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Eric’s Sunday Sermon; No One Else

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All Alone

Wait, His dad took the picture.

Wait, His dad took the picture.

Be With Yourself

Imagine yourself alone. No one else. Oh it could be solitaire for miles or it could be no one else to talk to. Brutal. And yet when there is no one else, who is there to bother us. Trouble is, is that there is no one else that bothers us more than us. No one else to blame. No one else to argue with.

They have a saying “No matter where you go there you are.” The imperative that you are you and changing locations of being alone won’t change that. “No one else”; just the words make me lonely. But I have been with so many people and felt lonely. And I have been so alone and felt loved and cherished. Hey I don’t make this stuff up I just write about it all by myself. (Well the three of us, me, myself and I) I write alone, with no one else. Perhaps it is lonely sometimes. No, that is me being lonely. Amazing. We all have been with no one else in a crowded room. So do we conclude that “no one else” means a state of mind and not of being? Too deep for this melted brain. Or maybe not and I shall muddle through in the hopes of relating it to you.

“Son I know that was tough but you are not alone.” “But dad I want to be so could you please….” “Honey I know you are heartbroken I am here for you”. “Thanks and you can do that by leaving me alone.” There is that sweet spot in life where leaving alone, is the best deal of all. But the rub goes south as leaving them alone, means there is no one else to share your worry with. There is now no one else for you.

So crawl and slink into your little space. And put on that favorite dance song. The music and dance is in you and you are with something else in all tribute to life so alive you are out of your depth of love. I am just leading up to a space where I am concluding that there is never “No One Else”. There is always me, myself and I.

We have issues here. You have issues here. They and we have issues here, but we have someone else.

Disco and Top Forty but Great Lyrics

Give Me A Break

Just another Mountain

Just another Mountain

The Job

If I have love I have God. For sure the humanist atheist even has the god of love. Not some otherworldly thing but the pure acknowledgment that love is permeable into all facets of life. It need not even be more than a feeling but it moves mountains that we could not move with no one else. Hmm, is love some “one” else. I propose that it is. If I have love I am connected with another and another and another and so on ad infinitum. If always in love then never with no one else. That is so complicated yet so simple to do. I suppose one of those, easier done than said deals. Just love and you are never really alone.

It gets down right exciting. Love creates a synergism of oneness. And inescapable connecting with others. Or in my case often with nature. Loving a tree is not being alone. Love the bird or the deer and you shall never be with no one else. Again; what does that “one” mean? I can be in a crowded room with people so concerned with each other that they fail to really be with each other. But no matter how I am feeling I can walk around and love them and not be alone. Oh perhaps alone from them but not alone within. The Christians and others like a term “distance from God”. Now for believers that gets real lonely. Even for non-believers, distancing ourselves from love leaves us with no one else. Yet being in love keeps us in good company.

Think of our natural nature person. That person who can follow a dove. That person who can actually be in the water and touch a fish. That person who gazes at the moon and is warmed like they would be with a passionate hug.

I like to do “big” projects for me. And I like to think on them and be in no hurry to finish. I like projects that I can look forward to working on for a bit each day. Same for pets. Projects and pets become familiar, and being in the moment taking care of them is a way of not being alone.

Cooking is such. If you like doing it you are always with a dish to be loved and created. Yes for me, that writing all alone is a fiction, I am happily or even struggling being with the creation. I am told it shows in my pieces. Folks reading are not alone, they are with me in my quest.

Letters Home

Old School By Hand

Old School By Hand

Lonely Times I Reckon

Rise Up and Love the One with No One Else

How about that electronic cellular phone. Only one comment there. Do you use it to connect to another or do you use it to connect electronically. That is a huge difference. You decide if there is a difference for you.

A quip on FB? Is that a connection with hundreds? Maybe for you. Not for me. It is sincere but noise.

I do not care for people who verbalize that you should sit down and then they stare knowingly into your eyes. I am so removed from them. Yet when I sit down with a friend and talk about their children, eye contact or not, I am connected with them.

I like to say howdy. “How you doing partner”. And when they get into it and tell me how they are doing I just love it. Friends are best but street people are more interesting.

Yes I was a preacher man for a few years. It is lonely. You speak too much at and too little with. But if you got that love rock ‘n roll you are looking with them. Wow what a thrill of a deepest sort. Just maybe you made just one in one hundred feel not alone. You let them know you too are a nut case with crazy notions and sometimes alone with your thoughts. Hey baby we are never “that” different. I promise.

I have never ever told someone that I feel alone, without them saying in some way that they do too. Bing badda Bing we are no longer with no one else.

Now back to our premise. We can be alone! That means we are not “in” love. That is distance from God. I like John 14:17. For He, which is God which is Love, dwells within in us. With love we can never be with no one else.

But I cry out like our honey in pain and our child in distress. And yet we want to be alone. Good on us. For this alone is like Buddha or Jesus going off to commune with that which is good. With good we are not alone. It is always our companion yet we too often ignore our sister -- Good.

Oh my I have waxed on here and have no answers. In logic and in sociology we are often so alone. So often with no one else. But that is the falseness of our day to day world. Won’t you join in being that someone else?

Comments

Eric Dierker (author) from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A. on July 22, 2020:

Well Dora, I thank you much. Can I even count the times you have lifted me up? Let me just say this; "Life is unknowable without love from another, without it life is as Paul teaches - an empty gong"

Dora Weithers from The Caribbean on July 22, 2020:

True, Eric. Connectedness (not just a surface connection) is the key. Even with physical distance between my loved one and me, I will not feel alone if I'm connected. Similarly, I will be never be alone if I'm experiencing connectedness with God. Thank you for the reminder.

Eric Dierker (author) from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A. on July 21, 2020:

Denise I know the story. My wife is named Hang. It means loving moon in Vietnamese. My son's Viet name is My San -- for American saint. Our binoculars are trained on the moon. Somebody told me I was full of it. I asked of what what I was full of. My elder brother told me the moon.

Denise McGill from Fresno CA on July 21, 2020:

I love your talk about love and the moon. Have you seen the movie "Lo Misma Luna" or The Same Moon? It's about a little boy who sets out on a long journey to find his mother because his grandmother who was taking care of him died. His mother always told him if he was feeling alone to look up at the moon. The moon he was looking at, she was looking at too. The same moon bonded them so they were never alone. Isn't that sweet? I think we are never alone with the love of God always with us, right?

Blessings,

Denise

Eric Dierker (author) from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A. on July 21, 2020:

Ruby, life is Grand. You know me I am a Christian religious fanatic. So alone is a term of others. Right now it is a crazy time to be up. But I figure God has no time lines. Good enough for me.

Eric Dierker (author) from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A. on July 21, 2020:

Mary I like how you put that. For sure with me. That alone time is a recharge of my batteries. Thank for your great comment.

Ruby Jean Richert from Southern Illinois on July 20, 2020:

I'm with you all the way Eric, We are never alone. If I'm not talking I'm thinking, sometimes out loud. We have much to think and talk about, hopefully love is the key factor. Great sermon! Better late than never.........

Mary Norton from Ontario, Canada on July 20, 2020:

We are indeed alone, even when we have many people around. I enjoy being alone as I am these days. I suppose I love my own company. Don't get me wrong. I also enjoy being with people, but being alone replenishes me.

Eric Dierker (author) from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A. on July 20, 2020:

Devika I agree. I like to get upset it seems. But it is better than being alone.

Eric Dierker (author) from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A. on July 20, 2020:

So cool Flourish. Those friends are the best. I think back on times I traveled to much to have them around. Lonely indeed.

Eric Dierker (author) from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A. on July 20, 2020:

Thank you Linda. I think that getting others to ponder is what I strive for. I wonder what it is like not to.

Eric Dierker (author) from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A. on July 20, 2020:

Mel, I grew up in a sheltered environment. It was cookies and either hot cocoa or ice cold lemonade for Ray who at 80 finally retired. Mom made me write him a letter every month or so. Believe it or not we would sit on a front porch swing waiting for him. Oh the days!

Eric Dierker (author) from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A. on July 20, 2020:

Pamela Ephesians 6 and so kind of makes me wonder. But I could and do put on that armor of to ward of the ruler of loneliness. That doggone separation is just too brutal. And relationships -- they just are too often our cause of being alone. Designed that way??

Eric Dierker (author) from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A. on July 20, 2020:

Lorna your wisdom far exceeds your years. I have a neighbor, Steve and he is a real pain in the buttudie. So my boy and I try to spell Sally his wife every now and then. He even complains we are bothering him. So be it. Those who need the someone else are too often those who reject them the most.

Devika Primić from Dubrovnik, Croatia on July 20, 2020:

We are all affected by loneliness at some point in our lives. Whether married or single or in a crowd.I like your interesting hub makes a lot of sense.

FlourishAnyway from USA on July 19, 2020:

It’s hard to be alone when you have 6 indoor cats and you’re everyone’s favorite because you’re the food lady but also the best one at playing and snuggling. Never alone, not even in quarantine. A long time ago I was alone though.

Linda Crampton from British Columbia, Canada on July 19, 2020:

You've shared some interesting and important things for me to think about. Thank you, Eric.

Mel Carriere from San Diego California on July 19, 2020:

Just too bad that the old pastime of putting cats in collection boxes has been rendered impossible by the improved design of these things. That used to be a lot of fun for the collectors, but they had to wear body armor. Since you stake out this box, that would have been your afternoon entertainment.

Eric Dierker (author) from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A. on July 19, 2020:

John do not tell others but I am so happy as being alone. But that is probably because I am not. Makes my head spin. Mom, God rest her soul is always with me. My wife is always in the back of my mind. And then the kids. I hike into nowhere and they are still there.

Eric Dierker (author) from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A. on July 19, 2020:

Mel it may sound sad but I stake out that mailbox. 7/11 up 30 thiry yards a recycle deal to the right and a Foster Freeze back a bit. I will pull up back a ways to observe the happenings. Standard JW's next to the liquor store/bodega in my rear view mirror along with the Vietnamese "barber Shop" on the corner just up from the bar. Sorry too busy to read a book.

I live and breath Americana. I write handwritten letters on the back of my copy of the constitution.

Perhaps they will make a tear downable statue of me saying "loser".

They never miss picking up that mail at 2pm.

Eric Dierker (author) from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A. on July 19, 2020:

No telling Manatita just how we have become loved filled. I mean, why not my great neighbor buddy?

You cannot just discount the notion. Why you and not Johnny boy to grasp light.

It must be random.

Eric Dierker (author) from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A. on July 19, 2020:

Bill last night my wife told me that she loved me..........Well she meant it. I do not have a clue how that could be. OTOH she really does not know my past all that well.

She assures me I do not have to be alone anymore. I never have figured out what miracle is.

Pamela Oglesby from Sunny Florida on July 19, 2020:

I think I have felt alone a long time ago during my first marriage, which was not going well. Since that time I don't think I have ever felt alone. This is sure a thought-provoking article, Eric.

I heard a sermon this morning about God giving us his word in the Bible, which we can use as a suit of armor. We are never alone if we do that I guess. God bless you, Eric.

Lorna Lamon on July 19, 2020:

I see so many cases of loneliness, and now more than ever reaching out to someone in need has never been more important. People with mental health issues feel loneliness very acutely, and so it is important to check up on friends, family and neighbours. It's amazing what a kind word can achieve.

I have experienced that feeling of loneliness in a crowded room, and yet by myself have not felt alone. We come into this world alone, die alone and yet spend our lives avoiding loneliness. For those of us who do not have a mental health issue, perhaps loneliness is a state of mind.

John Hansen from Queensland Australia on July 19, 2020:

I am often by myself but I am never alone. When you are a writer, others may think it strange, but you feel like you always have a constant companion (maybe that is what is called your muse.)

I have at least been able to start visiting family lately now that restrictions have eased here, so that is even less “aloneness.” Also, me, myself and I are great companions and we seem to agree on most things. And if you have faith and love then you never walk alone.

Mel Carriere from San Diego California on July 19, 2020:

Nice picture of you up there spending 40 days and 40 nights in the wilderness, tempted by thoughts of your cutie mail lady, being shown all the kingdoms of the world, Chula-juana being one of them, but still maintaining your poise and purity.

The very fact that love exists makes me happy and feel less lonely, even if it is not directed at me. Only us armchair prophets and sages recognize this truth. But I still whine at my wife for attention sometimes, any attention, even bad attention.

Once again your sermon has uplifted my sagging spirit on a Sunday.

But is that collection-box photo a secret jab at me?

manatita44 from london on July 19, 2020:

When we are good, it is easier to be with ourself as God dances inside and the inner voice will not prod us. It it does, then it's for a good old "Halleyujah, praise the Lord."

Loneliness is in fact a big issue and Love is missing. Have a great Sunday!

Bill Holland from Olympia, WA on July 19, 2020:

You had me thinking, have I ever really been alone? I don't think I have, not for a prolonged period of time. But alone inside of myself? I think I've been there, on and off, for maybe twenty years. That was before the Great Awakening for this boy. Now I can't find enough alone time to read a book, and I'm every so grateful for the company.