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sissy men and the women who love them

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am i a pervert miss?

of course you are, dear. but what's wrong with that? the last time i checked, not a single soul was ever really hurt [at least not physically] by wearing a frilly gown or a tutu or some beautiful silky knickers. you are not a freak. you're just expressing desires and passions differently. some women will love it, some will HATE it and others will want to borrow your outfits! hopefully you can have the first and last and stay clear of the middle. poor things. no, you're not bad for wanting to dress feminine. you're also not BAD for wanting to have your wife or girlfriend accept you for everything you are. in fact, if you don't have that, i suggest finding it before your time is up. we should ALL be found guilty of being ourselves at heaven's gate. the other sins are still in question at this time. being truly, uniquely YOU is nothing to shame one's self over. it's for your mistress to shame you, if that's your choice. [it's my personal favorite, but that's really neither here, nor there.] i want you to know you're gorgeous.

will i ever find her?

absolutely you will. as soon as you are READY to find her. i promise you, the woman for you is out there. she is willing and ready to let you service her as maid, as friend... and giggle like one of the girls. she will make sure you shop with her and you can rest assured she has bitch potential, Goddess potential and great best friend potential. it all depends on how open you are to receiving these gifts. just like any relationship, you have to be willing to dive in and get hurt. that can be the sissy's biggest issue. for one thing, sissies need the UTMOST trust. they need safety. trusting early on, in fact, too early on in a relationship can lead to a lifetime of bad decisions. i think this is why many men stay out of the whole fetish completely. some men, well, they love the risk. the fact is, every single feminised male will be different and unique in some way. i am learning that what my previous sissy wanted, my current lover has nothing to do with. there is no suckling, for one thing. while i miss it slightly, it's just not his thing. but his panties. his corset and my flogging hand gets a lot of use. you have to be ready and open to love. this is a time of reconciling your manhood with your girlishness. those frills and frocks are waiting on you. and the woman who will love them? she is ready too. she's dominant and possibly controlling [such as i am] but i'll bet her heart is pure gold. she will ADORE being spoiled, and not expect it. she knows what is best for you, she will lead and let you melt in her lap. my favorite task as a Domme [and yes, we have them too!] is allowing my pet to rest his head on my breast or in my lap and petting him. this gives him the feeling of complete servitude and submission. it's a very feminine act. women cry on one another all the time. [or most of us with close girlfriends do] and it's nice! why wouldn't a boy desire that? i say, if a woman cannot let you cry and pout in her lap, move on. she's not the one for a sissy.

what should i do right now?

well, besides stop touching yourself you naughty, naughty sissy boy, you SHOULD start believing in your emotions as valuable. sure, work is hard. you've had your nose to the grindstone for years, now, have you not? no breaks. no tasks to come home to. just a sort of frown on your face as you leave the office. [another night alone, or WORSE, another night hiding who you probably were meant to be deep down.] you cannot imagine the fun and thrill of finding yourself able to explore who you need to be. i think you should let it out. go enjoy a pink cocktail! [even if you have to make it yourself.] put in an umbrella. CELEBRATE your sissy side and put on those satin panties and have a couple of tugs and then go to sleep. but seriously... why not talk to someone about it? find a friend you can trust. go to a therapist. or even write or comment here. you are not alone. the world is cruel and even though *I*, too, am cruel at times, i love to see the vulnerable, crying sissy side of men. a man who is trying to control me does nothing for me. in fact, i am so spoiled i just want to kick them for trying to treat me like ANYTHING other than a Goddess. well, obviously, that's not going to happen every time i am out. so even miss m pouts. :P be a good boy. write yourself a letter. start a little journal and PASSWORD PASSWORD PASSWORD if you must. write about how satin makes you feel. how the vulnerable side juxtaposes to your strong powerful executive side. learn to explore both, and balance the good and bad of both. finally, love yourself enough to take care of you. go back to the gym. fit into that little nightie you have wanted for years. patiently reach out to women who *do* accept sissy boys and even other sissy boys. be playful. go to the cosmetics section [in another town if need be] and buy gifts for "your girlfriend." be your own girlfriend! or take your wife out and buy her something beautiful. watch her eyes light up. stop being a selfish sissy and learn to contribute to beautiful women. share secrets. but above ALL else, love yourself. let yourself be loved and celebrated. find a woman who will adore you because of your sissy fetish... not despite it.

Comments

Chris on August 04, 2020:

Perfect blog Miss Mummy! Even 9 years later! Really loves to sit on your lap and let my head rest on your shoulder

Candy on January 08, 2020:

I love to dress feminine

miss mummy (author) from USA on December 01, 2019:

8 years and over 25,000 visits later... the world STILL NEEDS SISSIFICATION! Thank you all for making my day brighter and more femme! ❤️

Mark Andrews on November 29, 2019:

So, I'm wondering what a real Female likes and dislikes about Female Led Relationships? IS it the embarissment that you will feel when he/she let's other see him in your home or in your presents? Of course it is. But, The fact is that men have a certain need to be dominated and humiliated by a woman who loves him.

Paul Hughett on June 18, 2019:

I love a dominate women.

LarryPantySissy on May 21, 2019:

I feel so much better since I told my female friend I wear panties everyday. She touched my pantyhosed leg once and she doesn’t mind my panty pics. Looking for other women who love and support Crossdressers in a relationship.

sissy jamie on February 15, 2019:

I'm a sissy looking for a woman to serve however she wants me to.

clyde Montroy on November 29, 2018:

I wish to be a women who will served other women

miss mummy (author) from USA on April 17, 2018:

Sarah, if he lies, forget it. Cheaters & liars have no business here.

Sarah on April 16, 2018:

I have a sissy man that I am absolutely in love with. He did not open up to me until 4 or 5 months into our relationship. I don't have any problems with him wearing women's clothing in our bedroom. My problem is that he was talking to other men and women behind my back, posting pictures on Craigslist of himself (in my underwear,) and just generally hiding/lying about everything. He has promised me that he never actually met up with anyone since we've been in a relationship (I believe him,) but can I really believe that he will never cheat and that he will be happy and satisfied with only me?

Roxanne on March 03, 2018:

Oh I wish I had a man to love. I want to be a caring, obedient wife, all of the time. I so need him!

JB1950 from MESQUITE, TEXAS on October 23, 2017:

I've "LOVED" silky feminine underwear & ladies lingerie since I was 11 and I'm 67. I've always enjoyed wearing nylon briefs and panties, as well as other ladies lingerie.

Why not wear lingerie, NO ONE WILL EVER 'SEE IT' UNLESS YOU 'WANT' THEM TO!

sissywisher on October 12, 2017:

I am 71 and wished I was fem since 6, married many times , once the lust wore out and I told them what turns me on, well things always down hill. been with many women since will break up before I ever tell them, just as soon come home to a pair of panties

Kathe Jones from San Francisco Bay Area on October 10, 2017:

Loved your article -- I love to get all dressed up and go shopping online or browse websites like this one. I love to have conversations about crossdressing.

Sissyken on August 26, 2017:

I've been married for 20 years and my wife use to love me dressing up in panties and stockings ect and now it disgusting to her. Though she doesn't talk about it, she knows I still play dress up when she's away or at her mother's.

miss mummy (author) from USA on August 26, 2017:

I still read all your comments, sweeties... and hope you have a beautiful pink frilly day!

Sissy Ken on August 26, 2017:

All you can do is be yourself, acceptance is hard to achieve but not impossible, I've been married for 20 years and my wife use to love me dressing up in panties and stockings ect, the last five years its disgusting to her now. I still do it when she's away or at her mom's. I think she knows but she doesn't talk about it, distance is further between us.

Big kitty from Orlando on January 13, 2017:

You need to get your own clothes and dress all the time. It is more fun J

sissy joanne on January 10, 2017:

I think the reality is that women in general want a man not a 'girlfriend'. I always wonder though if there are just a few, very few, women who might just become so in love with someone they might be prepared to give these things a try. My own experiences are that if you give off the natural (sic) sissy vibe most women will avoid you anyway. Those that don't will probably be even more weird and difficult to live with than the sissy is. It is, for example, one thing to be a sissy but you can still have your feet on the ground: you are not obsessively jealous, or hopelessly neurotic or incapable of getting on with the requirements of leading an otherwise sensible life. The only woman I ever met who enthused the dominant lifestyle was, by her own admission, a medical headcase. I think it boils down to wishful thinking, and at age 58 and having realistically given up ever being able to fulfil this extraordinary lifestyle with anyone who is not so desperate as to be impossible to live with, I also have to say that I assume there is still the requirement to find the partner in some way attractive; such has not been my fortune. I ask for no sympathy whatsoever. No-one ever said life would be fair! I cope by using the adage that if I can' t have it I don't want it.

Big kitty from Orlando on December 22, 2016:

Pretending to be a girlie girl sissy has always been a favorite time well spent. I mean who doesn't want to act girly once in awhile. I wear those short 50's petticoats under skirts and dresses all the time and they will make any guy feel really feminine forever.

BobbyHoskinsPanties on September 18, 2015:

I have been wearing panties for a long time. Started with my moms, moved to friends and strangers, and slowly starter acquiring my own. I love it and do not plan on stopping. hehe

jenni on April 28, 2015:

I passionately want to dress in matching panties and nighties, curl up by the fire, cuddle and tenderly kiss you forever. Are you out there

Ross on April 12, 2015:

I'm 20, I have a little pencil skirt and I keep putting on her pants in front of her and saying I like them and I feel sexy, but she says I'm gay, and I'm not, I just want to be a sissy loved by my gf for who I am.

miss mummy (author) from USA on December 14, 2014:

Danny, I will say a prayer you find this experience. Big, squishy hugs...

Danny on December 14, 2014:

I have had an fem fettish for about 60 yrs and have never found a woman who would love me so I married and divorced many times where do you find a good woman who would love a cd?

Danny on December 14, 2014:

I have had an fem fettish for about 60 yrs and have never found a woman who would love me so I married and divorced many times where do you find a good woman who would love a cd?

Warren on May 25, 2014:

I love this viewpoint of sissydom.

Kristin on January 05, 2014:

I am a sissy man I love heels and toying my self I want to become a woman in the worst way but I need to know where to go and how to do it I love my heels in the worst way leggings and I want to find a woman or another like me to be in a relationship with or a man to and pay for me to do it for them

gjui on June 15, 2012:

jbkn

Serena on May 16, 2012:

Awww. That was soooo sweet. Just the type Goddess I am craving to be with.

Maybe you ARE the She Who Must Be Obeyed for me!?

Will on April 23, 2012:

Hi, I am 18 and I am very submissive, and like to dress up in women's clothing, I really want a mistress/master. Will You help me? My email is mmorpg175@gmail.com

Jessicacd11 on April 16, 2012:

I a married now and my wife hates that i want to dress as a women. I need to be able to be myself and it seems I will never be able to I'm 28 and the years keep going by. Everyday I don't wake up in lingerie it hurts. I don't know what to do

jim on March 13, 2012:

I never knew i was a sissy. I knew I loved aggressive women, but was lucky enough to find a woman that let me know. she knew and helped me. She was and is a caring dom. I love her

J on February 11, 2012:

I love putting sexy knickers on when my wife goes out I'll dress up in french maids out fit