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Eric’s Sunday Sermon; Love and Hate and Triumph and Tragedy

Holding degrees in philosophy and Law. Formal studies or certificates or degrees in business, theology, insurance and security. Ex-preacher.

Tending

The tending of a plant reflects the tending of one's soul.

The tending of a plant reflects the tending of one's soul.

Thought Feeling or Feeling of Thought?

How many times have we heard folks address the issues of love and hate and triumph and tragedy separately? We know we have all talked about love, hate, triumph and tragedy. But when have you last heard someone talking about those horsemen all together? So let us lump tragedy with love and hate with triumph and see where we end up.

If we pay attention to such matters, the United States of America is below zero population growth at this time. Hoorah we all yell. That seems like such a wonderful triumph on over population. But of course we kind of worry about less love floating around with less people. We ponder if it means less desire to have families. And the obvious problem that advanced nations slow population but far from even developing nations still are in general way over populating a world in which they live is a tilting toward more and more mental and physical starvation than thriving, if you take our world as a whole.

Triumph and tragedy all on the same matter. Could it possibly be that we hate children being born at too high of rate and also love every new life.

Abortion

Let us just go sit down and chat with the pink elephant sitting in the corner of the room. Just go ahead and be adamant, opinionated at least emotionally violent over the matter. And let us not forget faith and beliefs. Basic human rights are of concern here. We do not really see triumph here.

If you see a sticker saying “pro” abortion. You should wince and try to get the picture out of your mind that people want abortions to happen. Clearly abortions are sad and no triumph. Certainly we can see that there is tragedy, hate and love in the mix here.

I think it kind of sad that religion plays a role here above spirituality and love. And yes I think atheism is a religion. It is as though we resist commonality and insist on division. There is no doubt in my mind that this issue brings the four horseman together, with the only salvation being from the first; that of love.

On this matter I can only stage the scenes and the ending is fully up to you to know which of the four is our hero or villain in the end. Of course I believe that the victor regardless of result is the hero of love. Without it Romeo and Juliet would have been even more tragic.

Many Sides of Love

Just a Buddy of Mine

I can spend an hour tending to this 3 foot carving.

I can spend an hour tending to this 3 foot carving.

Mine Is Not To Question

Many these days are hyper political. Most would say the divide in our nation is tragic. More likely that opposing views are hated and conflict abounds. Most can see no triumph here. And most can see no love here. And then you get some crazy guy like me who thinks none violent conflict is good and should be embraced. In our home we find conflict. It is good we thrash out differing opinions. An Italian/Irish American and a Vietnamese American. A religious person and a strictly spiritual person. And throw in a bright 10 year old into the mix and octaves should be dealt with, with some ear plugs. The only tragedy is that we get angry. The triumph is that it lasts for just a few minutes and the only winner is a well pounded out right decision. And of course we give each other leeway on the small stuff.

First I loved my wife’s idiosyncrasies – that fresh still falling in love time. Then I grew to hate some of them which was tragic. Then as a mature love now flourishes hate is gone and a home of love triumphs every time. None of us are tragic or triumphant, the home is always triumphant as we refuse to accept hate and tragedy. We are deeply for each other and opposing views being brought to conclusion

So politics for me needs the conflict. Of course most of us like about 85% would like it more civil and would not even imagine getting violent over a difference of opinion. But civil dialogue over ideologies with more listening and less talking would be a triumph over hate.

Death and War

So often on all sides of the street we ask; “If God is so loving then why does he let bad things happen?” The concept of debate here just does not make sense. War and disasters. This issue should be a team quest to listen to other views to help shape our own and so that we can better understand our brothers and them us. This seems that it can be quite civil between those who not believe in a God and those who do. That is if neither party is looking for a triumph rather than further understanding. That ends in tragedy.

Let Us Be Sure To Raise Another Up

Within 24 Hours

A nursing home one day and both passed right after that.

A nursing home one day and both passed right after that.

Do We Really Have Free Will Not To Love?

For some reason that is a bit too hard to explain. I view the hate and tragedy as opportunities. Why would death and destruction of life possibly be an opportunity? At first blush that is just crazy. Someone suffers and to me that is an open door invitation to help love be triumphant. Most the time when I think I am getting someone to accept my love it really just gets them to accept theirs.

Some who “suffer” through tragedies of loved ones dying or an illness that they have not brought on themselves. Turn out to be gifts. Yes I said it. There becomes a space where real relief is sought, though the condition is terminal. For so many their past locked gates to love open wide. Begrudgingly they are ready to accept some remedy that they have yet to find.

For too many “do gooders” they plant a seed and expect a flower in a very short time. What folly is that? Nope, to create a blossom it takes nourishment, weeding, watering, sunlight and darkness and attentiveness. And generally it takes a change in seasons. Perhaps of life in this instance. No fly by or flowery sermon at once causes, creates and has someone accepting Love which to me is synonymous with God. Love that overcomes suffering is a gift to one from God which is delivered express by someone willing to share theirs. True angels on earth. The angel may only appear once to plant the seed. But the loving farmer can take over from there an raise it up. With far too much pride I like to do both.

The entry way into my home is where I grow and tend my roses. When my son comes to visit, he either says “Dad you must be doing well” or “Dad are you ok?” He knows what to ask by the shape my roses are in. Not tended to well and seems there is some lack of loving. In great shape and it reveals a healthy loving attitude.

And so it is. We like to say to surround yourself with healthy, happy, positive people. Of what triumph is there? I would suggest to really love we must embrace those hateful and tragic people. Get out of our easy chair and spread the love which is the only true triumph we can achieve, both for ourselves and those in need of the love.

(a fun side note is that my occupational therapist – functionality as opposed to physical therapy, told me that we will be tending my roses tomorrow as therapy. I would never have thought of that.) But it surely does make sense. Please go make sense of your own love.D

Comments

Eric Dierker (author) from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A. on February 04, 2020:

Mary I thank you. That slipping and sliding and going backwards sometimes is something I have accepted, for it will happen. To gain peace I am now thinking takes some hard work and spirit.

Mary Norton from Ontario, Canada on February 04, 2020:

I read this slowly as the words spoke to me. Spread love. This really is all that matters. I often find that I take one step forward and then take two steps back. But I just keep understanding myself and keep moving on.

Eric Dierker (author) from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A. on January 31, 2020:

Dora the more I get into listening without having to think about what I would say, the better I listen and it is wonderful. Thanks. I need that reminder often as it is still not a habit.

Dora Weithers from The Caribbean on January 31, 2020:

There are several gripping points in this article. I can gain a stomach-full from each one, but I'll mention this: "But civil dialogue over ideologies with more listening and less talking would be a triumph over hate." I'm making an effort this year to improve on this. Thanks for your very practical suggestions.

Eric Dierker (author) from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A. on January 29, 2020:

Yes indeed we do Denise and the best part is, is that it is easy and you can get instant gratification. I think it was Sachmo and a Wonderful World about strangers and shaking hands meaning I love you.

Denise McGill from Fresno CA on January 29, 2020:

Very good call to action. We all need to be spreading the love instead of the hate.

Blessings,

Denise

Eric Dierker (author) from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A. on January 29, 2020:

It is good to meet you Tory Peta. I will be over to read a past article of yours today.

Tery Peta from Bulgaria on January 29, 2020:

Very interesting article. I will come back to re-reading it again later and looking forward to seeing more of your great articles.

Eric Dierker (author) from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A. on January 27, 2020:

So well spoken Manatita. Blessings to you, Namaste

Eric Dierker (author) from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A. on January 27, 2020:

You are certainly right about that dear Linda. I look around and see much like that in my life. Maybe I put the cart before the horse too often.

Eric Dierker (author) from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A. on January 27, 2020:

Now Mr. Holland, you have known me long enough to know you can read the first two paragraphs and the last two and fill it in as you see fit. That is a fun part of writing more questions than answers.

Eric Dierker (author) from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A. on January 27, 2020:

Pamela I twisted something and came up with "If I did not make bad choices I would not have choices at all." I am so happy to be in a good space in life that normally loving is the only choice. But that really is not my choice. Kind of like "deserving grace", it just don't work that way.

Eric Dierker (author) from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A. on January 27, 2020:

Thanks Bill. I like this area because it gives me pause. I lately that pause Just happens to look for the good in every situation. 50/50 on keeping it to myself.

Eric Dierker (author) from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A. on January 27, 2020:

Good day to you Shaloo. I hope yours will be wonderful. I always appreciate your comments, frriend.

Eric Dierker (author) from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A. on January 27, 2020:

Chitrangada they are about ready to kick me out of Physical Therapy already. This is good I suppose. They are certain now that my issues came from a situation with my inner ear. Quite fixable.

It is really nice to start getting back in the groove with friends like you.

Ruby Jean Richert from Southern Illinois on January 27, 2020:

Eric, it is easy to love someone who is lovable, friends at church, your minister, your family, but what about the unreachable? Someone whose angry at the world for some tragedy that happened in their life. I heard that you were in the hospital. I do hope and pray you are doing better. Your sermon reached inside and opened up a fact that you may disagree, but not hate.

Linda Lum from Washington State, USA on January 27, 2020:

So the roses are a window to allow your loved ones to see how Eric is really doing, because Eric will never admit that things aren't so fine. Thank God for the roses, and thank God for you.

Eric Dierker (author) from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A. on January 27, 2020:

Raymond you make me smile with your nice comment. This one came to be after reading some kipling "If you can meet with triumph and disaster and treat those impostors just the same." Thanks for sharing this journey with me.

Eric Dierker (author) from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A. on January 27, 2020:

Mahvish I thank you for your comment. How we view a situation makes all the difference.

And your uplifting comment sets my day in a good tone.

manatita44 from london on January 27, 2020:

Lovely song. Life is like Chinese -- a yin and yang process. Lol. Just made that one up. You have covered it well, though. Duality is God's veil and evil is only a lesser form of good. Love ultimately triumphs, but this happens post the struggle, when we are one with the Eternal Source.

You ask about free will not to love. Love is actually hidden in the limited freedom, like Grace Itself. No Love, no free will neither Grace. They are all one. Peace, Bro.

Bill Holland from Olympia, WA on January 27, 2020:

I had to wade through a whole lot here to get to the primary message, but I finally got there.

Love you, buddy!

Eric Dierker (author) from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A. on January 27, 2020:

Lori, it is so fun to come at these notions from different directions. You are so right about walking through that shadowy valley with someone else. One of my favorite sights is a 70 year old help their 93 year old mom with groceries.

Pamela Oglesby from Sunny Florida on January 27, 2020:

Love and hate, triumph and tragedy are concepts worth thinking about and I agree that love conquers all. I think war and maybe other bad things happen as God as given us free will. We do not always make good choices. Thanks for giving us a topic to think about today.

Have a good week Eric.

William Kovacic from Pleasant Gap, PA on January 27, 2020:

You gave us a lot to think about. Of course, that's nothing new. Thank you, my friend. I'll be pondering this for quite some time.

Shaloo Walia from India on January 27, 2020:

Your articles always provide so much food for thought. Thanks!

Chitrangada Sharan from New Delhi, India on January 27, 2020:

Great article about love and hate, triumph and tragedy. You have made some wonderful points of wisdom. An interesting read as always.

Good to see you back, Ericdierker. Hope you are well, health wise and in high spirits.

Thanks for sharing.

Raymond Philippe from The Netherlands on January 27, 2020:

I read this on Sunday morning. This beautiful prose immediately put me in a meditative mood. Thanks, Eric.

Mahvish Iqbal Awan from muzaffarabad azad kashmir on January 26, 2020:

It was amazing to read this article ... How you related the thing disastrous to the calm one is really impressive.well comprehended

Lori Colbo from Pacific Northwest on January 26, 2020:

Eric, it is sooooo good to have you back.

There are some beautiful gems in the piece. My favorite was "Love that overcomes suffering is a gift to one from God which is delivered express by someone willing to share theirs." There is something about two sufferers coming together that creates a bond of love. The Bible talks about the fellowship of His suffering. It seems to be an oxymoron, but it's not. I have to run but loved your fresh thoughts.

John Hansen from Queensland Australia on January 26, 2020:

Combining these emotions together offers very interesting insights. Thank you for sharing this Eric.