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The letter that saved our marriage


An unexpected love letter

Five years ago, right after we moved, my husband and I weren't getting along too great. We were always arguing, bickering, and nit-picking. Basically we each did our best to be a pain in the butt.

After a while, it seemed like we weren't going to get past our differences, so we talked about splitting up. I can't even describe the pain I felt. It broke my heart to think about losing the man I believed was my soul mate, my one true love.

Apparently he felt the same way because he did something he'd never done before. He wrote me a love letter.

It wasn't written on fancy paper. It wasn't filled with lovely verses. It wasn't folded nicely inside an envelope. It wasn't anything like you would expect a love letter to be. But it was written from his heart. He put so much thought into every word, and all because he didn't want to lose his soul mate either.

Now here it is, 5 years later and I still have that love letter. I carry it with me wherever I go. Sometimes I'll take it out, carefully unfold it and reread every word. I've read it so often that it's getting brittle. So I decided to immortalize it here. Now even if the ink fades and the paper tears, I'll always have a way to remember the sweetest love letter I ever received.

My treasured love letter

My treasured love letter

My treasured love letter

Give him a chance. After all, it is his first love letter.

— Othercat

Ahhh. That's better.

— Othercat

Preparing for our handfasting ceremony February 5, 2008

Preparing for our handfasting ceremony February 5, 2008

Preparing for our handfasting ceremony February 5, 2008

December 30, 2008

December 30, 2008

December 30, 2008

Actually, I just didn't want to live in a mess. lol.

— Othercat

Our first Anniversary

Our first Anniversary

Our first Anniversary

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Our Second Anniversary

Our Second Anniversary

Our Second Anniversary

Still going strong!

August 2013

August 2013

Cat N John

Cat N John

Cat N John

Have you ever received a love letter? Have you ever written one?

© 2011 Othercatt

How about you?

gottaloveit2 on December 18, 2012:

My boyfriend, John, writes me letters all the time. We met on the internet and, every year as we approach our anniversary (going on 5 next week!). I read through the emails. I love him more today than ever. Excellent article.

Linda Jo Martin from Post Falls, Idaho, USA on November 09, 2012:

That's a sweet story! Great photos too! Yes, I've received love letters... I have one pinned to my wall. Precious!

jmchaconne on July 23, 2012:

What a beautiful treasure. Thank you for sharing that treasure with us. I'm going to feature it one one of my lenses

joycecity lm on March 27, 2012:

So sweet! I wish you good luck in your marriage!

chuckholmes301 on March 04, 2012:

I've never received one, but I've written a few in my day. It keeps my wife happy.

daedrea lm on February 29, 2012:

Super sweet. I've never received a love letter before, but who knows, maybe one day. :)

TheBaseballCoach on December 25, 2011:

My father had alove letter from my mother that he always kept on the night stand by his bed.

Virginia Allain from Central Florida on December 18, 2011:

How sweet. Sure wish we could express ourselves on paper when we're having communication problems. We've made it 20 years, so guess we've learned to roll with the ups and downs of marriage.

Best of luck to the pair of you.

Heather Burns from Wexford, Ireland on December 18, 2011:

What an awesome love letter and lens!

Wendy Hughes from Charlotte on December 02, 2011:

I wouldn't call it a letter, more a note in a card, but treasured just the same! My husband is gone from us, but his cards and words are there for me to touch when I need comfort.



brbrooks on September 03, 2011:

I loved reading your lens. Great job!

Mary Beth Granger from O'Fallon, Missouri, USA on August 24, 2011:

Beautiful! Thanks for sharing..blessed.

Nancy Carol Brown Hardin from Las Vegas, NV on August 24, 2011:

How precious a love letter like this need to have it laminated so it won't further deteriorate. The two of you are very fortunate to have met someone who brings this kind of love to the other one. More power to you and your family!

anonymous on August 16, 2011:

A few yes nice ones too.

Kasandra on August 10, 2011:

That is sooo adorable! I'm so glad you're still with your husband and that you overcame your differences. "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger" <3

Loretta from United States on August 09, 2011:

thank you for sharing this with all of us! <3 *~*~*angel dust*~*~*

mellex lm from Australia on July 30, 2011:

Such a sweet and touching lens! Thanks for sharing :)

AllyVuitton on July 28, 2011:

This is so sweet! I love how you added your own funny comments too. I've never written one, but maybe someday I will! Love it.

Lisa Auch from Scotland on July 28, 2011:

Yeah sometimes they do need to remind themselves why they love us, not because they alawys have their clean washing, cooked meals, clean house! yeah we also need to know we are worth more to them too! lol...

Donnette Davis from South Africa on July 04, 2011:

This is probably one of THE most beautiful lenses I have ever read - once I got past the watery eyes. Thank you for sharing such an intimate part of your lives with us.

SusanBlackburn on June 21, 2011:

Thank you for sharing your love... very touching and inspiring!

greenlife17 on April 20, 2011:

it's made me remember my loveletters to my husband who doesn't like to write me one..thanks and God bless your marriage.

mattseefood lm on April 20, 2011:

Personal and inspiring! Thank you for this :)

carlajo73 on April 18, 2011:

This is beautiful!! Thank you so much for sharing!!! You are a lucky lady! :)

anonymous on April 18, 2011:

Beautiful... because Love is... Blessed be and God bless. Thanks for sharing... Post it again for a Silver, Gold and a Platinum :)

Othercatt (author) on April 17, 2011:

@anonymous: That's exactly what I did. It's scanned to my computer plus I made 5 copies. lol.

BelindaBlevins on April 17, 2011:

That's cute.

sorana lm on April 17, 2011:

Beautiful, absolutely beautiful.

bikerministry on April 17, 2011:

This is very encouraging for any age couple that is struggling in their marriage, thank you for being transparent.

anonymous on April 17, 2011:

It really doesn't need to be poetic, and sometimes it is what we read between the lines that means more than the words themselves. I am glad that John did this. As to the original letter, I would frame it, but take photocopies of it first. That way you can unfold, refold, read, touch as often as you want and when the copy wears out, go grab a fresh one. This letter will be something to look back on when you both grow old together. Congratulations to both of you for finding that one special person that you couldn't imagine living life without.

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