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What Sneaky and Cheating Husbands Do and What To Do with Them


The Undeserving Husband Has to be Kicked

Kick him out!

Kick him out!

One in a Million You

For the Wives

In the first place you should know why you had chosen the man to be your husband out of the many who had pursued you. Okay, let's see;

You had chosen him because first, you love him.

And why him?

Because he portrays the man of your dreams, the man who made your heart beat faster, the man you can entrust your feelings, your body, and your dreams with. He deserves your love; he deserves to be your partner for life, at least you thought; you can foresee a happy and fulfilling future with him.

In fact it was fine with you not to get married but when this man came along you cannot just ignore and brush off the idea that he met all your requirements for the kind of husband you desired and dreamed off. Wow! What a perfect life!

Weakling husband.

Double Standard

Double Standard

The New Husband?

The twist

Now he is your husband. Happy, to start with, until you discovered his nature. A weakling! No backbones! Disgusting!

Why? He is a liar! Sneaky! Cheater!

What did he do?

First, he prepares the way to cheat you.

For distant relationships where the husband is far away in which you just meet regularly in the net; this cheating husband blocks you from all his activities in the net. He hacks you if needed just so you cannot function normally in the internet. He can have access to all your internet activities just so he knows if you might accidentally slip into his secrets; but you won't have access to his. He dates anyone in dating sites and meets them in real for "sex" purposes, eventually. He flirts unlimited; he has all the time to do that because his wife far away is "on schedule" for their chat and has no way of proving her suspicions.

He uses many id's and accounts to camouflage himself and he has fun doing it. He feels very confident that he will never be found by his wife; the idiot doesn't realize that he makes mistakes sometimes; that he forgets sometimes; that he mistakenly sends the flirty message to his wife instead of to his women.


When you confront him, he gets angry and accuses you of accusing him; worse he accuses you of doing what he actually is doing; this is a behavior of a cheater, a liar.

He tries hard to prove that he is decent and having integrity. You don't prove your integrity, people will see, hear, observe and know whether you are trustworthy or having integrity through your values system in words and actions.

The Sad Fact

The sad fact reveals itself. You married a cheater; a weakling; a man with no backbones; a man who is a slave to his basic animal instincts; a man whose pants and genitals are bigger than his head and life as a whole; a man whose happiness is below the belt; a man whose inherent animal instincts are for the sex organs of the opposite sex. A man who needs a decent sex partner for a wife yet cannot control his cravings for promiscuous and loose moral women.A man who hides his weaknesses in the shadow and strength of a decent woman while he continues in his obsessions with the women of his weakling caliber. A man who cannot be contented with just one woman in his life; a man whose prime survival is lascivious sex, and more disgusting and shameful kinky activities and obsessions.

What's worse is he blames his decent wife for his actions; this is very typical for a weakling; he is incapable of accepting his own truth; incapable of seeing what darkness and rotten things he keeps within him. He tries to portray a decent personality of himself and you bought it in the onset, only to discover the shocking truth later.

He is a major disappointment to you.

What to do with a cheating husband


A cheater is born being a cheater.

Always a cheater

First you suspect, it will just be a matter of time when the truth finally reveals itself. Don't try to pry, it will just be a waste of time and energy. It's already good that you are aware of his personality; be vigilant and assertive of the clues. This would be very hard because you will have a lot of arguments between yourselves; but it will pay off one day. If you are wrong in your suspicions and you stick together then be happy. If you find yourself to be wrong and the marriage broke up without you having the chance to prove anything because there was actually nothing to prove, then sit down and check yourself; be happy still because your marriage relationship had actually opened your secret fears for you; and you will do better next time. It's actually a win-win situation.

On the other hand, if you discovered that your suspicions about his cheating had been proven to be true, then congratulate yourself; you had just proven that you can protect yourself from this types of men; this will be one of the basis for your decision-making concerning whether to marry again or to stay single, or on what type of men you will marry in the case where you decide to marry again.

Next is, if you had proven that your husband actually cheated on you, then for God's sake! Let him go immediately! He does not deserve you. Don't give him a second chance to hurt your feelings more than you already are experiencing. Remember: A CHEATER IS A BORN CHEATER, no excuses.

Don't punish yourself with the weakness of others. It's not your fault that your husband is a weakling. You made a mistake, alright, by wrongfully believing in him in the first place, and worse, loving him...Forgive yourself and let go of him because he cannot help hurting you; it's second nature to him to hurt decent women like you; his type works only for promiscuous and loose moral women and these types of women are everywhere; he will not run short of them and will have more than enough supply of them to go through in his entire life...he just cannot stop being him.

Get rid of him instantly before you reason to yourself about your stupid feelings. Be firm and trust that there is always something better for you, someone else, perhaps, who is your equal in integrity. Forgive and let go of your husband.

You say you love him and so you cannot let go of him? Think about this; imagine him making love with all the women he meets...what do you feel? Be honest with yourself...love yourself first...

The key is "Love yourself first before you can love anyone." You cannot give what you don't have.


JS on January 10, 2017:

They're just trifling!!! They say they love you, care about you and would never hurt you, but they always do. I'm not quite sure why God created them in the first place!! If women could reproduce, there would be no need for men......PERIOD!! Sadly, their 'brain' rests in the 'little head'......not the 'big one!'

Joanna on December 06, 2015:

My husband is such a loser and disappointment, I can't stand to be in the same room as him. I feel like sending a thank you letter to his mistress. Thank you for having sex with my husband so he will be in a good mood and more pleasant around our daughter.

My husband is an excellent actor and completely fooled me in the beginning. But now I know what a fake and liar he is, and how irresponsible and immature (always 1 - 3 hours late without letting people know, always breaks promises, a million excuses for always quitting, failing or wanting easy shortcuts for everything), and I can NOT do what he craves -- play the adoring little female who admires the big, strong, all-knowing man. Ha!

Jenny Pugh (author) from Marion, Indiana, USA on May 11, 2014:


I know the feeling...you just did right. God Bless.

lilian on May 10, 2014:

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Vicky on March 05, 2014:

Thank you. Yes, it took me a few months to smarten up and most importantly respect myself. I have to stand up and show my teenage son that it is not ok to treat "loved" ones or anyone in this manner. I might lose material assets and money in this divorce. But all this is replaceable. I gained my sanity, my peace and my life back. I am at this point where I am grateful for this coworker to cone into our life's. He will eventually discard her also. Just like you throw some garbage away. I don't miss him anymore. With tube it got easier. And I always thought that I don't deserve this. In reality he does not deserve his family. A person who looks outside the marriage did his gratification is just plain selfish. There is no second chance for a cheater. The truth is when you catch them must likely it was not the first time they cheated and lied. That is why I could never trust him again . Sorry in life every action has a consequence. That's something he must live for the rest if his life.

Jenny Pugh (author) from Marion, Indiana, USA on March 01, 2014:


I appreciate so much your comment...That is exactly what and how a clever woman should think. Never allow anyone to betray you, let go of them, especially a cheating husband.

Jenny Pugh (author) from Marion, Indiana, USA on March 01, 2014:


I appreciate so much your comment...That is exactly what and how a clever woman should think. Never allow anyone to betray you, let go of them, especially a cheating husband.

Vicky on February 28, 2014:

My advice is to leave the cheater. If you have proof he is lying to you do not stay in that relationship. Love is based on trust. If there is no trust the entire foundation of a marriage or relationship is missing. Don't waste your time. Let him go. It might be a very difficult decision to make. But believe me it's the only choice you have. If someone is capable of lying and betraying you, you don't need this person in your life. No matter what. Thus is great written, honest article. To be a cheater is equal to be a coward. Cheaters have a choice. I am glad I caught my husband after he cheated and lied. And yes, they do get sloppy and careless, especially online. A very inexpensive spy ware program installed on the home computer, gave me the proof I needed. Including screenshots. And even then he denied it. Unbelievable how conniving these bastards are. If he starts taking his phone everywhere with him, spending a lot of time on the computer and just bring absent-minded in your relationship, should be a red flag. If was for me, but it took me a few months to outsmart him. We are in divorce proceedings now and I never want to see his face again. Once a cheater, always a cheater. And it does carry on into the next generation. His father is on his 4th wife. Why even get married if you need your constant "minion" supply? It's very sad but life goes on. Let them go. They will never be happy no matter who you are. Never blame yourself for his cheating. There is something lacking in their brains called empathy and compassion. Just like being a sociopath who disregards everyone s feelings. They are beyond help and therapy. Leave them in their own sick world. I know because I have been there. And it does get easier. Enforce the no contact and build a new life. You are so much more worth than bring cheated on.

Kaya on February 27, 2014:

Wow. This describes my soon to be ex husband. The lies, they are so ridiculous. After a 20 year marriage I found out he is cheating with another deputy/co worker half his age. When he blamed me for his action I cut if all contact with him and filed for divorce. He does not deserve me. What he deserves are whores and prostitutes. Sins in life are not without consequences. His will come. Thank god for sending me that little whore into our life. Without her he still would be lying to me.

4tune from Michigan on December 16, 2013:

This has to be the most direct and honest post I have ever read in my life and it'd not just Husbands.

It's that guy online that wasted years of your life stringing you along with NO real yes or NO on what exactly your supposed to be HAVING, It's that Boyfriend that pretends your going to get married but has NO real intention of ever doing it and deep down you know it yet keep wishing for it to come true and MORE.

Kick them ALL in the ball's and RUN like hell because the road is ONLY painful and will END sooner or later anyhow.. so just make it SOONER and SOONER .. See the red flags "before" the wedding, One reason never to rush into one, I have NO idea why society is so hell bent on women getting MARRIED young besides bearing kids, but sometimes that is not how life works.

Maybe we are not all gonna meet the one at 21, and that should be OK it sure beats the crap out of years wasted trying to change something you cannot change or blaming a fault you have for someone's weakness.

Jenny Pugh (author) from Marion, Indiana, USA on January 07, 2013:


If you are sure that he is sneaky, having proofs of the sneaky things he does, then there would be nothing to talk about...if he won't talk then don't talk too...just get rid of him....you will find how to do it if you are serious about it.

Jenny Pugh (author) from Marion, Indiana, USA on January 07, 2013:

If you are sure that he is sneaky, having proofs of the sneaky things he does, then there would be nothing to talk about...if he won't talk then don't talk too...just get rid of him....you will find how to do it if you are serious about it.

pure on January 06, 2013:

I have a sneaky husband. trying to get rid of him but he just refuses to go.

He doesn't want to discuss anything. He shuts his mouth. He's making me crazy.