There are a million and one instances that can and do drastically change a person's life. Not just their life, but their opinions, their feelings, their entire being is affected and must adjust to a foreign version of themselves that may be better, or worse.
An important note:
- Do not resist a change that is inevitable.
- Do not hang on to your former self because it is all you've ever known or needed.
- Let your past be your past and your future be new and fresh.
Life changing events always have two things that come with them; one, expectations, two, fear which coincides with self-doubt. Expectations are unavoidable. If you want results, you can't help but to have them. The important thing you need to complement those expectations, is an open mind. Sometimes you will have to be forgiving, understanding, or willing to adapt to a new and unfamiliar situation.
The fear is generally the tougher of the two complements to overcome. No one is usually open to admitting they're afraid and have no idea what they're doing. They try to compensate for what they feel they lack by completely backing down from a new situation, or by over doing it and reaching the other extreme.
Fear can be overcome. Think of what it's like when you fall backwards out of a chair. You freak out, startled by something unexpected, yet, are fine once you hit the floor. Once you've fallen from the chair you have learned and become more aware causing you to find assurance and confidence that you can and will better assess and handle the situation if it were to happen again. Experience, trial and error, and the strength to get up when knocked down are the secrets to overcoming fear. Funny thing though, fear can be overcome by expectation of its presence as well.
Life goes on with or without your permission. Life changing experiences are like a reset button that should be taken advantage of.
Whether it be a new job, promotion, divorce, big move, new love, marriage, or new baby, embrace the opportunity. Take it all in a piece at a time rather than swallowing it whole. Most of all, know you can handle it, and give all you've got, heart, mind, and soul.
Amy (author) from Chicago on September 13, 2010:
Poetvix, thank you so much I'm glad you enjoyed this one. I look forward to a new post from you soon!
poetvix from Gone from Texas but still in the south. Surrounded by God's country. on September 12, 2010:
Great message! I like the way you look at things and write them in an open, honest fashion. Way to go!
Amy (author) from Chicago on September 12, 2010:
Thank you both for your comments. I genuinely do believe that fear is an obstacle and can at the same time be an excuse for our resistance to change sometimes. My point is only that you have to overcome it to enjoy the pleasures that can come from a good change.
Pamela Lipscomb from Charlotte, North Carolina on September 12, 2010:
Great food for thought! I don't do well with change. I like that status quo, even if it is not pleasant. Fear prevents people for embracing change and being open to new beginnings. New beginnings are not necessarily a body thing.
Nater28 on September 11, 2010:
Truer words were never spoken. Life is always changing, and every change is an opportunity, even the changes that seem horrible are just opportunities in disguise. When my life drasticaly changed a couple years ago I never could have imagined that this is where it would take me. And though at one time I never thought I would say this but Im glad it happened, in fact I dare say it may have been the best thing to ever happen to me.