Timothy is a Christian who enjoys creating visual art and writing. He has a B.S. in Psychology.
Bullying Is Not Good In Any Form
Christian and bullying are two words not usually used in the same sentence. While the Christian faith is built on the idea “of loving others as God loves,” each and everyone there are times when Christians are viewed as bullies. There are times when Christians come across as abrasive, condescending, self righteous bullies not only to non-believers but also to members of their own church.
Bullying is defined as “a persistent unwelcome behavior, mostly using unwarranted or invalid criticism, nit-picking, fault-finding, also exclusion, isolation,” and much more.
Here are some ways Christians may come across as bullies.
* Mocking another person's beliefs because they are different. For example some Christians believe in talking in tongues others don't.
* Undermining another person's life because it does not line up with the Bible.
* Ignoring another persons ideas because they do not line up with your beliefs.
* Humiliating non Christian's in front of others because they do not want to come to a saving grace in Christ.
There are many other ways Christians can be perceived as bullies. The Bible is clear however, bullying is not to be a Christian tactic. Ephesians 4:29, states, “Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.” Also in Romans 12:18 the Bible says, “so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.”
Christians are called to set an example for others whether it is inside the church or outside the church. Therefore when conflicts arise as they will with all certainty, Christians should not react negatively but remember these words found in Romans 15:7, "Therefore welcome one another as Christ has welcomed you, for the glory of God.”
20 Bible Verses About Christian Bullying
1. Ephesians 4.29, Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.
Bullying is corrupt talk and should not be part of a Christian's vocabulary.
2. Proverbs 6:16-19, “There are six things that the Lord hates, seven that are an abomination to him: haughty eyes, a lying tongue, and hands that shed innocent blood, a heart that devises wicked plans, feet that make haste to run to evil, a false witness who breathes out lies, and one who sows discord among brothers.”
Bullying in and outside the church sows discord among church members and seeks to tear apart unity. Outside the church it drives people away from the faith.
3. Mark 12:31, "The second is this: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no other commandment greater than these.”
Bullying is anything but loving your neighbor.
4. Proverbs 24:16. "Drive out a scoffer, and strife will go out, and quarreling and abuse will cease."
The way is clear if someone is bullying people they must go in order to restore peace.
5. Matthew 5:44, "But I say to you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you"
Finally if someone is bullying you do not retaliate but pray for them.
15 More Bible Verses on Bullying
The following verses deal with how you treats others. They all speak of showing kindness to others. Bullying is anything but showing kindness.
6. Romans 12:18, "If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all"
7. Matthew 7:12, "So whatever you wish that others would do to you, do also to them, for this is the Law and the Prophets."
8. Micah 6:8, "He has told you, O man, what is good; and what does the Lord require of you but to do justice, and to love kindness, and to walk humbly with your God?"
9. Roman's 15:7, "Therefore welcome one another as Christ has welcomed you, for the glory of God."
10. 1 Corinthians 16:14, "Let all that you do be done in love."
11. 1 Corinthians 14;33, "For God is not a God of confusion but of peace. As in all the churches of the saints,"
12. Jeremiah 29:11, "For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope."
13. Philippians 2:3, "Do nothing from rivalry or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves."
14. Proverbs 10:12, "Hatred stirs up strife, but love covers all offenses"
15. Proverbs 15:1, "A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger."
16. Leviticus 19:18, "You shall not take vengeance or bear a grudge against the sons of your own people, but you shall love your neighbor as yourself: I am the Lord."
17. 2 Timothy 1:7, "For God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control."
18. Matthew 5:9, “Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called sons of God."
19. Proverbs 15:1, "A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger."
20. Hebrews 12:14, "Strive for peace with everyone, and for the holiness without which no one will see the Lord."
Some Final Thoughts On Bullying
Bullying is not acceptable in any form. It causes separation, anger and in some lingering mental trauma for years. As Christians you should always seek peace and equality for all. Helping those who need help and not putting down those who dont understand or are different than you are.
© 2012 Timothy Whitt
Timothy Whitt (author) from New Jersey on May 31, 2013:
I hear you. It is sad when some of the worst discrimination a Christian faces comes at the hands of those in a church who are called to love all people.
Louis Fourie from Johannesburg, South Africa on May 31, 2013:
Yes we also going to a new church and the same thing happened to us, it is as if we are outsiders, openly opposing us, as if we are competition. We were now the reason for the gossip and we even heard that the pastor wanted to sleep with my wife. We are being ignored by the church leaders but we feel the Holy Spirit in that place. It is so sad that this has to happen in the house of God.
Timothy Whitt (author) from New Jersey on March 31, 2013:
Not all churches are like that, but it is a sad commentary when it happens
Anonymous on March 31, 2013:
I went to Arise Church in Wellington for a couple of months and soon left, everyone has their own little cliques and are not welcoming to new comers, I would say hi to people I had met at church once I got there only to be ignored by everyone but the volunteers on the door. I have never felt so miserable, unwelcome and rejected in my life. It was a real shame as the music and preaching was amazing.
Timothy Whitt (author) from New Jersey on October 30, 2012:
Thanks for all your comments
Nikki Major on October 29, 2012:
Thank God for your insight whitwrites....Christian bullying does exist and it must be stopped. I pray your message is heard. God Bless.
Shining Irish Eyes from Upstate, New York on October 29, 2012:
Bullying in any form is not acceptable to me. Although I have never experienced Christian bullying, it seems particularly cruel as a religious "camouflager".
Elizabeth from The US of A, but I'm Open to Suggestions on October 28, 2012:
I would mostly agree, however, the "word of god" is subjective. All Christians claim the Bible, yet there are well 1000 denominations, and none of them agree on what the word of god says.
In the end, each denomination ultimately believes that their particular interpretation is correct, and by default everyone else its wrong. Who's to say who's right, ultimately?
Bullying by the church its nothing new, however. The church has been doing it ever since it came into power - almost 2000 years ago. Its difficult to remember the crusades, the inquisition, the witch hunts and even the holocaust, but they were all rooted in the
church ultimately. The only reason the church stopped burning people at the stake (mostly, take a look at what's happening in Africa as a result of missionaries) is because it was dragged out of
the dark ages and forced to adapt - or die largely because of the age of science and enlightenment
Christina M. Castro from Baltimore,MD USA on October 28, 2012:
The Church ministries that do the bullying, in the end, will have The Lord God to answer to, and God will offer mercy to their victims. It is a shame that the Word of God is not practiced the same in all churches.
Elizabeth from The US of A, but I'm Open to Suggestions on October 28, 2012:
Good post. I would say that my experience in particular has given me a very bad impression of christians overall. I was bullied endlessly because I was different, even though I did everything I could to follow the example left by christ. Eventually, this negative behavior among other things made me rethink my beliefs about god, and I eventually realized I was an atheist.
I've found a lot of christians to be rigorously intolerant, and some are even unwilling to listen to thoughts or beliefs or challenges that seem to go against their own. Because of this, a negative light is cast on religion in general, and christianity in particular. It shouldn't have to be this way, but it's an unfortunate reality - in this country in particular. The US is one of the most religious countries in the world (based on the people that identify as religious, not the country itself, since it was, is and always will be a secular nation) yet it has one of the highest crime rates and abortion rates worldwide. Clearly something isn't working the way it should.