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Right and Wrong Ways to Deal with Hurts

Rev. Margaret Minnicks is an ordained Bible teacher. She writes many articles that are Bible lessons.


Sometimes when people are hurt, they react in various ways. Some of the ways bring more harm than good. This article provides guidelines to help people deal with the hurts imposed on them whether the hurt was the result of their own wrong choices or by no fault of their own.

The tips are based on only one scripture. According to Psalm 23:5.

"Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies: thou anointest my head with oil; my cup runneth over."

That one scripture will help you handle your hurts.

Something About Psalm 23

Psalm 23 is a psalm of David. It is perhaps the most familiar of the 150 psalms. A lot of people know the entire psalm by heart because they have heard it read often at funerals and to bring comfort to grieving families as well as having heard it on many other occasions.

This particular psalm of only six verses can be read at any time to bring you comfort when have been hurt by someone. Psalm 23:5 speaks to that issue.

There might be many different ways to handle your hurts. There are right ways and wrong ways. Below are five wrong ways followed by three right ways to handle hurts.

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Wrong Ways to Handle Hurts

  1. Don't ignore your hurt and pretend it doesn't exist. One of the worst things you can do is to ignore your hurt and hope it will go away on its own. We often think that it isn't real, but it is and not realizing the reality of it will probably make it worse.
  2. Don't run from your hurt. You can never outrun your hurt because you carry it with you wherever you go. You might think you have overcome the hurt, but on the inside, you are still hurting. When you run from your hurt, you might end up running to something even more devastating. People who run from their hurts sometimes run to alcohol, drugs, sex, overeating, shopping, or something else that in the long run compounds the hurt.
  3. Stop hiding your hurt. Many times people hide their hurts and try to cover up how they feel. They think others don't know what is going on. Those closest to you will know something is bothering you, but they might not know exactly what it is. Don't put your family and friends in that predicament of trying to figure out what's wrong with you. The truth of the matter is that hiding your hurts won't heal our hurts.
  4. Stop living with your hurts. Sometimes your hurt has been a part of you for so long that you have learned to live with it. God doesn't want anyone to live with a hurt. That's because "hurt people hurt people." Hurts should not be put on the back burner. They should be handled instead of being something you vow to live with.
  5. Don't become bitter about your hurt. The worst way to deal with your hurt is to become bitter about it. Being bitter never makes anything better. Bitterness is never the right way to deal with a hurt.

Now you know five wrong ways to deal with your hurt, let's examine three right ways to deal with your hurt.

Right Ways to Handle Hurts

  1. Know that Jesus will protect you. David in Psalm 23 acknowledged that the Lord is his shepherd. He could make that perfect analogy because he grew up tending sheep. Therefore, when he was hurt by his enemies, he saw himself as a sheep being protected by the shepherd. We can say like David, "The Lord is my shepherd."
  2. Give Jesus permission to heal you. According to Psalm 23:5, the shepherd knew exactly what to do to soothe the sheep when they had been attacked by animals or by other sheep. The shepherd put oil on the heads of the sheep to soothe and to heal them and to keep flies out of their wool. Let Jesus put oil on your head to keep the flies from biting you and from attracting other flies by the blood they leave behind. People who are already hurt will attract other hurtful situations in their lives. Let Jesus anoint your head with oil to keep enemies away from you.
  3. Let Jesus bless you and keep you. When you are hurt, the worst thing you can do is try to get revenge on someone who has hurt you. Instead, let Jesus handle your hurt. Stay close to the shepherd so He can replace your hurt with hope. If you let Him, He will make your life overflow with good things.
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Margaret Minnicks (author) from Richmond, VA on March 29, 2018:

Thanks, Eric. The advice is for me as well as for my readers!

Eric Dierker from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A. on March 29, 2018:

Good advice

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