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Accidents = Opportunities for Spiritual Growth

Accidents are NOT Accidental!

One of the most important lessons I’ve learned from my Guide Group is that accidents are anything but accidental. They are actually pre-planned events that we personally choose to take part in during our present incarnation for the express purposes of expediting our learning and spiritual growth.

Before we get into the nature of accidents, it’s important to have a basic understanding of two important concepts: “Windows of Opportunity” and “Relationship Villains.” Let’s start with a brief intro to each of these subjects, and then progress to the information about accidents.

Relationship Villains:

Relationship Villains are entities who are our closest universal friends when we are on the other side of the veil, but for this incarnation, they have volunteered to play the part of “the bad guy” to help us cross something important off of our spiritual “must learn” list for this incarnation. They might be people who simply annoy us, or even those we consider to be our so-called enemies. They create (or co-create) unpleasant situations that open windows of opportunity for us to learn and grow, or they may take action that forces us to stay on our chosen path. Either way, their purpose is to help us accomplish our learning/growth faster and in what may ultimately be a less dramatic or painful way. Relationship Villains can be anyone and you will find them everywhere. Look for them especially in romantic relationships, family relationships, and work relationships, but they will also turn up at school, at the grocery store, at the airport, the DMV, and anywhere you happen to be! They can be someone you have an on-going relationship with, or someone you interact just once or twice. When you learn the lesson, your relationship with your “relationship villain” will become much more palatable (this is usually the case when the “villain” is a family member) or your relationship will end because your mission together is over (as often happens with friends).

Windows of Opportunity:

Windows are opportunities for growth and learning that we personally designed and created for ourselves while we were on the other side of the veil planning our present incarnation. Think of your life as a book with chapters, and in each chapter we insert scenarios or situations constructed to help us learn a particular lesson or have a growth experience. Why look for Windows of Opportunity? Each time we learn a lesson or complete an experience on our “to do” list for this lifetime, we have more time to work on other items on our learning list. The more we accomplish, the more rapidly we mature spiritually. To make sure that we learn a particular lesson that we are intent on learning, we incorporate many possible windows of opportunity into our lives so that if we miss one, we will have another chance to acquire the learning or have the experience we need and want for our spiritual growth. As we miss one window and go on to another, the windows become increasingly more dramatic—that is to help us wake up and learn our lesson. Spotting windows “on the ground floor instead of in the penthouse” means that we can learn our lessons with less drama and pain as we start to recognize windows earlier; which, in turn, will help us accelerate our growth so we can more quickly move on to other lessons and experiences.


According to the “GG,” accidents are pre-planned events that are designed to be windows of opportunity for us to learn and grow; and a great deal of planning goes into them. The “GG” is a little more descriptive than I am, and they refer to it as the “careful orchestration of entire lives!” And their point is well made when you consider the amount of detail and preparation that is involved in making sure that two or more people end up in exactly the right place, at exactly the right time, to make such the accident takes place.

As mind-bogglingly complex as it is to contemplate “planning an accident” from this side of the veil, the “GG” say it’s equally complicated to formulate the windows when we’re on the other side. This is because of the ripple effect that flows from the initial event and the initial participants, eventually opening windows for dozens and dozens of people. A single accident opens windows for the participant’s families, friends, co-workers, caretakers, and anyone they come into contact with at the accident scene, in the hospital, in the doctor’s office, and even at the drug store. More and more windows are opened as people are touched and affected by the accident in different ways, and, in turn, interact with others.

The “GG” also points out that it’s how people react after the accident and how they treat each other that is vitally important , and that’s because accidents are opportunities for the wheels of Karma to turn, for windows of opportunity to open, and for freewill to be exercised by countless individuals. And let me share with you something about accidents that is of great interest to me, because it really brings home the meaning of the phrase “Love thine enemy.” According to the “GG,” the person who causes the accident is not the “bad guy.” The “bad guys” in accidents, the ones who cause them to happen, are our closest universal friends--entities who love us so much that they are willing to facilitate the creation of an ugly or tragic scene to provide a window of opportunity for our learning and spiritual growth.

It’s no fun to play the relationship villain role—The “GG” tell me that while entities do it out of love for each other, it’s a sacrifice. And that makes sense because the person who causes an accident, and I’m not talking about fender-benders right now, will probably never forget what happened, or be able to forgive themselves for the suffering they’ve caused. They are going to live with what happened, and live with the guilt, for the rest of their lives. They may also lose their freedom temporarily or permanently because they have to spend time in jail or rehab.

And that brings us to the point of this article: Accidents don’t happen to us by accident—we are very much involved in the planning and construction of them. By understanding that accidents are a learning opportunity that we planned for ourselves, no matter how terrible and tragic it might be, we will be better able to cope with the pain and suffering caused by such tragedies. By being awake to the nature of accidents, we will have a better understanding of the dynamics of the situation and recognize the accident for the window(s) of opportunity that it presents. And while we might not ever be able to forget our part in an accident (and probably shouldn’t), we will be able to learn from it and be open to forgiving others and ourselves so that we can move forward spiritually.

The “GG” note that there are four main reasons that we might consider involving ourselves in an accident: (1) group karma; (2) an individual karmic debt to be paid; (3) to learn a particular lesson; and (4) to have an experience that will allow us to advance to the next level of growth.

As I mentioned earlier, the “GG” also advise that while there are many possible reactions to an accident, it is the way we react that is the key to learning a particular lesson and getting the most from the experience:

  • Some will react with sadness that they will recover from or cling to
  • Some will react with shock and disbelief that this is happening to them
  • Some will blame others and not take responsibility that belongs to them
  • Some stagnate because of it, while others deal with it and move on
  • Some forgive the person who caused the accident, some won’t
  • Some forgive themselves, others won’t
  • Some become caregivers (possibly allowing them to complete a karmic cycle)
  • Some refuse to become caregivers (possibly exercising freewill and missing an opportunity OR maybe refusing to be a caregiver is exactly what they were supposed to do—we can’t judge—we don’t know!)
  • Some continue to be friends with or close to the victim, some move away from the victim

Here’s how to tell if the reaction you had is the correct reaction to get you through a window of opportunity: You’ll stop attracting the same type of situation to you. And here’s an example--my nephew once had 6 incidents surrounding his car in a two-month period. He had five accidents of varying degrees, and the car was also stolen one night from the front of his apartment building. When he finally reflected on these incidents and examined his reactions, he did something new: He owned his part in them and began to accept responsibility instead of continually blaming others for what happened. And then the accidents came to a complete stop and so did his “life script.” It happened overnight.

Keep in mind, too, that windows are as unique as the individuals who construct them, and so we need to look inside ourselves and search for patterns and life scripts. This will help us discern what response is right for us to go through the window. How? Once we recognize a pattern or script, we can analyze that pattern and our reactions. Once we recall how we handled similar situations in the past, we will quickly realize that those reactions did not work, as indicated by the fact that we continue to draw the same type of situation to ourselves. The final step is to change our reactions/behavior when the pattern or script repeats so that we can end the cycle or life script.

Understanding windows of opportunity is important because as we train ourselves to recognize windows early, we will learn our lessons faster. As we finish each lesson/experience, our higher self will cross it off of our spiritual “to do” list so we can move on to other lessons and experiences. And understanding the concept of relationship villains will keep us from holding lifetime grudges that would slow down our progress.

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Life-altering and tragic accidents are not taken lightly on either side of the veil. The “GG” have armed us with this important information so that we will recognize accidents as learning and growth experiences, thus allowing us to take control of our lives, move forward, and expedite our spiritual growth.


To learn more about how we plan our lives, relationship villains, and windows of opportunity, read Sherri's book, "Windows of Opportunity" from Ozark Mountain Publishing. Other books by Sherri: "Raising Our Vibrations for the New Age." Read the first chapters of these books for free at


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Julieta on February 02, 2020:

Good article, partially. You never defined "accident", and kept implying that it was somehow between more than one person. People have accidents all the time that are just them, like a friend of mine who was doing tree work and had a huge branch fall on his face. Please edit and republish w/more thought. Also who is GG? (No definition there either.)

Ala Hafferssas on January 29, 2018:

Thank you so much for putting this into words! It's really satisfying to be able to relate to that. So many things had happened to me in this regard, but the latest one was so impactful that I just decided to document it and to interprete it ratioanlly, more or less through the same lens ; under the title: "The Wisdom of Accidents"

Therefore, it's with pleasure that I invite you to have a look at it on my profile.

Okeanos on December 31, 2015:

Thank you for this.

My accident happened mere weeks after my spiritual awakening.

At the beginning this succession of events confused me, but I already knew one thing for sure: the Universe loves me, takes cares of me, and acts only towards my greater me, nothing is random.

So i refused to become discouraged, and to listen to thoughts and people who told me it is my "punishment" for beginning to practice esoterics, and i should back down while i still can.

This resonated deeply.

My accident solidified my trust in the Universe and my determination to pursue esoterics. I am truly unshakable, unstoppable and free of doubt now.

Thank you!

Sherri Cortland on January 15, 2014:

Hi Mugs, I'm just heading in for surgery today, but will happily tell you all about my guides next week. Here's my email address--drop me an email there and I'll answer later in the week or early next week. AND, thanks for reading my article!

Mugs on January 14, 2014:

Nicely written. Pushes everyone to think. Who are group guides???

Sherri Cortland (author) on April 04, 2013:

hi Sune, thank you for the feedback! Write to me at and I'll email you some handouts I use in my workshops about windows of opportunity and relationship villains!

SUNE on February 25, 2013:



Terri Marinaro on September 22, 2009:

WOW! So, I guess I need to realize that accidents will happen, but learning may or may not happen. It will all depend on me. What a responsibility! But hey, if it will make my life easier and more peaceful, I am all for it. This is great stuff.

Steven Scott on September 20, 2009:

Great Hub.

Monica Grant on September 19, 2009:

I lost someone close to me in a car accident--I'm still not over it, but your hub has given me a lot to think about.

heidi009 from Orlando, Florida / Waikoloa, Hawaii on September 10, 2009:

You've made me rethink all of those "villains", and reevaluate every "accident".

LorLor on September 02, 2009:

This is one lesson im trying to understand, its hard but makes perfect sense when you think about it

Mike Dennis on September 02, 2009:

You are so right, Sherri! Nothing happens by chance and there are no "ACCIDENTS" or "VICTIMS", and yes, had I known that my father and I agreed to play this 'game' of human entanglement before years ago, it would have helped ease the burdens. But knowledge is power! Better later than never as the saying goes...

imaneogirl on September 01, 2009:

I guess that its the way we deal with the situations handed to us (or that we chose) that really counts in this life.

ezmarelda on August 31, 2009:

I cant wait to read the book, now...on to the next hub!

Debra_Rose from New York on August 30, 2009:

This book is a must have, it's really got me re-evaluating certain situations that have occurred in my life. I look forward to this author's next book. Keep them coming, Sherri!

Sandra on August 30, 2009:

Sherri Cortland confirms my belief that things happen for a reason. We need to look for that reason and use it to build upon. Sherri's insight is remarkable.

Kathy Seeley on August 30, 2009:

Wow, Sherri Cortland gives great insight to life. I hope to learn from her.

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