2011:
Thank you Voice. It took many years and experiences for these truths to be revealed and there are times when the process goes on. I think the Biblical word for it is sanctification where we are being cleansed and set apart for Him and Him alone. It is my prayer that many women would begin that journey and the process of being cleansed of the things that are preventing them from seeing the image of God in them and living the purposeful life He made for them .
I appreciate your visit and your always encouraging comment.
You are a blessing to me.t
VOICE CIW on April 13, 2011:
Sister Tamarajo, God bless you, this hub is truly a work of art, blessed of the Lord. You are truly gifted of God. Each part of The King's Daughter gets better and better, and this one I believe is better than the others, which is really something, because the others were powerful also. Stay blessed, I love you in the Lord.
Tamarajo (author) on April 13, 2011:
Amen Dave I so agree we are the other half of you (men) we definetely can work in concert with one another when we have Jesus as the Lord of us as individual. A Godly relationship where God is worshipped and first can make for a pretty spectacular team.
Thank you for your support, visit, and encouraging comment Dave.
Dave Mathews from NORTH YORK,ONTARIO,CANADA on April 13, 2011:
Thank you for this beautiful hub. God created woman to work beside man. One compliments the other. They were both instructed to work the land and to be keepers of all.
Tamarajo (author) on April 12, 2011:
Amen lifegate. we really need no other reason. I like how the emphasis in this verse is "because He is your Lord" We tend to make so many other things and people Lord. We bow before so many unworthy things and ones.
About the arrangement of the furniture. This is one of the many reasons why I so love the Old Testament. Jesus and the sacrifice He made is everywhere in it. We tend to think of the New Testament being all about Jesus and the Old not but they really do go together and Jesus is just as much a part of the Old as He is in the New. He is the one who was and is and is to come.
Blessed by your visit, affirmation, and additional insight.
Tamarajo (author) on April 12, 2011:
Thank you Faye for visiting and for your encouragement. blessed to have you stop by.
William Kovacic from Pleasant Gap, PA on April 12, 2011:
"Because He is your Lord, Worship Him"--What other reason do we need. I especially liked the questions that go with that section. They're very telling. I also never stopped to think about the arrangement of furniture in the tabernacle as representing a cross. Thanks!
Benny Faye Ashton Douglass from Gold Canyon, Arizona on April 11, 2011:
Thank you Tamarajo, for a thought provoking and informative hub. Thank you for sharing,. Godspeed. creativeone59