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An Introduction to the Spirit World

My Spirit Guide's First Home

My spirit guide took up residence in my first car, shown here.

My spirit guide took up residence in my first car, shown here.

The Spirit World from a Medium’s Perspective

I’ve been a medium all my life, although I didn’t actually know I was a medium until I became a pagan at the age of 21. I didn’t have to go through the constant bombardment of spirit voices that most kids with psychic abilities suffer.

I had a spirit guide that blocked out the majority of the spirit voices I would have otherwise heard. As I grew in my pagan beliefs, my spirit guide taught me how to block out the voices on my own and how to focus in on one particular voice.

At the age of 36, I’ve become quite adept at talking to spirits, although I refuse to use my gift to make money. Somehow that just cheapens the gift.

Over the years, I’ve learned quite a bit about how to interact with spirits, and it is nothing like on TV. I admit I enjoy watching Ghost Adventures with Zack Bagans, but mainly for Zack Bagans.

The show is definitely entertaining, but dealing with a spirit in your own home is a bit different than investigating a haunted building.

Most “house spirits” don’t mind other people living in their former homes. The majority of them aren’t in that house because something bad happened to them; some of them just aren’t ready to leave. They may not know they are dead, or they just have an attachment to their former lives and they can’t let go.

House spirits can also be guardians for a particular area and happen to reside in a home located centrally in that area. Every house I’ve lived in has had at least one of these guardian house spirits. Our current home has at least three, but we’re also out in the middle of nowhere. Spirits love being out in the woods.

Spirits Love Nature

Many spirits can be found in nature.

Many spirits can be found in nature.

Spirits Need Energy

Spirits need energy to exist, which makes sense because their made up of energy. Most spirits are not psychic vampires, however.

A psychic vampire is a spirit or person who drains another spirit or person’s energy. Essentially, they “drink” all of your energy instead of your blood. Most spirits won’t take your energy without permission, unless it’s an extreme situation.

There are some rogue spirits who prefer to just take your energy, but these spirits can usually be felt by almost anyone the minute they enter a space.

It is possible to defend against these spirits and I’ll discuss that in another hub. But most spirits prefer a symbiotic exchange of energy and many will teach you how to do this, especially if you ask.

Some Spirits Are Teachers

The majority of the spirits you encounter will be spirits you were meant to encounter. In other words, these spirits have something to teach you, and are letting you know they are your spirit guide.

These tend to be the oldest spirits, and they are usually finished with their reincarnations (although some will choose to reincarnate just to do so). Thankfully, they are also the most patient (usually).

The teacher almost always chooses the student. Some of these teachers like to test their prospective students to assess their “readiness.”

Most people who encounter a spirit for the first time tend to be a bit dismayed and are unlikely to understand what it is the spirit is trying to tell them, let alone understand they’re being tested. In these cases, just ask and 9 times out of 10 the spirit will tell you what it wants.

Example of Spirit Communication

My dog's spirit inhabits this rose bush which appeared the day after she died. We call it Lady's Rose.

My dog's spirit inhabits this rose bush which appeared the day after she died. We call it Lady's Rose.

Once you pass the test, some spirit guides will get frustrated if you can’t keep up with their lessons. Most of the time, these guides will get so frustrated, they’ll leave only to come back and try again. It’s important to note that spirits will become extremely frustrated and angry if they feel you are not making an effort to learn what they are teaching.

All of my spirit guides have been with me my entire life (I have 6 although I knew of only the one until about 4 years ago). The lifelong guides tend to be the ones that make you find the answers to your questions about life. They won’t give you the answer, you have to earn it. This makes communication more challenging, but I’ve found it to be well worth the effort.

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Some Spirits Are Friends

Some spirits, house spirits included, are there to be your friend. They are fantastic listeners and will happily listen to your internal dialogue and interject when it’s completely inappropriate (I’ve learned to just laugh at this when it happens). Others will share their own anecdote that pertains to your situation, or offer their own opinion.

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Still others are jokesters. This is the poltergeists category. Poltergeists are the dark side of the lighthearted prankster spirit. My spirit guide will move things on me, like the driver’s seat of my car, or my favorite pen. He thinks it’s hysterical.

However, I’ve heard stories of spirits that throw things and break favorite belongings. Although these spirits are not as prevalent as Hollywood makes them out to be, they do exist.

Things to Remember When Working with Spirits

There are a few things to keep in mind if you’re going to work with spirits (or even if you suspect a haunting). The following are a few suggestions:

  • Remember, spirits used to be human (or animals) as well, so they still think like humans. Introduce yourself, and state your intentions. Let the spirit know you want to coexist with them, not kick them out of their space. The spirit may just need a favor or maybe it just wants to send a message to, or find someone. It may even just want to have an actual conversation again. Not all spirits have malevolent intentions.
  • Banishing spirits doesn’t always work. One of two things usually happens. Either the spirit just stops trying to communicate, or the spirit becomes angry and retaliates. The best way to coax a spirit into leaving is by offering it an alternative. You can offer to have a medium help it cross over, or help it deliver a message, or even take it to a suitable location off your property.
  • Spirits can’t hurt you unless you let them. Fear allows a spirit permission to do whatever it wants. It also makes the spirit stronger since it will feed off the energy created from your fear. Always try to remain calm when dealing with a spirit.

Power Stones Can Make Temporary Homes for Spirits

My bloodstone pendulum. A pendulum with a power stone can make it much easier to communicate with a spirit.

My bloodstone pendulum. A pendulum with a power stone can make it much easier to communicate with a spirit.

In Case of Haunting

If you suspect your home is haunted, there are a few things you should try before jumping to exorcism.

  • If you’re buying a home and suspect it might be haunted, before you move in you should go to the home and introduce yourself. A house blessing is good way to do the introductions and it also conveys respect for the spirit. Once you’re in the home, don’t ignore the spirit. Try to communicate with it on a regular basis, even if you don’t get a response at first.
  • If you’ve been dealing with a haunting for some time, you may still benefit from a house blessing and introduction. Make sure you speak in a calm and rational tone. Remember, they feed on fear and if they sense fear, they will lose all respect for you.
  • While I don’t recommend or condone forcing a spirit out of the home, occasionally it needs to be done. Sometimes just asking the spirit to leave politely and explaining that it hasn’t crossed over can resolve the situation. Other times, you may need to ask more forcefully.
  • There are magical ways of removing a spirit such as casting a banishing spell. One of the easiest ways I have found to remove a spirit is to use your power stone as a temporary “container” for the spirit. I typically set a bloodstone (my power stone) in the area in which the spirit most commonly appears. I ask the spirit to occupy the stone so that I can transport it to wherever it wants to go, or help it cross over. I leave the stone overnight and usually by the next day the stone is occupied and I can take it to its destination and release the spirit.
  • Exorcism is a last resort in my book. But as a medium, I’ve never really had a problem helping a spirit leave or coexisting with one. Obviously not everyone has this gift and sometimes exorcisms are necessary. If this is the only option, I recommend seeking someone experienced in such rituals, preferably someone who can also speak to the spirit.This is not one of those do-it-yourself type things. Exorcism typically antagonizes spirits and only serves to infuriate them leading to more poltergeist-like activity.

Spirit Guides

In closing, I wanted to add a brief statement about spirit guides to this introduction to the spirit world. Spirit Guides are most commonly with you from the time you are born to the time you die.

There are some guides who show up during certain phases of your life and leave when they have taught you their lessons, but most spirit guides are lifelong teachers. They are constantly there and everyone has one.

Communicating with the guide isn’t always easy, but one way to attempt to make contact is to ask it to reveal itself (politely of course). The best time to do this is just before you fall asleep when your conscious mind relinquishes control and the psychic mind can be active. Then you have to be patient, and wait for your guide to make its presence known.

The next hub in this series will discuss in greater detail how to connect to your spirit guide and we will briefly discuss how to protect yourself from psychic attack. I say briefly because protection from psychic attack deserves a hub of its own!

© Copyright 2012 - 2015 by Melissa Flagg (Daughter of Maat) ALL RIGHTS RESERVED


Mel Flagg COA OSC (author) from Rural Central Florida on December 01, 2012:


Dragonflies can mean a number of different things. It is most commonly used to help one let go of the past, assist in transforming one’s life and understanding dreams. Many believe (myself included) that dragonflies can cross between dimensions. They are not so much a symbol of death, but of rebirth and new beginnings. It could be your father trying to tell you it's time to move on. Notice what color the dragonfly is, and it's flight pattern. That can tell you a lot about it's message. Hope that helped!

SC on December 01, 2012:

Hi Dom,

Great post.

I would like your expertise on my situation. My father passed away very recently and unexpected. He died instantly from a massive heart attack. I have lately been noticing a dragonfly early in the morning. I have read that these creatures are very symbolic of death and moving on to a much more mature life. Do you feel this could b my father trying to communicate with me? And if so, how do I respond?

Mel Flagg COA OSC (author) from Rural Central Florida on September 23, 2012:

@Rosyel Awe thank you for your kind comment, that is such a compliment! Spirits have always fascinated me as well, and I'm quite happy to share my knowledge! Thank you!!!

Rosyel Sawali from Manila, Philippines on September 23, 2012:

Wow I just saw this on the feed and so glad I read it. It contains a lot of valuable and helpful information. This topic has always fascinated me. Thank you for the enlightenment! ^_^

Mel Flagg COA OSC (author) from Rural Central Florida on September 23, 2012:

@kitty Better late than never! :D Thank you, and Happy Mabon to you as well! I love the fall festivals, my link to the spirit world gets stronger as the veil thins. :D

Mel Flagg COA OSC (author) from Rural Central Florida on September 23, 2012:

@B. Leeky It really depends on what you believe, but yes, a spirit guide can be a guardian angel, and yes you could have both. Most people have more than one spirit guide, they tend to change as you go through life. Although, you'll have one main guide that's with you from birth to death.

Kitty Fields from Summerland on September 23, 2012:

I'm not sure how I missed this hub, Daughter of Maat. Sheesh. Well, anyway, awesome explanations of the spirit world and common household hauntings. I too have been sensitive to spirits and their communication since I was a child...just didn't realize it until I was about 20! Blessings and a Happy Mabon.

Brian Leekley from Bainbridge Island, Washington, USA on September 23, 2012:

Is a spirit guide the same as a guardian angel? Or do people typically have both a spirit guide and a guardian angel? Or?

Mel Flagg COA OSC (author) from Rural Central Florida on July 04, 2012:

Thank you till! I agree, people tend to fear what they don't understand and usually mock what they fear because they don't know how else to deal with it. Thanks for reading and commenting!

Mary Craig from New York on July 04, 2012:

This is very interesting. Skeptics will always be around whether we like it or not. Our beliefs and the things we can do transcend what others mock. I voted this up and interesting.

Zulma Burgos-Dudgeon from United Kingdom on July 03, 2012: true.

Mel Flagg COA OSC (author) from Rural Central Florida on July 03, 2012:

Spirits do work on their own time, which can be agonizingly slow for us. Learning to focus is extremely difficult though, especially for a mind that's constantly going like ours lol.

Zulma Burgos-Dudgeon from United Kingdom on July 03, 2012:

Thanks for the advice, DOM. Perhaps I need to slow down a bit and really listen to what's going on around me.

Mel Flagg COA OSC (author) from Rural Central Florida on July 03, 2012:

lol The story about the inhaler is so funny! Things like that happen to me constantly. Indeed it most likely was his mother if the inhaler was that blatant in a photo. Spirits wil use anything they think will get your attention, and I'm assuming that got your attention lol.

It sounds like you have a spirit in your home who indeed likes you, especially if they turned the kettle on! As for the Robin, it sounds like a spirit guide is trying to get your attention. Animal lover's are often accosted by rogue animals when spirit guides are trying to get their attention. My guide uses dragonflies, interestingly, he uses a specific color for each member of my family. If it's a blue one, he's talking to me, green is my hubby and purple or black is my daughter.

Spirits can sense whether or not we are good people, so it's hard to make them feel unwelcome, even by accident, unless you're attempting to get rid of them. If you ultimately feel "at home" in their presence, they'll sense that and will know they are more than welcome. But you can always set up an offering for any house spirits you may have. I do that a couple times a year on the Sabbats just to remind my spirits that I love having them around.

Mel Flagg COA OSC (author) from Rural Central Florida on July 03, 2012:

@Vincent, Thank you for your compliment! :D I'm not entirely sure the lavender perfume and Laura are one in the same, but anything is possible. Do you remember smelling lavender at the time of Laura's sighting? As for your muse, indeed a spirit can latch on to another in life, and folow them after one dies. That's how soul mates are born. :D (Unless they're twin souls but that's another hub lol).

Sometimes if you enjoyed a spirit's company, you can "move" it with the same method I use to move spirits. If you can still access the older home, you can set a power stone in the house and ask the spirit if she would like to come with you because you enjoyed her presence and then wait 24 hours and retrieve the stone. To release the spirit (assuming it uses the stone as a carrier) you should set the stone in a place of power in your home (typically the hearth, but not all homes have those now-a-days), and tell the spirit you're home and it is welcome, and wait 24 hours. They'll usually leave a sign, if it worked, but the stone will feel much "lighter" after a spirit has left it.

Hope that helps!!

Zulma Burgos-Dudgeon from United Kingdom on July 02, 2012:

We have had a few odd things happen. The most recent had to do with my husband's inhaler. The inhaler was on a desk shelf above a small, upright desk lamp. He was in the kitchen making himself a coffee when my son came downstairs and informed him that the lamp was smoking.

When the smoke cleared, literally, he saw that his inhaler, which was nowhere near the edge of the shelf, had somehow fallen into the lamp and the heat of the bulb had melted the plastic. I neglected to mention that the inhaler was sitting in front of a picture of his mother who passed on in 2008.

Another time, I was in the middle of researching an article when I thought how nice a coffee would be right about now. No sooner had I thought this than I heard the electric kettle in the kitchen switch on and the water start heating up.

And lately I've been teased by an adorable, little robin who flies into my garden for ages. But as soon as I get the camera out he flies off.

So what do you make of that?

I know spirits exists as sometimes I feel as if I am not alone even if I'm the only physical presence here. The last thing I want to do is make them feel unwelcome.

Vincent Moore on July 02, 2012:

What a fascinating hub, I believe in spirits as I encountered one in Kentucky, I don't know if it was meant to be but she appeared this "Lady In White" I explain her presence in my poem "Graveyard of Lost Souls" since that meeting I went on to write 3 related articles about Laura and Jeremiah. I have been living in a turn of the century home for the past 4 years and I often have a Lavender perfume float pass my couch, it's happened a few times. I just recently moved in to a brand new high rise apartment, I wonder if I will ever receive that perfume smell again, could it be Laura from the first apparition siting I had in 2003? I know my Muse is with me when I scribe my work, I talk about him often in my poetry, I truly believe he is the Mentor I had at 15 yrs old, a father I never had who saved me from the streets and poverty. Set me in a new direction in life at that tender teen age and was with me up until his passing in 92. I enjoyed your Hub very much and look forward to the next chapter. Very well written, keep up the great writing.

Suzie from Carson City on July 02, 2012: needn't worry about whether or not to "talk" about it anymore, now do you?? It's on here for the world! LOL!

Mel Flagg COA OSC (author) from Rural Central Florida on July 02, 2012:

@Paula Indeed I have encountered the weird stares. I was actually quite hesitant to write about it simply because when you go around saying your hear voices people automatically assume you're insane and should be in an asylum. But they do generally shut up and listen when you start telling them stuff no one else could know! lol But it's still not something I talk about to anyone other than my hubby.

The problem is I can't turn it off either. My spirit guide and I are constantly linked, which honestly isn't really a problem, it can be more of an annoyance though. There are some things I really don't want to know about people! lol

Suzie from Carson City on July 02, 2012:

DOM....I have great interest in this topic......haven't a single doubt that I posess and have, since birth, very high-level psychic abilities.

I RARELY vocalize this ...for the reason you mention in your response to bill. Not only do people "doubt" these things.....they look at you very funny and wonder why you have not yet been institutionalized. I correct or what? I'm sure you must experience this.

The nice part is, most of these same people stop laughing and pay attention after I have provided them with a few words of enlightenment....that I simply could not and should not know at all....much less in extreme detail.

I love this hub and look forward to your continued tales. UP+++

Terrye Toombs from Somewhere between Heaven and Hell without a road map. on July 02, 2012:

Awesome, DOM! :)

Mel Flagg COA OSC (author) from Rural Central Florida on July 02, 2012:

Thank you Pamela! I'm writing the second hub as fast as I can lol, apparently it's in high demand :D

Pamela-anne from Miller Lake on July 02, 2012:

Great hub love to hear more about spirit guides and how to connect with them thanks for sharing look forward to the next hub! take care pam.

Mel Flagg COA OSC (author) from Rural Central Florida on July 02, 2012:

You won't have to wait too long TT. I'm having too much fun writing them lol

Mel Flagg COA OSC (author) from Rural Central Florida on July 02, 2012:

@Recently Awakened I love your name btw. Thank you for your kind comment. YOu're right everyone does have psychic abilities, and I hope to be able to share my knowledge to make it easier for others to find and use their abilities. We can learn so much from the spirit world.

Mel Flagg COA OSC (author) from Rural Central Florida on July 02, 2012:

@Jlava Thank you! Hopefully you'll enjoy the next hub as much as I enjoy writing it.

Recently Awakened on July 02, 2012:

I bet there is so much more you want to share. Everyone has psychic abilities, but yours seem to be more fine-tuned and the rest of us can benefit from your experience and knowledge.

Thanks for sharing!

Jennifer Vasconcelos from Cyberspace and My Own World on July 02, 2012:

I really like the way you presented the information in this Hub. I am really looking forward to the next Hub.

Terrye Toombs from Somewhere between Heaven and Hell without a road map. on July 02, 2012:

DOM: You did a fantastic job, it had great flow and was very interesting! I can totally see a second hub on that very subject and I eagerly await the next one in the series. :)

Mel Flagg COA OSC (author) from Rural Central Florida on July 02, 2012:

@Billybuc, Thank you! I'm so glad you enjoyed it, this is one of those topics that's actually hard to write about because so many people are skeptical of the spirit world.

Mel Flagg COA OSC (author) from Rural Central Florida on July 02, 2012:

@TToombs Thank you!! This one was a hard one to write actually, there was so much I wanted to put into it! I'm glad it's easy to read, I was worried about that lol.

Bill Holland from Olympia, WA on July 02, 2012:

TT shared this so I'm glad I saw her share. Great hub, very did a nice job of explaining this topic.

Terrye Toombs from Somewhere between Heaven and Hell without a road map. on July 02, 2012:

That is so cool, DOM! Nicely explained and very informative. VUMS! :)

Mel Flagg COA OSC (author) from Rural Central Florida on July 02, 2012:

@Frank why thank you! :D

Mel Flagg COA OSC (author) from Rural Central Florida on July 02, 2012:

@Oldwitchcraft indeed! Many spirit guides have given up on us. There are still some that feel we're "worthy" (for lack of a better term)and attempt communication. Thanks for reading and commenting!

Mel Flagg COA OSC (author) from Rural Central Florida on July 02, 2012:

@phoenix thank you! In my experience, most spirits will use any means necessary to make itself known. The most common ways are animals or plants appearing out of nowhere, especially out of place. That rose is a perfect example, it showed up out of nowhere the day after we buried Lady, and she knew that was my favorite color rose, because I was always telling her (I talked to her a lot). Sometimes spirits will make something happen in your life, either something you wanted or even didn't want, in an effort to get you stop and sense their presence, but it is very possible to overlook the signs and drive the guide away. In fact most people do. The rational mind doesn't accept the spiritual world readily, so many times the mind will block the spirits attempts to communicate. If you suspect this may have happened, let me know, I might be able to help.

Frank Atanacio from Shelton on July 02, 2012:

Interesting Hub... hmmm

OldWitchcraft from The Atmosphere on July 02, 2012:

Interesting! The spirits seem to be on the lookout for people they can communicate with.


Zulma Burgos-Dudgeon from United Kingdom on July 01, 2012:

Nice hub, DOM.

In what ways does a spirit make itself known to you? Is it possible to overlook these signs and drive the spirit guide away?

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