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Hatred Between Relatives, Something Christians Need to Be Aware of

Everyone knows when this is happening. It's horrible because most have no idea what is being said. They only know that it's something, and they can't defend themselves.

Everyone knows when this is happening. It's horrible because most have no idea what is being said. They only know that it's something, and they can't defend themselves.

Gossip, Slander and Jealousy

In the scriptures, there was a young man named Joseph.

His father loved him very much, and his siblings despised him because of it.

As Joseph was growing up, he had these elaborate dreams. He wasn't concerned at all about telling his siblings about these dreams.

5 One time Joseph had a dream, and when he told his brothers about it, they hated him even more. 6 He said, “Listen to the dream I had. 7 We were all in the field tying up sheaves of wheat, when my sheaf got up and stood up straight. Yours formed a circle around mine and bowed down to it.” Genesis 37

Joseph's brothers did not like the sound of this and they asked:

8 “Do you think you are going to be a king and rule over us?” his brothers asked. So they hated him even more because of his dreams and because of what he said about them.

One day Jacob, Joseph's father sent him to check on his brothers who were caring for the sheep in Shechem. Joseph did as his father requested. When he arrived at Shechem, a man told him that his brothers had gone to Dothan. So Joseph went there.

As Joseph walked towards them they conspired to harm him. They had been so jealous of Joseph's dreams, and of his relationship with their father that they couldn't stand to even be in his presence. They wanted to kill him.

Reuben, the oldest brother heard their plans and talked them out of harming Joseph. They instead threw him into a well.

They all sat and were eating when they saw a group of Ishmaelites approaching. Reuben convinced his brothers to sell Joseph to them. They did just that.


The Pain of Betrayal

Joseph endured not only the pain of betrayal but a life where he would have to rely on God completely in order to survive, and in doing so he prospered. Joseph went from being a slave to Potiphar, to prison and earned his way into becoming the second most powerful man in Egypt. Joseph was placed just below Pharaoh.

When his brother's came to Egypt from Canaan looking for food Joseph recognized them and he did not make it easy on them. He sent them home to fetch their youngest brother while he imprisoned Simeon.

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The brothers returned to Canaan without their oldest brother, and informed their father (Jacob) that they would have to return with the youngest brother (Benjamin).

Jacob was hesitant for some time until he finally agreed. For his family had eaten all their grain and they all would die unless they could get grain from Egypt.

The story is intense and in the end God had placed Jacob in a position to save his brothers.

Jacob said that God had allowed all of this to happen to him so that he could be a blessing to his own family many years later.

We sometimes forget that when times are very difficult, and when family turns against us, sometimes God has a plan and a blessing in store.

When the World Turns Against You

This is a real issue for every believer. The Bible tells us that many will turn against us.

This is a real issue for every believer. The Bible tells us that many will turn against us.

How We React

This is an incredibly painful experience. Friends can hurt us through betrayal, but our own families can kill us through it.

Whosoever hateth his brother is a murderer: and ye know that no murderer hath eternal life abiding in him.” 1 John 3:15

On several occasions within the Bible we Christians are warned about this.

Then the Lord said to Cain, “Where is Abel your brother?” And he said, “I do not know. Am I my brother’s keeper?” Genesis 4:9

His brothers saw that their father loved him more than all his brothers; and so they hated him and could not speak to him on friendly terms. Genesis 37:4

“You sit and speak against your brother;
You slander your own mother’s son. Psalm 50:20

“For even your brothers and the household of your father,
Even they have dealt treacherously with you,
Even they have cried aloud after you.
Do not believe them, although they may say nice things to you.” Jeremiah 12:6

But you will be betrayed even by parents and brothers and relatives and friends, and they will put some of you to death, Luke 21:16

A man’s enemies will be the members of his household. Matthew 10:36

I think it's safe to say that every believer will experience this in some way.

It will be incredibly painful, but remember that God knows what He's doing and He has a plan for you just like he did for Joseph.

None of us can say with certainty what that plan will be, but God works in mysterious ways and if we remain faithful even in the most difficult times, God blesses us greatly.

I pray that when turmoil comes, that we all can be as faithful and as blessed as Joseph was. That we all be overcomers and not be consumed by grief.

We're currently seeing God's word come alive all around us. May we all walk in His truth no matter what. Cling to God because He is only our helper.

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