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Gemini + Virgo
A Gemini and Virgo relationship is a meeting of beautiful minds. Gemini is considered one of the most intelligent signs of the zodiac. Virgo is considered one of the most studious, hard-working, and persistent signs. These two will likely fall in love because they get each other on a mental level. They often find each other in classrooms, science labs, comic conventions, or museums.
- Gemini is a late spring sign. Virgo is a late summer sign. They’re both mutable, open to new ideas, and somewhat indecisive. They think the best part of a season is at the end.
- Gemini represents the arms and shoulders. They’re a fascinating whirlwind of duality. They tend to like to give and receive hugs. Virgo is represented by the chest. This gives them boldness and confidence to accomplish tasks. Virgo has a great deal of pride in themselves; they think they can achieve perfection.
- Both are ruled by Mercury, the planet of communication, messages, travel, and intelligence.
- Gemini is an air sign. Virgo is an earth sign. Most of their conflicts come from their differing elements.
Gemini is a wondrous complex of nerves. He is a brilliant thinker who mostly wants to keep things lighthearted. This sign is really confused by emotional shifts, and he doesn’t always understand why people are moody. Gemini does well with a partner who is more thought-oriented than emotion-oriented.
If Gemini’s birthdate is closer to Taurus, he’ll likely fall for a Virgo. If Gemini’s birthdate is closer to Cancer, he’ll fall for someone with more emotional qualities.
Virgo is a hard-working and accomplished woman. She is also a masterful thinker because she studies diligently. She doesn’t feel the need to be highly fashionable or decorative. This is a woman who likes to keep her belongings simple and clean. She is the queen of neutral colors and subtle patterns.
Gemini, who is bound by chaos, will be attracted to Virgo’s practical sensibilities. Virgo will be amazed by Gemini’s out-of-this-world mind. It will be gratifying and frustrating to try and untangle his thoughts.
Virgo will be more in charge of practical household chores and the budget. The down-to-earth sign knows how to manage physical resources. Meanwhile, Gemini will have a strong desire to learn new skills.
The two have the potential to have a long romance that can last for decades. Once these two coalesce, they tend to stay together. They have a healthy balance of yin and yang qualities.
Gemini is born when all the hard work of spring is done. They enjoy walking around in the beauty of spring without having to work too hard to maintain the season.
Gemini is lucky in that they get to enjoy and explore the mysteries of life. This sign is naturally witty, curious, funny, and (at times) insensitive — Geminis are unaware of the struggles and burdens that other signs go through. Also, the Gemini can be clumsy and not realize how they’re stepping on people’s toes, whether literally or metaphorically.
Sometimes Geminis are hated because they seem to have so much going for them — and naturally so. They’re blessed with brainpower. They tend to be part of the cool club, capable of attracting both beauty and wealth. Geminis can set their mind on any problem and solve it. They’re quick thinkers, they’re full of energy, and they’re always looking for the bright side.
They’re not brooding and emotionally morbid like a Scorpio. They’re not existential and constantly delving through different dimensions like an Aquarius. And Gemini doesn’t have the intense ego and insanity of the hot and powerfully dynamic Leo. Of course, I’ve just compared Gemini to the fixed signs and not the mutable signs, which is Gemini’s modality. . . so of course, Gemini isn’t rigid like them.
As for the mutables, Gemini has square relationships with Virgo and Pisces. They’re similar, but Gemini is more jovial and lucky than Virgo and Pisces. The earth and water signs are more serious. They take matters to heart. Gemini is more like Sagittarius who is spontaneous, freedom-seeking, and quick-witted.
Virgo is an elegant, faithful, and hard-working soul who takes on chores to clean up after the previous signs’ messes. Virgo thinks Aries through Leo are all somewhat immature and disastrous.
Virgo is born in late summer and cleans things up so that fall can be as enjoyable as possible. Virgo takes care of financial tasks, chores, schedules, the harvest, and anything that can be sorted. Virgo occurs when the weather cools down a couple of notches, when rain makes a comeback, and when students return to school.
Virgo is studious; they want top marks on their assignments. This is someone who can be somewhat of a loner, monk-like, even celibate — they opt for singularity to focus on personal success. Their dedication to education will be attractive to Gemini, although the air sign will find the earth sign somewhat close-minded, which Gemini finds paradoxical. How can someone be intelligent and close-minded?
- Virgo doesn’t always look for a partner. When they do, they want someone who is consistent, who values the same things as them, and who can hold their own.
- Virgo can be very traditional and conservative. They may struggle to understand Gemini’s views, which tend to be more progressive.
- Virgo is all about virtue. They want the world to be a better place. They stick up for noble causes.
- Virgo has a long-term vision for everything. They don’t buy things out of impulse. They save up their money for retirement. They buy necessary things.
- The earth sign honors independence. They value a partnership when it is made up of two very independent people.
Square Sign Troubles
These two signs will constantly feel an intense connection to one another but also a mysterious pull.
Why do things have to feel so intense? It’s because they are square signs. There is a certain amount of spacing in the zodiac that causes them to not entirely be opposites of each other but also not entirely the same.
Here is how square signs work:
- Square signs occur when two people have the same modality: cardinal, fixed, or mutable.
- The two signs will also be from neighboring seasons, in this case, spring and summer.
- Square signs will feel both the same and different. This causes tension. That tension is often interpreted as romantic or psychic.
- Square signs will also mix yin and yang energies. In this case: Gemini is yang; Virgo is yin.
- Square signs are also about elements. Air and fire tend to go well together. Water and earth tend to go well together. When Air mixes with earth or water, it’s mixing together very different worlds. Air and fire are about vitality: air is about the vitality of thoughts. Fire is about the vitality of free will and actions. Meanwhile, earth and water are about organization. Earth manages physical resources; water cares about matters of the heart. (I know, it’s a lot to consider.)
Gemini is the celebratory part of spring with flowers, graduations, weddings, and vacations. It is the time of year when people move or take on new projects for the summer. It’s an exciting time of year with new adventures: it’s a time for celebration and the acceptance of life. It’s an incredibly hopeful and beautiful time of year. Gemini is defined by all this merriment and busy excitement.
Gemini is full of duality. The alchemy sign allows for conversions: Gemini knows how to shift energy into new things. The twin sign is constantly thinking of relationships and how conversions work. They’re intrigued by how objects influence each other. This is someone who flourishes with a partner, not alone — like how Virgo often wants to be.
Gemini mirrors their partner to better understand them. This is their classic flirting technique. They study people by mimicry. They express flattery by showing people a mirror of themselves. Gemini knows people are self-interested and enjoy their image. Virgo might feel threatened by this style of flirting as they tend to be loners.
Virgo is also about new beginnings. Summer has ended and people return back to their studies, people work hard in preparation for fourth-quarter sales, and there’s a certain maturity they exhibit that Gemini doesn’t have.
Virgo has seen sorrow and knows that sorrow is to come. Virgo feels like they’re standing between those sorrows and griefs. They want to shield themselves from pain. In an almost hermit-like fashion, they bury themselves with knowledge. They distract themselves with work.
Gemini will feel compelled to bring Virgo out of isolation to show them the beauty of life and the beauty of flowers. If Virgo finds this enticing, they’ll try to show Gemini the beauty of solitude, virtue, and hard work. Some of this will be attractive to Gemini… some of it will elude them.
Mimicry, mirroring a person, wit, constant humor, constant communication, doing things together.
Chivalry, acts of service, doing chores for their partner, active communication, making dinner, punctuality.
Spontaneous, likes to try new things, traveling far just for specialty ice cream, unpredictable, having fun, being a little weird.
Likes dinner and a movie, a kiss on the cheek, flowers, traditional gestures, predictable, great etiquette, holding hands, long walks, doing something practical together.
Being alone forever, never being understood, failure, incompetence, can't solve something, abandonment.
Imperfection, criticism, failure, no follow through, failing to live up to expectations.
Quest in Love
Finding someone who can understand them, finding someone worth mirroring forever, finding a partner who accepts them despite their flaws. Gemini is relationship prone; they don't like to be single.
Finding someone who accepts their independence. Finding self-love. Perfection is their dream.
During a Relationship
Constantly funny, dedicated to partner, tries different love languages, very reassuring, loves to communicate, chatterbox, excitable.
Likes structure, wants alone time, does chores for you, wants to be a helpful and reliable person.
The Differing Perspectives of Gemini and Virgo
Gemini and Virgo make a fascinating relationship. Gemini is an air sign, so they’re constantly thinking — and to the point of having nervous breakdowns. They’re edgy. They’re constantly on the way to an epiphany or breakthrough.
Some argue Gemini is the most intelligent sign of the zodiac. I would argue Virgo is the most intelligent earth sign. Virgo would school both Taurus and Capricorn; however, Virgo’s earth siblings aren’t guppies.
- Taurus’ efforts are felt for the entire year — he is a strategist.
- Capricorn’s efforts are all about survival — her intelligence provides her with a long life.
- Virgo’s intelligence is about epiphany through solitude. Virgo discovers wisdom and virtue. They find enlightenment.
Air signs barely have to lift a finger to understand most things. They’re constantly dealing with different forms of philosophy and communication. An air sign never stops communicating and thinking, until they’re tired and go to bed — if that. Their brains are a maze of thoughts.
Earth signs are grounded. They move at a slower speed. Think of it this way: Wind moves at electric speed and shakes the leaves and branches. Earth is always moving, but you don’t notice the ground changing when you stare at it. It takes a long time for continents to travel. The friction of tectonic plates creates earthquakes. Air bundles up and turns into tornadoes. We talk about air in miles per hour. We talk about continents and how far they travel each year in centimeters and inches.
It doesn’t mean earth signs are less intelligent — they’re strategic, they understand the physics of how things move around them, they are in tune with their senses, and they are materialistic. Earth likes property and wealth. They want to have a legacy. They plot out their lives for the long term. Air signs are more opportunistic changing with the times.
Virgo is a clean type of energy. Virgo manages things in practical and logical terms. They translate the world around them into what can be sensible and formidable. Gemini brings in chaos, mess, and beauty. Gemini is orderly to himself; Virgo doesn’t find Gemini orderly at all.
There will be arguments because Gemini comes off aloof and Virgo comes off rigid. Gemini wants to play and Virgo wants to work. Gemini thinks everything is funny. Virgo is very serious and well-mannered.
Gemini’s emotions can be sudden and big and confusing for Virgo. On the other hand, Virgo can have intense anger. Virgo can take a long time to forgive someone. They hold grudges to the point that they curse people.
These two could get really mad at each other. They may find themselves way more stubborn in this pairing than they usually do coupled-up. They’ll need to compromise: Gemini must be serious at times, and Virgo must find humor.
Falling in Love
Why do they like each other so much? They love each other for their minds. They make for great dinner companions. They’re curious about each other, and they help each other to come out of their shells. They both feel a lot of responsibility in the world, so it’s nice to be with someone who understands that.
Gemini wants Virgo to see the flowers, but Virgo can only go so far and starts to reduce the flowers to weeds and plants… they stop seeing the flower as special.
Virgo wants Gemini to see the beginnings of scholarship, but Gemini is too focused on graduation and has already learned what they need to know. Gemini doesn’t like to intensely study. That makes them anxious.
Virgo is working hard to accomplish something… Gemini is already out the door and ready to go. When air talks to earth, it seems fast, childish, and frenetic. When earth talks to air, it comes off boring, too short, too serious, and too stodgy. Sometimes Gemini and Virgo have a hard time seeing eye to eye. They may need counseling to learn new communication methods.
Other times, these two understand each other so well that they are content to be with each other in quiet. They’ll read books and drink tea without saying a word. They can be like Sherlock Holmes (Gemini) and Watson (Virgo).
They like each other and have high standards. They both occur at times of the year when there is a moderate amount of heat — Gemini is ahead of the maddening heat of July and August. Virgo comes just after it.
Gemini is what happens before you put something into the oven. Virgo is what you get after you take it out. This alchemical change is fascinating for both partners.
They both despise heat. The heat ruins the pretty and amazing colors that spring brought into the world that Gemini loves. Heat ruins Gemini’s flowers and fruit. Virgo thinks heat makes things too saturated.
Virgo also hates heat because it prevents her from getting work done. The heat makes them tired… they have to delay tasks.
Gemini is successful at work because they know how to turn it into play; Virgo is successful at play because they know how to turn it into work. There are all kinds of nuances here, and they can make your head spin.
Ways to Make This Relationship Work
- Gemini needs to write down things that Virgo says. Gemini needs to let these things soak in their head and then come back to talk about these points later. Sometimes Gemini is so in their head that they’re not listening to their partner. Not listening to Virgo could lead to the breakdown of the relationship.
- Virgo needs to stop being critical of Gemini and the relationship. A love of perfection will destroy it. Gemini doesn’t fit evenly into a box; they’re overflowing with love and spring-like energy. If you try to reduce and re-frame the relationship into something simpler, you could kill it. Gemini needs to be progressive and different, so let them be.
- Gemini needs to say sweet things and practical things beyond sarcastic and funny things. Show more of who you are and don’t act like you are a one-dimensional creature. Show your sweeter and kinder sides. Gemini in any relationship needs to be more vulnerable.
- Virgo needs to open up more. Don’t just reach for the nuclear option and breakup because you refuse to come out of your shell or because it seems like the easy option. Gemini has more feelings invested in you than you realize.
- Both people need space. Giving each other space will save you from unnecessary arguments. Relationships are a lot like eyebrows: they need space.
- Virgo needs to stop taking things so seriously. Let go of your grudges. Stop shaming people. Practice forgiveness.
- Gemini needs to make plans and help with cleaning. Gemini also needs to set boundaries and know when other people are in control. Gemini is bad about this because spring is wild and expansive. Spring runs over everything.
- Virgo, you have blind spots too. You can be cold and calculated. You can hold onto grudges for way too long. You can hinder Gemini’s creativity if you try to put your foot down. You need to be more open-minded and relaxed. Stop worrying.
- Gemini needs to communicate their anxieties. Don’t hold in your thoughts and feelings. Also, communicate when you’re in a bind.
- Virgo needs to make their expectations clear. When you make your expectations clear to Gemini, they can then try to reach those expectations.
- You can’t read each other’s minds. You’re both guided by Mercury, so you have similar gifts and curses.
- Compromise is your friend. You need to learn how to negotiate and find middle ground. You can’t always have things your way.
Gemini and Virgo at a Glance
Sarcastic, intelligent, funny, chaotic, lighthearted, and anxious.
Hard-working, faithful, intelligent, serious, loner, studious, clean, and precise.
Shoulders and arms
May 21 - June 21
August 23 - September 22
Yin or Yang
This content reflects the personal opinions of the author. It is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and should not be substituted for impartial fact or advice in legal, political, or personal matters.
© 2019 Andrea Lawrence
Andrea Lawrence (author) on November 07, 2019:
I try to always include that last part in these hubs, feels like it's often what people want.
Andrea Lawrence (author) on November 07, 2019:
You're welcome! Look around for other posts to see if they help.
lemuriangirl on November 03, 2019:
As a Venus in Virgo, I appreciated the practical "How to Make this Relationship Work" at the end of the article. It's a nice overview overall, and it helps to know that there are other planets in other signs that will also have an impact on how the relationship plays out, e.g. Moon signs, Venus signs, Mars... the personal inner planets interplay gives a rich idea of the potentialities of the relationship between 2 unique people.
kattysexy on November 03, 2019:
Nice post. Thx