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Compatibility for Cancer and Scorpio
A Cancer and Scorpio relationship is automatically wild, passionate, and serious. Both Cancer and Scorpio are water signs. They have similar strengths and weaknesses.
Cancer is the 4th sign of the zodiac and Scorpio is the 8th. Cancers are born in the beginning of summer, and Scorpios are born in the middle of fall. These two are passionate. They love creativity, they're drawn to relationships, they have wild beliefs, and their moods change on a dime.
Cancer in a Nutshell
Cancer women and men will sacrifice anything for those they love. These sweethearts are born to nurture.
- Cancers make for great parents. They make great partners for those wanting to build a family.
- Cancers are natural flirts. They're known for their charisma. Flirting with a Scorpio is a piece of cake.
- They are focused on survival and maintaining relationships. They change their minds rapidly to be agreeable.
- Cancers can be loyal to the point that they're codependent.
- Cancers struggle to find alone time.
Scorpio in a Nutshell
Scorpios are driven, complex, passionate, loyal, and slightly insane. They're often misunderstood. They're sometimes compared to demons or vampires.
- Scorpios make for serious and intense partners. They give 100% to their relationships. They don't understand taking things slow.
- Scorpios demand loyalty from those they date. They get jealous easily.
- They're good at attracting mates.
- They're cunning, curious, and rebellious. They're driven to succeed. They want a successful career and a successful romantic life.
- They're dirty-minded. They're influenced by the root chakra and the planet Mars, which is known for competition, aggression, and raw instinct.
Most Signs Have 1 Symbol; Scorpio Has 3
Scorpio deals with life in three stages: the snake, the scorpion, and the phoenix.
An immature Scorpio slides on the ground as the snake. He slithers around looking for his prey. He eats whatever is left on the ground; he survives off crumbs and bugs. He bites at the heels of his enemies.
Snakes are vicious predators, and so are Scorpios. Snakes are selfish, cold-blooded, cruel, and meant to be feared.
Eventually, Scorpio evolves into the scorpion. He develops legs and is ready to strike at the heel with a stinger. He might love his partner, but he can still be pretty mean and petty. He might emotionally harm his partner as a test to see if they're loyal. This is toxic behavior and shouldn't be condoned.
At long last, the Scorpio reaches his highest level of maturity. He evolves into the phoenix. The mythical bird of flames is highly sacrificial. It surrenders to love. It is the embodiment of selflessness and grace. A mature Scorpio would take a bullet for his partner.
Scorpio has several evolutions in his lifetime because he is existential. He is constantly thinking about death. In the snake and scorpion stages, he hasn't accepted death. He wants to fight against fate. In his phoenix stage, he not only accepts death but transcends it.
Fundamentals of a Cancer and Scorpio Relationship
Listen to Your Intuition
Cancer needs to listen to her gut. She needs to have a clear idea of what she wants and to fight for it.
If Cancer isn't taking note of herself, she'll fall for Scorpio's traps. She'll be easily manipulated. She may end up doing things she doesn't really want to do.
Cancer can mimic the way Scorpio thinks, which he'll find oddly appealing. Scorpio is ultimately looking for someone who will merge with him into one person, one unit, one body, one spirit. For many, this is overbearing and cloying. Cancer, as a water sign, will find Scorpio's intensity fascinating.
Scorpio is looking for an extremely loyal partner. If he says jump, he expects you to jump. Scorpio wants you to embrace love and not fear it. Scorpio can't stand a lukewarm romance. If things are boring, slow, or tepid the Scorpio will jet.
There are some important takeaways here:
- Cancer needs to stand up for herself. She is not a pushover.
- Scorpio needs to stop controlling Cancer. Stop trying to meld your partner into what you want.
- Scorpio wants heat in a relationship. They seek out steam.
Both of these signs will do well to be slow to anger and quick to love. Cancer has as many moods as the seasons, the changing of the hours, the changing of the tides, and the phases of the moon. Scorpio can go as deep and dark as the Mariana Trench. His emotions can also soar like the eagle to the tallest mountain. Two moody people can have a passionate romance or a string of heated fights.
This pair will need to balance out emotions for a healthy relationship. Don't let impulses drive everything; sometimes you need to slow down and think things through. Be willing to process your emotions and not just bury them. Throwing temper tantrums isn't a great problem-solving tactic. Look for better solutions.
With such a rich range of emotions, these two will definitely connect on many levels. You both should feel comfortable expressing yourselves, particularly Cancer who often feels oppressed in relationships. Scorpio either gives 100% of their heart in the beginning, or they'll take longer to open up. They sometimes struggle to come out of their "loner mode."
Don't Be Manipulative, Scorpio
Scorpio is passionate and has expectations about the bedroom. Cancer needs to make sure she knows her boundaries. She isn't just some malleable pillow to play with.
Scorpios are passionate about life, they're intense about people, they have deeply held beliefs, and they can seduce just about anyone they please. They're known as manipulators. They don't always know what to do with people once they catch them. They may say they know how to handle those people, but they're lying. So they'll toss those people back into the ocean where they found them.
Sometimes. . . Scorpio Can't Take a Joke
Scorpio is serious. Sometimes too serious. They are excellent at focusing on money and building mountains of it. They know about deeply profound issues in society and either want to do something about it. . . or literally can't be bothered.
Cancer Wants to Please
Cancer cares about raising children and being kind to younger people. Cancer is also looking for a romantic partner they can nurture. She likes to take care of someone she loves. She wants to dote on you. For some partners, this could be cloying. But not for Scorpio. His ego will love the flattery he gets from Cancer.
Scorpio will be drawn to Cancer's charms, artistic ways, and bizarre yet non-threatening mind.
What Scares Scorpio
Scorpio gets spooked by Aquarius-like qualities. He finds the air sign too mentally cutting. He feels on edge around air signs. He doesn't like to be one-upped, especially in the mind.
Cancer isn't like Aquarius. Cancer is melancholy, sweet, and gracious when it comes to Scorpio's mistakes. However, no one blows up like a Cancer. You piss off a Cancer, and you'll never hear the end of it. If you piss off a Scorpio, you might want to put yourself in the witness protection program. Scorpio is prone to revenge. Cancer is more like dynamite. They explode. Then they drown you in the way they feel.
- Scorpio is more prone to making a revenge plan than other signs.
- Scorpio will make a plan to rescue someone they love.
- If ignored, Cancer may explode.
- Cancer will make her pains known. She will make you feel her pain.
Scorpios Don't Always Evolve
Scorpio will deeply honor those that he loves, but he also has to learn how to properly love. Unfortunately, Scorpios are not guaranteed to evolve into the phoenix. Some will stay snakes. Some will get stuck as scorpions. Only some will be mythical birds. Others will hold onto the phoenix stage for a brief moment.
I don’t advise people to date immature Scorpios. You’ll waste your time if you hope they’ll improve themselves. You need to make sure you’re with a mature Scorpio before things get too serious.
- They'll be incredibly dirty-minded.
- They'll neglect your feelings.
- They'll focus entirely on their career.
- They'll cheat on you.
- They'll make you feel bad about yourself.
Just because you are charmed by a Scorpio doesn't mean the Scorpio is actually ready for a relationship. They love to flirt, but when it comes to a commitment, they can take their time.
Signs of a Mature Scorpio
- Listens to you carefully and shows it.
- Slow to anger and quick to love. They're forgiving.
- They don't abandon you or leave you in the cold. They fight for the relationship, not for their ego.
- They have healthy routines: a sleep schedule, a good dietary plan, healthy friendships, good self-care.
Cancer + Scorpio
June 21 - July 22
October 23 - November 21
Yin or Yang
Moody, Sensitive, Creative, Nurturing, Introspective, Charming
Passionate, Brooding, Curious, Cunning, Serious, Dedicated
Tips for Cancer and Scorpio
1. Don't Become Addicted to Anger
Don't summon a demon lord together. Find peace and equanimity. Do not become barbarians. Be diplomatic, not warring Vikings.
2. Loyalty Goes Both Ways
Don't expect your partner to be 100% committed and loyal if you can't offer that yourself. Do strive to be loyal.
3. Don't Make Your Arguments Public
You two can be explosive. It is better to talk about your problems in private. Don't make a big scene in public. Don't try to win people to your side. Don't get overly passionate in your arguments. Slow your anger.
4. Make an Effort to Talk about Your Feelings
You two have a strong psychic connection. Because of this sometimes you don't talk about things. Don't always rely on your intuition. Talk and make things clear. Communicate instead of playing guessing games.
5. Cancer Needs to do Something Else besides Sitting on the Couch and Talking
Scorpio prizes intimacy and privacy. This can lead to a series of dates on his couch. This might be nice to foster alone time, but relationships also need more dynamic dates than this. Go to museums, go to nice restaurants, fly a kite. Do something besides sitting on a couch and watching TV.
6. Have Your Own Separate Friends
You need separate identities. Even if you are both water signs and love to merge everything, you still need to have your own separate friends, interests, and the like.
7. Don't Intentionally Push Each Other's Buttons
Water signs can have some toxic behavior: like showing off wounds or creating wounds. Don't try to rile up your person's ego for fun. Don't try to create drama for fun.
8. Scorpio: Take Cancer Seriously When They're Upset
Listen carefully. Take notes. Don't ignore their emotions. Be sensitive.
9. Don't Make Bigger Deals out of Things than Necessary.
Sometimes all you need is a good rest or some food. Be patient with each other.
10. Compromise Is Your Friend
Scorpio is the more stubborn one in this relationship. Cancer is fairly flexible. Sometimes Scorpio needs to bend a little and sometimes Cancer needs to stand up for herself.
This content reflects the personal opinions of the author. It is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and should not be substituted for impartial fact or advice in legal, political, or personal matters.
© 2019 Andrea Lawrence
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on August 04, 2019:
Be careful of the foes. Treat them with love.
Jacqueline Williamson BBA MPA MS from Memphis on July 27, 2019:
Very interesting points, being a Cancer myself with an Aries rising. I have a fierce protective nature that is extremely self-preserving. I also prefer knowledge and logic as weapons against my foes and lovers!