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Some people take desperate measures to meet someone online when the very person who knocked on their door is in the house with them. One of the best things about finding love again is realizing where your limits are.
This story illustrates how rarely we appreciate what we have at home. We choose the wrong partners and try to meet people who don’t know or belong to us. Let me now share a story with a tragic ending.
Malcolm spent an unhealthy amount of time online because he was bored and annoyed by what was going on at home. He joins Social Media in search of a way to fill the emptiness he feels. He had a hard time understanding the woman he shared his life with without understanding himself.
Malcolm meets Emma via Facebook after connecting with a high school buddy. He spends more and more time chatting with her online because she edifies him. In a month, Malcolm had over a thousand friends.
Malcolm was a business owner who knew only a few women, so he joined a Facebook group for single men and women looking for companionship. After meeting Emma through the group, all Malcolm wants to do is sit in front of his computer and learn more and more about her, as she was the most significant thing in his life.
Sara grew tired of listening to his computer’s tap, tap, tap. Malcolm could not make her feel loved and needed. Sara often felt lonely and was rarely excited, but she was even less thrilled when Malcolm locked himself in the office with that darn laptop.
Getting a computer and getting online was the only thing she thought to do. She hopes to find someone online who would give her the love she most desires and hopes to find a man who needs her and will give her the attention she so desperately needs.
Sara wants someone who will listen to her and treat her with the respect she deserves, which for him is as powerful as unconditional love is for her. There are many websites dedicated to finding love. She was not sure whether to join social media or a dating site.
Sara did not know which famous cities would permit her to expand her status when she joined a Social Media group to find her true love. Sara writes in her bio that she is 27 years old, 5’6" tall, and has an Indian accent.
My Bachelor of Arts degree is in televising reporting and business from Arizona State University. I am a singer-songwriter whose hits include “We all want to be loved” and “I will take care of my King and give him all he needs.”.
Although I enjoy singing in the spotlight, I prefer to remain hidden from society, yet I would like to shower the man of my dreams with much appreciation as I go unnoticed by others.
It satisfied Sara with the biography she read and the old photo; she cut out of a magazine, so she signed up for the online dating service. Sara grew tired of feeling lonely and disconnected from the relationship she thought she had at home. She wanted to find love. No one would recognize her from the picture.
Today, primary technology rules the world, and many people find love by using computers. The Internet is a vital part of daily research for so many people. It has sparked all kinds of utopian and dystopian perceptions around the world. The impact of the Internet on society can either be a benefit or a burden. Some people so depending on the Internet that they can’t imagine life without it.
Most people who look for love on the Internet put up a false front and cannot conceal their true personalities. It’s not entirely wrong to use the Internet for love, but it limits your options and attracts scammers.
It is also crucial to watch out for certain things when meeting a guy face to face. Yet, some people turn to the Internet when they cannot meet face-to-face. Based on what I’ve read about online dating, it’s not a refreshing change - most people are liars trying to reach out to a large audience.
Some people put themselves at risk of opening themselves to possibilities of romance, while others refuse to open themselves up to the possibility of love. Being comfortable in mediocrity leads you to choose to be blind to love because of previous bad dating experiences or a previous failed marriage.
Many people are searching for guides to ensure a higher success rate in love. When a woman searches for love online, there are many hidden dangers she needs to be aware of, but one of them is a Pickup Artist.
A Pickup Artist (PUA) is someone who behaves impeccably and accommodates a woman in every way until he has slept with her. They spent most of their time breaking hearts. Ladies, please be aware of these signs so you can have the best experience with online dating.
As Sara reviews her matches and reads various emails, she views an email about a forty-six-year-old divorced father of two looking for an attractive woman to compliment him, but she thought he was creepy and boring.
It was just one email, however, that made her change her mind. Will was his name, and somehow he seemed to fit her. His writing style seems so comfortable; he had encouraged her to tell him about herself. He sounded so encouraging. The name Emily was always who she wanted to be, even though it was not her name.
Sara reads: “Dearest Emily.”
I read your email like lightning through a clear, blue sky, and tears glistened on my face like heavy moonlight as I read. The thought of crying may sound weak for a man, but I have so long wished for my life to be so passionate, only to have the whisper come back empty. My body sighs as my heart fills up with your message.
After one month of heartbreaking correspondence, he wrote.
“You will never feel lonely again. I am here for you always.”
At dinner, she smugly looked at Malcolm at the dinner table as she read those words. After slurping his soup, he hid his face behind the newspaper. She cannot imagine Will slurping soup.
Sara imagined Will whisking her away to foreign lands. Her heart leaped with love every time she thought of him. He was everything she ever wished for, and everything Malcolm never could be.
Even though Will emails her by the name Emily, Sara thought it was about time she shared her actual name with him, as she was becoming entangled in a giant web of love for him.
As Sara read each email, it was as if he were her ideal guy, and his words came as naturally as the water falling from a waterfall, and she recalled her broken engagements as she saw them.
Sara found herself not only saving the emails but re-reading them over and over. Will asked Sara a series of questions, which she answered and emailed back promptly.
She knew she was falling hard for Will as she returned each email. But there was one more question to answer.
She is experiencing a beautiful love, and she has a desire to communicate via email. What are the chances of that leading to a lasting relationship?
Sara thought she was ready to put the love to the test. And put her broken heart behind her, as she could not stop thinking about Will.
Her heart raced with every email she read and opened, and she was ready to let down her wavy brown hair and love again.
Sara could not see the love she had for Malcolm before Malcolm died. In the days after Malcolm’s computer died, Sara went through the motions of funeral arrangements, but it was not until much later, when the guests had left, that she stepped into his study. It’s been four days since Will last wrote to her and when she most needed him. She sent him an email, with such sadness in her heart:
Will, I love you, and I want us to be together forever. Maybe even as husband and wife."
Imagining his arms around her, she closed her eyes. Her body was next to his. She knew she would love him and that nothing would ever stand between them.
Though there were no emails in her inbox, she assumed he would write tonight. She continued sorting through bundles of paper in the desk drawer until one particular bundle caught her eye.
Within the pink ribbon were letters from the computer, and as she opened the first one, she realized her loss was more than anyone could ever imagine when she read the words:
Emily addressed the first letter she unfolded to “My dearest Will”.
There are many sad stories about women who seem to seek love on the Internet, only to discover their perfect man was at home the entire time. Seeing your true love when it is too late is heartbreaking.
Women should never hold Mr. Right to an unrealistic expectation or picture-perfect standard, assuming that the person they are with will not meet their expectations.
You should also never expect the relationship you are in to be perfect. You need to step out of the box and realize that the relationship depends on the needs of both parties and not just you.
You are in control of your life, so it’s entirely up to you to reveal Mr. Right as the perfect man for you. As much as possible, you must be able to focus on and manage your lives.
No one should take a relationship for granted, especially since you may not realize that the person with whom you are in a relationship seems to be the perfect match until it is too late.
Searching for Love online
Bebe & Cece Winans - Searching For Love (It's Real)
Love on the net - Catherine Tate Show, The - BBC
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.
© 2015 Pam Morris
Pam Morris (author) from Atlanta Georgia on July 09, 2015:
Thank you for the nicely written comment and helpful word. It greatly appreciate and make perfect sense.
dashingscorpio from Chicago on July 09, 2015:
Voted up and useful!
"Also, remember it's (up to you) to reveals Mr. Right as your perfect man, you control the direction of your own life."
Each of us (chooses) our own friends, lovers, and spouse.
Online dating is just another (tool) for meeting new people.
Ultimately we have to have our own "mate selection criteria" or process.
If anyone finds they are having one bad dating experience after another they need to re-examine (their) mate selection process.
The only thing all of your bad relationships have in common is (you)!
Hopefully with age and experience comes wisdom.
It's not how you meet but whom you meet that counts!
Always use good commonsense when dealing with strangers both online and offline! One man's opinion!:)