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Four Bible Models of Positive Manhood

MsDora, former teacher and Christian counselor is also an avid Bible student and loves to share Bible facts for learning and fun activities.

Let us acknowledge right at the beginning that no man is perfect; but positive aspects of a man's life may be overlooked by people who prefer to judge him by his faults.

Therefore, we look for positive images in the lives of four men in the Hebrew Bible, who have already been judged. They all have character strengths worthy of mention and they encourage us to imitate their responsible actions.

Positive, not perfect, is our emphasis in the lives of Jacob, the repentant son; Aaron, the supportive big brother; Mordecai, the dependable older cousin; and Jehonadab, the influential ancestor.

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Genesis 28


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Exodus 4 and 17



Book of Esther



Jeremiah 35

The Reconciliation of Jacob and Esau

The Reconciliation of Jacob and Esau

Jacob: The Delinquent Who Returned Home

Jacob committed acts of deception toward his father which may cause us to expect that his life would be miserable. His brother Esau became angry to the point of planning to murder him.

So what can be positive about the life of the mischievous, deceptive Jacob?

  • Jacob listened and responded to God who revealed Himself in a dream when he left (more like "was sent away" from) home on his way to his uncle’s house.
  • He made a commitment: “If God will be with me, and keep me in this way that I am going . . . so that I come back to my father’s house in peace, then the Lord shall be my God” (Genesis 28:21).
  • His life became a demonstration of God grace, and a testimony to the fact that God is willing to effect change in the life of any wayward son.

Jacob is a positive example for the mischievous delinquent who remembers and respects the God that his parents taught him about. It may take severe problems or losses to make him pay attention and learn to trust God. After many trials, Jacob asked his brother’s forgiveness and returned home. He had matured to an understanding that there is benefit in honesty, not in deception.

Moses and Aaron Speak to the People

Moses and Aaron Speak to the People

2) Aaron: Big Brother Model for Support

When a younger brother is selected for a position which the older brother is more qualified to do, it is not unusual for the older brother to decline the role of supporter. Yet, Aaron performed in the role of supporter to Moses, three years his junior. He put purpose above pet peeves.

  • When Moses objected to taking the lead on account of his inability to speak, the eloquent Aaron willingly obeyed God’s request to speak for Moses.
  • Under the instruction of Moses, Aaron performed miracles before the Pharaoh (Exodus 4:29, 30).
  • In a battle between the Amalekites and the Israelites (Exodus 17: 10-13), the Israelites were winning when Moses held up his hands. When his hands became tired, Aaron held up one of Moses’ hands while another Hebrew named Hur held up the other.

Later, Aaron led the people in rebellion when Moses stayed on Mount Sinai longer than they expected (Exodus 32: 1-3). He questioned Moses’ leadership when Moses’ chose a Cushite woman for his wife (Numbers 12:1-3). Anger can be a flaw, but it can also be a show of concern. When God rebuked him, he confessed that he was wrong, and he surrendered again to the direction of his brother.

Both brothers were prevented from entering the Promised Land because they distrusted God (Numbers 20:10-12). Yet the exceptional work that they performed together carried historical, national and spiritual significance. Thanks to the cooperation of a big brother who supported the leadership of his younger sibling.

3) Mordecai: Exceptional Male Cousin

Attractive, conscientious, and full of potential, Esther would have brought much joy to the hearts of her parents, but they had passed on. Mordecai, her cousin, inherited the responsibility of protecting, nurturing and guiding the youthful Esther (Book of Esther). He did an excellent job.

  • In a male dominated society, where women were treated like property (as demonstrated in the case of Queen Vashti who was dethroned for disobeying the king), Mordecai empowered Esther to become the next queen.
  • He had taught Esther the principles of obedience, confidence and loyalty to her Jewish roots. He instructed her what to do and not do in the palace.
  • Every day he walked through the courtyard to inquire about her. He was the kind of cousin who loved no less than a good father or brother would.
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What a contrast to the family members who are accused of abuse—physical, verbal, emotional, and even neglect—to members of their household. Mordecai rose to the responsibility, giving Esther no excuse to cite the loss of her parents as the reason for failure or delinquency.

She became queen, exhibiting courage, determination and faith when she uttered the immortal words, “If I perish, I perish,” in response to Mordecai’s request that she approach the king on behalf of the Jews who were targeted for destruction. By promoting his cousin’s interest, he saved the lives of his family and his nation. Unselfish interest in the welfare of his cousin Esther makes Mordecai an image of positive manhood. His integrity is worthy of imitation.

Tomb of Mordecai and Esther -Hamadan, Western Iran.

Tomb of Mordecai and Esther -Hamadan, Western Iran.

4) Jehonadab: Exemplary Father

Fathers, how would you like to be so effective at parenting, that your children and their children obey your commands forever? Jehonadab (also known as Jonadab) was such an exceptional father that God wanted the entire nation to hear his story (Jeremiah 35).

Then I (Jeremiah, the prophet) set bowls full of wine and some cups before the Rekabites and said to them, “Drink some wine.”

But they replied, “We do not drink wine, because our forefather Jehonadab son of Rekab gave us this command: ‘Neither you nor your descendants must ever drink wine. We have obeyed everything our forefather Jehonadab son of Rekab commanded us. Neither we nor our wives nor our sons and daughters have ever drunk wine.’

What parenting method did Jehonadab use? The most effective: namely, example.

  • His nomad tribe despised city life, material goods, wine and anything else which resembled the habit of Baal worshippers. He modeled this lifestyle to his offspring.
  • He campaigned beside King Jehu for spiritual reform (2 Kings 10), demonstrating his teaching by his actions.

His integrity and his ability to tell his children, “Do as I do,” makes him an exemplary image of positive manhood. "Example isn't another way to teach; it is the only way to teach," according to Albert Einstein

© 2012 Dora Weithers


Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on October 16, 2020:

Kc, thanks for the great idea. I'll listening for what my Muse has to say about that.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on October 16, 2020:

Thanks, Tamarajo. Your favorite is one of mine also. He accomplished an extraordinary parenting feat.

KC McGee from Where I belong on October 16, 2020:

Great article MsDora, a subject I never paid much attention to before. Is this the only article on this subject or will you make a series on it. I would be interested in seening more.

Many, many blessings

Tamarajo on October 16, 2020:

Hi Dora,

I really enjoyed this collection of Biblical men who fulfilled their respective roles in exemplary ways.

The example of Jehonadab is my favorite. Entire generations followed his teaching and example.

I'll be taking the Einstein quote with me.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on October 16, 2020:

Thanks, Treathyl. Mordecai deserves our recognition. We all need relatives like him who will give attention and care to the younger cousins.

Treathyl FOX from Austin, Texas on October 15, 2020:

All great examples. In particular, I have always drawn strength from the story of Mordecai. He always made the right decision and his life is truly exemplary.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on June 06, 2013:

Tamarajo, I am encouraged by your comment. Men deserve our full respect for the position in which God placed them. Glad you were blessed.

Tamarajo on June 06, 2013:

Lovely article showcasing the positive attributes of men that reveal God's purpose and intention for males. These concepts seem to be getting lost in the cultural depictions of men. I love how the Bible showcases men as powerful and prominent figures in family and society.

I like how your article gave a full spectrum view from men like Jehonadab who led is family in righteousness by example to Jacob who images repentance and returning to Mordecai who stepped up to the plate and cast vision and confidence for Esther.

Blessed by the read.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on June 04, 2013:

Writer Fox, thanks for your input. There are positive lessons we can learn from Abraham also.

Writer Fox from the wadi near the little river on June 03, 2013:

I suppose when I think of Biblical fathers, I think of Abraham first. His name means 'father of many' and it was because of his friendship with God that his children were chosen as the tribe of God.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on November 16, 2012:

And, thanks for your comment. Hope we can help make others understand.

Andy Little from Richardson, TX on November 14, 2012:

Great hub! Thanks.. If more understood this we'd have less of a manhood crisis.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on October 16, 2012:

Travel Man, your admission of guilt made me laugh. Glad you think my advice is sound.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on October 16, 2012:

Rae, thanks for reading and commenting. Glad you enjoyed the article, and I share your hope.

Ireno Alcala from Bicol, Philippines on October 16, 2012:

Oh, my! I'm guilty, Ms. Dora. Can't help to drink wine due to the socio-cultural atmosphere here in the Philippines.

Thank you for this sound advise. From now on, I'll keep on skipping on such past time.

Rae on August 10, 2012:

Thank you Sister Dora for sharing such valuable wisdom from the Bible. I enjoyed it and hope that by sharing it, others will understand the qualities that make the difference in a man (and by extension, a woman).

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on August 09, 2012:

You're welcome, Eric. Thanks for stopping by.

Eric Dierker from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A. on August 08, 2012:

Thank you.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on July 28, 2012:

Thanks, Tonipet. I appreciate your input on the need of proper manhood. We're on the same page.

Tonette Fornillos from The City of Generals on July 27, 2012:

Excellent hub! This shows the big role of men in the world and in our lives as women.

"Positive aspects of a man's life may be overlooked by people who prefer to judge him by his faults..."

Men in general may have been claimed "abusive" but I think this has become the result of a number of them who has never bothered preserving the bests of men. We may admit it or not, our wide wide world needs this proper manhood to lead and guide us with an authority vested upon an even Higher Authority, JESUS Himself. Thank you Ms. Dora. I'm voting up!

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on July 27, 2012:

Thanks, Nikki and Denise for your encouragement and input on this important topic. Blessings to you both!

Denise W Anderson from Bismarck, North Dakota on July 27, 2012:

An awesome hub! I especially like the quote "When men stand at their posts—inside and outside the home—they enable women to stand at theirs (and vice versa)." That is an eternal truth that will stand the test of time. Thank you for citing examples of proper manhood from the scriptures. May God bless you in your mission!

Dorothy Robinson Woods from Mobile, Al on July 27, 2012:

Great Job MsDora! Our men need to know that we need them to be strong. Most of all, you have provided them with great examples

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