Rev. Margaret Minnicks is an ordained Bible teacher. She writes many articles that are Bible lessons.
It is one of the basic human desires to fit in with others because we are social beings. That's why there are certain groups and cliques in high school and college. That's why there are neighborhood organizations and different committees at your workplace and church.
There are large groups of people at these places that separate into smaller groups with people who fit in. However, some people get left out and might feel bad because they don't fit into the group, club, committee or other division from the bigger group.
If you have found that you are the last one picked to play on a sports team or to be on a certain committee, it means you don't fit in. So, is that a bad thing? Let's see!
There are reasons some people don't fit in.
1. Lack of Interest
Sometimes people don't fit in because they don't want to. They are not interested in being with a group of people who have invited them to join. This happens often in colleges with sororities and fraternities. Some students refuse to join because they don't agree with the mission and goals of the organization.
It is not always that people don't want a certain person in the group or on the team, the individual just doesn't have the interest to join and their demeanor shows it.
2. Not a Good Match
Some people know from the very beginning that they are not a good match for some organizations. Therefore, they are not quick to jump on the bandwagon just because everybody else is doing it. They know what their goals are, and they work toward those goals without fitting into someone else's mold.
3. You Know What Works for You
You are an individual with your own personal tastes, desires, goals, and plans for the future that others don't have. You know you are different from others in those respects. You also know that certain people don’t really get you and others don't accept you for who you really are.
4. You Don't Want to Be Controlled
Fitting in with some groups means being controlled by the group. There is nothing wrong with compromises and getting along with people. However, when people begin to control you just to get you to stay in and do whatever they recommend, then red flags should go up.
Sometimes fitting in comes with a price that is too high for some people to pay. Therefore, they play it safe by staying on the perimeters without being part of a group that is going to strip them of their dignity.
There is nothing wrong with fitting in if that is what you want. There is nothing wrong with not fitting in if that is what you want for your own life. Therefore, rejoice if you don't fit in.
Not Fitting In Is a Blessing
You don’t have to give up your free will and live in somebody else's world. Sometimes parents, other family members, bosses, colleagues, and friends try to make you conform to the world they want for you when God has so much more for you.
When you fit in with a crowd, you become like everyone else. You use the same buzz words. You keep the same agenda. Worst of all, you do things to please others even when you don't want to do so. You can avoid all of those things when you accept the fact that you don't fit in and you don't need to fit in. In fact, it is a blessing not to fit in.
There have been inventors and people who have made a difference in the world because they did not fit in with the crowds around them. This is a much better place because they stayed in their basement working on something that changed the world.
Be different. You don't have to fit in to fulfill your purpose for which you were created. People who don't fit in know deep down inside they were meant to be an agent of change in the world. They don't fit in because there’s something more important they need to do, and they can't do it in a group hanging out at the mall or going on shopping trips or doing multiple things people do together.
There is an adverse side to not fitting in. People are going to call you names and try to make you feel bad because you are brave enough to stay outside the circle. They will try to make you feel small just because you have a mind of your own. Not wanting you to be part of their group may actually be your greatest blessing.
Aren't You Glad?
Aren't you glad that Thomas Edison kept working on the invention of the electric light instead of running around with the in-crowd? Edison tested more than 6,000 possible materials in his Menlo Park, New Jersey residence until he found something that worked. If he had not been dedicated to what he was doing we might be walking around in the dark today or using kerosene lamps.
Aren't you glad that so many other inventors and people who discovered products and services for us to live a better life didn't give up until they made the world a better place to live?
Count your many blessings that you are able to live comfortably without fitting in. Often we try "to fit in" when God wants us "to stand out."
Quotes About Fitting In
"Don't force yourself to fit in where you don't belong."
"How can you stand out when you work so hard to fit in?"
"Don't worry about fitting in because you are custom made."
Margaret Minnicks (author) from Richmond, VA on September 05, 2019:
RTalloni, your comments are so true. I love the way you express yourself. Keep doing what you are doing. Many blessings to you!
RTalloni on September 05, 2019:
This is a neat discussion about fitting in. As a Christian, God's Word tells me to be in the world but not of the world. Some takes on the instruction only serve to confuse, but it is a simple concept. Once a believer understands what they are called to, beginning with agreeing with the why and how behind the command to glorify God in our hearts, minds, and lives, we can prayerfully study His Word to learn what He has to say about fitting in. Being strict with ourselves, and generously praying for others, lovingly sharing His Word with them are all included in His instruction to believers.
James C Moore from Joliet, IL on August 24, 2019:
I don't know if I stand out or stick out, but either way I don't fit in. Enjoyed your article.
Margaret Minnicks (author) from Richmond, VA on July 13, 2019:
firstname.lastname@example.org, thanks for reading and commenting. What you said is exactly right including the 1 Corinthians 2:14 scripture.
email@example.com from upstate, NY on July 13, 2019:
One of my pastor's favorite saying's is that,
"even a dead fish can go with the flow!"
To be a Christian is to be a leader that goes in a direction opposite to that of the world's system.
1 Cor 2:14 The person without the Spirit does not accept the things that come from the Spirit of God but considers them foolishness, and cannot understand them because they are discerned only through the Spirit.
Jackie Mickey on July 11, 2019:
Thanks for this article I have tried for years to "fit in" and always felt like an outsider. The harder I worked on fitting in the more I felt left out. Now I am at peace with the knowledge that I am different and do not need to fit in I just need to be me and keep my eye on the destination that has been set before me.
Lincy Francis from Allahabad on July 10, 2019:
Very true. We don't need to fit in. We have our own kingly style meant only for prince and princesses of God.
Margaret Minnicks (author) from Richmond, VA on July 08, 2019:
WOW, Readmikenow! That is exactly what God revealed to me during the writing of this article. Therefore, your comment is a great confirmation to the goal I wanted to achieve.
Jason, thanks for reading and saying you enjoyed reading my article all the way in the Philippines. That makes my heart very glad!
Readmikenow on July 08, 2019:
During a dark day during my growing up years, a man listened when I told him how I felt I would never fit it. He told me that every great person in this world never fit it. He said everyone from Albert Einstein to Gandhi and others didn't fit into society, they were leaders and taught society. He told me to consider maybe I was a leader and not fitting could benefit me. It really meant a lot to me. Good article. Enjoyed reading it.
Jason Behm from Cebu, Philippines on July 08, 2019:
I like this topic. It encourages someone to celebrate who and what they are.