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The Pros and Cons of a First Date at the Movies

The Scenerio

You are excited for your first date. He or she suggests going to the movie theatre to watch the latest action film. Going out to watch a move is a popular activity for a date, whether for teens or adults. There are both pros and cons for heading to the movie theatre on the first date.

The theatre.

The theatre.

The Advantages

Planned Out

One advantage of heading to the movie theatre is that a set activity is planned for the date. The location and time have already been decided for the two people.

The possibility of first date indecisiveness is therefore eliminated. There is no chance for the line "Whatever you want to do is fine" to enter the scene. Or at least not until after the movie ends.

Body Language

Watching a movie also provides opportunities to read the other person's body language. Notice how the companion reacts to certain moments in the plotline of the movie. Is he or she emotional when a central character is hurt or faces a difficulty at the movie's climax?

Does one's date laugh at the humorous moments in the movie? Finding the same points within the film funny may be a good indicator of a similar sense of humour. If laughter is an important part of a relationship for both people on the date, this similarity is a good sign.

If the movie does have comical moments, one will also have the opportunity to hear the other person laugh. One may see how the date acts when he or she is relaxed.

Share a tub of popcorn.

Share a tub of popcorn.

Chance Contact

Sitting beside one another also affords the opportunity for physical contact between the two people. For instance, sharing a tub of popcorn can create the chance contact between each others' hands if both reach for the snack at the same time. In response to the touch they may look at each other and smile.

This contact is a form of flirting; perhaps the first opportunity for the newly dating pair. One may also reach over to hold the other person's hand. The darkness of the theatre provides the opportunity to discreetly make the move.

The Disadvantages

Little Conversation

Disadvantages also enter into the equation when the first date takes place at the movie theatre. The movie may last an hour and a half, or even longer. While the movie is playing, there is likely little conversation between the pair.

Both people stare at the large screen significantly more than at one another. After all, they have paid to watch a movie.

The small number of spoken words likely consist of the odd whisper to pass a napkin or an "Oh no!" at the point when a central character is slapped in the face. Talk louder than a whisper and one risks being quieted by the older lady in the right-hand seat.

Lack of privacy.

Lack of privacy.

Lack Of Privacy

The movie theatre affords the pair very little privacy. The companions are surrounded by strangers with the number of viewers depending on the popularity of the film.

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Any words spoken even in whispered tones may be overheard. Romantic words or gestures are significantly less likely to occur given the audience of strangers.

Scarce Direct Communication

Staring at the movie screen for over an hour means that the dating duo likely has little or no direct communication with one another. The two are not able to carry on a continuous conversation as a way to get to know one another. Given that a first date is a way to determine whether one feels favourable toward another person, the lack of communication poses a definite issue.

Difficult to concentrate.

Difficult to concentrate.

Concentration Problems

As well, one or both of the pair may find it difficult to concentrate on the movie. For instance,the date may be wearing perfume or cologne that affects the other person's concentration.

As well, the sheer fact that someone who one is romantically interested in pursuing is sitting directly to the side may affect one's attention span. One may miss parts of the movie.

The date may also be caught up in his or her mind about what is going to happen on the date after the movie ends. That person is not entirely living in the present moment.

The Scale

There are pros and cons of going to a movie theatre for a first date.

While the pair may still have verbal and personal contact, the opportunities are significantly limited at the theatre. Perhaps heading for cups of coffee after the movie would provide further opportunity to learn more about the companion. Who knows, there may just be a second date to follow soon!

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C E Clark from North Texas on September 02, 2013:

Personally, I prefer a first date to be a casual meeting where we can get to know each other. No fancy duds, no expensive dinner, just maybe a coffee house or a place that serves light simple meals and has comfortable seating. No loud music or other.

When I watch a movie my mind is on that and it's annoying when somebody is trying to talk to me because I can't concentrate on either the movie or them. I hate noisy theaters and avoid them entirely when I can. I'd rather rent or borrow a DVD.

You raise some good points here. I'm sure a movie is the perfect first date for some people. Voted up and will share.

Christy Birmingham (author) from British Columbia, Canada on August 10, 2012:

Absolutely GoFoTheJuggler, conversation helps on a date!

Joshua Patrick from Texas on August 09, 2012:

catalystsnstars is right - if you're going to take someone to a movie, make sure you do dinner/coffee/drinks before or after, so you have time to actually converse with your date!

Christy Birmingham (author) from British Columbia, Canada on August 01, 2012:

@Stevennix2001, thank-you, I did try to do just that!

@jainismus, thank-you for your continued support.

@Cogerson, Thank-you for the shares! I am on Chime.In too :) I agree that Kill Bill would not make for a great first date. Too violent... I actually have yet to sit through the whole movie due to that factor.

Stevennix2001 on July 31, 2012:

wow it seems like you covered all the bases.

Mahaveer Sanglikar from Pune, India on July 31, 2012:

Another great Hub from Christy.

UltimateMovieRankings from Virginia on July 31, 2012:

A very enjoyable hub....being a movie person....I had been on many many first movie dates during my single have made some great points on the pros/cons of doing this....but I think a crucial thing is the actual movie you pick.....I think it needs to be a movie that is not too extreme....a good romantic comedy should do the trick....anything with Julia Roberts or Sandra Bullock.....meanwhile really violent movies can make the first date very very uncomfortable....two movies I can remember that did not help the first date....Kill Bill and the Butterfly Effect.

Interesting hub....that I am sharing with my followers here and on Chime-In....voted up and interesting.

Christy Birmingham (author) from British Columbia, Canada on February 25, 2012:

Thanks Lee for taking time to stop by to read. I hope the concepts will help people who read it.

Drtruthman from Harlingen, Texas on February 24, 2012:

Great Hub Christy. So true in many respects. This could be useful to both young and old daters alike as well as parents who might advise their teens about a first date. First rate. I voted UP all across except for funny.

Christy Birmingham (author) from British Columbia, Canada on February 22, 2012:

Thank-you Chanroth for your kind words. I hope you get to see a movie theatre one day. Take care.

chanroth from California, USA on February 21, 2012:

I never been to a movie theater...:) Its true! But I totally understand where you are heading with this hub! :) I vote you up and useful!

Christy Birmingham (author) from British Columbia, Canada on February 21, 2012:

Thanks Trsmd for sharing your experience from India. I'm happy to see you!

Trsmd from India on February 21, 2012:

ChristY, in India, the audience will feel proud if they watch the movie first day, perhaps the first show, that will give them a feeling as a big achievement, and that feeling cannot be described in words. Thanks for sharing:)

Christy Birmingham (author) from British Columbia, Canada on February 20, 2012:

Thanks Debbie for the comment and vote. First dates are awkward but ones that go well make for great memories!

Deborah Brooks Langford from Brownsville,TX on February 20, 2012:

I am so glad I don't have to think about this anymore. but first dates are awkward anyway. I can see where you are going with this. very interesting hub.

great read

voted updebbie

Christy Birmingham (author) from British Columbia, Canada on February 17, 2012:

Thanks Marc for taking a read. I'm glad you liked my hub. I would love to go to a drive-in, my parents have told me great stories about their dates.

Marc Babineau from Cornwall, Ontario, The Seaway City on February 17, 2012:

The last time i went on a first date to a movie theater, there were still drive-ins! That was the classic first-date scenario, especially for those scary movies... theatres, not so much!

Great post, Christy!

Christy Birmingham (author) from British Columbia, Canada on February 17, 2012:

Ah yes the movie theatre is not getting any cheaper, is it?! Perhaps a dinner after the movie would be a great way to reflect on what was seen, well assuming the people were able to concentrate that is :)

catalystsnstars from Land of Nod on February 16, 2012:

How about the fact that a movie ticket is about $11 per person now?!

You do make several good points though. A first date should allow each person to communicate effectively. So perhaps dinner to converse then movie to think first?

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