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Holy Scripture for Anger Management

Former university professor of marketing and communications, Sallie is an independent publisher and marketing communications consultant.


Romans 12: 19-21: “Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath; for it is written Vengeance is mine, I will repay, saith the Lord. Therefore, if thine enemy hunger, feed him; if he thirst, give him drink: for in so doing thou shalt reap coals of fire on his head. Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good.”

The Bible teaches us, in Ephesians 4:31, "Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice. And, in Proverbs 22:24-25, we are taught that we should “Make no friendship with an angry man; and with a furious man thou shalt not go: Lest thou learn his ways, and get a snare to thy soul.” Maybe that makes it easier to understand why rational-minded people always know to steer clear of people who don’t know or haven’t learned how to control their anger.

The Bible also teaches us to replace bitterness and rage with kindness and compassion. It tells us it is always best to calm the desire to engage in verbal wars with a desire to forgive others, so that you too can receive forgiveness. If it’s true that anger resides in the lap of fools, then wouldn’t it be foolish to respond to anger with anger? Or to respond to anyone or anything that comes against you in a way that will make your body, your earthly domicile of your spirit, the house of the foolish?


Manage Anger Using Advice From God's Instruction Manual

Psalm 145:8:The LORD is gracious, and full of compassion; slow to anger, and of great mercy.”

It is much better to be quick to listen and slow to speak, because time heals all wounds. That means sometimes the only difference between doing the right thing and making a colossal mistake is taking a few seconds or a few minutes to calm down. Allowing time to pass before responding to someone or something that provokes anger is more likely to bring about a good and godly response. Acting quickly out of anger usually does not produce righteous results.


Simple and Free Anger-Management Techniques

Ecclesiastes 7:9: Be not hasty in thy spirit to be angry: for anger resteth in the bosom of fools.

You are going to have to learn how to think beyond whatever it is that made your anger rise. Focusing on the catalyst will only serve as fuel to the fire that is already raging inside of you. Instead of focusing on what made you angry, concentrate on taking your focus off the catalyst. Instead, allow positive words, positive self-talk to take over in your mind.

Being angry and upset can wreak havoc on your body, you must do your best to calm yourself down. Arrest any and all hostile thoughts. Don't entertain any type of retribution, payback, or retaliation. Instead, think of ways to calm down. Look at online videos of rain or waterfalls. Do whatever you need to do to find, in your mind, your most calm, relaxing place. Talk yourself back in from the ledge. Become engaged in positive self-talk while also doing deep breathing exercises (doing this has helped me calm down many times). Work smart to relax your mind and your body. Think of yourself as offering calmness to your nerves and to your cardiovascular systems.

Do not turn to substances (such as drugs or alcohol) to help you. You don't want to trade one problem for another problem. No. Finding/discovering calm is something you need to do without any help from any chemical substances. The solution you find needs to be all you and only you, or else it will not be a solution that will work in the long term.

Get away from the source. If need be, take a walk, either inside--on a treadmill, or outside, in a park or a part of town you know to be safe. The combination of physical activity and taking yourself away from who or what incited your anger should help to calm you down. If you don't want to or cannot take a walk, find some other type of activity you can become involved in. Household duties make good anger-salving chores. When I am angry, cleaning a room or two usually calms me down so much, once I am admiring the results of my work, I usually cannot remember what it was that made me angry!

Remember, it is normal to become angry from time to time. Anger is a legitimate emotion that can serve a useful purpose, as long as you control it and use it to gain a positive outcome (such as a clean house, burning off of calories, and a renewed mind that is filled with positive self-talk).

© 2012 Sallie B Middlebrook PhD


Sallie B Middlebrook PhD (author) from Texas, USA on May 02, 2014:

Thank you manatita44 for the visit and for your comments. Compassion and mercy, as you mentioned, are indeed noble virtues. Wouldn't it be wonderful if everyone would take some time, today, just to think about how these two virtues--when put into practice every day, could change (and save) a lot of lives? For the Givers, and the Receivers.

manatita44 from london on May 02, 2014:

Compassion, mercy ... so happy that you are mentioning these noble virtues.

Sallie B Middlebrook PhD (author) from Texas, USA on May 06, 2012:

Thank you Ercramer36. I agree, and I'll add that I think prayer is a powerful answer to just about anything. : )

Sallie B Middlebrook PhD (author) from Texas, USA on May 06, 2012:

I am so glad to hear that, Chris Neal. It is always good to know that something you felt inspired to write has helped someone in some way. May the prayer continue to bless you, because it has no expiration date! Thanks so much.

Sallie B Middlebrook PhD (author) from Texas, USA on May 06, 2012:

Thank you so much, all.

Eric Cramer from Chicagoland on May 05, 2012:

Great topic! Prayer is a powerful answer to anger.

Chris Neal from Fishers, IN on May 05, 2012:

This is beautiful! And so timely, this has to be from God that I saw this as I have been feeling the weight of anger and negativity lately. Thank you and bless you!

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