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Virgo and Aries - Magnetic then Compatible

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The Virgin and The Ram -

This series on AstroCompatibility will cover all of the potential matchups in the Zodiac. We will continue this series thinking about and commenting on Aries and Virgo. You can get an EBOOK of all 12 matchups for any sun sign, including Aries or Virgo at: Christofer's new website at:

Virgo - Aries -

Virgo is an Earth Sign. Aries is a Fire Sign. Virgo is Mutable. Aries is Cardinal. This makes these signs quite dissimilar, but that does not mean it can not be a good match if love factors are there. Virgo is earthy and mutable. This makes the Virgo stable, but understanding and flexible in the qualities that they bring to relationships. They have tolerance and patience, but are soundly strongly planted in the ground. Aries's fiery nature and action-oriented style is not much like the Virgo. If Virgo was seeking more excitement, this could be great. If Aries was seeking practicality and thoroughness, it could also be positive as a match. A Virgo female could bring the insulation to the relationship and the Aries male could be the live wire. Real circuitry could develop. If an Aries female were tired of "lively" types, she could be strongly attracted to a hard-working sensible Virgo male. In either case, the Virgo would have to be impressed with the core seriousness of their Aries mate, and see them as strong, but entertaining and full of vitality. But, they would have to be convinced of that seriousness. The Aries, would have to value and seek out the Virgo soundness and not be off put by what might be perceived as a little predictable and boring.

Positive Postulate:

Since Aries and Virgo are not much alike, the positive scenario would be that they are attraced to the values of each. Positively speaking, if there was basic attraction and similarity of personal values, they could offset their differences and make their unique contributions to the match. Aries fire can be its own dramatic show, and Virginal service and appreciation can make the Aries feel loved and valued.

Romance Recommendation:

Aries and Virgo would not provide romantic fireworks on the face of it, unless the Virgo was seeking out and searching for Arian smoke and flame. If there would be a lack, it would be that Virgo would want more "sincerity" in the relationship, and Aries would want less "predictability".

Conflict Quotient:

Virgo and Aries could really miss the boat in getting confllicts resolved. Virgo would insist on being its usual critical self, but be surprised when Aries took loud offense. Virgo would ask for more quiet and less yelling, and Aries would yell louder. Aries would ask for the virginal attitude to be a little less nitpicking. Virgo would keep grinding away on the "main point", while Aries attacked from several angles at once.

Peace Parlay:

Life in the end is repetitive and mundane, and so is Romance itself. This factor asks the question: "Can we be bored together over the long term?" Virgo and Aries, could be bored together. Virgo can slip into predictability and emphasize the basics and be quite happy. It would depend on the tolerance in the Aries partner. Virgo might tire of Aries energy, but if it did not, things could keep going nicely.

Keep Up The Interest Graph:

Virgo and Aries could "keep up the interest". As long as the bills were being paid and the union was sound, Virgo could be happy and interested in keeping the "home fires burning" Aries, if happy with the union, could charge things up just by being itself. If Aries saw the Viriginal one as just too predictable and too much the same, interest could wane.

Seven Year Itchiness:

There are some signs that by their nature are more stable in their love interests and family concerns as time goes on. Others are not. The 7 year itch can trip up any union. Aries would by nature be more susceptible. Virgo, being in a sense a little too naïve, might not know what it was going through and get tripped up just because the 7 year itch is not an everyday, or monthly thing.

ASTROCOMPATIBILITY POSSIBILITY RATING: 50% Positive Long Term - 50% Short Term. If these two could get through the beginning and actually found a reason to stay together, it could actually develop long term. If as time passes, the relationship gets stabilized and confirmed, there would be foreseeable harmony. Short term looks almost hard to imagine, but long term, once ironed out, the union could have a balance to it.

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Christofer French (author) from Denver on October 18, 2012:

Because we are human hope is a powerful force. It's why we keep trying beyond the evidence. But eventually there is another force that takes over. It is the urge to survive. Procreation is a mighty force, but we don't need to kill ourselves for procreation.

Tia on October 17, 2012:

Thank you for replying back. i do agree with you :-)

I was going to message him back asking for his number, but i don't know? I just wish he wouldn't have asked for my number knowing he wouldn't call! That's why when i message him i said if you want me to leave you alone just say so and i will. But thanks again :)

Christofer French (author) from Denver on October 16, 2012:

You are overwrought about an Aries Guy. They move at the speed of light. When they are young they can be going in different directions. They relish moving over the young spring time of the earth. Don't trouble yourself. Find some inner peace or he is going to drive you beside yourself. He probably will come round again, but don't let that mean much.

Tia on October 15, 2012:

I need some quick advice ..

I've been dealing with my aries guy on and off since high school. He was 18 & i was 17, now he's 22 ( April 5th) & Im 21 (August 27th) Im a virgo of course :) we are Very attracted to each other, he loves my big eyes and i love his body. Sometimes we just stare at each other and smile or we will hug for a long time. We barley argue, but i do get rude when he makes me, he does the same. He says he loves me but he shows me way more. Im not really emotional so he's never seen or heard me cry but he never makes me that mad. He call me every day or text me. He likes feeding me too lol ( i love my food ) but in May we got into an argument and we haven't talk since. I reached out to him in June through my best friend Facebook and he replied saying he wasn't going to call me i was like ok fine! I left him alone and months went by and i started missing him a lot so i wrote him on Facebook again saying i wanted to talk to him and i also asked how he was doing and if he wants me to leave him alone tell me and i will go away. He replied saying we can talk and he asked for my number and i gave it too him. But its been 6 days and he hasn't called? Im a little worried, Omg started to think he won't call me so we can really talk :( ??? Any advice? I don't have his number because i got my new phone around May. This has never happen to me. There was 1 time when i stopped talkin to him for 10 months and he came back and we acted like nothing ever happened, when

Tia on October 15, 2012:

He seen me after all that time he ran to me and we hugged and talked in the middle of the parking lot for 30 mins. Real tight :) but now Im scared, what if were really over and i LOVE him. I want us to work, its like that little disagreement back in May hurt us. He was upset with his mom and school and he's real close to her but he was giving me attitude when i was tryin to talk to him so me being a virgo i got mad and i hung up! That was it! I just wish he would call or text me :( i don't want to stalk him because i never have too but its like dang ugh ... What do you guys think? Im just scared ...

Christofer French (author) from Denver on May 29, 2012:

Thanks for your contribution, Rece.

Rece on May 27, 2012:

I am an Aries female & me n my ex Virgo bf called it quits after 9mnths of an extreme roller coaster ride. Not to bash Virgos (cuz I saw his heart thru his tears) but u r very sensitive emotional beings that at times hve to k when to back up and away from ppl n let them breath. I miss my baby, but I feel free of a lot of the ugly behavior displayed by us both. I wish us all luck n life, happiness, n love...guess I'm selfish n that gesture too but life is too short for the Tom Foolery of crazy love!

Christofer French (author) from Denver on May 16, 2012:

Virgo Girl. Count on Aries to act in their own interest first. They have a "me too" approach. However, I fear that the problems in your situation are much more complex than his sun sign alone. The best to you.

VIRGO GIRL on May 14, 2012:


Christofer French (author) from Denver on May 07, 2012:

Monica: You speak like someone who is happy. That is fantastic. Some have to work very hard to achieve just a little bit of what you obviously have. Blessings to you!

Monica on May 06, 2012:

I am a Virgo female. I am engaged and have been with my Aries man for almost 7 years! I can't believe that we are " supposedly" least compatible! He is absolutely my soul mate! I've never been happier or in a healthier relationship in my entire life! We are best friends. We get along so well. We never fight! But most of all, we communicate better than any other 2 signs I've ever seen! My best friend from high school is also an Aries! I think this crap is...well.uhmmm. Crap! If u love it out!

Christofer French (author) from Denver on May 01, 2012:

If I were searching the zodiac for a friend who was a Virgo, I would put an Aries at the very end of the list. Get your Virgo outlook back in perspective. Don't let this Aries spoil your appetite anymore.

Aries and Virgo on April 30, 2012:

I'm a Virgo and seeing an Aries ! It's a freakin disaster! Aries are self centered , controlling , horrible mates ! You can't trust them . They play tons of games w ur feelings . I've been on and off for 3 yrs ! Now it's over ! He's a true jerk !

Christofer French (author) from Denver on February 23, 2012:

You sound like you come from a religious setting, or some cultural aspect that allows "long convos" and intense contact without sex. Be that as it may, for Aries to be this patient is truly astounding. I would view this as a positive for YOU. However, I don't necessarily see that your patience is going to work.

The only real substantive suggestion I have is to write in via the "Triad" article. Get your sun sign, rising sign and Moon sign. Get his, if you can by learning his hour of birth and place of birth, and of course the day of birth. If he is like me, he relishes long convos with women. As a youth I discovered many were attracted to me that I was not aware of. When a woman made the move, I happily reacted. I would not advise an "Aries move" if you have not done one yet. See me on the "Triad" and tell me you are "shaD" and remind me of this commentary.

shaD on February 22, 2012:

wow. Im ana ries woman and I have silently loved a virgo man for 4 year (having known of him for 20). I hinted 3 times in 4 years that I was diggin him. The first 2 times he kind of ignored it, and the 3rd time he told me the lord has someone for me not him. Now me as an Aries, typically I would have cried, got mad, or said his loss, but with this virgo man, my patience is so high its scary. Even when he talks to me about other woman that he pursues who don't see the man they have in front of them, I stay patient and still love him no less. Lord knows I love that man and I claim him as my husband one day. I thought he liked me with all the long (hours long) convos we have, and the fact that we can be in a romantic setting and not have sex due to respect for each other. What do I have to do to win over my virgo man even though he shot me down?

Christofer French (author) from Denver on January 29, 2012:

You should be. You need them. A candid sweet but critical Virgo is just the kind of style an Aries can use. And Virgo's sometime timidity gets a healthy dose of sunshine from the Aries.

virgo 922 on January 27, 2012:

I am a aries but i am crazy about virgos

Christofer French (author) from Denver on January 01, 2012:

This is really what you call a "working things out" couple. Don't go for drugs, but every once in awhile tell each other you are just going to be quiet with each other. It may seem impossible, but while you are trying to be silent, you may get quick snapshots of each other's soul at rest.

ExoticAries on December 31, 2011:

HI Aries girl here, and for one year my virgo bf and i were on and off. And it took me this long to finally know how to read his mind.

The secret is the the COMMUNICATION.

Second, LOTS, LOTS AND LOTS OF PATIENCE, even his mouth is "filthy" lol, i feel he didn't mean that. all u have to do is pacify him, make him feel that he's the only guy in the univers lol. But don't over do it, he would know.

My fellow aries. when u are having conversationwith your virgo guy would surely provoke you but never fall on his drama on his tantrums. Just relax

And if your an ARIES girl, your the one should tone down not that u would swallow pride. I know it wont be as an aries girl has plenty of it that u couldn't imagine virgo people lol. and u know what i mean with this one aries ladies. U don't wanna get down yourself. It challeges u more.

I must admit that it was all my fault, its true that aries are so naïve impulsive and aggressive even if we didn't mean to do something my virgo guy get offended and hurt.. I hate when he starts to speak and talk about what happen in the past. Its so annnoying that's when i start to have my bad temper. And when i am already angry and also him, so its a huge fight until i would leave him as I NEVER like PRESSURE. But what i was doing everytime we fight anger and leave he gets very angrry as in the word angry.

So now i know what to do. I can pacify him.

He tells me he loves me everyday. He said he loves me as i have my spirit too.

Good luck and always remember COMMUNICATION, NEVER ENDING PATIENCE AND TONE DOWN YOURSELF A LITTLE OR BE HUMBLE ( i find it humble because everytime we fight he alwys tells me am so arrogant, maybe the way i speak to him because i don't wanna get myself low to him so i fight back., so be humble )

Christofer French (author) from Denver on December 30, 2011:

Once the Aries can get over the Virgo critical nature, they see the Virgin underneath. Once the Virgo stops taking offense at how aggressive Aries is, they see the active productive Ram underneath.

IaminLOVE on December 29, 2011:

I have been reading this and although there are some characteristics the same I am very fortunate to say that I have been in an extremely loving and happy relationship with my Virgo for 2 and a half years. The beginning bit was rather on and off and to be fair that was all my fault, being the impulsive snap-decision Aries. I was changing my mind as to what I wanted on a daily basis. Actually make that like hourly basis. Once the hard bit was done I found we just fit! We haven't got any secrets and he is also one of my closest friends. I love him with all of my heart. It's strange that they say the relationship can get 'boring' but mine is full of love and energy and we are always experiencing new things together. In a few short months we are both doing our first Sky Dive - Eeek (Wish us luck) But we try things like that to keep it fresh and its experiences together that you'll never forget. Also strange, my closest friend and she has been for the last 10 years happens to be a Virgo. I don't recall one argument that the two of us have either had. .

helloall2011 on November 19, 2011:

virgo and aries are usually always best friends ... wherever theres an aries, a virgo will be! they are cute together, and do compliment each other.

aymberly on November 15, 2011:

I have been with my arian male fiancée for 2 and a half years...the start (first 6 mo) were hard he was like a virgo so shy and unable to communicate himself just from emotional complications, and I like an aries but an actual virgo voiced that he was my future mate and I was falling hoplessly in love with him. I won him before he knew it with all the things he loved, and I had all he wanted without trying. We have a handsome, HANDSOME...aries son lmao! And we have been successful for 2 yrs. Our love is from how we complete ourselves....kinda like puzzlw pieces we just fit together to complete. But it really helped I grounded him and showed him the virtue of patients, and he showed me the adventure of making an impulsive decision or too. Our relationship is like none we ave ever had before, and we both acknowledge this :) aries and virgo can absolutely work just know my dear hard headed nit picking virgos to watch ur mouth and kno when to compromise and remind ur aries man he must do the same as u have ;) loved reading this it was awesome!

Arian girl on November 07, 2011:

If your virgo man is a player, wait and catch him when he turns 41. As an Arian, you have to be a real easy going one and learn to "give in". You will win in the end anyway. While Virgo men like routine, they will get bored fast and I think they need a great Aries girl!

Not sure what It would be like if I were the virgo and he was an Aries....sounds scary.

julian budhoo on November 02, 2011:

i like this boy name julian and he is a virgo and im an aries i want shit to work

Aries888 on September 18, 2011:

Oh my God, I feel VERY VERY GUILTY after saying the word "i wanna get rid of him". I didn't mean that my baby. I will really try hard to compromise. And i will always watch out my tounge, everytime we talk you hate my mouth. i have to always be very very careful to not hurt you or offend you. I love you babe, ill try to move in with you, goodluck to me :))))). Have faith

Aries888 on September 18, 2011:

I just wanna clear I do not want to get rid of him. I love him much(this is exactly what an anrian is characteristic, impulsive hahahah), its just that his unstable behaviour really pushes me away. But he said its how he behaves is just the reaction of how i behave. See how intelligent he is to blame it on me lol

Aries888 on September 18, 2011:

It is sooooo FRUSTRAting Im an Aries girl and this Virgo guy is constantly making me feel this way. I have tried to walk away, its either he would threat me or would use his very very detailed explanation to make me realise i was the one wrong and use his sweet nothing words to make me stay. Its hard to get rid of this man, i don't wanna live with him by next year as he planned, He said he doesn't like my attitude well i said i do nt like you behaviour so give it up. What is it with this man that keeps him holding on? Maybe a revenge

luscious on September 16, 2011:

I love my Virgo honey at times we fight like no bodies business but over all we care for each other. We talk to one another n I find this healthy as well as refreshing n when we do get together....the argurments never seem to matter any more. I hope to b with this man the best is yet to come.

Jean on September 16, 2011:

I'm a virgo and my bf is an aries. We recently hit 7 months and they've had their highs and lows, BUT the love and connection is very strong and even though I do criticize him a lot and he does get mad over anything, in the end we love eachother enough to make it through. I hope we last! (:

justme on August 29, 2011:

Im Virgo and the BF is Aries. Together now 3 yrs. We are so on and off. Every freakin fight one of us says the "get out' phrase. We have a baby together and I think that's what holds us here. Things are running smoother when he is able to have his guy time separate from home and I just shut up and don't complain....but really how long can that last for a Virgo? hehe We will see.

shawtyloli on August 26, 2011:

I'm an Aries and this guy I'm talking to is a Virgo. Though we've been talking for a month or so, we've connected deeply already in that amount of time. We've only been talking on the phone and skyping but the future for us looks promising I must say. It seems like the perfect balance I've wanted in a partner. Our connection is HOT and we definitely see eye-to-eye. It's an awesome feeling. ha haa

shaniya on August 26, 2011:

well i am an aries and my boyfriend is a virgo we get along very well. he makes me feel like a queen and i see us going far. we have a lot to work on but what relationships don't i love him so much and he feels the same way about me.

Aries girl on March 29, 2011:

I just this virgo man a month ago n i just can't stop thinking of him......i don't know how he feels about me.....i wish the feeling is mutual. Virgos r so shy as compared to aries that it's so hard to understand them, i guess in one of my typical aries jokes i got off onto his wrong side n now i'm kicking myself every second for it. Oh pls pls pls god tell this virgo of mine, how much i love him.

P.S.( He kisses like no one else i've been kissed before)

Kirsty on January 21, 2011:

I'm a virgo and my boyfriend is an aries. I love him so, so much but he's so moody! and he's ALWAYS picking fights GRRRR! I hate it -.-

Kaden on January 17, 2011:

I'm an Aries and my bf is a Virgo. We've actually been together for a year and it's honestly becoming a little dull.. but of course he's not very emotional, so it is hard to kinda know exactly what to do in disagreements. We actually hardly fight or argue, but I have learned to back down a little bit so this way I'm not too overbearing when we do. I just think Aries (I.. lol) need to have patience with Virgo. It'll be a good thing and long lasting relationship. It has been for for me!

aries on December 25, 2010:

im an aries and my bf is a virgo. our relationship is taking forever to get off the ground. It can be a bit boring at times. But my virgo seems to be the more exciting one in the relatioship.

s on December 20, 2010:

my bf is a virgo and I am an aries. I don't know how it works with our signs being so different but we act exactly the same and like the same everything. Everthing is smooth sailing with us so far. Love it.

726aries on October 04, 2010:

exactly i've been working with this virgo(Female) and i Aries(Male)thinking that we should be in a relationship and don't know if it could happen but we'll see hopefully it does. well we get along but then we but heads like a love and hate thing everyone at work tells us we fight like a married couple but then close to hours end we make up and are cool with one another like bestfriend. i feel she does want to and i shown her that i would like to step up from a friendship to a relationship.

mey on August 24, 2010:

i'm a virgo and my bf of 8 months is an aries. i love him and hate him =). i really do hope things work out for us.

kay on August 23, 2010:

i'm a virgo and my bf is an arian and we're exactly like our signs and it's not good but i hope we can make it

erika on August 15, 2010:

i think you jus got to have patience it takes years but if you believe its worth it hang on if not its time to move and im speakn as a virgo

marissa on August 06, 2010:

I am a virgo and my boyfriend is an aries. We just together for almost 6 months. We are happy and love. We don't like argue often but sometime argue. He is bossy, jump complete, complain, and not look his back. So, I am quiet. I try to explain to him but he couldn't understand me. Hope so we work hard out

keri on June 10, 2010:

i am an aries and my fiancé is a virgo. Our relationship is exactly what was said here. We've been together almost a year and every argument we've had i would yell about him picking at every little thing and he would tell me to stop yelling lol. It never works so i've learned ignoring him works then taking out frustrations elsewhere helps. Its been difficult but i hope we can make it

victoria on June 09, 2010:

well im with a virgo know,but hes everything i DON'T want,hes has a horrible temper,selfish,destoys my porperty,lazy,bossey,careless,and stupid,or i forgot not responsible,Im an Aris IM THREW!~

mia on April 24, 2010:

i want t be with this girl and she a virgo and what i've been hearing is making me lose interst. i want it to work thanks

vhwang7 on April 23, 2010:

Thanks for the analysis. I'm a virgo and my boyfriend is an aries and i've always wondered about our compatibility in the long-run. Nice hubs :) I hope to read more of them soon!


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