When there is life there is death and when there is death there is grief. According to the Cambodian Buddhist, we do not view death as the end of one's life but rather as the end of a life cycle. We believe in reincarnation/rebirth. When there is death in the Khmer Buddhist community, there is a ritual performance- a proper Buddhist tradition. Otherwise it is believed that the decease will not be able to move onto the next cycle of life; rebirth.
During the ritual performance, Buddhist monks play a critical role. The monks will perform blessing and tesnah. Tesnah is known as Dhamma talk. The Dhamma talk is not required but for some family like my family, we want to have a Dhamma talk in our family funeral. The Dhamma talk is subjected on the value of life and death.
During the funeral process, there will be an achar known as a priest, Buddhist monk, family members, and other mourners. The spouse and children mourn their love one by shaving their heads and wear white clothe as other mourners wear black. --Traditionally the son or grandson of the deceased person would require to shave their head and become a monk during the period of the funeral taken place. Woman should not wear make up if they attend the funeral because it is rude to the family member of the decease.
In Cambodia, the body of the deceased are taken cared of by the family. The body would be brought home washed, dressed, and place into a coffin. --Traditionally the body should not be dissected and all organ should not be removed. --During there stay at home, monks would come to the home and recite sermon every evening by the body. Usually the body would be kept for seven days and on that seventh day it would be carried to the temple for cremation but in the United State it is kept only for three days before cremation.
Most importantly the body should be kept as far away from animals because there is an old saying that if the dead hear a sound of an animal cries his or her soul will become attach to that animal. Another old saying is that a cat shall not jump over a deceased or else the soul of the deceased will become a lifelong evil spirit that will not reincarnate.
During the three to seventh day the funeral is being held, the family would have to carry the deceased coffin and held a parade three round around the temple. The oldest daughter in the family would have to to drop coins behind her back without looking back during the parade. After that the coffin will be lifted up and ready to be cremated.
After cremation the children of the deceased will decide to take the ashes with them home or leave it at the temple. There is also a 100th day death remembrance ceremony that is required to do. During the 100th day death remembrance ceremony, giving alms and praying is required.
Terminally Ill Person
--For terminally ill person, it is not unusual for monks to recite sermon at the bed side. It is likely a preparation for the dying person to prepare him/her to the next life. It is important for the Khmer people to have the monks at the place of the death because they believe that it is where the soul exit its body but still remain present. During this period, the soul is in the state of confusion and fright. After the soul is exiting the body the monks duty is to calm the soul and bring enlightenment. The soul will finds its way to heaven or to hell based on their action when they were a living being.
JJ on June 14, 2020:
Very informative, thanks. I've just been at my wife's mother's funeral, in Cambodia and some of what you wrote explained some of my questions.
As for the person who can't spell hahaha, are you that bored that feel the need to post inane comments on something you clearly have no interest in? Twat.
hghhj on June 14, 2020:
Judy Brown on February 24, 2017:
I am so thankful to know Jesus -- my Lord and my Saviour. He died for my sins and has promised me a place in Heaven with Him. I am so thankful that I don't have to be reincarnated or go to hell. I am really looking forward to spending eternity in Heaven with my Jesus.
Foung on August 21, 2016:
That really impotance and interesting thank for giving information
Jane Ramona Rynkiewicz Frieman from Morris County, New Jersey on September 20, 2014:
Traditions from other countries have always sparked my interest.
Kheng Sophos on July 24, 2013:
Absolutely, we all have to die! no one can escape from the death. even though we know that we will have ceremony after we died because of our family they are gratful to us, but we have to remember it is not important for us because we don't know at all what they did. The buddha said we have to save what is good deep that we think that it can help us in the future before we died because no one help us without us. Ceremony is just ceremony! The Buddha didn't limit to ceremony 7 days or 100 days, but family can celebrate any times after their relatives died 3days ago.
Linda on October 11, 2012:
Thank you for giving comfort to me. I was raised Christian and my daughter-in-law is Buddhist. I wasn't sure how to comfort this part of my family with the impending death of a child. I can see our faiths really do intersect and that we can treat each other's traditions with respect.
Terrye Toombs from Somewhere between Heaven and Hell without a road map. on April 20, 2012:
Very interesting. Thank you for giving us a peek into another culture. Very good hub. Voted up and then some.
Jim Higgins from Eugene, Oregon on April 19, 2012:
A really interesting window into another culture's practices around death. I have always thought that reincarnation made more sense than the way some religions look at the life cycle. I did not, however, know that heaven and hell was part of Buddhist religion.
Up, interesting, awesome.
Joyce Haragsim from Southern Nevada on April 18, 2012:
This is all very interesting to learn about other countries ways.
I'm sorry it's your family that lost someone.
Voted up and interesting.