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A Meditation on The Lovers

Holley Morgan is a graduate student at SNHU and currently works as a college essay tutor.

The Lovers from the Game of Thrones Tarot

The Lovers from the Game of Thrones Tarot

Are You A Good Witch?

I know it has been quite some time since I have posted with any degree of predictable frequency. It’s not because of chores and obligations that seem never-ending, or adjusting to my new life, or needing time to rest, although those are all good and valid reasons that do sometimes keep me away from writing on this site.

Someone close to me, who passed away last year, cut me off toward the end of her life. There were a few reasons why, and I was not perfect, but among the reasons was that she did not agree with my choices in regards to my spiritual beliefs. There were other instances of family members disapproving, but this one hit the hardest.

Spirituality is one of my favorite things to write about, or it was. It is an uncomfortable thing to write about, but sometimes that discomfort is necessary to do anything that is meaningful.

After almost a year to think and grieve, I have decided to carry on.

Everything has changed, of course – that is why it is important for me to go on.

I have since realized that keeping myself hidden serves no one, least of all me.

The Lovers

The Lovers is number six in the Major Arcana. Sixes tend to be the calm after the storm before the next storm. The deck I am using is inspired by HBO’s Game of Thrones, and this card shows Jon Snow and Ygritte in a passionate embrace after they have reached the top of the Wall. It seems an appropriate card for my first time posting about this in a while.

As I look at the two figures, the main sense I get is a sort of relief, that feeling of, “We’ve made it.” Their relationship was looked upon with skepticism, sneers or even a sense that for them to be together was an act of betrayal, but now they are out in the open, about to kiss in the early morning light. People might still sneer or look at them with disdain, but they hardly care in this scene. Jon’s expression is filled with love, while Ygritte closes her eyes and savors being close to the one she loves.

Major Arcana cards usually signify life events or changes, things that loom large in our minds and hearts. For me, the signifiers are not always literal – so the Death card does not mean literal death any more than the Lovers means an impending wedding or new relationship (it can, but it doesn’t have to). There are many elements of the image that can contribute to the overall meaning of the card. For instance, the early morning light could mean this life event or change is fairly new. The Lovers carries with it a feeling of excitement drawn from the novelty, but it is important to remember that novelty does not last. The question one is being asked to consider might be: Is this something that I will still love or want to do a year from now? This would be important to know the answer to before burning any bridges. Jon and Ygritte’s passion for one another burns brightly, but passion can quickly turn… it is not predictable or steady.

On the other hand, predictability and stability are not always positive. The guarantee of a steady paycheck may be at the expense of one’s emotional well-being and time spent with family.

The Lovers can be about a decision. You might be asked to weigh one option against another, and given the magnitude of this card, it is a weighty decision that has no easy or clear-cut answer.

Your ultimate lover lies within, so it is important not to decide based on external factors. Basing a decision on the external might look like purchasing a home because it is what one is ‘expected’ to do at a certain age, or having children because one’s parents want grandchildren. It might be writing a book because one wants to make the bestseller list or taking on any project because of the possibility of external rewards, i.e. acclaim, money, wanting to get back at someone or ‘prove’ something.

You might not fail if you work based on these motivations, but any success could feel hollow after a time. It’s a bit like getting married solely for the wedding and not putting enough thought into what life will be like afterward.

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Wrap-Up & How I Read

When I read the Tarot, I do not caution or advise so much as look at the many paths available. This was a serious blog post, but I really am not serious at all. When I read for someone in-person, we usually have a lot of laughs during the session. Life can give the illusion of being heavy, but everyone has a choice in how they look at it. This is something that I learn and re-learn every day.

The TL;DR possibilities for this card: Don’t get married solely for the wedding. A commitment at last. Ceasing to care what others think or being more able to tune out external opinions. Predictability/stability vs. emotional well-being. A tough decision to make. You need to be happy with your decision as you'll be the one living with it.

Readings are for entertainment purposes only.

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2021 Holley Morgan


Holley Morgan (author) from Upstate New York on July 08, 2021:

John - Always nice to see you in my comments, and thank you for reading my article!

Kyler - I get what you mean about feeling more connected with your friend. I feel that I have had results from using certain crystals, but regardless, to carry one does give one a certain feeling. Hard for me to put it into words, but I am sensitive to energy and notice a difference in that sense. Thank you for the kind ways you express your views whilst encouraging mine; I really can't tell you how much I appreciate that.

Kyler J Falk from California on July 07, 2021:

An interesting post, as just yesterday while daydreaming in the shower I got out with a self-proclaimed profound conclusion that, "Hate is the most common byproduct of love."

Your comments about the many paths of interpretation and what the card itself represents reminded me of that conclusion I made, and I'm wondering if there is something in the air bringing people to dwell so strongly on this sort of topic right now. It seems to be a common theme in the social universe, more so than what is standard.

This also reminds me of my friend who is "balls deep" in this sort of stuff, and she is taking a course on tarot reading as I type this. I'm not much of a believer in anything I can't empirically measure, but out of love she bought me a crystal and a tarot incense holder she felt resonated with who I am. The tarot incense holder is the Strength card with a lion on it, and I burn a stick on it every day just to see what the fuss is about.

I also carry the crystal with me now, and I'm confident in saying it does nothing as far as empirical measurements of change are concerned. However, doing these things does do something to me socially, spiritually if we want to get rosy with it. I feel more connected with her even when she isn't around, as if she and I were somehow connected through time and space utilizing these baubles; so perhaps there is some sort of unseen, immeasurable power that is more than just human psychology.

Always hold true to what you believe it brings you more positive experience than negative, Holley, you deserve to be you!

John Hansen from Gondwana Land on July 06, 2021:

An interesting post, and thank you for sharing the situation that has kept you from writing here. Welcome back, Holley.

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