Top 10 Ways to Make Up for Forgetting Your Anniversary
It's one of those things that has become a hot topic for debate, and the subject of many books and blogs. Why do men (it's mostly men I'm told) have a tendency to forget anniversary dates? And there are various theories, from "because they're too busy focusing on sport and other things, and don't value their relationship enough" to "They're genetically designed to take their focus off the happy home and put it on outside threats and challenges".
Whatever the reason, the information and suggestions here are to bail you out once the deed is done. The over-riding emotion for most women when their partner forgets their anniversay, is that he doesn't love them and they don't mean much to him. This makes logical sense to a woman - if something means a lot to you, and you love it (football for example) you couldn't possibly forget it. Apparently it doesn't make the same sort of sense to the male brain. ;)
So.. the goal of all of these ways of making up for forgetting your anniversary is to make it clear, beyond any doubt, that she means the world to you, you love her more than she could ever know, and that: the fact that you forgot your anniversary has nothing to do with how you feel about her.
With that in mind... Let's get started...
10. I'll Never Forget Again
Get a (fake) tattoo of your anniversary date. Of course, if you're really committed you could get a real one, but a fake one would still give a great impression. And she may be horrified as well as impressed, so finding out that it's fake may well be a relief to her ;)
Make sure you put the tattoo where you can see it - and facing you - since it's meant to be a reminder to you ;) The guy in this photo may look good... but the point is missed a bit since he'll seldom be looking at his own back... and therefore seldom be reminded of his anniversary date. Soooo... this is how not to do it! ;) Put it on the back of your hand, or your arm - those would be the best places.
I would definitely get her a gift as well though! ;)
9. I Love You - Watch Me Show it!
Arrange a surprise gathering of her close friends to celebrate your anniversary - just because you missed the actual date doesn't mean you can't make up for it on another day.
* Ask each person to bring a dish of food and a bottle of something
* Decorate using heart-shaped tea-lights, or baloons, or flowers
* Prepare a speech to make in front of her friends, declaring your love and how much she means to you
* Do something as a momento - write your names on the champagne cork, get someone to take a photo of you together at the gathering and have it framed - something that shows a "foreverness" in your intentions. :)
See below for more Anniversary Apology Party ideas.....
Sorry I Forgot Our Anniversary Personalized Napkins - Have your message of apology and love immortalized on the party napkins! :)
Have a special message of apology, along with a declaration of your love printed on these personalized napkins for the party. You can have the hearts logo pictured here, along with a message like: "Jane" (of course, don't call her Jane if that's not her name ;) ) "I'm Sorry and I Love You. Always" - along with the date of your anniversary.... Or something along those lines. :)
More Ideas for the Party Apology
Decorate with "I'm Sorry" balloons, or a gold heart balloon personalized with your message of apology and love (or both!)
Use the personalized ribbon (printed with your message and the date of your anniversary) to decorate - tie it in a bow on her chair, or drape it over a table, or of course, you could wrap her gift with it :)
Put your message on a t-shirt. Show her you're prepared to let the world know how you feel, and how sorry you are to have forgotten your anniversary by parading about in this customized t-shirt.
Make sure you add her name and the date of your anniversary! :)
The "I'm so sorry, and I love you so much, I'm prepared to make a spectacle of myself to prove it" T-Shirt!
This is worth a LOT of brownie points! If she's reeeeeally angry, disappointed or upset that you forgot your anniversary, this is a pretty much fail-safe way to make her laugh (at least smile), melt, and forgive you!
The t-shirt is fully customizable, so, apart from replacing "Valentine's name here" with her name, you can also add text of your own if you wish, or even a photo!
"Fairest of Them All" T-shirt
Here's something that will convince her of how sorry you are, and how much you love her - a t-shirt featuring her face in a mirror that has "Fairest of them ALL" on the frame. Customize it by replacing the place-holder photo with a photo of her. You can also add your own text if you wish.
Choose one of the manufacturer's ready-written romantic poems to go into this personalized jewelry box, and customize it - or write one of your own. Add your partner's name and the date of your anniversary, along with romantic wedding photos of the two of you.
Inside the box, you could put a simple note that says something like "Sorry. I love you. Forever." - or something like that.
Write or print out the vows you made on your wedding day - or write some new ones. Add, one more: I promise to never forget the happiest day of my life (insert date of wedding - make sure you get it right of course ;) ) and place them in a romantic frame.
It's useful to bear in mind that forgetting your anniversary has probably made your wife feel that she doesn't matter, so however you choose to make up for it, the aim is to show her that that isn't the case. In fact, this is how much she means to you....
Eternal Flame Card
Replace the template text in the heart in the candle wax, with "I'm Sorry" or "I Love You" or "Always" or your names - or, even better, the date of your anniversary!
You can then either just give her the card as it is, or put inside it, a coupon she can redeem for favors or one of the other ideas on this page, or love coupons. Or, tickets to an event you know she would love, or an invitation to a romantic picnic. Or, a letter with a list of everything you love about her. :)
Choose a photo of your partner that you know she likes (one in which you know she thinks she looks good) and make a list of all the things you love and admire about her. Have it put into this special personalized photo panel - with the date of your anniversary.
Make a romantic meal (if you can't cook, you could learn how to make something simple, just one dish - that would certainly impress her - or order the hamper pictured here), and serve the wine (or soft drinks) in glasses engraved with a message along the lines of:
"Sarah and James 02.08.05 - Forever"
(of course, use your own names and anniversary date ;) )
Who Knew You Had to Remember THAT Date?
3. A Month to Make Up for It
Tell her that in order to make up for it, you are going to treat her as if it's your anniversary every weekend for the next month. Then plan something for each weekend.
Here are a few ideas:
* Breakfast in bed
* Romantic dinner
* Couples spa treatment
* A surprise gift at the breakfast table
* A poem
* A pampering evening at home
Give her a card - not an anniversary one, but one that declares your love - each weekend.
Countdown Clock - for Your Next Anniversay!
Get yourself a countdown clock to be sure you don't forget your next anniversary! ;)
Well, now, it depends on just how repentant you are for forgetting your anniversary... and how many times you've forgotten it in the past ;)
If you really want her forgiveness (and to turn her displeasure to a lot of fun and laughter), volunteer to be her slave for a day. And use the suggestions below to add extra fun to it... (Print them out on a card for your partner when you present her with your apology for forgetting your anniversary... you should really be dressed appropriately at the time as well ;) )
Rules for the Slave:
* Never allow your head to be higher than your Mistress's
* Never look your Mistress directly in the eyes. Look down in a humble way
* Always allow your Mistress to pass through doorways before you
* Carry out every instruction with the words "Yes Mistress"
Other useful dialogue that may save you a beating:
"You would know best, Mistress"
"I wouldn't presume to know that my Mistress"
"It will be as you command"
"Yes, I will happily lick your feet clean" (well if you'd rather have a beating. . .)
Instructions for Mistress:
* Never allow your slave to have his head above yours at any time
* Never allow him to look you directly in the eyes
* He should be of humble countenance at all times and allow you to pass through doorways first
* If he transgresses at any-time you must punish immediately. If you let them off, even once, they will start to become insolent; and once you have an insolent slave it is nigh impossible to rehabilitate him - you would be best advised to sell him for whatever you can get.
As you know our pesky liberal society does not permit us to flog slaves anymore, so I have listed some legally acceptable punishments below
* This timeless classic is always a good one - make the slave kneel at your feet with arms out stretched above his head and he must bow forward repeatedly saying one of the following:
"I'm not worthy."
"I am a bad, ungrateful slave."
* Order your slave to perform a dance of your choice. This may be illegal in some countries, so best to check with your local authority.
Useful Slave Commands:
* Slave! Bring .... (food or refreshment of your choice)
* Slave! Hold cup to my lips that I might drink (remember he must keep his head lower than yours)
* Slave! Prepare my bubble bath with rose-petals and candles
* Now bathe me slave!
* ... and feed me chocolate and my favourite libation
If you suspect he is becoming complacent and needs a punishment, lie down on the ground and then punish him with the above for not keeping his head lower than yours.
WARNING: While you should always keep your slave in check, be wary not to go too far as it might be the other way around one day........
1. The Ultimate Way to Make Up for Forgetting Your Anniversary!
If you REALLY want to impress her, and prove to her that forgetting your anniversary does not mean you don't care about your relationship... and you don't fancy the whole "Slave for a Day" option.... this is bound to do the trick!
1. Buy tickets to your favourite (or at least one of your favourite) sporting events - make sure it's something she knows means a lot to you.
2. Book a romantic experience - dinner and a show/ picnic - something you know she'd love - for the same night.
3. List your sporting event tickets for sale on ebay with a description something along these lines:
I am selling these __________ tickets because I would much rather spend a romantic evening with my beautiful wife.
4. Email the ebay link to her so she can see the listing. Let it be a surprise when she clicks on the link.
What I Love About You - The Book! - A great "The fact that I missed our anniversary doesn't mean I don't love you" gift! :)
This book gives you the pormpts to say what she wants to hear. Filling in the blanks helps you to find the right words, and give her the reassurance she needs. Complete sentences like: "If we'd first met in a comic strip, the thought bubble over my head would have said..."; "One of your most irresistible physical features is..." and "I missed you when..."
It'll mean a lot to her that you not only bought her a gift, but that you put in the time to fill something like this in! Major brownie points! :)
Share here what you wish your man would do, to make it up to you. Of course, ideally, remembering your anniversary in the first place would be the answer ;) but, assuming that ship has already sailed, and he's forgotten, which (if any) of the suggestions on this page would help to make up for it, or what suggestions do you have, of your own. You never know, your man may stumble across this page, and take the advice you've shared! :)
Why Is It Mostly Men Who Forget Anniversary Dates?
Why do so many men have a tendency to forget anniversary dates?
Have You Ever Forgotten Your Anniversary? If so, did you have a good excuse?
anonymous on March 13, 2014:
This information is really special, I think I like it, good lenses!
anonymous on January 12, 2013:
No, I think I'm the one least likely to forget. She would enjoy a slave for a day regardless. I haven't said hi in a while. Wanted to stop by and say . . blessed by a squid angel.
anonymous on October 09, 2012:
I"m not worthy. I'm not worthy. ad nauseum
oiloflife on September 27, 2012:
I hope I will never need it ;)
Kay on September 03, 2012:
Fun page. I don't have this problem, though, because I have no problem whatsoever giving reminders i.e. "Only 32 more shopping days until..." LOL Blessed!
anonymous on August 31, 2012:
You can only use these tactics once or twice. If a man continues to treat important dates as an afterthought, then the woman will believe she is an afterthought. After 8 years of him forgetting about every date even Christmas, I no longer feel important enough to keep giving back. Totally crushed.
Lorelei Cohen from Canada on August 04, 2012:
I am as bad as my husband for forgetting our anniversary. I made sure our wedding date was the day we met, so that I would not forget, lol but that did not work.
JoshK47 on July 21, 2012:
Wonderful idea for a lens - I've not yet forgotten an important anniversary, thankfully! Blessed by a SquidAngel!
LynetteBell from Christchurch, New Zealand on July 01, 2012:
He doesn't really forget but doesn't really celebrate....any ideas?
anonymous on June 16, 2012:
I've been married 28 years and we really don't celebrate too much. We would rather celebrate everday we are together than just one special day.
surfer1969 lm on May 26, 2012:
To me If you are with someone than each day should be treated like It's the first day you meant that person.Like me being the romantic I'm I love to tossed rose petals all over the place including the bed.Or just make out In front of a fireplace.Forgetting 1 day doesn't really mean that you don't love your mate.It just make us human.
Keepingscore on May 24, 2012:
Wish I had seen this lens years ago, would have been quite some help.
Jeanette from Australia on May 22, 2012:
What delightful ideas. You had both my husband (I showed him) and me laughing at some of them :-)
Rose Jones on April 13, 2012:
Very cute lens. Angel Blessed for good content, for presenting products in an appealing way without being too salesy - and just making me smile!
wrapitup4me on April 13, 2012:
Some of these are really great ideas. Slave for a day sounds like fun. I also like the idea of him buying a ticket to his favourite game and then selling it on eBay. Wow!
anonymous on March 30, 2012:
What anniversary was that? I think I did forget!
anonymous on March 29, 2012:
Well now, I actually have never forgotten my anniversary, so i'm sticking up for the guys out there. Your ideas would work well to say I love you any day of the year. I'm pretty sure Ingrid would love a slave for a day. Congratulations on your Purple Star! Well deserved.
entertainmentev on March 29, 2012:
I've never forgotten it but, I think it will be cute if I get a fake tattoo. It'll ensure I'll never forget. ;)
Mary Norton from Ontario, Canada on March 29, 2012:
Just getting old..
Brandi from Maryland on March 26, 2012:
Very cute! This oughtta get some guys out of the doghouse! ;)
nuestraherencia on March 05, 2012:
Oh my...I will definitely have to use this...hmmm...No, it's not my husband who is the problem, it's me...sigh...He never forgets and I seldom remember :-( You did a great job here!
julieannbrady on March 05, 2012:
Gosh, no I haven't ... and he didn't as we got married on Valentine's Day. I love the temporary tattoo idea.
anonymous on March 04, 2012:
I've never forgotten my anniversary but this lens was lots of fun. Great job!
miaponzo on February 26, 2012:
I have never actually celebrated an anniversary :) Blessed!
shishuworld on February 24, 2012:
Very interesting and entertaining.. great work.. :)
Chazz from New York on February 24, 2012:
A great lens and one I'm sure will be printed and posted on refrigerators, sent via email links, and otherwise promoted by better halves everywhere. Blessed and featured on "Wing-ing it on Squidoo," a tribute to the best pages I've found since donning my wings.
anonymous on February 24, 2012:
Just returning to congratulate you on Squiddo front page honors, may many be dug out of that hole of forgetfulness!
Li-Li-ThePinkBookworm on February 23, 2012:
I would make sure my husband remembers by telling me to buy me something for that day :) I am not much of a celebration person, but as long as I got a gift whether on the day or before, I would be content. Great and unique lens!
mommafox on February 23, 2012:
What does it mean when you both forget? Do we have to make up for it if we both remember we forgot a few days later? lol I was worried the first time, but the second year we forgot I thought to myself "We just aren't date people." I guess it's a guys dream, the wife forgets as much as the husband. lol
anonymous on February 23, 2012:
Came back to *bless* this article for the good subject it is for guys out there.
Sue Dixon from Grasmere, Cumbria, UK on February 23, 2012:
You made me smile with this! A great lens ideas. Blessed!
dahlia369 on February 22, 2012:
This lens was much fun to read for me - and might be very helpful for some of those "sinners" who managed to forget something that means so much to their sweethearts. Great job! :)
ViJuvenate on February 22, 2012:
LOL Very cute ideas! Sweet, humorous humility works most often, when it is sincere.
allenwebstarme on February 22, 2012:
Hey I enjoyed your lens really interesting with funny ideas, definitely chances are increase for make up by doing this all stuff. I'm single and and get married this year. I'll keep your ideas in my mind in case I forget my anniversary date. Thanks for sharing such unique and funny ideas. Blessings super like.
Lindrus on February 21, 2012:
I really enjoyed your lens! You had some great and funny ideas. I'll forward this to my husband if he dares forgetting our anniversary.
MelonyVaughan on February 21, 2012:
This is one of the funniest lenses I've ever read! Cheers!
dixiebliss on February 21, 2012:
These are some great ideas, and I forwarded this lens to my boyfriend, who forgot our three year anniversary! Thanks for this!
LouisaDembul on February 21, 2012:
I never forget that date....And even if we would, my daughter thinks it is so exciting with our wedding anniversary that she wants us to celebrate it all together. Since she loves fireworks, she thinks we should have that!
brando87 on February 20, 2012:
I have my one year coming up. hopefully I won't have to use any of these.
anonymous on February 20, 2012:
No forgetting for me! My wife and I got married on her birthday, so it's really hard to forget both, and it was July 1, which makes it even easier to remember! Nice lens!
TraceyFitzgerald on January 28, 2012:
leeleon on January 22, 2012:
lilymom24 on December 01, 2011:
Cute lens and the video was funny. =)
DevandElizabeth on November 30, 2011:
Thanks for the Info
KarenTBTEN on November 26, 2011:
I don't have an anniversary, but I tend to remember various dates including birthdays and other sorts of anniversaries.
This may be the cleverest piece of writing I have seen on this sort of topic. SquidAngel blessings.
NorDac LM on November 24, 2011:
I may have to bookmark this, and (if I remember) revisit it in a few months.
Squid angel blessed. :)
DrSpuddinky on November 24, 2011:
I'd just like to say I have never forgotten my anniversary... unlike my wife!
Iudit Gherghiteanu from Ozun on November 23, 2011:
so if he forgets it can be fun...never would have think this way...
Glenn619 on November 22, 2011:
I am single still but really enjoyed your lens fun to read really :D especially liked being the slave :p
anonymous on November 15, 2011:
You sure have some good ways to make up for forgetting an important date like an anniversary. I suppose one good thing to avoid that, is to give reminder, and let the spouse know what you would like to happen; that way they know. Good topic!
WriterJanis2 on November 15, 2011:
What an absolutely fun lens! Great ideas! Hmm, mayne I can get him to forget next year.
Fiona from South Africa on November 15, 2011:
Well, I can't really complain - I was getting quite annoyed with my husband when he kept saying," I love you." It was only when the flowers arrived later that day that I remembered that it was my first anniversary
Fay Favored from USA on November 12, 2011:
My husband has never missed our anniversary. We even celebrate our going steady, first kiss and engagement dates each year. But I do like the slave for a day idea...wonder how I could fit that one in? I could use some of these ideas for other things he has forgetten though.
anonymous on November 08, 2011:
never forgotten it in the 12 years been married, BUT, your lens here is great for us dudes who do forget. Thank you for helping us apes out!
Johanna Eisler on November 01, 2011:
Nope, but, as you say, my husband has. Many times. But this year, he not only remembered - he MADE me an anniversary card on the computer. He had no idea how to do this, and it took him HOURS. Then he presented me with a brand-new laptop which is a million times faster than my old PC, so I can Squidoo to my heart's content! I love you, honey!
Noctambulant on October 21, 2011:
Wow...The Ultimate Way was pretty damn good...well thought out man...:)