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In The Bible Today; Proverbs 10

Deborah is a writer, healer, and teacher. She enjoys helping people work towards healthier lives.


Understanding The Bible

The Bible is a timeless text of perennial wisdom. It tells us not only of God and mankind, but it also guides us on our path as spiritual beings in human bodies.

Though the Bible sometimes seems inapproachable and complex, these studies are designed to make the Bible accessible to everyone and applicable to everyday life.

This study uses the SOAP technique: Scripture, Observation, Application, Prayer. As you read through and study the bible, and a verse sticks out to you, write it down. Then write down your personal observations regarding the scripture, along with historical notations and any other pertinent information. After you make a thorough observation of the scripture, meditate on how you might apply the lesson learned to your own life. How can you use this particular verse to improve your life or make your spiritual journey better? Finally, write out a prayer to God, as you think about the scripture.

This technique will help you find more meaning from your study of scripture, and will help deepen your walk along a spiritual path.

Namaste Friends.

Scripture Proverbs 10:19

Scripture: Proverbs 10:19 "In the multitude of words there wanteth not sin: but he who refraineth his lips is wise." King James Version

Proverbs 10:19 "Sin is not ended by multiplying words, but the prudent hold their tongues." New International Version

Proverbs 10:19 "When there are many words, transgression and offense are unavoidable, But he who controls his lips and keeps thoughtful silence is wise." Amplified Bible


A Simple Test

In the Rotary Club, we learn something called the Four Way Test. It works well, to help think before speaking.

"Of the things we think, say and do,

Is it the Truth?

Is it Fair to all concerned?

Will it build Goodwill and Better Friendships?

Is it Beneficial to all concerned?

If the answer is no or maybe, then perhaps the words are better left unspoken.

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Observation: When we speak too much it won't be long before we say something we wish we hadn't. Talking without thinking leads us to say stupid, or worse yet, hurtful things. And once those words are out there, there is no getting them back. You can apologize, or say you didn't mean it, but it doesn't lessen the impact of what has been spoken.

Talking is like a tube of toothpaste, when under a great deal of pressure or stress, stuff comes shooting out. When a toothpaste tube is squeezed, toothpaste shoots out the tiny opening. When we fell pressured or stressed, often times words come shooting out of our mouths. And not unlike toothpaste, once its out there, there is no getting it back in the tube.

No amount of apology can undo hurtful or angry words. And even if the words aren't angry, or the situation isn't stressful, the fact is, when we talk too much, we sometimes say things we shouldn't.

A wiser approach is to take a moment to think before speaking. Do not begin formulating a response while someone else is talking. Genuinely listen to what is being said. Then think about what was said. If it is still necessary to respond, think first, speak second.

Before you ever open your mouth to speak or respond, take one moment to breathe deeply. In that moment reflect on what has been said and what you are about to say. Make sure the words are coming from a place of kindness and love.

Often we think that adding more words will somehow make our point clearer, but as we continue to pile grievance upon grievance, more words often only adds fuel to the fire. Speak less, and think more.

Sometimes in silence, peace can be found.

Speak your truth with Love

While it is important to think before you speak, for your own mental and spiritual health, it is important to remember that you always have an obligation to yourself and the people around you to speak your own truth.

It is easy to completely stifle your true feelings, and bury them deep inside, where they will fester and rot. Instead, be brave and speak your truth.

When you speak your truth with kindness and love, not only do you honor yourself, but you honor the people around you. How the message is received is not about you. Your obligation is to speak the truth with kindness and love.


Application: I often allow my mouth to run ahead of my brain, and I always regret it. If, just for today, I engage my brain and step on the brakes before speaking, perhaps I will avoid hurting someone's feelings or sounding like a complete idiot.

Even when I am in a conversation that isn't difficult or emotion laden, my mouth often runs ahead of my brain and my heart. Instead, today I will try to listen thoughtfully, then pause before speaking.

It is much easier to pause for a moment and hold my tongue, than it is to take back hurtful words. Words are much like toothpaste, once they have been squeezed out, there is no getting them back in. I can remember many instances when I have spoken harshly, mostly to my children, but to other loved ones as well. The surprised, injured look on their faces lets me know immediately that I have gone too far. And once the damage is done, it takes much longer to undo. A parent or spouse must work harder to repair the damage to the heart of a child. When saying a kind word is not possible, it is better to just be quiet. Just be. That is the answer.

Just for today I will practice listening completely, thinking, and then responding with thoughtful intention. Not every thought I have needs to be shared, and I don't have to prove that I am the smartest or funniest person in the room. In fact, when I speak out of turn, then I am allowing my own insecurities to take hold of the situation.

Instead, I will confidently remain quiet, listening and learning.

Prayer: Lord, walk with me today and help me be mindful in my speech. Help me be quick to listen, slow to speak, and even slower to become angry. Give me the proper words to speak, at the proper time and help me hold my tongue and exercise wisdom. Father strengthen me in prudence and self control.

Namaste friends.


Prayer: Lord, walk with me today and help me be mindful in my speech. Help me be quick to listen, slow to speak, and even slower to become angry. Give me the proper words to speak, at the proper time and help me hold my tongue and exercise wisdom. Father strengthen me in prudence and self control.

Help me walk today, totally and completely loved by you, with nothing to prove, and no fear of being thought a fool. Let me be surrounded by the confidence that only your grace can bestow on my life.

Namaste friends.


anndavis25 from Clearwater, Fl. on October 16, 2011:

Oh, do I know that your mouth can get you in trouble. You give good advice when you say...'just be.' which to me, means when you are still, you can tame your thoughts and actions...Be still and know that I am God.

Micky Dee on March 11, 2010:

Help me Lord! Thanks Deborah!

Elder DeBorrah K Ogans on March 11, 2010:

Deborah Demander, Nice insightful hub! Thank you for sharing! Peace & Blessings!

Deborah Demander (author) from First Wyoming, then THE WORLD on March 10, 2010:

Thanks for reading.

Julianna from SomeWhere Out There on March 10, 2010:

Amen!!! I needed this today thank you! :)

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