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Astrology - How To Get Along - Cancer and Aquarius

Christofer has been a counselor, contract administrator and has studied astrology with his mother since the 70s. He has eight grandchildren.

Fixed and Cardinal

How To Get Along – Cancer and Aquarius

The Crab and the Water Bearer

This series on AstroCompatibility will cover all of the potential matchups in the Zodiac. We will continue this series thinking about and commenting on Cancer and The Water Bearer.  You can get an EBOOK with all 12 matchups of any sun sign, including Cancer or Aquarius at Christofer's New Website at:

Cancer - Aquarius

Aquarius is Air and Fixed. Cancer is Water and Cardinal. Hardly seems like there is much similarity to work with, This is one of those “transportation and transformation” couplings that I like to name that way for easy comprehension. If two people fall in love, they can make it. That is the human species. However some couplings and unions will only succeed, or best succeed, if they are “transported to a new place, and transformed in a new way.” There is much hard to pin down here for both signs, but they are like this with everyone. So, in a sense, they share this vagueness as one of their shared qualities. If that’s confusing, it is just naturally so. Back to cardinality and fixedness -- Once they come to an agreement that they like each other and are oddly attracted to one another, and then confess that they are both a bit hard to comprehend, it is then they will have to face one continual struggle: Cancer is a leader. Whether it’s a Cub Scout troop, a cookie sales campaign, a group of church wives planning a picnic, or a group of vice presidents in a fast moving corporation, Cancers want to lead. Aquarians hate to be led, or even told, just a little bit which way to go. Aquarians have been known to change incidental plans just to declare their independence. They just have a very strong sense of their own path.

Aquarius is not easily understood. They do not walk around saying: “I am an Aquarian, I am odd.” They walk around thinking they are just fine. “It’s the rest of the world that is out of step”. Into this argument steps the Crab. The Crab who loves and admires and is attracted to the Aquarian should appreciate their unusual way. They should appreciate it, because it is not going to change. The Aquarian style is to create a new self at every turn. Cancer needs to get comfortable with that and enjoy it. Cancer can be hard to pin down itself. Stormy thoughts pop up continuously. Mood after mood may pass over their faces over a couple days, and Aquarius will watch it, and not be terribly alarmed. They can get along, especially if their individual charts work with each other. They should probably get complete charts done.

Positive Postulate: This partnership (coupling, union, relationship) can be very appealing when both have reached a level of comfort with one another. Ingenious, chatty, all over the place funny and entertaining to themselves and the around, they can plan projects, help the helpless, star at parties and events, and generally be the fun, but odd couple, that everyone enjoys remarking about.

Romance Recommendation: Aquarius is always inside its head. Romance forces it to spread its psychic energy around. The Cancer who cares about the Water Bearer will make the Aquarian comfortable, give it a place to cuddle, get real, and feel the strong power of passion. Cancer has a wonderful combination of really sensual, food-based, smell and aura-oriented, lovely sentimentality all wrapped up inside its emotional heart. Yet, it travels around the realm of subconscious impulse and warrantless fear and strange forebodings enough to be able to give the mystifying Aquarian a place to be comforted.

Conflict Quotient: Shape shifting is something that both here might feel inspired to try. Pinning down angry ego, and watching it defend itself could be an almost entertaining enterprise. The Cancer could laugh, but it does not do so when it comes to conflict. The Aquarian can be brilliant and perverse and both of these things could come out in a blistering fight. This is territory that both would want to retreat from with their hearts intact.

Peace Parlay: Life in the end is repetitive and mundane, and so is Romance itself. This factor asks the question: "Can we be bored together over the long term?" Aquarius and Cancer will not be considered “boring”. As a duo, marching through their wild and wooly days, in and out of each other’s various pathways, boredom is not one of the pebbles they will stumble upon.

Keep Up The Interest Graph: It is hard to imagine this relationship falling into an uninteresting pattern of the mundane stale repetition. Neither would rise up in a complaint that things are not interesting anymore. The Water Bearer should be aware of one powerful truth. What is interesting to them – a new theory of everything, or what was in the Wooly Mammoth’s stomach, may not be interesting to Cancer. The Crab is interested in lots of things on the beach, but probably not the water itself, only what’s in it.

Seven Year Itchiness: There are some signs that by their nature are more stable in their love interests and family concerns as time goes on. Others are not. Aquarian coolness could send the Cancer out into the world, without even being aware. Finding another would not answer their issues, but then it seldom does. Cancer would probably watch Aquarius in general, but not necessarily for straight out infidelity.


ASTROCOMPATIBILITY POSSIBILITY RATING: 60% Positive Long Term - 90% Short Term. Aquarius is powerful upon first focusing on another. Cancer could be quite swept up easily. Down the road, their marvelous mystifying combination would have to live on mutual fascination and patience.

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Michelle on September 29, 2016:

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Christofer's Flow..she's only 8 years older don't get sexist..Broderick you have to be younger than the female because girls live longer and you two will be perfect together

Christofer's Flow on July 28, 2016:

You have one thing that is obviously going for you. You are younger by almost a decade. And its not just that...she is 41. Put a little distance between you and her. Your stock will go up. Stop with all of the "teenager in love" stuff. She knows she has you. Stop emphasizing that fact.

Cancer does have lots of emotional emanations flowing in and out with the tides. If you can't stop all of the romantic feelings, at least try to limit

the chatter. Aquas are cool at the core. Hey when you feel all bubbly with affection, take your cancer self to the beach and take in the breeze. You are probably in better shape than you know. Good for

Broderick Clark on July 27, 2016:

I am a cancer male and met a Aquarius women a few years ago. She is the most beautiful woman I have ever had the pleasure to be around. We met at work and every man wants her at my job. We bump heads a lot because I have communication problems and she hates my moods. I am glad to hear that some you guys relationships have been able to hang on and be positive. I really feel she doesn't tell me how she feels about me and doesn't show it much. I remember one time I told her that I missed her and she replied " do we have to say that everyday?" When we argue, we are able to recover fast as we apologize and move on. Right now, she is upset with me because I feel she doesn't understand me totally. I told her that I need to be able to be emotionally attached enough. Which bothers me but its not like she doesn't give me my space. Maybe I feel its to much space. Its weird because as I have these issues I will do anything for her without question. This bothers me because I do not do this and I have not been in Love in a very long time. I am 33 and she is 41. This is the most weirdest thing to me yet I want to be with her. I feel confused. Anyhow, reading you guys comments helps even though most sites I have read says the possibilities are slim.

Christofers Flow on April 22, 2015:

"Relationships" is a code word. You have to become a "friend" first. That's a code word too. Try to take your "Intent" out of the picture. You have to appear that you dont' "really really like like her alot".

Tiffany Yarbrough on April 22, 2015:

I just meet this aquraius a couple of days ago she worked at walk mart would always z she starring at me I could just feel the vibe between us and by the way I'm a cancer women so were both women I'm gay. But that not when were started text in each other after a while she said she was just going to be honest she don't do relationships they just not for her. Any subjestions or advice I don't won't to give up I really really like her a lot.

shb on April 17, 2015:

I am a cancer man and find aquarian women so attractive.sweet and lovely.i feel unknown connection to aquarian girls.

They are so real n intelligent in a unique way most of the time.

just need to work on one important thing.


Just learn to be as much romantic as you can... express your love and cuddle with the cancer man ....

and he's yours the rest of your life.

Christofer French (author) from Denver on January 10, 2015:

Chrystal: That is fantastic. That's the way love should be. The cards we play with only affect how we have to adjust and what we have to appreciate. Your Cancer husband is an astro find. And you, high minded Aqua can have practicality and emotional warmth to rule your day.

chrystal on January 10, 2015:

Im aquarius and my husband is cancer we have been married for four years now I love him so much we have our ups and downs but who doesn't I wouldn't give him up for nothing hes my life I couldn't live without him and I wouldn't want to even if we are opposite we still attract

Christofer French (author) from Denver on January 29, 2012:

A Cancer male that loves you and makes you feel that good you should get serious about. For heaven's sake, you're an Aquarian. You need his loving stability and I am sure he likes your uniqueness. Congrats.

Ashley on January 28, 2012:

I'm an aquarius woman in a relationship with a cancer first experience with a cancer male was a bit heartbreaking because he was in love with someone else I was continually put second than eventually thrown under the bus....he lied about everything except how he felt about me but I never wanted to deal with another cancer again until I met my boyfriend....n I can honestly say he is my bestfriend,protector,and true security....relate and are both fair it t

soko on November 16, 2011:

Aquarius female cancer


male,I love my boo

Ana on October 19, 2011:

I believe you need to look at the entire chart to see how compatible they are. I'm a Cancer, with Sag rising, he's an Aquarius with Scorpio rising. Our ascendants blend well with our Sun signs + we have important conjunctions.Our relationship offers all kinds of excitement, mystery, passion, we never know what's going to happen next, who is going to intrigue whom...we constantly challenge each other in strange and haunted ways, sending powerful magnetic vibrations. It's hard to describe. It's unique.

Oswaldo Hernandez on September 11, 2011:

I am a Aquarius man with a Cancer woman. We literally met by chance. The relationship is one of understanding and honesty. We are both 24 yet mature for our ages. Both of us had troubled youths and relate to one another very well. She does not try to change me yet helps drive my ambition to advance myself. While i provide an open mind that accepts her for who she is and will do whatever i can to help her reach and surpass her goals. When we met we instintly felt a connection but where able to hold back until we felt that we were compatable and had similar values, expectations, and morals. My only advice is to stay in the moment and appreciate each other for who you are, not what you are not.

Lilly on August 17, 2011:

I'm a Cancer girl with a Aquarius MAN. :) Hes a lot older than me, but I think it helps our relationship. He doesn't feel the need to be out parting since he got that out of his system already :P I'm 19 and Hes 41. 22 Year difference. Though I'm young I am outgoing and had to grow up faster than regular people my age. Every have relationships have their ups and downs. Its all about compromise. :) He doesn't mind me going out and I don't mind him going out with the guys for a game of pool. But he would always rather bring me along than going without me. Arm candy? Maybe? But I think its more than than. He genuinely loves me. We have been together for 1 year and a half and currently live together in L.A.

angelique Clark on February 11, 2011:

Im an Aquarius, my (husband)is Cancer I absolutely adore him I cant live with out him I know they say were not compatible and cant last but i don't care hes wonderful and yes hes moody but he belongs to me and I wouldn't give him up for nothing and to no one we been together since the day we met and been together now 7 years we have had ups and down heaven and Hell together but its cool you just have to be mature and understand that marriage is the glue that holds us together along with maturity.

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