Tension is who you think you should be, relaxation is who you are. -- Chinese Proverb
Accepting Life as it IS is an art in itself. Not to resist life, but to flow with it takes a lot of courage. It is simple when we change our perspective about how our life should be.
What You Resist Persists
Have you ever noticed that the very thing you want to avoid keeps popping up all the time in your life? Why does this happen? Well, repulsion is the other side of attraction. Both are governed by the same natural law. So the more you think about something you attract it to yourself.So the important thing is to learn to let go of things so we can move on in life. Thinking about the past will only repeat the pattern in the future. Just Be ... accept life as it comes ... every turn in life will hold a surprise for you.
Let not my will, O God, but thy will be done
Every religion advices us to accept God's Will. How can we apply it in today's world when religion and God have lost their meaning? Are we ignoring the advice just because we do not accept the source it comes from. The first time I read this sentence it gave me a shock. Before that I had only read 'Thy Will be Done'. That is only part of the message. To say 'Let NOT my Will be Done' hit the nail on the head for me.
We all have an idea how our life should be. Our parents have their own idea about how our life should be. We are always trying to fit Life into our idea of how it should be. It takes a lot of practice to gain the attitude, 'Let not my will, O God, but thy will be done' and eventually to let things be as they are.
Eckhart Tolle on Being Yourself
Accept Life and it will Change
Annie Besant, in her little book The Theosophic Life , writes that we are all given circumstances in which we grow. The next step will open up the moment you accept life's present circumstances. The more we resist the longer we will take to learn life's lessons. The moment we accept our circumstances, we become calm and can figure out how to deal with the situations and so will learn our lessons.
The study of Theosophy for the last fifteen years too has helped me get another perspective of life. There is more to life than perpetually solving self-created problems. How can we find time to ask the really important questions when we are busy worrying about the small things surrounding us? But it is not always right to ignore small things and leave them unresolved ... Just Be ... and deal with every issue as it faces you, resolve it before it gets too big ... and move on.
These two magic words is one lesson I would like to pass on to people who are facing life's challenges.
Ancient philosopher Epictetus (A.D. 55-135) gave this advice:
Welcome present circumstances and accept the things whose time has arrived. Keep your will in line with events...
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About the Author
Sushma Webber writes content for both web and print media. She has worked as a volunteer in many not-for-profit organizations. She is interested in creating a balance in life between the physical, emotional, mental and spiritual aspects. She is interested in mindful awareness practices, Zen practices and translating these in daily life at work in front of the computer and during various activities of her life.
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Sushma Webber (author) from New Zealand on October 27, 2014:
Hi David, you are right. We have to accept whatever the state of emotions that we find ourselves. The more we accept and observe, the more chances of it dissolving and us being able to go beyond it. I too, have experienced depression years ago, however, nowadays I am able to spot it before I get engulfed in it and make an effort to get out of it quicker than before.
David on October 23, 2014:
Acceptance must also include your emotions and thoughts and your resistance. If you have depression like me, you must accept that too. Life may or may not get better.
Sushma Webber (author) from New Zealand on April 22, 2013:
Hi Anna Marie, thank you for your thoughtful comment. I am so glad my writing proved useful just when you needed it. I too come across articles or books that I need to sort out challenges in my life, just at the right moment. Life definitely has a way of helping us. Wishing you all the best in whatever you do.
AnnaMarie on March 25, 2013:
I was in tears this morning. Over the last 11 years my life has seemed to be out of my control and everything I worked for is gone. I literally said aloud that I don't know if I can ever accept my life the way it is now. Your article is exactly what I needed to read. And I don't think it is coincidence that I have been incorporating yoga and doing research on breathing. Your Hubs have a beautiful cohesiveness and I thank you for taking the time to write.
Sushma Webber (author) from New Zealand on September 22, 2012:
Hi Denise, yes you are right, 'Just Be' sure is easy to remember and help us let go of the pressures we seem to carry around. Some things in life have to be endured before we reach a stage where we can change them.
Thanks for your insightful comments.
Denise W Anderson from Bismarck, North Dakota on September 21, 2012:
My motto used to be "This too, shall pass" but that meant that I had to suffer through the now. I think I like your motto "just be" better. It means that what is happening now is important, and living in it now doesn't have to necessarily mean suffering, but experiencing fully that which is my lot in life. Like you said, "Not my will, but thine be done."
Unleashed Freedom from star dust, planet Gaia. on April 06, 2012:
What You Resist Persists... i resist ice cream... and yet it does not persist :). well, on a more serious note. lovely article.
Sushma Webber (author) from New Zealand on April 05, 2012:
Hi Angelina, I agree with you that sometimes life seems unfair especially when we end up picking the pieces of other's mistakes. I have had to do that many times and am still doing so. Sometimes we must endure what we cannot change. However, when we are able to accept it, our mind clears up and we get ideas on how to deal with it or even come up with a creative solution. Even if we cannot change what is, at least we will be happier and be able to enjoy things once the situation gets better. Remember 'This too shall pass away'.
angelina on March 31, 2012:
Life is sometimes so unfair, I can't understand why I have to suffer for my father's mistakes. For me it is really hard to "just be"
Samuel on February 20, 2012:
I have just gone through a breakup with someone i was so in love with and it has been tough... I just came across tour article but it is so tough to accept that she is not there in my life anymore... I hope i find mental peace...
Sushma Webber (author) from New Zealand on January 14, 2009:
Dear Kelly, Sheena and Laila,
Thank you for the response, it is wonderful to know there are kindred spirits out there who share the same experience. I am again thankful to Kelly for asking the question, so I could share my thoughts on it. Infact, after having written the Hub and putting my lesson in tangible form has helped me further.
with warm regards,
Laila Rajaratnam from India on January 12, 2009:
Lovely hub,Sushma with loads of meaning.Yes,I understand what you mean!Cheers and thanks for sharing this with us!:)
sheenarobins from Cebu, Philippines on January 12, 2009:
Great hub. I'm an instant fan. I believe I have the same motto as yours, "Let it Be" same meaning I guess and like yourself, I learned it the hardway. I'm quite enjoying the motto. It has make my life easier with this perspective in life.
Kellys Writing on January 12, 2009:
Thank you for answering this hub. Just Be, that is a great lesson to be passed on.