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Young Mormon Girls Who Know Who They Are - Know What They Want and Know How to Get It!

LDS Girls Have High Standards that They are Committed to Living!

LDS girls know the importance of choosing good friends that will help strengthen and support their standards and values.

LDS girls know the importance of choosing good friends that will help strengthen and support their standards and values.

LDS Girls Who Know Who They Are... Ultimately Make Great Choices!

All three of my daughters are LDS girls who have come to know for themselves - the importance of eternal families...

All three of my daughters are LDS girls who have come to know for themselves - the importance of eternal families...

About LDS Girls - Who They Are - and Why That Matters?

LDS girls belong to The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. LDS is short for Latter-day Saint. LDS girls are also referred to as LDS Young Women, or even cute Mormon girls.

So there you have it.... all the ways in which LDS girls can be known. But to them, when referring to themselves, they are just average girls who also just happen to be LDS... girls.

Now, when I say that an LDS girl belongs to the the LDS Church, of course I am referring to her membership. I am not saying that she is either owned or controlled by the Mormons. In fact, contrary to popular belief, LDS girls are extremely independent young women.

I raised three girls who today - are active LDS Girls. I can assure you, that not one of my daughters has ever been nor ever would be controlled by another person, entity or philosophy. I am proud to say that I believe this independence was actually fostered because of the teachings of the Church -- whereas many who do not understand LDS teachings, would think it to be just the opposite.

An LDS girl who knows who she is - is synonymous with independence!

LDS Girls Have Learned the Importance of Choice and Accountablility

LDS girls know that what they choose today - has a profound inpact on their future...

LDS girls know that what they choose today - has a profound inpact on their future...

LDS Girls Know that Prayer Leads to Making Good Choices.

"There has come to you as your birthright something beautiful and sacred and divine. Never forget that. Your Eternal Father is the great Master of the universe. He rules over all, but He also will listen to your prayers as His daughter and hear you as you speak with Him. He will answer your prayers. He will not leave you alone."

Gordon B. Hinckley, "Stay on the High Road," Ensign, May 2004,

What Do LDS Girls Know - About What They Want?

One of the first things LDS parents teach their children, is the power of choice and accountability. From the earliest age possible these principle are at the very foundation of all other teachings in the LDS Church. By the time an LDS girl reaches the teen years she is more than well versed and experienced in understanding the power of the choices she is making in her own personal life.

Alongside of teaching LDS youth the importance of them making their own choices in life, and being accountable for these choices - is a deep understanding of the benefits of making those good choices.

Really, this is basic math:

  • When we make a good choice in life, the return from this good choice -- is that our potential for happiness immediately increase.

LDS girls know exactly what that means in terms of how to create a life that will bring happiness and joy to them, not only now - but for future happiness as well.

LDS girls have come to understand the value of focusing personally - in becoming the best person that they can be, and how when doing so will add to the quality of their lives, in every circumstance. LDS girls choose to follow Jesus Christ and His example of how they should live.

LDS Girls Have an Understanding of their Relationship with Jesus Christ.

LDS Young Women Know That They Are Daughters of God.

LDS Young Women Know That They Are Daughters of God.

LDS Girls Know That They are Loved by a Kind Heavenly Father.

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LDS Girls are Firm and Steadfast in Striving to Live Righteous Lives.

LDS girls understand the value of keeping the commandments of God, in order to obtain the greatest happiness in life.

These young women, have been taught how to recognize the consequences of life, according to the choices that individuals have made. As these LDS young women have more and more opportunities themselves, to make important decisions, these positive results are re-inforced.

Are LDS girls perfect? LOL No way! In fact, LDS girls have a great challenge, in exercising faith in the teachings of the Gospel of Jesus Christ each and every day. This is one of the things that I personally love most about LDS girls... their faithfulness.

LDS girls exercise faith in Jesus Christ and His teachings - to find peace in life. The world is loud. The popular trends of the day are powerfully persuasive and most teenagers today - are swept away by the marketing of these trends and philosophies.

LDS girls are certainly not immune to falling prey to the popular trends of today in things like; fashion, music, t.v. programs, movies, dating, consumerism, etc... But, as they strive to maintain the values that are taught by parents and also within the LDS Church - of modesty and a modest lifestyle - they are continually monitoring themselves according to these high standards.

In this way - LDS girls utilize a strong moral compass by which their lives can be guided -- if they choose:-) So, we come back to choice and how this affects and directs individual lives. Choice implies more than one way to go... so LDS girls look to the Savior for that best way.

LDS Girls Have a Firm Foundation of Understanding Eternal Family.

LDS girls have come to understand, that how they live their lives here upon the earth, will have everything to do with their happiness not only now, but also after this life.

Developing strong relationships within the family, with this eternal perspective - helps LDS girls to maintain focus in their personal lives, as they make choices everyday. As these young women mature, they utilize this skill of making good choices - to ensure positive results now, and for their future happiness.

When referring to LDS girls, we can easily apply this term to LDS young women from the earliest teen years - up into their twenties and until the time they are married. However, my husband often refers to me as a "girl". Therefore, even I - like to consider myself an LDS girl - still. LOL

I note this age span, only to make the point that this learning process of becoming responsible for our choices, acting upon these choices and learning the power of choice -- for all LDS girls, is a process that they work on each day of their lives.

Family relationships, from an eternal perspective -- are what form the firm foundation of which all LDS girls and young women place an emphasis on maintaining and building. LDS girls know, that the choices that they make each day of who to associate with - will have a significant impact on most other decisions that come their way.

Choosing good friends, with similar values, during the teen years for all LDS teens, become one of the most important factors, in helping Mormon youth choose the right - and remaining focused on eternal goals.

LDS Girls --- Young Women Theme

Just recently, the value of VIRTUE, was added to this list...

Just recently, the value of VIRTUE, was added to this list...

President Thomas S. Monson - A Living Prophet of God.

Prophets of God teach the people to walk in the ways of Jesus Christ.

Prophets of God teach the people to walk in the ways of Jesus Christ.

Prophets teach the importance of modesty in all things...

Prophets teach the importance of modesty in all things...

LDS Girls prepare themselves by the choices they make each day - to make and keep sacred covenants in Holy Temples.

LDS Girls prepare themselves by the choices they make each day - to make and keep sacred covenants in Holy Temples.

LDS Girls Listen and Respect the Counsel of Living Prophets

Of great significance, is the fact that LDS girls follow the teachings of living prophets upon the earth today. As you can imagine, this sets these LDS young women distinctly apart from their peers. While most teenagers are looking to the world for direction -- LDS youth look to prophets of God to point the Way. From the perspective of Mormonism - this is a critical point.

  • When more and more children are either being aborted, or being born out of wedlock - prophets are teaching standards for proper dating and sexual purity before marriage.
  • Prophets of God, encourage LDS young women to seek for higher education. LDS girls are taught that knowledge is power, therefore they understand the value of learning things both spiritual and secular.
  • LDS girls are invited to seek the blessing of the Temple. LDS young women are girls who desire to make and keep sacred covenants. Above all other things, these beautiful girls, have come to know - that choosing home and family are at the center of God's plan for eternal happiness.

Who can argue that maintaining these standards and values, of which LDS girls are counseled and strive for - would not inevitably bring about consequences of less heartache and greater happiness?

Once again - this is math, and God is The great scientist.

LDS Girls Follow Jesus Christ.


LDS Girls Choose to Be Young Women of Christ.

Under the direction of a living prophet, LDS girls through their membership in the Church - are active in the Young Women Program for all Mormon girls ages 12-18. It is through the Young Women organization, that LDS standards and values are emphasized and encouraged, and LDS girls are invited to come unto Christ.

This is only the beginning to understanding LDS girls - that know who they are, what they want and how to get, exactly that! These are some of the core foundations to what I believe set LDS girls glaringly apart from many of their peers today. LDS girls are Christian and seek diligently to walk in the footsteps of the Savior.

LDS girls choose Jesus Christ.

LDS girls, join with other young women who are also Christian -- in choosing to boldly step away from the liberal mainstream teachings of the day, and walk a more sure way - that promises them an eternity of joy.


Kathryn Skaggs

LDS Girls Are Young Women Who Know Where They Are Going.

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Please feel free to leave your respectful comments about LDS girls...

victoria on July 03, 2010:

to be a good girl in the Lord is good even a person want to worship the Lord worship in truth

Kathryn Skaggs (author) from Southern California on May 26, 2010:

Thank you, JS. I believe the picture was taken somewhere on the BYU Campus:)

JS on May 26, 2010:

Cutest picture of LDS Young Women, um, EVER! Is that at tbe Bountiful Temple, by chance?

Kathryn Skaggs (author) from Southern California on January 23, 2010:

Jessica -

Thank YOU! That's great that you want to help others understand more about Mormonism. My best to you:)


Jessica on January 21, 2010:

thank you so much Nana.not only is this hub great, but your responses are super great. I myself am a LDS young woman, from Australia, and you have truly inspired me to help the non-member world understand who we truly are, and what our values and morals are.

Thanks once again for your hubs

simply adz on August 03, 2009:

thanks so much i always love to drop by your hub and read the comments of others and your answers to their questions i myself is learning a lot from u as well...the church is in need for strong women...who will stay morally clean,who will shun pornography,and who can established a home that's a little bit of heaven and you are an example,i am proud to be a mormon

Kathryn Skaggs (author) from Southern California on July 22, 2009:

Simply -

Thank you. I wish you all my best for a blessed future.


simply adz on July 21, 2009:

hi nana,

i am a single adult member fr.the phil.and im glad to see your hub so inpiring...your stories,ideas and how you set a good example to your children,i don't have a family yet but i totally want my children to be a part of the true church here on earth The Church Of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints

Kathryn Skaggs (author) from Southern California on July 14, 2009:

Hi lola -

Thanks. I really appreciate your speaking out. BTW, you rock!


lola on July 14, 2009:

i am lds and i totally agree with evrything you guys because i am a girl

jmatts from Anaheim, CA on July 05, 2009:

Thanks for going out of your rocking chair and starting to talk about how great the LDS are, for they truly are.

Kathryn Skaggs (author) from Southern California on June 27, 2009:

FlyByCritic -

Regardless of what the Church teaches, LDS Young Women, still have the right to choose which path they will choose. Simply because guidance is given - and then taken, does NOT mean that a person has not exercise their own agency.

Seems to me, that the "original thinking" that you are looking for, needs to be oppositional to LDS Church teachings. Yup -- better keep looking...


FlyByCritic on June 27, 2009:

In your earlier replies to these comments I like how you clarify that LDS women have autonomy of thought ... and in the next paragraph you basically say, "See, the church says so."

Um, yeah.

It would be nice to see some original thinking coming from the Mormon blogosphere but we'll have to keep looking I guess.

Kathryn Skaggs (author) from Southern California on June 25, 2009:

Denise -

My point is simply this...  that those who have a testimony that what the Mormon Church teach about eternal life, and the family do not feel forced into choosing these things.   I'm so sorry that for you personally - you did not feel that you could exercise your moral agency and choose for you, what you felt was right.

Christianity, in general - is about submitting one's will, to that which God would have them do.  Jesus Christ was the perfect example of this principle. 

BTW, I personally believe that regardless of religious faith or personal belief --  the "traditional" family unit is where individuals are most likely to find the greatest happiness in this life.


Denise on June 25, 2009:

My last comment, regarding this:

"Well, it is because as faithful members of the Church - we too, have "been there" and know those things in life that bring happiness and those that most likely will not. Parents who give their children direction, by example - should encourage them to seek those same things. I am left to wonder, if that example was not there, for you."

What I don't think you see here is that the traditional mormon woman's life of being a wife and mommy would absolutely NOT have brought me happiness. It would have made me incredibly miserable. I'm grateful every day that I didn't choose that lifestyle. I know I may be an exception, but I also know I am not the only one. I have met other former LDS women like me. There is not one sole path to happiness that fits every person, and this does have to do with Mormonism. Girls outside the church learn that they can aspire to be anything they want, while mormon girls are taught that marriage (only in the temple) and motherhood should be their ultimate goal, period. How do they have "agency," when they're told that god wants only one choice for them?

As for my parents, they thankfully preferred that I be happy than that I follow an example that was completely wrong for me.

I'm sorry that you don't want more for girls and women, but that's your right and I'll leave you to it.

Kathryn Skaggs (author) from Southern California on June 24, 2009:

Denise -

I pretty much figured that you are a Mormon, yourself.   I'm very sorry that the messages that you received, while growing up as an LDS girl, were so confining for you.  Actually, I do think things and messages have changed for young women today, and not only in the LDS Church.  I grew up in the 70s and was not a member of the Church.  The messages that I "heard" even then for girls, was that marriage was STILL the goal in life.    Education for girls, even then - was NOT the main focus.

Let me just say, that as you most likely know already --  Mormonism does teach and model the importance of the "family", not only in this life, but into the next.  It is a natural progression for both male and female members to then move toward the development of their own families -- as the main goal of this life.  I have been an instructor for the youth of the LDS Church for years, and I can honestly say that marriage, education, self-reliance, etc... are all values taught and stressed to the youth.

The "Plan of Happiness" for us here and now, is about our stable and ongoing relationships with others, in our lives.  This truth applies to all people, regardless of religion, race, gender, etc...  When you claim that you are not "suited" for family --  "as in being a wife and mother" -- you must acknowledge that you are very much the exception.  I don't think it has much to do with Mormonism, and what they teach.

Yes, within Mormon culture, there are many expectations that children will embrace.  Why is this so?  Well, it is because as faithful members of the Church - we too, have "been there" and know those things in life that bring happiness and those that most likely will not.  Parents who give their children direction, by example - should encourage them to seek those same things.  I am left to wonder, if that example was not there, for you.

I think the most important element in this entire conversation about "choice" not being available to LDS youth, is the question as to whether "they" or "you" believe that what the Church teaches is true or not.  Most youth who develop testimonies that the Church IS true, are anxious to seek those things that are in keeping with gospel teachings.  I believe, that ultimately it comes down to a persons individual testimony and willingness to do what they believe God would have them do; and how he counsels us to prioritize our lives.

I do appreciate your comments and honesty.  However, as you have chosen to walk away from these teachings/lifestyle, I think you owe it to other LDS girls/women - to honor the use of their agency - in choosing to honor embrace them.


Denise on June 24, 2009:

I'm not confusing you with anyone. I was born and raised LDS. If things have changed since i was a young woman, great, but I have yet to see that they have. Where are the lessons for young women exploring career options? Where are they taught that it's okay not to get married and have children if that isn't what they want out of life? Feel free to refer me to that information. Girls are encouraged to get an education, but that's the end of it (and there's incredible social pressure to marry, whether or not you've graduated college. I saw this in my nieces' lives). Many women, like myself, are simply not suited for "the family," as in being a wifeandmother. Yet, no other options are really offered, much less encouraged. I've been there, and I know what I'm talking about.

Kathryn Skaggs (author) from Southern California on June 23, 2009:

Denise -

I am truly sorry for your incorrect perception of LDS young women. I raised three daughters, who each are extremely independent women, today. Not to be disrespectful, but they would probably laugh if they read your comment. Two of my daughters are college graduates; one UCLA, and the other BYU. The reason most young LDS women ultimately choose marriage and motherhood over careers, when they are young - is that they understand the eternal importance of "the family" and desire to be a part of that, over what the world has to offer. There is plenty of time in life, to pursue many dreams. Perhaps you are confusing members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, with some other sect that associate themselves with us -- which are not.


Denise on June 23, 2009:

My hope is that someday LDS girls are encouraged to follow their dreams and be whatever they want to be, rather than being pushed into one mold (marriage and motherhood) whether it fits them or not. It breaks my heart that they aren't truly given choices for their lives, but instead told what choice is the only really acceptable one.

Kathryn Skaggs (author) from Southern California on June 15, 2009:

Jessica -

I'm glad you found me, too. Have fun working within the Young Women's Program of the Church. It is the BEST!


Jessica Goode on June 14, 2009:

As i was looking for a picture to put on our wards bullition board for my Personal Progress project i came across this webstie and i think that this is amazing. I live in Illinios and i didn't know that there were this many websites about us young women. i think that its amazing that we stand so close together & i have a strong testimony in our Prophet and that our church is the true church. Thank you for making this website<3

Jessica Goode

Dottie1 from MA, USA on September 13, 2008:

I'm so glad I found this hub and stopped by to read today. It was very inspiring to learn about the LDS girls and the confidence they uphold because they know who they are. Beautifully written and a big thumbs up.

Kathryn Skaggs (author) from Southern California on July 15, 2008:

Shirley -

I think that generally LDS girls are quite responsible. They have learned be responsible for the decisions that they make -- so they tend to think before acting -- most of the time.

Another contributor to this could also be that many come from larger families than most. In a large family, there is often many more opportunities to learn responsibility,which is good.

You brought up the amount of support that LDS girls receive, which supports them in their desire to make good choices.... This is so important. Thank you for pointing this out. It is really hard for young women today to even know the basics of right and wrong anymore. If they are looking to the media, for instance - oh heavens. lol

Thanks for commenting.



Shirley Anderson from Ontario, Canada on July 15, 2008:

LDS girls sound so responsible and confident! You did an excellent job of explaining all this, I really had no idea of all the added support that was available to them.

Kathryn Skaggs (author) from Southern California on July 14, 2008:

ldsagent -

Isn't that interesting? I too was raised by two totally inactive LDS parents. In fact, I am the only active member of the Church in my family today. I also had some good extended family and influence on occasion from Y.W. leaders. I am confident that these teachings influenced me greatly at the age of 17 to become fully active in the Mormon Church.

This is still considered for me personally, to be the best choice I made as an LDS young woman. I have based every decision from that point on in my life - on the teachings taught in the LDS Church. I have such a testimony of Jesus Christ today.

LDS girls are truly given wonderful guidance for making the best choices possible in life. My life has not always been easy, but continuing in this path has always been the best choice for me, and ensured much joy.

Sounds like you are having a similar experience. I'm so excited for your daughter. LDS girls are so blessed to have the Young Women program to help support the teachings from good parents.

Thanks for taking the time to comment.



Kathryn Skaggs (author) from Southern California on July 14, 2008:


Well your dad was absolutely right on! Make good choices and life will bring you that which is good. This is not to say that glitches will not come along and on occasion make us wonder about some of these so-called right choices. But, over time - we will eventually see that there are right choices.

LDS girls are a good example of young women who make good choices and as a body, have proven that making these good choices, have excellent results for obtaining happiness.

Thanks for commenting.



ldsagent on July 13, 2008:

Great job on this hub, you always provide so much content and great information. Growing up as a young women in the church with inactive parents, truly saved my life. I was headed down the wrong road a few times and thanks to a loving YW leader and good support from other YW, I never strayed too far and have found happiness and now I have a daughter who is going to be in YW in two years! Wonderful hub!

kristendom on July 12, 2008:

I enjoyed reading about LDS girls. It is so inspiring to see faith in action> When I was growing up my dad always said: cigarettes, alcohol, and drugs might make you high and mighty for a while, and maybe money, but church and virtue will make you happy. Choose. Well, I don't smoke, drink, or do drugs--and I am happy! You go ahead and keep writing. I will keep reading you.

Kathryn Skaggs (author) from Southern California on July 10, 2008: