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So you're psychic or a medium? Now what?
Great, so you've realized you're psychic and you've stumbled upon this article. Now what? I want to share and discuss some of the challenges I've encountered over the last 5-6 years regarding this crazy topic, perhaps what I've learned will help you.
You're probably already annoyed by occurrences you're experiencing, so I want to share my top challenges of being a psychic medium with you. I've known I am psychic officially since I was about 32 years old. Before that I denied it. You'll see some of the reasons why as you keep reading. It's not the easiest thing to make sense of. Being a psychic or a medium doesn't make you magical or have crazy superpowers, it's actually a hard life for everyone and being psychic doesn't exclude you from that.
Doubt and lack of Trust
The biggest issue with ESP ability is doubting the info you receive and lack of trust. Most people assume that highly intuitive people, Empaths, HSP's, or INFJ's (via Meyers Briggs) are just overly emotional. Think about that for a moment.
Of course, we are overly emotional, overly sensitive, and can appear dramatic, high strung and overwhelmed. For the dominant left brain folks or those that don't have sensitive nervous systems, they will never understand this. Don't bother trying to explain it. They do not know what it is like walking around every day feeling everything so deep and intense. This isn't limited to people or places, this includes nature, animals, others suffering, weather changes, etc. You feel on a very deep level, this is how you were made. Don't hold others lack of understanding against them and try not to take it personally. Chances are as you were growing up, you often heard "suck it up" or 'stop being so emotional". You're feelings, albeit not logical facts, were discredited. I'm not talking about tantrums and not getting your way. I'm talking about when you perceived things as a child and were then told you were wrong when every cell in your body told you what you felt was valid and correct. Even slight conditioning like this teaches you that you should not trust what you feel. This happens to plenty of people that are not psychic too, but an HSP is going to process this very differently. Getting over the hump of self-doubt, disbelief and lack of trust is one of the biggest challenges of being a psychic medium. This just takes time, patience, and practice to bypass when you are doing psychic service related work.
Another challenge with doubt and lack of trust is that some days you are going to be so tapped into energy and spirit that you nail everything right out of the park. Other days you will wonder WTF is going on here?! Another assumption of the masses is that psychics are always "on", this just is not the case. In a really great session where linking is strong, you may average 85-90% sometimes even 100%. On a bad day, or when you have a connection that is weak, it's more likely you'll connect about 60%. Hey...don't forget you're still human. Everything is cyclical, it's a universal law. With time, and getting to know yourself, you'll know when you want to read and when it may be more advisable to take a break.
Eventually, you're going to encounter the types that like to play "test the psychic", all I can say about this personally is, don't waste your time. The moment you feel put off and "tested" shut it down. You learn this with time and experience. And believe me, you will learn it. There is a difference between scepticism and jerks. Open and closed. Someone playing test the medium is going make you feel doubtful. Their energy is going to make you feel like you're swirling around in a bag in the breeze, your links will be weak and muddled. Your connection is going to be really bouncy. Don't waste your time.
Doubt and lack of trust will always be there to some extent but as you become familiar with your abilities and your spirit team, this does dramatically decrease.
Tips to minimize your doubt and lack of trust
- Meditate; this increases your connection to your higher self and also your spirit team and Spirit Guides.
- Keep a journal and write often as you learn.
- Make sure you are taking good care of yourself mentally, physically, and emotionally. You should be doing this regardless. When you are in tune with your body and mind, information is clearer.
- Find places to practice; repetition of any task will increase the neural pathways in the mind and increase claircognizance (clear knowing). They don't say "practice makes permanent" for nothing. You can find online support groups, local sitting circles, wonderful friends that understand and support you, mentors and Spiritualist churches, these will all be a huge help as you grow and learn.
This challenge is going to be a little hard to describe. But if you're a psychic or medium or both you'll understand what I am saying here. I keep using both loosely because not all psychics are mediums, but all mediums are psychic.
HSPs typically love to be alone. We need this time to connect with ourselves and recharge. Being alone is not the same as loneliness. When you realize you're psychic, the world tends to shrink a bit but only in the sense of how you relate to others. It can be a big struggle to relate to others, even though they are not doing anything particular that would merit this. You just feel like a bit of a misfit, outcast, or oddball. Chances are you've been feeling this your whole life and when that ah-ha moment arrives your awareness of it becomes even greater.
The world, on the other hand, becomes humongous, there's no lack of awe there. Not that there ever was. But articulating your thoughts to others may often be misunderstood, or they just won't "get it". This is all perfectly okay. You may feel perceived as aloof, cold, off in la-la-land, eccentric, or weird. You're not stimulated by humdrum conversations or topics, you want deep connections with others and that's not always possible. This can make you feel quite lonely at times.
Tips to minimize your lonlienss
- Pray. I realize this will be different for everyone. But prayer is healing and connects us to our creator, greater knowledge, and the whole. And it's pretty much the only connection that will always have meaning and should be a top priority.
- Find your tribe. Search for your weirdo's. They are out there, waiting to embrace you with loving arms. With the age of information and technology, this is not hard to do.
- Make sure you allow yourself plenty of time to be creative, enjoy nature, and daydream. You'll also feel your guides stronger and they will never let you wallow in loneliness for very long. All you need to do is ask for their help.
If you're doing spiritual work of any kind, you're going to encounter frustration. We need to keep in mind the majority of intuitive information comes in the form of symbols, metaphors, imagery, dreams, music, feeling. Sometimes things just won't make sense. Guess what? When you're reading for someone, it doesn't have to make sense to you. The message isn't for you. You are a channel that is allowing spiritual information to flow through you. Give the messages as you get them. Another aspect of frustration is that the majority of people you read for are going to frustrate you. They will not always understand how to "sit" as it's called. They may give you to much detail, as a psychic or medium it's your job to do that. They may not want to admit to some piece of information you are getting. I'm personally highly clairvoyant, meaning I get a lot of info in the form of images. A lot of times they don't make sense to me. It's very much like fitting a puzzle together. If you are getting info, and you "ask" your spirit team or higher self for clarity, and the information does not change, but your sitter says "no" that's wrong. Just let it go and move on to the next part. Tell them to hold the info and that it may make sense later. This is part of service work that is just a nature of the beast so to speak. You'll never totally eliminate it.
Tips to minimize frustration
- During an active reading, ask for clarity from your spirit team or higher self. Accept that sometimes you are not going to get it. Again, not everything is ours to know, wouldn't be much fun if it all was.
- Accept that some people are going to throw you off, avoid reading for people that are testing you.
- Accept that you are a channel, do your best to interpret and relay the messages you have. Give what you get.
- Notice things coming up repeatedly that you can learn from. Everything is a process and learning never ends.
Sooner or later, you're going to encounter some mental health challenges. Maybe it won't be too terrible, hahaha! Before assuming you've lost your mind make sure to rule out any underlying health issues, injuries, addictions, chemical imbalances, etc. Make corrections as needed. And if you still feel like you're going mad, welcome to the wonderful world of peering beyond veils!
Life is a process, and you can be certain that as this evolves you'll be uncovering aspects of yourself you did not know were there. Sometimes when there are massive energy body shifts, you may experience what is called Kundalini rising, or ascension symptoms, check out my link for more info on that. The amount of information you can process in a very short amount of time has the capacity to throw anyone off the mental cliff.
Many remote viewers, such as Lynn Buchannan, Ingo Swan, advise breaks between sessions. This means NOT READING ALL THE TIME. You need to allow yourself to process changes as they come so you avoid imbalance and instability. Also when you read to often, you can have something called psychic overlay, this is when information your subconscious mind just fills in blanks with. It makes reads a mess. I was in a state of psychic psychosis for about a year, massive energy body shifts, and lots of karmic purging. Although it had some incredible moments, it's really not a pretty place. You have only yourself, and the other side to rely on to navigate your way out of it. That is unless you end up in a nut hut. I'm not going there. When you're feeling "crackers" shut down. Stop doing any spiritual work. Take a break. Live life a little. Have a drink or smoke a joint, just kidding. You may fear "but if I do this will go away", it will not. It can't. It's part of who you are. You still have the choice to use it or don't. Sure, long breaks may cause you to feel a little rusty, but it's better than becoming mentally ill. I find this topic to be a big challenge because there is a feeling you acquire reading that is absolutely amazing. And you'll only know it when you feel it. It becomes addicting. The type of connection you feel to the entire existence of life is amazing. There are no words to summarize it, you'll just know. It's been compared to standing on the top of the highest mountain. Guess what? No one gets to stand there forever, not while you're in a human vehicle. Eventually, you're going to lose your balance. And the objective is to not learn so fast that you lose all logic and reasoning. Balance. Ground.
Tips to minimize mental illness
- Take breaks. Do not read all the time. This means when you feel overloaded with sensory information, STOP. Do whatever you need to do to get grounded and back in touch with our planet. Salt, smudging, nature and being in water helps me. You'll find what works for you. But when nothing is, just stop.
- Accept that part of this is not going to be believed by everyone. And some people are going to go out of their way to make you doubt your sanity. When you need mental support, seek nutritionists first, shamans, psychics or mediums you trust. Medicine has its place, but try to use that as a last resort.
- Create boundaries. Some mediums do not want to receive detailed information on how someone died. I personally don't mind, but this is something you can ask your spirit team to help you block. You can also do this with your schedule. You don't want to be woken up all night with spirits, make that time off limits. Any type of info you don't want you'll learn to block, either with the help of your spirit team or mentally on your own.
Unsettling information and sensory overload
Many times when you are just at the gates of this process, your nervous system is going to be completely overloaded. You may have spirits around 24/7 that don't respect your boundaries or privacy. Giving you info from every direction, this will be felt by all 5 physical senses, but the way the information is transmitted is through the nerves and processed first by the 6 non-physical senses. You may be getting some really unsettling information during reads. This could relate to anything, death details, relationship issues, health problems, someone's funky gross energy. You will need to learn to energetically cut cords. A lot of psychic mediums refer to this as cleansing or cord cutting. This can be a challenge because you may hold on to "stuff" too long that is not yours. This will affect your own health and could affect your families too, or those closest to you. Make sure you learn how to properly disconnect from a reading.
Knowledge has a price.
This is another huge challenge because growing with spirit while in human form is full of changes. OBEs, astral projection, lucid dreaming, encounters with discarnate beings, your perception of everything is going to be altered. Which also brings lots of life changes. You're also going to experience a lot of physical and mental adjustments. Sadly, I have no solution for this. Life is a series of learning to cope and adjust. This is not an exception. The best thing you can do for yourself as you grow is allow yourself unlimited permission for self-care.
Keep in mind, although you are a channel, you are also your own unique person with preferences, personality and character traits. Being psychic doesn't change that. You have lessons to learn just as much as the next person, and although this can be a challenging part of someone's life, you can help open others to love and connection they may have never known before while improving the life for the whole.
Feel free to contact me
Please check out my other articles if you've found this helpful. You may also contact me on Facebook, Psychic Medium Rebecca. My contact information can also be located on my Hubpage profile. I'm happy to help growing sensitives, psychics, mediums, and everyone else when, where, and how I can.
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Rebecca (author) from USA on March 26, 2020:
Thanks for this comment :) Yes remote viewers have worked for the military for years. You may be familiar with Lynn Buchannan? Or Ingo Swan? Despite what some believe about RV or ESP, it does work. One thing you can do to validate it against imagination....when an image comes up, try to change it. If you can, it's most likely your imagination. If you remove it from your thoughts and it still comes back the same way, it's usually RV. :) I'll look forward to more of your thoughts and experiments.
JC Scull from Gainesville, Florida on February 29, 2020:
Very interesting article.
I read a book some years ago about remote viewers hired by both the KGB and the CIA as a way of spying on the other side. Remote viewers were instructed to attempt to view or discern what the other side was up to militarily. The book was quite impressive and I thought I would give it a try in my own personal life.
It seemed I was able to tell where my middle daughter was as she was driving home from hanging out with friends. The only problem is that I am not sure if I was really "viewing" her or if it was my imagination. The mind is a very powerful tool, especially when it goes to convincing yourself about things that you wish were true.
As an example, the combination of prayer and fasting is a perfect way to brainwash yourself. Many self-proclaimed prophets ask their followers to fast and pray in order to know that their teachings are true. In my opinion, prayer is a way to seek a god that lives within you, not an entity outside yourself.
In fact, in a 2018 Columbia and Yale University researchers isolated the place in our brains that processes spiritual experiences. In MRIs given to volunteers, this part of the brain lit up when the subject was given spiritual suggestions or stimuli. This perhaps points to the location where the feeling of the "spirit" people get when in a religious event.
However, keeping all of this in mind, I am still fascinated by the subject of a mental or cognitive process that purports to allow someone to see "beyond".
I will definitely read more of your articles.
Miranda Black from Minnesota on June 09, 2019:
The goal was to get rid of a spirit that has been possessing me on multiple occasions, in the end it did work, but I had no clue what I had done
Rebecca (author) from USA on June 05, 2019:
Yes, and thought forms. But you need to be careful with all of that. What is the goal?
Miranda Black from Minnesota on May 23, 2019:
Is it possible to manipulate an aura of a living person? Like move it or put it in something
Rebecca (author) from USA on May 22, 2019:
Summoning may be the wrong way to put it. If your channels are open, you're more like an antenna. :)
Rebecca (author) from USA on May 22, 2019:
I wish I could answer this for you. But for me, in order for something low to attach to something else it has to match that vibration when a shift occurs the hold is gone. So can it affect it? Yes. Most people will end up psychotic if an entity that is not well intended is feeding their psychic faculties. This is why discernment is so important. These are my beliefs, this may or may not help answer your question.
Miranda Black from Minnesota on May 05, 2019:
I've been able to summon spirits at will since I was 5, so I would end up wondering what was wrong with quite often, I'm just looking for something to prove those thoughts wrong
Rebecca (author) from USA on May 05, 2019:
It can all lead us in a lot of circles searching there is no doubt about that. Eventually, that calms down and turns to focus.
Rebecca (author) from USA on May 05, 2019:
What are you trying to do hun? Sometimes when you have apprehension the answer is to stop.
Rebecca (author) from USA on May 05, 2019:
very true Brian. But also the soul as it develops will alter a lot of preprogrammed beliefs including trauma and abuse, being able to use and transmute these things into helping others. We all do this at some level anyhow, except for dark triad personalities.
Rebecca (author) from USA on May 05, 2019:
I'm not sure I understand your question. We are all spiritual beings, sensing things when young would imply you're more sensitive than others and yes this often grows stronger in life. You will always have free will to use it or not. Read up on HSP, empathy and sensitivity, that will help you
brian from uk on May 05, 2019:
What it is with reiki you can open this doorway to the unseen world and these unseen energies can latch them selfs onto a human aura source been a cancerian a water sign make us sensative to energies I must have picked something up off the lady it's not her fault she probably didn't due any smudging or protective prayers there are videos you can look up on you tube about reiki healers that regret doing it but it speaks for its self just because you cannot see does not mean its not there you cannot see the mind be we know we got one electric is invisible touch them cable ends and you know about it so enjoy learning it's fun as well but be safe
brian from uk on May 05, 2019:
Well protection first comes to mind before you do any psychic work to keep out any negative forces enitys and tread carefully some people are more natural when it comes to protection. I had been doing chakra clearing with my therapist she was late as norm she usually parks at back of building so I was my black bag that contained my zafu cushion and smaller cushions had a look round the back to see if she had come I may have missed and the male recioptionist is not very friend on the the way back I bumped into this other lady she said I thought you were dumping rubbish. No I said I have such a large zufu cushion it needs a very large bag oh I see. My therapist turned and we started the class there were no problems and it can be very deep almost if not trance like but I'm used to this we fished the session and then I paid as we were leaving I bumped into the lady and got chatting she was saying that she had passed her reiki level one and was practicing on her immediate family she slightly mentioned some strange things had been happening but I was not mentionioned what she asked me about what I was doing there but we had to leave for some reason I started feeling unwell this does not normally happen after a chakra clearing it took me some time to shake of the negative feeling
Miranda Black from Minnesota on May 04, 2019:
Well, I'm just looking for some answers before I accidentally summon something or just to understand what I can do
brian from uk on May 04, 2019:
I think Rebecca must be busy jade,some information can be difficult to find keep digging im still fitting the jigsaw parts myself good luck
Miranda Black from Minnesota on May 03, 2019:
I know this sounds bad but would an exorcism affect the psychic ability?
brian from uk on May 03, 2019:
I think if you were born to do any psychic or mediumship works and your early childhood has had really negative affects on you up bringing affect any confidence you might have had that will slow or even stop that individual from developing into what there supposed to do in there adult life this could be mental abuse witnessing something horrifying but not necessarily stop everything, they just would not develop at the natural rate they should and ive read some people just grow out it and later in life these gifts make a come back for some
Miranda Black from Minnesota on May 02, 2019:
If a person is able to sense spirits or supernatural beings from a young age, is that a sign for something in their future?
brian from uk on April 13, 2019:
This is a great article Rebecca. I totally relate to been alone I don't want to be alone but I know I have to be know I used to wake up some mornings and must have been crying in my sleep I used to wonder why my neighbours below me used to look at me with sorry eyes then I found out. I used to be married but always felt tired and burnt out by my wifes over emotional ness for petty things with her auntie it would make me angry when I advised her to stay away and she come in crying cause her auntie had put her in her place then I'd get the blame anything for a quite life. My mother was good at reading between the lines I don't know if she was like me but I was the same as her, it's them mirror neurons fault
Rebecca (author) from USA on March 11, 2019:
Thanks for your comment Taki :)
Taki Mokuzai from Rogersville, Missouri on March 02, 2019:
Great article! You and me both, sister. Glad to see psychics helping psychics!