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How to Get Over Your Hurts

Rev. Margaret Minnicks is an ordained Bible teacher. She writes many articles that are Bible lessons.


Nobody sets out to become hurt, but it happens to most of us. People hurt other people without realizing it. Then, there are hurt people who hurt people knowingly. Most people have been victims of hurt.

There is no guarantee that you will never be hurt again. However, the good news is that you can do something about your hurts when they do happen.

Purpose to Let Your Hurt Go

You should want to let your hurt go. Some people hold on to pain because they think they are entitled to it. They believe that as long as they embrace their hurt, they are punishing the other person. However, they are hurting themselves.

Purpose in your heart and mind that you will let your hurts go.

Focus on God and Not the Hurt

You should focus on God and not the hurt. Thinking about it often and mulling it over in your mind only intensifies the hurt. Replace the thoughts that you have been hurt with the thoughts of God who can heal the hurt you are experiencing.

There is no way you can think about God and the hurt at the same time. You allow the one into your life that you think about the most. So, let it be God.

Refrain from Talking about Your Hurt

Resist the urge to talk about your hurt with others. Doing so will only add fuel to the hurt, and it will be harder to heal. Besides, sometimes when you share with others how you have been hurt, they might end up doing the same thing to you. Then, you will have two hurts to deal with.

Refrain from engaging in self-talk. As long as you talk about your hurt, you keep it alive and active.

Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. (Philippians 4:8)

Read and Obey Philippians 4:8

Philippians 4:8 should be read and obeyed. According to Paul, if you think on those things that are listed in the above scripture, there is absolutely no way you will continue to think about the hurt.

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Write Down Your Feelings

Instead of focusing on your hurt day in and day out, write down your feelings to get rid of the hurt once and for all. Writing helps you get the hurt out of your thoughts. Once you put the hurt in perspective, you might find that the situation is not as bad as it seems. Then you will begin to heal.

A more powerful method is to write a letter to one who hurt you. Explain how you feel. Do not deliver the letter or share it with others. Instead, tear it up, put it in the trash, or burn it to symbolize getting rid of the hurt.

You Are Not Alone

Know that you are not the only one who has been hurt, and you will not be the last one to be hurt. You have not been singled out. Others might have been hurt much worse than you are hurting. They moved on past it, and you can do the same.

Don't See Yourself as a Victim

If you see yourself as a victim, you will become one. Instead, see yourself as a victor and an overcomer.


Change the Tape

Change the tape about what happened to you. Visualize your hurt one final time. Go into your mind and change the outcome. Make it a good one. See yourself laughing and being happy instead of being hurt.

Forgive and Release

A very effective way to get over a hurt is to forgive and release the person and yourself from what happened. Until you do that, the hurt will fester in your mind and heart. Forgive the person and replace it with a much healthier emotion.

Eliminate Pride

It might be hard to believe, but pride could be causing you to hold on to your hurt as a security blanket. You might keep focusing on what happened to you because in some way you think you are so special that no one would ever hurt you or cause you pain.

Move On

Holding on to your hurt can keep you stuck. Move on from it so you can enjoy life. If you keep thinking about it, the hurt will seem like it is happening over and over again.

Don't Enjoy Your Hurt

It might sound strange, but some people hold on to their hurt because they think they deserve it. Subconsciously, they might be enjoying their hurt as punishment for something they think they have done wrong.

Give Your Hurt to God

Give God your hurt. Allow Him to replace the hurt in your heart with perfect love.

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